Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

Re dating at work i meg my girlfriend at work and we worked in the same desk every Saturday for months. She quit eventually though

Why are my friends being dicks to me suddenly? Went to a Football game yesterday, they didn't bother waiting out front. They also didn't even invite me on Monday to a game. These guys and I have been friends for 3 years, but lately they sure aren't be very friendly towards me.

ugh, I could totally make one of those page-long posts right now. whenever I'm with this girl I keep wondering what the gentlest way to let her go would be whenever I'm not with her I keep thinking about the next time we're gonna be in bed together in the meantime I keep building us up and making everything more difficult I know I don't want a long term thing with her but I think I'm sending the complete opposite message and slowly digging the hole deeper on a lighter note, she has really sensitive nipples! yay

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;48572272]I know a guy who proposed to a co worker after 2 months of dating. Everyone called him a dumbshit in their head and thankfully it fell through before a wedding happened.[/QUOTE] Reminds me of this picture I saw once of a high school junior proposing to his girlfriend of four weeks.

Drunken makeout sesh with a girl I'd just met was just what I needed to help me get through this bullshit. Although she ended up getting way too drunk for me to have sex with her with a good conscience. She was a really cool girl and she talked about her major a lot (telecommunications) and she was really passionate about it , which is a turn on for me for reasons I can't really explain. I hope I see her around, I'm not sure if I can see a relationship with her yet but it would be nice to spend time with someone

Just had a girl i crushed on for quite a bit flake on me(i feel it was for a legitimate reason but ive got no idea), asked her to reschedule and she said yes, hopefully this isnt some sort of telltale sign of disinterest, been trying my best to act totally casual about it and not be clingy, since im quite busy myself too

What's the consensus on including your children in dating profile pictures, Tinder more specifically? I've only gotten 4 mutual swipes and all of em have immediately unmatched, or within a day at least. I assume it's my pictures because Tinder Should I just take some ~artsy~ selfies instead or what

Tinder's usually for people looking to hook up, so someone with a kid in their picture will probably pull the assumption that it's THEIR kid so - Probably best to leave those out.

lol I had only one mutual swipe in a month and that's with a girl who is in Norway

So a while ago I posted here about ending things with a girl I was into who had anxiety. I didn't act as I should have at the time because I couldn't understand how difficult things were for her. Well thanks to all your advice, after a lot of time and some talking, we ended up closer than before, and actually started to do things together again! (although there were other obstacles along the way) Anyway, I'm posting here now because things are bad again, and I need another opinion. Essentially what happened was that we were going to do something last weekend, like maybe go to the beach or something. I was busy Sunday, so I'd asked if she was free on Friday or Saturday, and she told me she was busy Friday, and might have to move things for her aunt on Saturday, but she'd let me know. So Saturday rolls around, and I'm going about my business, but checking my phone every now and then to see if she'd messaged me. At about 6pm, I figure that she must have been to her aunt's, but it was quite a nice evening, so I thought I'd message and ask if she wanted to go for a walk or something. She never gets back to me though, even though she was 'active' all day on Facebook. I went to a beer festival on the Sunday, but before I left I figured I shouldn't make a fuss about her not saying anything, since she was probably worrying about having to explain why she blanked me or whatever, so I just asked if she wanted to do anything that evening instead. 3 hours and some beers later, I was a little sick of being ignored, and sent 'please say something', which she did actually reply to. She said sorry, and that it'd been a weird weekend, which after I asked how, she elaborated as her having to help her dad fix a sink, as well as having to go to her aunt's to help move things, which sucked because she hadn't been there since her gran died. I joked about her being a plumber and asked if she did want to do anything that evening, but she was about to have her tea. Since we could have still done something after, I left it open for her to decide. She didn't say anything though, and I was getting pretty sick of her ignoring me as the night wore on (I was also getting drunker, which I really regret in hindsight). Eventually she apologised for not replying, saying she 'wasn't with it' that day. What followed was a really pained exercise of me trying to understand why she was being so evasive, while she gave me one word answers in response. I realise now that I should have taken the hint that she didn't want to talk about it, but I just couldn't wrap my head around why she was treating me like this. After a while of her being really cold, saying she 'wasn't going to argue' with me, she eventually snapped, and after I read over everything again I realised that she was just freaked out over going to her aunt's, and that was why she was being like she was. I apologised and she told me not to talk to her for a while. [B]TL;DR[/B] Girl ignored me because she was having a bad weekend, I didn't understand that was why and pushed her for a reason. Essentially I don't really know how to feel right now, I know that I've upset her, and that I shouldn't have forced the issue. At the same time though, she said I was being selfish, but I don't really think that wanting her to talk to me is selfish. I guess what I really don't understand is how her being upset about her gran made her treat me like some kinda stranger. She's not very good at communicating her feelings, and as much as I wish that I'd reacted better, I really just don't understand how I was supposed to when the only reason she gave for blanking me was that she was busy.

