Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

[QUOTE=BarnacleDrive;51156591]So I'm really just a lurker on this thread but I wanted to post because yesterday morning my oldest dog died - of old age, but it happened really out of the blue. I was really lucky that my boyfriend was with me when I found out and he's been absolutely wonderful comforting and looking after me the past few days. Anyway I'm really just posting because I have the mad urge to tell people to give their dogs and pets extra cuddles and love today. It would make me feel better, and since I don't want to do a really morbid facebook post or harass strangers/dog-walkers on the street I thought I'd ask you lovely strangers on the internet. Pets are the best friends and they all deserve some extra love. Thanks guys.[/QUOTE] [t]https://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/u/3798635/2016-10-05%2020.41.51.jpg[/t] My guinea pig Victor thinks this is a fine idea

[QUOTE=mdeceiver79;51155700]anybody got any tips on casual relationships. What rules should be set? Should you avoid going on "conventional" dates if you don't want any of the attachment type stuff? If the other person says they're ok with casual but seems to want something more is it for the best to call it off for their sake?[/QUOTE] casual relationships? sorry i only play competitive

[QUOTE=Cosa8888;51154447]I need some advice. You see, I live 2 hours away from my Uni, and I take around 1 hour to get readu to go simce I wake up. And Uni starts at 8:30 every day. That means I have to wake up at 5:30 every day, the problem is that I get home at around 9:00-10:00, and I always have stuff to do so I end up going to bed at 12:00. So, I'm getting 5-6 hours of sleep per night, and even though last semester it was like that too, I'm starting to REALLY feel the weight of it on me. And practically on all aspects of my life, too, including social and academical life, and I really don't know how to handle this. At all.[/QUOTE] If you bus then do homework on the bus. I live two hours away from my university as well, and usually want 2 hours before I leave the house to wake up. Basically you need to squeeze every second out of every bit of down-time.

-snip, nobody seemed to want to help-

Anyone remember when I mentioned some chick stealthily moved out of my house then ghosted me and I said I was thinking she's a house hopper based on stories I'd heard, so good riddance? I think someone here though I might just have a resentful personality? Well I got some new proof that I wasn't being bitter I logged into skype for the first time in ages to figure out where the previously used avatars were saved at and a friend that apparently still has her on skype sent me this on the September 11th, few weeks (month? idk) after she did it [img]http://puu.sh/r7cfw/3b900456aa.png[/img] I'm thinking I was right [editline]9th October 2016[/editline] I was dodging bullets without doing anything apparently [editline]9th October 2016[/editline] Only took a month to get kicked out of whatever replacement she had so I guess I was being too forgiving like I was suspecting. Wouldn't be the first time I've stood by someone too long and forgave too often. Gotta work on that.

So there's this dude in my philosophy class who I've been talking to after class every day. I got his number a couple weeks ago and texted him but got no response, when I asked him about it he said "I don't really text" so I assumed he wasn't interested. On Friday he actually texted me and after talking for a bit and getting on the subject of movies, he invited me over to his place. So pro tip if you're about to ask someone out who you've never even met up with off campus... Maybe don't do that. Maybe start with coffee.

aw yeah girl get in there

Is it really true that nobody wants to hear about every single detail of your problems? I mean I have this crush and I've been talking to my friends about it who already have expereince with girls etc, and now I've been told that It's my problem I have to do it alone. I just asked for some advice as it's my practically first time doing something serious with a girl (being friends and drinking with each other, talking at her workplace when she doesn't have to serve people etc), and I don't have any means of seeing where am I heading, am I doing this wrong or whatever. With computers, whatever I do is done intuitively, I don't about it much because I know what I can do, how I can do, can I do some crazy stunt with it and even fix it if it goes wrong. However the moment I socialize my analytical side of brain kicks in and slows down some things because there's no experience to let my intuition work all the time. It only gets out of the way when I can talk comfortably about something, but that's it. Flirting is out of question, and reading her signs is also a complete myth to me. So after all that rambling, if I want something meaningful out of this friendship and may upgrade it further to something serious, how could I even experiment without making things worse? Use my common sense and let things work out over time? Keep talking and do more meetings? How much patience should I even put into it? Is it okay if it takes a lot of time to get close to each other? Should I not get worried too much? What if things won't work out later and I'm not even seeing it coming?

