Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

I didn't get my first kiss until I was 17 (junior year of high school) and I ended up slaying more vagina in college than many men can hope to in their entire life. Some people are late bloomers, you should never use other people as a reference point for where you should be in life.

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;48662959]I didn't get my first kiss until I was 17 (junior year of high school) and I ended up slaying more vagina in college than many men can hope to in their entire life. Some people are late bloomers, you should never use other people as a reference point for where you should be in life.[/QUOTE] yeah yeah way to subtly brag about it

It's hardly an achievement when a lot of people in college are young and very experimental. I'd be in college right now, but I prefer playing videogames and talking into a microphone. Well, there's also the fact that I only now want to do Drama related studies but I was pressured into doing sciences by my parents.

[QUOTE=Jho;48663057]It's hardly an achievement when a lot of people in college are young and very experimental. I'd be in college right now, but I prefer playing videogames and talking into a microphone. Well, there's also the fact that I only now want to do Drama related studies but I was pressured into doing sciences by my parents.[/QUOTE] college is a business transaction. you should never spend money to learn a skill that won't earn you any.

It's usually better if your investment brings you skill AND happiness. I see most people coming into my degree (Electrical Engineering) looking for the skill and the good life just to crash and burn on the first 2 years because it brings them down emotionally. It's very common to see university and college students failing years, losing motivation and losing years of their life falling behind because they picked the degree that gives them the most economic and employment safety. This is so true that it's sad. That's why I always say. Even if it's a bitch to find work if you chose Arts and other stuff with low employment rate, go for it. If you're really passionate about it, you'll find a way to earn a living out of it. That's why I hate it when parents deploy their expectations in their children. It is so wrong. It damages people emotionally, frustrates them, gives them so many uncertainties in picking the right future ahead.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;48663238]Transactions involve trading one thing of value for another. He trades money, he may get a skill, or he may get something that makes him happy, and that is worth more than any dollar amount.[/QUOTE] True, but for most majors, you don't need to pay college tuition in order to learn that material. If you're an artist, for instance, nobody is going to care if you have a degree in art - they're going to look at your portfolio and see if you have a skillset that lines up with what they're looking for. For learning an art form, there are plenty of resources online, and there are plenty of books out there that can teach you the same concepts. Generally the issue is just motivation - people lack the motivation or self-discipline to teach themselves these skills, so they pay tuition to be in an environment that forces them to learn them. [editline]11th September 2015[/editline] Similarly, you can get straight As in college and not actually get any personal enrichment out of the classes. I've seen plenty of people ace classes I shared with them and then proceed to say hilariously ignorant things while we were walking out of school on the last day. It always comes down to self-discipline in order to make the most of the information you have available.

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;48662959]I didn't get my first kiss until I was 17 (junior year of high school) and I ended up slaying more vagina in college than many men can hope to in their entire life. Some people are late bloomers, you should never use other people as a reference point for where you should be in life.[/QUOTE] Im 18 and still no sign of girlfriend(and no first kiss either) because the closest thing I have to one lives in a different fucking country and barely ever messages anymore and she said it's be ause she doesn't come online often(yet Facebook says otherwise). Fucking awesome. :v: At least uni starts in a week

I spent my 5 years of college partying my face off and never going to class. Didn't get a degree, got a ton of debt, still totally worth it. Luckily I should only be a residency class from an online college away from a bachelors after the military gives me credits for the schooling I'm going through, so I didn't miss the mark too far. Still just a useless geography degree top kek.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;48663356]I see most people coming into my degree (Electrical Engineering) looking for the skill and the good life just to crash and burn on the first 2 years because it brings them down emotionally. [/QUOTE] I can attest to this. I went into Electrical Engineering and quit right after my first semester because it crushed me so hard and I sucked balls at it. Was fortunate enough to discover my true calling in business soon after, which I enjoy a hell of a lot more.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;48664852]My parents unironically wanted me to be a doctor. Then a pharmacist. I settled for accounting, it seems alright so far. The accounting work environment caters to my personality.[/QUOTE] The more corrupt a country The moar power an accountant has when he's on the dark side. No, really. Accountants when working for those who have to evade and hide properties can rack in fat stacks of dosh. As for me, I'm studying Economics because one day [URL="http://www.vox.com/2015/7/29/9067641/william-macaskill-effective-altruism"]I hope to change my country[/URL]. In the meanwhile, I'm learning German, as I plan to live and continue my studies/career in Germany. Those German CEOs and workers must have some really good organization, from which anyone ought to learn. And I agree Behemoth_PT. Man, how fucking right you are. Started out first year at college with, let say, 8/10 of my closest acquaintances in my university studying Economics, and by now, final half of the second year, only 2-3/10 of my closest acquaintances are studying it. They all switched to law school, International relationships, business administration and business economics. [B]Last Wednesday our professor in Microeconomics asked us who were studying Economics. The class has easily, 50 guys. Only 5 (including me) raised hands. [/B] Why? Basically, because the Math involved is just plain fuck crazy. And man, the models. THE GOD-DAMN MODELS. Economics goes until math 4 where we discover the secrets of the universe, business economics goes until math 3 (Where I am right now) which just expands (multiple variables and theory demonstration) upon limits, derivatives, integrals and how to better optimize and math 2 stops at integrals and lagrange multipliers. And so I think: What the fuck? Are they dropping out from Economics because they FEEL it's not their thing? Or because they fear maths? Thankfully, some friends from high school realized they were following the wrong path, like UntouchedShadow, and promptly changed their way without thinking twice.

