Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

[QUOTE=_Axel;48760783]I think it's pretty easy to blame yourself in that situation, but unless you really fucked up somehow it's usually no one's fault when it doesn't work out. Be kind with yourself man.[/QUOTE] She reckons I hurt her too much and I got really confused about it, she was really touchy with just about every topic and a lot of words. As much as I walked carefully, she still said I was fucking up. I could get into specifics but there's no need to She canned it with me after a tumblr post that said "date a dude who asks have you eaten today", allegedly I didn't show too much care in the small things, I'm still stunned by it and the fact it was about 3 weeks that we both met and liked each other. A fucking short wild ride No time to dread however, I'm in Melbourne, I've got a 6 pack, my mate is also down here, I'm getting shit faced

[QUOTE=Rhenae;48764111]Well I mean, call centers being literally one of the shittiest jobs out there aside, this is actually not a terrible thing? I have social anxiety (undiagnosed but honestly I dont need a doc to tell me it is More Than Obvious) and I get major major anxiety with phones, but, some of my jobs have directly required me to use a phone and there is no getting out of it when it is For Work. It helped me sort of get over it a bit when I absolutely had to do it rather than stressing and putting it off and trying to find a reason not to. It helped me acclimatize some and be better at personal calling as well. I've fallen a bit out of it now I rarely have to call out at work but I actually answer the phone at home now rather than pretending its not there so tbh its not a terrible idea to take up something which has phone duties. That was sort of a random unnecessary ramble. I'm in sort of an odd mood I guess don't mind me[/QUOTE] For me though, I've had a job for about a year now where I have to answer the phone and even make calls to strangers, practically on a daily basis. But weirdly, I didn't develop this talking-on-the-phone anxiety until after I'd already started that job. Go figure.

ok great, nice start of uni for me. So my russian friend asked me to go to a bar with her and some other friends joined us later. At 8pm karaoke night started and it got real fun from there so everything was great. At 10pm some of her friends had to go and so did I so I went with them. Dad told me to be at home at 11, so at 10:30 I was on a train that takes 20 minutes to get me home + 2-3 minute walk home. 5 stops before mine train stood still on station for 5 minutes and we were told that there are unauthorised people on rails(how, I do not know) so train only goes two more stops and that's it. EVeryone goes for buses, I see that next bus that goes my way is in 8 minutes(+ I had to change to another bus from there, so that's even more time). I ring my dad to tell that, and his reaction was to shout at me for being late, saying that it's all my fault. Yeah, sitting on my train that should have brought me home in time and one in a million chance of a DLR train being cancelled is obviously my fault. He will come back home in a couple of hours and first thing he will say will be about this. I'm just gonna calmly ask how is it my fault. He'll be shouting like a retard no doubt(he always does) but I'm gonna try and remain calm and ask what the fuck is his problem.

Kinda starting to believe into some kind of supernatural bullshit. Had a crush 5 years ago, got sick of her as nothing worked out, stopped having contact completely, haven't talked in 5 years. Today, I went to specific Island in Ireland, to specific spot, at specific time. Just got home, me and her have mutual friend, she put up photos of herself and ex-crush, fml, they were on same island, on same spot, with 1 hour difference in time. What are the fucking odds of this happening....

Damn sometimes I just don't get tinder, I just pressed like until I ran out likes and got zero matches :v:

the forces of the universe must be real fucking bored if that's the kind of coincidence they're conspiring to create

I cant believe how hypocrite some people are There's this girl with which I wanted to hang out and have nothing serious. She was once my friend. Notice: we stopped talking for a long time because I told her I didnt want to be her friend as I started having a crush on her, and around 6 months ago and out of nowhere she starts talking to me about how she wants to be with someone. I understood that as "Want to go on a date?" She turns me down, and some time later asks me if I wanted to be friends again or just wanted to have fun, I tell her I wanted to have fun and nothing more And man, why I did that? She starts a rant about "Who you think you are that you can use me and tell me that?" Knowing she was still hanging out with her ex with the aim of trying to get back into a relationship while her ex (a friend of mine) just uses her...to have sex (By telling her "Yes we'll be together"), I answered back: [B]The fact that someone else used you while having fun with you, doesn't mean I wanted to use you.[/B] She went full defensive but with a tone of "Oh, shit" and then I ended it politely by saying "You have your idea of how people should behave with others. I have mine. I respect yours, but I don't agree with it nor I would call you a "virgin" for having your way in the same way I don't call a girl a "slut" just because she wants to fuck the guys who she wants" But I mean, how hypocrite you can be, you can allow certain people to do things you hate and deny to others? Just for an illusion? Glad I finally didn't do anything with her....otherwise I might had fallen in for something worse.... And I was a little bit of a stupid when I tried to date her...knowing her very well beforehand how she was going to react....maybe I also went for an illusion. Good I woke up.