I don't think you should over-think the situation. If you think she's still worth it and it was all a misunderstanding, wait some time for it to cool off and make a brief apology about that. Don't go into details. Just "hey, sorry about the other night, I didn't mean to be rude" something like that. Things don't need to be a bed of roses all the time and people aren't going to just drift apart over small stuff like that. Apologize and wait for her answer.

Need some advice here, not really sure what to do. First week of college me this girl on one of my classes, she sat on the opposite side of the room and after class we have a brief conversation, last week for class she moved and sat next to where I was sitting the previous week but by the time I got to class a new student took the seat. We had to go to the library half way through the class and on the way there she goes out of her way and starts talking to me. We talk for the rest of the class and as we're leaving I get her number. I wait a day after getting her number so I don't seem too clingy, and I start texting her. We text for like half an hour and then she just stops replying. The next morning she texts me continuing the conversation and apologizes that she didn't respond saying "she opened up the message but forgot to respond." I say no big deal and I try to get the conversation going again but she stops replying after like two texts. She said she was gonna be at the lake, so I figured maybe she just didn't have her phone on her. Fast forward two days and she didn't respond at all or make an effort to talk to me. I ended up messaging her today about the class, she answered but didn't try to keep the conversation going at all. TL;DR: Girl seems to go out of her way to talk to me/be near me in person. Try to talk to her through text and get little or no response.

Maybe she just sucks at texting. Sounds like it from the way she kinda let it drop right off the bat. Kinda gauge how she's feeling about you when you have class again. If she's still hanging around you, she's probably just a shitty texter. If she doesn't hang around you anymore, then she probably lost interest.

[QUOTE=BadfishBurito;48585619]Need some advice here, not really sure what to do. First week of college me this girl on one of my classes, she sat on the opposite side of the room and after class we have a brief conversation, last week for class she moved and sat next to where I was sitting the previous week but by the time I got to class a new student took the seat. We had to go to the library half way through the class and on the way there she goes out of her way and starts talking to me. We talk for the rest of the class and as we're leaving I get her number. I wait a day after getting her number so I don't seem too clingy, and I start texting her. We text for like half an hour and then she just stops replying. The next morning she texts me continuing the conversation and apologizes that she didn't respond saying "she opened up the message but forgot to respond." I say no big deal and I try to get the conversation going again but she stops replying after like two texts. She said she was gonna be at the lake, so I figured maybe she just didn't have her phone on her. Fast forward two days and she didn't respond at all or make an effort to talk to me. I ended up messaging her today about the class, she answered but didn't try to keep the conversation going at all. TL;DR: Girl seems to go out of her way to talk to me/be near me in person. Try to talk to her through text and get little or no response.[/QUOTE] If you like her, ask her out. You'll ruin yourself trying to decipher clues in her texting patterns or whatever. You're overthinking things, think about the endgame. Why are you trying to talk to her and whatnot? Want to get to know her? Ask her out. If you're just talking to her for shits and gigs, someone to chat with, then it's not big loss if she doesn't want to text or whatever, no reason to waste any thought process on the matter. I've met a lot of girls who got turned off real quick by a dude not pulling the trigger fast. I mean, c'mon, you talked and she gave you her number. That kinda sorta lays it out clearly right there, she gave you an opportunity to ask her out and you still haven't done it. If she's that type of person, every day you waste trying to just small talk via text or whatever is killing your chances more and more.

[QUOTE=Pascall;48585701]Maybe she just sucks at texting. Sounds like it from the way she kinda let it drop right off the bat. Kinda gauge how she's feeling about you when you have class again. If she's still hanging around you, she's probably just a shitty texter. If she doesn't hang around you anymore, then she probably lost interest.[/QUOTE] I saw her today as we were leaving our mass lecture. She walked by with one of her friends and said hi and I briefly talked to her about the speech we have to do Wednesday. So at least she's not ignoring me. I'm just having a gauging how she feels since I've never had a relationship before. It's also hard to tell since I'm from the North and in the South for college now. People are much friendlier down here so it's throwing me off. [editline]1st September 2015[/editline] [QUOTE=MaverickIB;48585768]If you like her, ask her out. You'll ruin yourself trying to decipher clues in her texting patterns or whatever. You're overthinking things, think about the endgame. Why are you trying to talk to her and whatnot? Want to get to know her? Ask her out. If you're just talking to her for shits and gigs, someone to chat with, then it's not big loss if she doesn't want to text or whatever, no reason to waste any thought process on the matter. I've met a lot of girls who got turned off real quick by a dude not pulling the trigger fast. I mean, c'mon, you talked and she gave you her number. That kinda sorta lays it out clearly right there, she gave you an opportunity to ask her out and you still haven't done it. If she's that type of person, every day you waste trying to just small talk via text or whatever is killing your chances more and more.[/QUOTE] You're right, I might as well do it. I'll ask her out after class on Wednesday. Thanks for the help guys. Also, it's good to see you back Maverick; I haven't seen you post in years.

