Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

[QUOTE=Derposaurus;48690123]A girl invited me to watch her volleyball game. I went to one a week or two ago and it was awfully boring and we hardly even go to talk, so I told her that I couldn't go today. Did I make the right call?[/QUOTE] Girls in short skirts and tight tops jumping up and down for a while? Yea na I can see how that would be boring. [editline]16th September 2015[/editline] [QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;48690454] Also the term "relationship" is very subjective to us. It can vary from just seeing someone to a love relationship. [/QUOTE] Thats the same in English man.

[QUOTE=Stormcharger;48691825]Girls in short skirts and tight tops jumping up and down for a while? Yea na I can see how that would be boring.[/QUOTE] It was nice for the first 2 hours but it gets old fast when there's nobody to talk to either

So either I'm really inexperienced with dating sites and talking to people in general, but when a girls profile says "if your gonna send me 'hey' 'hi' 'hello' or 'what's up' save me the time and don't" like what the hell am I supposed to say?? "Youre hot talk to me"??

theres a girl that sucked my dingle and got naked in front fo me does she like me?

[QUOTE=crazykyle16;48692302]So either I'm really inexperienced with dating sites and talking to people in general, but when a girls profile says "if your gonna send me 'hey' 'hi' 'hello' or 'what's up' save me the time and don't" like what the hell am I supposed to say?? "Youre hot talk to me"??[/QUOTE] Try and make conversation, by that, I mean: set them up for a response by intriguing them. Whenever I messaged on dating sites, I'd try and show interest in what hobbies and passions people listed on their profile. Try and take an interest in what people are interested in. Then suddenly, you'll probably be hitting it off with someone you really like. Be prepared to be perserverant, something amazing isn't bound to spring up instantly.

"I don't know what I want, but I don't want to lead you on by continuing to talk to you in a serious way. I'm not sure right now." What should I do? She wants to talk to me, but she's not sure if it'll turn into something.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;48690927]I wasn't trying to say that in a condescending tone, I was trying to account for cultural differences. I never said anything about patriarchal societies being inferior or anything, all I said was that it's possible you have a different cultural background... But apparently I can't be nice to you or try to figure out a cause for disagreement without you assuming I'm trying to start a fight, so I won't bother.[/QUOTE] But you were condescending as fuck. You're the one who's been picking up on every little thing I say in this thread. You and your horde of mongoloids who do nothing but aplaud to every single one of your matriarchal advice. Insinuating l'm being condescending and then talking back in the most condescending way is not a great way to prove a point. You didn't mean to, but you were. I didn't mean to, already admited l made a mistake. But jeez god forbid of me saying anything that can trigger your flimsy little shell into something totally out of proportion like l'm a monster from the stone age. Get over yourself. [highlight](User was banned for this post ("Flaming and DUMB" - Big Dumb American))[/highlight]

:chillout:

Me and this girl have only been talking for about a week and we've met up 4 times and I just enjoy every moment, like on Saturday, right after work I went and got her and we just parked the car near this abandoned council earth moving project and just got lost, and holding hands while driving is killer honestly really do like where my life is going, haven't felt sad in a long while as well, so it's just nice to feel like there's some direction going on and she's just a wonderful soul to be with

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;48692859]But you were condescending as fuck. You're the one who's been picking up on every little thing I say in this thread. You and your horde of mongoloids who do nothing but aplaud to every single one of your matriarchal advice. Insinuating l'm being condescending and then talking back in the most condescending way is not a great way to prove a point. You didn't mean to, but you were. I didn't mean to, already admited l made a mistake. But jeez god forbid of me saying anything that can trigger your flimsy little shell into something totally out of proportion like l'm a monster from the stone age. Get over yourself.[/QUOTE] Yikes man, take a frickin' chill pill. Your clearly a bit oversensitive about this.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;48692859]But you were condescending as fuck. You're the one who's been picking up on every little thing I say in this thread. You and your horde of mongoloids who do nothing but aplaud to every single one of your matriarchal advice. Insinuating l'm being condescending and then talking back in the most condescending way is not a great way to prove a point. You didn't mean to, but you were. I didn't mean to, already admited l made a mistake. But jeez god forbid of me saying anything that can trigger your flimsy little shell into something totally out of proportion like l'm a monster from the stone age. Get over yourself.[/QUOTE] Wait what were you even arguing over? Looking at the past few posts it only seems to be a minor disagreement, how'd that turn into "fuck you, you dumb stupid idiot weak pathetic white guilt milktoast piece of human garbage"?