[QUOTE=arleitiss;48766905]Kinda starting to believe into some kind of supernatural bullshit. Had a crush 5 years ago, got sick of her as nothing worked out, stopped having contact completely, haven't talked in 5 years. Today, I went to specific Island in Ireland, to specific spot, at specific time. Just got home, me and her have mutual friend, she put up photos of herself and ex-crush, fml, they were on same island, on same spot, with 1 hour difference in time. What are the fucking odds of this happening....[/QUOTE] No way. Someone you knew 5 years ago who lives in the same area of the world as you ended up going to the same spot you went to? No way dude what a coincidence. C'mon guy. It's not that much of a coincidence. Now, if you had flown to some po-dunk random town in the American midwest on a whim and ran into her there, that'd be a some shit. The odds of what happened with you happening aren't really that low. If you live in the same general corner of the world as someone, you're bound to end up going to the same spot eventually.

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;48767763]No way. Someone you knew 5 years ago who lives in the same area of the world as you ended up going to the same spot you went to? No way dude what a coincidence. C'mon guy. It's not that much of a coincidence. Now, if you had flown to some po-dunk random town in the American midwest on a whim and ran into her there, that'd be a some shit. The odds of what happened with you happening aren't really that low. If you live in the same general corner of the world as someone, you're bound to end up going to the same spot eventually.[/QUOTE] Also, when people talk about coincidences, they're only looking at the times coincidental things actually happened. You're ignoring all the times that nothing coincidental has happened, which is most of the time.

always cool when you find out someone who is your friend turns out to have killed a person bc they decided to drink and drive and doesnt seem in the keast bit sorry about it. and its weird bc you just want to not talk to them ever again but theyre still that same old funny guy. fucking christ

????? Are they in jail? As they should be?

Alright so Ive posted a few times in here about this girl I've been conflicted about... And its still going :unimpressed: [quote][quote]Okay guys be prepared for a wall of text. So about three months ago I met this girl when hanging out with one of my mates and we got along pretty well. Anyway managed to get her number and we started talking and pretty soon we were texting all the time and it was then that I realised that I could have something with this chick. Met up a few times after that and then we started phoning each other every night for multiple hours (like before we both go to sleep). During this time I learnt about her last relationship which was a trainwreck; she dated a dude for 5 months and in that time had a miscarriage after which he found about it he broke up with her. This made me realise that its gonna take a lot of trust building before we start a relationship. It became pretty confusing during this time as well because she was giving me signs that she wanted something with me and had feelings for me but also that she didnt want a relationship. Anyway after about 2 months me, her and her best friend (now a good friend of mine as well) were hanging out and her ex texted her. She began to talk with him over the next week and even caught up with him the next weekend. At this point I was really worried because I thought she might pick him over me. She hung out with him a second time 2 weeks later and they made out with him(her best friend was there and told me about it). That absolutely gutted me but she was still showing me signs that she has feelings for me and stuff so i tried to assume that it was just meaningless. She has mega trust issues so I have been scared to ask her for a relationship as whenever Ive brought up anything related she has blown it off. However about 2 weeks ago we were watching movies and cuddling when things escalated and we ended up having sex. This actually improved things quite a lot and she is way more open with me. Thing is I dont know if I should ask her for a relationship or not... What are your thoughts guys?[/quote] Okay so bit of an update on this one. So our "interaction" (for lack of a better word) actually got way better over the past few weeks and I was really quite happy with where we were. But then she started hanging out with her ex again and was getting distant and shy when telling me about it. So she saw him 2 times in one week and it was getting to me so I just asked her about her intentions towards him and towards me. She replied with this: "Worst possible time you could ever ask after the shit my parents just gave me but whatever No im not getting back with my ex, and wont ever cause our lives are different Yes we are friends and it is working cause we don't fight anymore Yes im going to hang out with him cause we get along and I dont have many friends atm and I can get outside opinions on important things And it's not like im trying to hide the fact im hanging out with him cause I've been pretty honest" Anyway she was already in a bad mood when she sent that but I didnt know unfortunately. So after this things have actually gotten a lot better as I understand what is going on between them. She also mentioned she is not ready for a relationship yet as she has a lot going on in her life at the moment (moving out which is causing family stress and such). We are still having sex regularly and enjoying intimate moments and such so I dont mind that we are not "in a relationship". Im just not sure what direction I should take this from here or whether I should just roll with it. Just wanted to know you's guys thoughts on this? Extra insight is always appreciated :)[/quote] Sooooo basically in between now and then we've been hanging out lots and things have been good. However she met this guy over Tinder and gets along with him really well (only text though she hasn't met him irl). Anyway I stayed at her house from Wednesday and just got back today. On Saturday however she was really irritable for no reason and not letting me hug, kiss or cuddle her (basically show any physical affection) which would've been fine but she was talking to other dudes on Tinder and ignoring me... So today she ditched me to go hang out with some Tinder guys and her best friend. I know that the Tinder guys want nothing but a root (she showed me some of the messages) and shes with them right now so I'm pretty upset. I'm also scared shes being distant to me because shes gonna leave me for that other Tinder guy she gets along with really well. I don't know what to do... I want to know that we are somewhat exclusive (at least sexually) but I'm not sure what to do. Does anyone have any advice? I'd appreciate the insight.

You're not even together, the tinder guy whas obviously more interesting, and that's how it works. I don't see what you're getting out of this relationship.