[QUOTE=ichiman94;51178199]Is it really true that nobody wants to hear about every single detail of your problems? I mean I have this crush and I've been talking to my friends about it who already have expereince with girls etc, and now I've been told that It's my problem I have to do it alone. I just asked for some advice as it's my practically first time doing something serious with a girl (being friends and drinking with each other, talking at her workplace when she doesn't have to serve people etc), and I don't have any means of seeing where am I heading, am I doing this wrong or whatever. With computers, whatever I do is done intuitively, I don't about it much because I know what I can do, how I can do, can I do some crazy stunt with it and even fix it if it goes wrong. However the moment I socialize my analytical side of brain kicks in and slows down some things because there's no experience to let my intuition work all the time. It only gets out of the way when I can talk comfortably about something, but that's it. Flirting is out of question, and reading her signs is also a complete myth to me. So after all that rambling, if I want something meaningful out of this friendship and may upgrade it further to something serious, how could I even experiment without making things worse? Use my common sense and let things work out over time? Keep talking and do more meetings? How much patience should I even put into it? Is it okay if it takes a lot of time to get close to each other? Should I not get worried too much? What if things won't work out later and I'm not even seeing it coming?[/QUOTE] boi you are thinking too much about it, just do it

Where is the best place to go to pick up 18-19 year olds to show them a couple days/nights with an adult who doesn't have a spending limit, any morals, a reason to live, or any urge to do anything other than have a fucking party and make some memories they'll always aspire but never come close to reproducing? I'm thinking kinda like Lost In Translation, but we're both younger and neither of us are in Japan.

are you bojack horseman

If so I gotta warn you don't let them do drugs

[QUOTE=Love;51178693]Where is the best place to go to pick up 18-19 year olds to show them a couple days/nights with an adult who doesn't have a spending limit, any morals, a reason to live, or any urge to do anything other than have a fucking party and make some memories they'll always aspire but never come close to reproducing? I'm thinking kinda like Lost In Translation, but we're both younger and neither of us are in Japan.[/QUOTE] This seems kinda lame

That sounds like the start of an episode of Law and Order: SVU.

"no spending limit" better be true with the "no morals" or the type of chicks you seem to want are going to leave when there isn't a literal mountain of coke and something tells me if you are that rich you shouldn't have any problem finding those kinds of people

Think more like Hunter S Thompson, except the state is backing me.

The way you're describing it just makes me think of those lame guys in their 20's who go after high school girls at parties because all the women your age don't give you any play, and the teenagers are just impressed that you have a car and don't live with your parents. I'm not really getting any cool HST vibes here..

[QUOTE=Pascall;51178992]That sounds like the start of an episode of Law and Order: SVU.[/QUOTE] thats what i love about high school girls, I keep getting older and they stay the saaame age

Gimme the teens.

[QUOTE=Love;51180073]Gimme the teens.[/QUOTE] I can't promise you that, but I can definitely promise you the handcuffs

[QUOTE=Tsumugi;51178588]boi you are thinking too much about it, just do it[/QUOTE] Yeah man, now that I slept away the alcoholic days, I can see that she forgave me on multiple occasions (even yester-yesterday and then yesterday she behaved like nothing wrong happened at all, kissing ensues etc) and I forgave her too for a lot of stuff so I shouldn't be too worrying. However We need to talk on a day when neither of us drinks alcohol.

There's this one girl I see a decent amount since I help her with cs and we get along pretty well and she comes over to my place just to do hw and hang out etc. Today we also went out to get coffee together and we really got along well and I also got her some present from New York when I went and she really liked it, but being really friendly doesn't really equate to her liking me. Mostly like when I message her she won't respond sometimes and basic things like that. I'm not scared of her saying no or anything since I can just get over it, but it just feels lame to be like "hey do you like me." At the same time, I absolutely hate this grey zone where I can still convince myself that she likes me (example is that actually a really busy person, so when she doesn't message me back i can easily think oh shes just busy) when most likely she doesn't. We really have good conversations and I've shown her some pretty clear signs like the present, but even though most likely she doesn't like me it really sucks to not have a clear answer.