Broke up with my gf after 7 months, eventually decided to end it because of her lies, manipulation and accusations of cheating on me me another guy. Shit's tough I actually feel a bit bad about breaking it off now but I need better than what she gave me, I need to love someone just as much as they will love me back.

My main issue with some people in this thread so far has been the atitude towards someone who believes differently from the usual pretentious "advice givers". I came up here sharing my experience with an issue l was having with my girlfriend. I took all advices into consideration but, knowing better l chose to do the opposite despite all the risk involved. I don't usually do it but my way worked. I'm happy and the woman l'm with cares a lot about me even though she was preparing to move on out of fear of me breaking her heart again. My problem here is that as soon as l decided to go in a different direction of the general advice consensus of such illuminated people, that have so much to teach me and so much right to guilt trip me into going their way, suddently everyone decided to give me a piece of their mind like l was the biggest imbecile on planet earth. Since then, God forbid, everything l say's suddently "condescending", "naive" or implied to be hiding second intentions. You can attest this by reading some pages back if you will, but l'm pretty sure l'm not the one giving other people a hard time. For the sake of the thread l won't be touching this issue any more.

Look man, at the end of the day, it's your happiness that matters. If you're content with the decisions you've made despite the advice given here, so be it. However, most of us here try to give advice based on a common pool of anecdotes. Getting back with an ex, who from my understanding of your situation was essentially picking between you and another man, is to most of us just a generally dumb idea. Like I said the last time I replied to you, people like that typically have a habit of repeating themselves. What is she going to do when she "fears for a broken heart" again? We aren't saying this stuff for no reason. I can say it's a dumb idea because I've had it happen to me, and I assume most everyone here saying the same thing has had something similar happen to them. We say it because we want the best for you and other posters, despite the more condescending posters giving a different impression. If you're fine with your decisions, great. Own em and be happy! But don't expect sympathy from everyone if the general consensus of your situation ends up happening.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;48692859]You didn't mean to, but you were. I didn't mean to, already admited l made a mistake. But jeez god forbid of me saying anything that can trigger your flimsy little shell into something totally out of proportion like l'm a monster from the stone age. Get over yourself.[/QUOTE] With the exception of one post I made in response to you (you know perfectly well which one), I speak to you no differently than anyone else in the thread. If I am "condescending" to you then apparently I've been condescending to a lot of other people in this thread without realizing it. You are far from being the first person I've disagreed with here, and likewise you have made points here that I agreed with and supported. The difference is that other people here will actually provide more support to their arguments when I disagree with them rather than victimizing themselves and accusing me of singling them out. As for "matriarchal advice", not every opinion I express here gets traction, but most of my advice posts are based on material from my psychology or sociology classes or literature on those subjects. I try to avoid discussing my personal opinions/biases unless it's part of a conversation. Aside from that, I like arguing, and I prefer it when people argue back. It gives everyone involved the benefit of becoming a little bit more resolute in their views. It says a lot about the frailty of one's personal opinions when they take offense to their views being questioned. For some more context on the thing I mentioned about cultural differences in dating: [quote]... He said the attitudes in Argentina were much different from the "no means no" culture of the United States. "Here, if [women] say no, they're interested. If they're not really interested, they just don't say anything to you. They just ignore you." So now Rob only keeps clear if women literally turn their back to him. On his reading of courtship in Buenos Aires, "no" is usually just a prelude to "yes". You can see how much trouble this could generate. In our focus groups both men and women said it was common for a propositioned woman to play hard to get and then, only after the man had made a sufficient number of attempts, finally agree to a date. Many women attributed this farce to a need to keep up appearances. If they responded too quickly, they might appear cheap.[/quote]

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;48693631]My main issue with some people in this thread so far has been the atitude towards someone who believes differently from the usual pretentious "advice givers"...[/QUOTE] Under normal circumstances, I'd be happy to help you fight the system and fuck the haters, because that's what I do. But aren't you the guy who keeps desperately clinging on that broken thread of a girl? Because that honestly feels like you have no dignity. I'm so not a fan of circle jerks, but I have to side with the Ouroboros here and bite my own tail. There are things to disagree with, because people have different opinions. And then there are things to disagree with, because they are wrong. And yeah, there are things to disagree with, because you hate the person presenting them, but that's clearly not the case here. Most of us here don't even know each other in person, probably. Yet you make it sound like you were singled out like a bullying victim. Just saying...