[QUOTE=Pascall;48772076]????? Are they in jail? As they should be?[/QUOTE] went to jail for a year for hit and run. guess you really can never know with some people, its just so weird but now some things make a lot more sense to me

Eugh. Yeah I definitely would not associate with someone who doesn't seem to show any real remorse for something like that. If he killed someone, he should've been in jail for vehicular manslaughter. Not just a hit and run.

[QUOTE=Pascall;48772816]Eugh. Yeah I definitely would not associate with someone who doesn't seem to show any real remorse for something like that. If he killed someone, he should've been in jail for vehicular manslaughter. Not just a hit and run.[/QUOTE] What should happen and what really goes down in court are two different things, it's disgusting how many people lawyer their way out of most charges and get down to community service and probation.

So I think I posted earlier about this but there was this cute girl that I met at a party and we usually just snapchat or hang out whenever I see her at our mutual club/go to a party with her. We're not in the same friend group or anything but I kinda just ask her on a date and see what happens. Idk if I should ask her before break or after break though (it's just a 4 day weekend next weekend).

So a couple of months ago, I posted here regarding my fear that my girlfriend would cheat on me, and the topic has since been resolved. The new issue is the reverse, where my girlfriend is constantly fearing that I would cheat on her, or more specifically: I hang out with friends, and we throw parties on our college campus roughly once a week on weekends. She's afraid that I may drink too much, and one of the girls in that group would make a move on me and that I'd be too drunk to stop it. I pointed out to her that: 1. I don't drink frequently (at least not in this semester, anyways), and when I do drink I barely get tipsy because I control how much I drink. 2. The girls in the group are either taken, or are not looking for a one-night-stand with a taken guy. I know I can't just tell her to stop being worried, but as the situation is there really isn't anything for her to be worried about, and she's been extremely clingy whenever my friends are around or when they invite me to hang out (as in not drink, just hang out). What can I do?

Well obviously she's going to start doubting you if you believed she was going to cheat on you. [editline]28th September 2015[/editline] And saying that the girls probably don't want you won't help at all.

[QUOTE=Oscar Lima Echo;48772771]You're not even together, the tinder guy whas obviously more interesting, and that's how it works. I don't see what you're getting out of this relationship.[/QUOTE] Funny that you say that because she basically just told me she doesnt want anything from me anymore :/ [editline]28th September 2015[/editline] fuck my life

So Guys How do you close the "deal" when dating? You kiss suddenly out of nowhere, do something as to get closer, stare without saying anything and move slowly towards him/her?

I usually just ask

[QUOTE=Sector 7;48777670]I usually just ask[/QUOTE] Like....?

[QUOTE=Cutthecrap;48777673]Like....?[/QUOTE] "So hey, uh... mind if I kiss you goodnight?" I like asking at the end of first dates (if I think they show promise) because it gives a pretty good indication of how she thinks it went, makes your intentions clear, and breaks down the physical contact barrier for the future some women like being asked, and some think it's totally lame, but there's no real way to find out in advance.

[QUOTE=Cutthecrap;48777657]So Guys How do you close the "deal" when dating? You kiss suddenly out of nowhere, do something as to get closer, stare without saying anything and move slowly towards him/her?[/QUOTE] ~feel the moment~ some people like asking, some people don't say anything there's no secret, it's about knowing the right time and yes i know that's not extremely helpful but this is the kind of thing you learn from experience, not internet advice

[QUOTE=bs8814;48777638]Funny that you say that because she basically just told me she doesnt want anything from me anymore :/ [editline]28th September 2015[/editline] fuck my life[/QUOTE] Consider if the expectations you make are a part of the reason, you're most likely putting a lot of pressure on her to take a girlfriend role way too early. And.. bro... She literally told you she didn't want a relationship. When someone tells you that, they are talking about [I]a relationship with you[/I]. When she started taking with her ex you should have accepted that this wasn't going anywhere good, even if you "won", you'd have a girlfriend so flaky she can't even tell you if she likes you each day of the week.

Sometimes it surprises me when i read peoples posts that they don't realise they sound like really terrible or stupid people. Its like, how do they not know?

Okay so this girl breaks up with her bf, then tells me, then the next day they're back together and i'm friendzoned. Her friend gets super annoyed at me for not knowing marijuana slang (i don't do drugs), we get into a stupid facebook argument and she's threatened to get her friends on to me or some shit. This is what I get for trying to be friendly. What a waste of my time and effort. Maybe I should stop trying so hard.

[QUOTE=Shifty Pete;48779297]Okay so this girl breaks up with her bf, then tells me, then the next day they're back together and i'm friendzoned. Her friend gets super annoyed at me for not knowing marijuana slang (i don't do drugs), we get into a stupid facebook argument and she's threatened to get her friends on to me or some shit. This is what I get for trying to be friendly. What a waste of my time and effort. Maybe I should stop trying so hard.[/QUOTE] How did you even get involved with a facebook fight? Surely you must have egged them on to do it.

I kinda get peeved when I'm legitimately being friendly/curious and I receive passive-aggressive bullshit and insults to my intelligence, so yeah, I egged her on because I found it funny how annoyed she was getting over it.