[QUOTE=titopei;51181632]There's this one girl I see a decent amount since I help her with cs and we get along pretty well and she comes over to my place just to do hw and hang out etc. Today we also went out to get coffee together and we really got along well and I also got her some present from New York when I went and she really liked it, but being really friendly doesn't really equate to her liking me. Mostly like when I message her she won't respond sometimes and basic things like that. I'm not scared of her saying no or anything since I can just get over it, but it just feels lame to be like "hey do you like me." At the same time, I absolutely hate this grey zone where I can still convince myself that she likes me (example is that actually a really busy person, so when she doesn't message me back i can easily think oh shes just busy) when most likely she doesn't. We really have good conversations and I've shown her some pretty clear signs like the present, but even though most likely she doesn't like me it really sucks to not have a clear answer.[/QUOTE] Let me get on my reading glasses.. [editline]10th October 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=titopei;51181632]There's this one girl I see a decent amount since I help her with cs and we get along pretty well and she comes over to my place just to do hw and hang out etc. Today we also went out to get coffee together and we really got along well and I also got her some present from New York when I went and she really liked it, but being really friendly doesn't really equate to her liking me. Mostly like when I message her she won't respond sometimes and basic things like that. I'm not scared of her saying no or anything since I can just get over it, but it just feels lame to be like "hey do you like me." At the same time, I absolutely hate this grey zone where I can still convince myself that she likes me (example is that actually a really busy person, so when she doesn't message me back i can easily think oh shes just busy) when most likely she doesn't. We really have good conversations and I've shown her some pretty clear signs like the present, but even though most likely she doesn't like me it really sucks to not have a clear answer.[/QUOTE] The thing here is communication. There is NO physical barrier preventing you from talking to a girl? Start talking to her. Just speak honestly and more importantly . Just lay it out. Examine, together, your relations to one another.

ergh, there's this girl who i like talking to and have been texting with who i'd like to spend more time with. however, i can already tell she'll be a bad influence on me. i'm so conflicted, she is pretty cool but i could see us both potentially going into a hole if we spend enough time together

[QUOTE=Ninja Gnome;51181861]ergh, there's this girl who i like talking to and have been texting with who i'd like to spend more time with. however, i can already tell she'll be a bad influence on me. i'm so conflicted, she is pretty cool but i could see us both potentially going into a hole if we spend enough time together[/QUOTE] Bad influence how?

[QUOTE=srobins;51181929]Bad influence how?[/QUOTE] she drinks too much too often, and i like alcohol enough and have a family history of alcoholism that i don't know if i could have the willpower to not fall into that. the problem is i feel like there is part me that would almost want to do just that. [editline]10th October 2016[/editline] on the other hand, i don't want her to fall any further and almost want to try helping her, but i don't even know if i can do that and am hesitant to even risk that.

Alcohol is bad for you, do better drugs like weed, mushrooms, LSD, MDMA, etc. Scrounge up some of the more fun ones from friends of friends of friends or however you kids do it nowadays, then do them with just the two of you, without alcohol involved. Try shrooms first! <3

[QUOTE=Love;51182311]Alcohol is bad for you, do better drugs like weed, mushrooms, LSD, MDMA, etc. Scrounge up some of the more fun ones from friends of friends of friends or however you kids do it nowadays, then do them with just the two of you, without alcohol involved. Try shrooms first! <3[/QUOTE] All of your advice so far has been horrible. This is no exception

[QUOTE=Love;51182311]Alcohol is bad for you, do better drugs like weed, mushrooms, LSD, MDMA, etc. Scrounge up some of the more fun ones from friends of friends of friends or however you kids do it nowadays, then do them with just the two of you, without alcohol involved. Try shrooms first! <3[/QUOTE] With a name like that you do give out some fucking awful advice

I think we may be looking at this from different points of view.