So I like this girl and we've been talking for a while and I've wanted to ask her out for a while, but she's p. busy with sports and when we do hang out I either fuck it up or am too nervous to make a move. For example one person asked if we were a couple, we both said no, and the person walked away. I mustered the courage to ask her if she wanted to be, and what it came out as was "you want?" and nothing else, she pretty much ignored it or said i don't know and we just moved along, she left soon after anyways but I don't know if i can ever live that down. She also dated some guy for a few days, and we were still talking and shit but she never mentioned it until they broke up. I figured that was normal but I just thought that might be relevant. Should I go after her? I'm not 100% sure she's into me and I probably never will be, but I'm also afraid that she'd turn me down and that she'd never talk to me again, because I really like her as a friend too. Also do you guys have any tips for getting over the anxiety of asking a girl out?

So, I've been thinking about holiday. I am almost okay with going alone, but still looking for someone to go with. Are there any sites or apps that maybe allow you to find people who are also looking for someone to go on holiday with just to keep company?

[QUOTE=Derposaurus;48665463] Also do you guys have any tips for getting over the anxiety of asking a girl out?[/QUOTE] Honestly, you've just gotta say 'Fuck it, I've got nothing to lose' and just go for it. It's a lot simpler than you think.

[QUOTE=Jho;48666886]Honestly, you've just gotta say 'Fuck it, I've got nothing to lose' and just go for it. It's a lot simpler than you think.[/QUOTE] This. Also, do it the second you decide you want to. As in, don't waste time letting it fester, thinking of the best most romantic most perfect moment to ask her, all of that jazz. Dive right in and do it. The more you think about it, the harder it will get. You'll start thinking about all the what-ifs and doubt yourself. Always remember: make opportunities, do not wait for them. You will almost never have a perfect time or spot to ask someone out. They will always be on the move, surrounded by friends, etc. You have to just throw yourself in there and wing it even though the situation isn't as perfect as you want it to be. If you wait for the perfect time, you'll just waste a shitload of time and end up with the, "let's just be friends," response because any semblance of a romantic flame she had for you has long since burned out.

You know that cliché they say about not putting girls on a pedestal? It's basically it. You just gotta see em as normal human beings like you and just have a go at talking to them. If one girl or two reject you for just talking to them just go for another. There are way more people in the world. Last time there was an Erasmus party in my city l went there without knowing anyone. I started chatting with random girls. There were plenty of them who just turned their back on me, would come up with an excuse to just walk away. But the longest l stayed there l started noticing others noticing me so l moved on to them. Next thing l know l was being included on the next rounds of shots. Remember being a bit tipsy and finished the night talking to a really sweet polish girl. Next thing l know her hand's inside my shirt and we end up sneaking into her dorm. And it all happened because that night l actually decided to try for the first time. Just get out there. You'll be fine.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;48666969]You know that cliché they say about not putting girls on a pedestal? It's basically it. You just gotta see em as normal human beings like you and just have a go at talking to them.[/QUOTE] If you put someone on a pedestal, you are forcing them to look down on you.

I have horrible trust issues and I feel it winds up deteriorating my relationships. What can I do to like fix this?

[QUOTE=Exigent;48667152]I have horrible trust issues and I feel it winds up deteriorating my relationships. What can I do to like fix this?[/QUOTE] There is no easy solution for issues like that, you need to speak to a therapist about it.

Well, on that note, where would be a good spot for a first date? I feel like a movie would be a horrible idea. Never liked the idea of a movie date, maybe once you get to know the person, sure, but when you're first getting to know them I've always felt it's super awkward. I was thinking maybe a dinner? It's a double date because the girl wanted her friend to come.

I usually do coffee on first dates. If that goes well it can extend into a light dinner or whatever. If I was gonna do a double date off the bat I'd go to a neat bar or something where there'd be background noise and shareable appetizers.