Fair enough then. I apologize to everyone for all this mess. Let's move on, shall we?

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;48694570]Fair enough then. I apologize to everyone for all this mess. Let's move on, shall we?[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;48692859]But you were condescending as fuck. You're the one who's been picking up on every little thing I say in this thread. You and your horde of mongoloids who do nothing but aplaud to every single one of your matriarchal advice. Insinuating l'm being condescending and then talking back in the most condescending way is not a great way to prove a point. You didn't mean to, but you were. I didn't mean to, already admited l made a mistake. But jeez god forbid of me saying anything that can trigger your flimsy little shell into something totally out of proportion like l'm a monster from the stone age. Get over yourself.[/QUOTE] In the future, please don't start throwing out insults like this at people before you're even clear on what they were trying to say. Better yet, don't do it when you think you know what they were trying to say either. If you think our advice is wrong then you're always welcome to argue against it, but shit-flinging does nothing to help your own case and isn't going to earn you sympathy. Apologizing is great and all, but it would be a lot better to not do anything worth apologizing for in the first place. And apologizing doesn't equate to forgiveness. But yes, in the spirit of punctuating every inflammatory post with "nobody post about this anymore" in an effort to get the last word, we can move on.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;48696458]In the future, please don't start throwing out insults like this at people before you're even clear on what they were trying to say. Better yet, don't do it when you think you know what they were trying to say either. If you think our advice is wrong then you're always welcome to argue against it, but shit-flinging does nothing to help your own case and isn't going to earn you sympathy. Apologizing is great and all, but it would be a lot better to not do anything worth apologizing for in the first place. And apologizing doesn't equate to forgiveness. But yes, in the spirit of punctuating every inflammatory post with "nobody post about this anymore" in an effort to get the last word, we can move on.[/QUOTE] No, you love having the last word too much. Now we can move on :)

[QUOTE=Exigent;48692809]"I don't know what I want, but I don't want to lead you on by continuing to talk to you in a serious way. I'm not sure right now." What should I do? She wants to talk to me, but she's not sure if it'll turn into something.[/QUOTE] ditch her and move on

[QUOTE=Exigent;48688471]So me and that girl are doing a dinner and movie on Friday night. something I've always wondered whether or not you're supposed to do is, is it appropriate to pay for a girl or is it expected for them to pay? I've heard different viewpoints.[/QUOTE] I didn't read the story about you and that girl but as far as I'm concerned with paying for dinners. Usually the person who invites is expected to pay. But not everyone likes that. I personally don't like to pay for the whole dinner nor do I like that the other person does the same. So I usually pay 50/50. [QUOTE=Exigent;48692809]"I don't know what I want, but I don't want to lead you on by continuing to talk to you in a serious way. I'm not sure right now." What should I do? She wants to talk to me, but she's not sure if it'll turn into something.[/QUOTE] You shouldn't let yourself stay in a position where it's either you or another guy or either if it means staying on hold for someone else. Do not allow that to happen to you. I don't know what she means by not wanting to lead you on by talking to you in a serious way, but I'm assuming she's thinking it would get your hopes up. From personal experience, if she really liked you she wouldn't stop talking to you. She wouldn't let go so easily. I'd say start walking away from that or at least make her know how that's making you feel. After all you invested your time and feelings on her and now she's dating another guy. She either doesn't respect you or him much, or doesn't respect the men she dates that much. Unless there's something you're willing to try (please let us know), move on, let her know that you feel uncomfortable about the situation she put you through and you can't stay on hold like that and you ant closure. If she misses you she'll catch up on you.

She said she'll tell me what she wants for sure tomorrow.

Ok, that's acceptable.

Saw cute girl at work, kinda had weird eye contact few times, seeing her a lot at work in smoking area, been thinking if I should talk to her one day. Today saw she has bf/husband. Lesson learned, don't even fucking try any kind of contact with women at work. This time I escaped with clean hands because of my hesitation thankfully. I should listen to people more than anything else. I was told this before in this thread, and I knew it very well myself but still for some reason wild idea appeared: "Hey! I have idea, What if.....". I hate my brain :v:

[QUOTE=arleitiss;48702053]Saw cute girl at work, kinda had weird eye contact few times, seeing her a lot at work in smoking area, been thinking if I should talk to her one day. Today saw she has bf/husband. Lesson learned, don't even fucking try any kind of contact with women at work. This time I escaped with clean hands because of my hesitation thankfully. I should listen to people more than anything else. I was told this before in this thread, and I knew it very well myself but still for some reason wild idea appeared: "Hey! I have idea, What if.....". I hate my brain :v:[/QUOTE] I don't think there is anything to be lost in simply being friendly and establishing contact; just because she has a dude in her life doesn't mean she would be opposed to just being friends. Hell, you can never know how things turn out, my roommate has a boyfriend and his thing is that he likes to watch her fuck dudes that she meets on Tinder. Just last week getting off of work I walked in and there she was sucking some guy off and her boyfriend was just sitting there watching. He gave me a high five and told me not to forget that we were going to a friend's to play warhammer 40k on Sunday.

[QUOTE=Squidman;48702163]I don't think there is anything to be lost in simply being friendly and establishing contact; just because she has a dude in her life doesn't mean she would be opposed to just being friends. Hell, you can never know how things turn out, my roommate has a boyfriend and his thing is that he likes to watch her fuck dudes that she meets on Tinder. Just last week getting off of work I walked in and there she was sucking some guy off and her boyfriend was just sitting there watching. He gave me a high five and told me not to forget that we were going to a friend's to play warhammer 40k on Sunday.[/QUOTE] Wat did I just read :v: I mean seriously, What the fuck?

[QUOTE=arleitiss;48702053]Saw cute girl at work, kinda had weird eye contact few times, seeing her a lot at work in smoking area, been thinking if I should talk to her one day. Today saw she has bf/husband. Lesson learned, don't even fucking try any kind of contact with women at work. This time I escaped with clean hands because of my hesitation thankfully. I should listen to people more than anything else. I was told this before in this thread, and I knew it very well myself but still for some reason wild idea appeared: "Hey! I have idea, What if.....". I hate my brain :v:[/QUOTE] Bro U only got one chance to bank her and thats when first eye contact than be like Hey Waddap My name is _____ and she's like oh Hey lol my name is ______ Than start from there. If U cannot do this default thing that U wont git any [editline]17th September 2015[/editline] [QUOTE=Racid;48702309]Bro U only got one chance to bank her and thats when first eye contact than be like Hey Waddap My name is _____ and she's like oh Hey lol my name is ______ Than start from there. If U cannot do this default thing that U wont git any[/QUOTE] Point is to develop a default thing to do to get u to start talking. My Thank is for this Super Hot (In My Eyes..) Japanese babe (shes a good 7 but in my eyes an 8 just kuz I have a fetish for Japanese Women) I was like WHAT R U DRINKING? And she was drinking a snapple and she said Ya I Like It Lol :P kuz shes bad at english and I was like NO, WHAT R U DRINKING? and shes like UMMMM DUHH UMM.. Snapple. And Im lik eWow I love Snapple! et\ct As Basic as' Axing' - WHAT IS UR NAME? That's a normal thing to say. Than dont say any retarded normal shit after that or else she will git bored and u wont gt none

[QUOTE=Racid;48702309]Bro U only got one chance to bank her and thats when first eye contact than be like Hey Waddap My name is _____ and she's like oh Hey lol my name is ______ Than start from there. If U cannot do this default thing that U wont git any Point is to develop a default thing to do to get u to start talking. My Thank is for this Super Hot (In My Eyes..) Japanese babe (shes a good 7 but in my eyes an 8 just kuz I have a fetish for Japanese Women) I was like WHAT R U DRINKING? And she was drinking a snapple and she said Ya I Like It Lol :P kuz shes bad at english and I was like NO, WHAT R U DRINKING? and shes like UMMMM DUHH UMM.. Snapple. And Im lik eWow I love Snapple! et\ct As Basic as' Axing' - WHAT IS UR NAME? That's a normal thing to say. Than dont say any retarded normal shit after that or else she will git bored and u wont gt none[/QUOTE] This guy knows his shit.

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;48702403]This guy knows his shit.[/QUOTE] Squidman knows his and others shit too.

i dont know about you guys but the mere mention of snapple makes me moist