[QUOTE=Exigent;48667502]Well, on that note, where would be a good spot for a first date? I feel like a movie would be a horrible idea. Never liked the idea of a movie date, maybe once you get to know the person, sure, but when you're first getting to know them I've always felt it's super awkward. I was thinking maybe a dinner? It's a double date because the girl wanted her friend to come.[/QUOTE] I remember writing a guide about this way back in the day, haha. Takes me back. Anyways, the best choice is always to be creative. Doesn't have to be too flashy, a go-to for me has always been mini-golfing because even though it's not obscure, most people haven't done it in a bazillion years. Bowling is good too, just about anything with playful competition is great for establishing a physical relationship (high fiving, shoving, that kind of shit) without needing to muster up balls to make a move or whatever. But dinner and a movie is good if you're fresh out of ideas and want something cookie cutter. It's flexible in the sense that whichever one you put first will define the date, and you can play to your strengths. For example, let's say you have no issue making a physical move but you suck balls with conversation. Do movie first, then dinner. That way, you can always fall back on talking about the movie when you're at dinner and can't think of anything to say while using your huge nuts to make moves during the movie. If you're the other way, not too shabby with talking but get really nervous about making a physical move, do dinner then movie. Talk it up during dinner, get comfortable, then by the time the movie comes around you can do shit like hold hands and put your arm around her without as much hesitation because you've worked some of the nerves out during dinner. Side note: Dinner is fine for a standalone date. Movie is not. Going to a movie and just a movie tends to be pretty shit because you have no real time to talk. Learned this one from (a lot of) experience, it just isn't effective. Generally, I like to do things for the first few dates that allow some form of contact. Don't gotta be sucking face in a movie or any shit like that, keep it small if you aren't a fan of the breakneck pace. It's just generally a good idea to establish a physical relationship from the get-go so she doesn't file you away in the platonic relationship cabinet.

Alright, thanks for the replies. It's always a bad idea to ask out over text right?

[QUOTE=Derposaurus;48669255]Alright, thanks for the replies. It's always a bad idea to ask out over text right?[/QUOTE] Not at all. Texting for a date is perfectly fine. Especially for setting up dates.

I really dislike the notion that people that get more sex or whatever are just better people. I lost my virginity early and I regret it because I was pretty depressed and just kind of threw myself around and I'm really not proud of the amount of it. I let people take advantage of me and I closed up a lot because of it. I'm saying this because my new girlfriend who's the same age as me is insecure because I've been around and she's never had sex and is really uncomfortable with it but I don't know how to fix that. She thought about cheating on me because she was unsure about everything and thought she was just letting me down or not being up to par or some shit. It was a while ago and I didn't hold it against her but it bothers me still. I'd of never thought of cheating [editline]12th September 2015[/editline] For reference we've been dating for a year now and that happens three months in

[img_thumb]http://i.imgur.com/Wp6FxKn.png[/img_thumb] Been friends with her for a while now, around three years. We've hung out since she sent this, but she's dating someone. I like the guy, so I guess I'm just going to do my own thing and see how this goes. She's now in community college, and I'm a senior in highschool.

[QUOTE=Zarjk;48671850][img_thumb]http://i.imgur.com/Wp6FxKn.png[/img_thumb] Been friends with her for a while now, around three years. We've hung out since she sent this, but she's dating someone. I like the guy, so I guess I'm just going to do my own thing and see how this goes. She's now in community college, and I'm a senior in highschool.[/QUOTE] I'm not seeing any kind of romantic undertones to that, sounds like you're just a really good friend.

well, we've both talked about dating at one point. idk, I've been occupying myself with being a terrible person lately.

so I went to a meetup of russian-speaking community in London in a pub in Central London. Met a girl that invited me there(we are going to same uni), she greeted me to her friends and we spent whole evening there together. That was some really fucking good time, I haven't had that in a while and felt so great! Good to know that she quite frankly liked me so now we are most definitely friends, going into uni we won't be complete strangers, ha.

[QUOTE=RocketRacer;48674525]so I went to a meetup of russian-speaking community in London in a pub in Central London. Met a girl that invited me there(we are going to same uni), she greeted me to her friends and we spent whole evening there together. That was some really fucking good time, I haven't had that in a while and felt so great! Good to know that she quite frankly liked me so now we are most definitely friends, going into uni we won't be complete strangers, ha.[/QUOTE] I'm not sure about your school, but I'm taking Russian in uni currently and they have a Russian club for students and fluent speakers. They also have a mentor program here for more experienced speakers to get paired up with newer students. If you're starting uni, it might be worth finding out if they have anything similar.

Had to cut it off with my boyfriend, he was more of a downer than someone I'd want to be around. I felt like crap when I was around him all the time because of his moments where he was like an emotional roller coaster, it dragged both of us down more and more each day. I feel like shit now though, he tried but he just got angry all the time, then sad at random times, and it was just all too much for me.