Damn guys, I don't know what to do. I'm just horrible with talking to women I guess. Basically, my friend encouraged me to message a girl I think is cute. I messaged her, but she didn't respond for about 3 hours (she was offline for the entire day.) She finally gets online, doesn't message me back but it says she saw my messages. I inform my friend, who then tells me he just messaged her and she responded. He proceeds to send me a few pictures of the messages and they've been messaging all day. He says he's trying to help me, but I don't know... [B]edit: [/B] she's skyping him, wtf? They've been talking for 2 HOURS!!

[QUOTE=Pikmonster;48586529]Damn guys, I don't know what to do. I'm just horrible with talking to women I guess. Basically, my friend encouraged me to message a girl I think is cute. I messaged her, but she didn't respond for about 3 hours (she was offline for the entire day.) She finally gets online, doesn't message me back but it says she saw my messages. I inform my friend, who then tells me he just messaged her and she responded. He proceeds to send me a few pictures of the messages and they've been messaging all day. He says he's trying to help me, but I don't know... [B]edit: [/B] she's skyping him, wtf? They've been talking for 2 HOURS!![/QUOTE] Its the end of the world! You're going to die alone! She's likely not interested so just move on, its okay dude

[QUOTE=PollytheParrot;48586711]Its the end of the world! You're going to die alone! She's likely not interested so just move on, its okay dude[/QUOTE] Gotcha. Made the assumption a while ago and did indeed move on, thanks for the help tho.

This girl I met on okcupid is really cool. After messaging her and going out on a date, I would like to take her out to a nice dinner or something. She's a fulltime student with two jobs and is getting fucked by burger king because they don't honor her availability. That on top of her other shit, I'm really eager to find some time to meet up again but I don't want to be pushy or come off as desperate either. It's been a day since we've met, and I plan to give it some time for her to sort her classes and whatnot out, but I get crazy anxiety from not knowing if it'd ever work out. On top of that, I met someone else today who seems like she's kinda into me or is just really really nice. Regardless, I now have two people with potential interest and I get a large amount of anxiety from this kind of shit. I took some valium and I'm pretty relaxed (I don't have prescribed anxiety issues, purely recreational but self administered for tonight) which is taking the edge off the constant thinking I've had literally all day about this shit but I'm eager to know what the hell is going to come of this. Ugh, I'm just hyped up on the mere possibility of being able to meet some cool people of the opposite gender, it's been far too long and both of them seem really cool.

[QUOTE=Pikmonster;48586529]Damn guys, I don't know what to do. I'm just horrible with talking to women I guess. Basically, my friend encouraged me to message a girl I think is cute. I messaged her, but she didn't respond for about 3 hours (she was offline for the entire day.) She finally gets online, doesn't message me back but it says she saw my messages. I inform my friend, who then tells me he just messaged her and she responded. He proceeds to send me a few pictures of the messages and they've been messaging all day. He says he's trying to help me, but I don't know... [B]edit: [/B] she's skyping him, wtf? They've been talking for 2 HOURS!![/QUOTE] Similar situation, but my friend keeps rubbing the fact that some girl I found cute, likes him. I'm about 5 more brags away from unfriending him. Fucking annoying. One of my very good friends too, idk what to do.

[QUOTE=Banandana;48587612]This girl I met on okcupid is really cool. After messaging her and going out on a date, I would like to take her out to a nice dinner or something. She's a fulltime student with two jobs and is getting fucked by burger king because they don't honor her availability. That on top of her other shit, I'm really eager to find some time to meet up again but I don't want to be pushy or come off as desperate either. It's been a day since we've met, and I plan to give it some time for her to sort her classes and whatnot out, but I get crazy anxiety from not knowing if it'd ever work out. On top of that, I met someone else today who seems like she's kinda into me or is just really really nice. Regardless, I now have two people with potential interest and I get a large amount of anxiety from this kind of shit. I took some valium and I'm pretty relaxed (I don't have prescribed anxiety issues, purely recreational but self administered for tonight) which is taking the edge off the constant thinking I've had literally all day about this shit but I'm eager to know what the hell is going to come of this. Ugh, I'm just hyped up on the mere possibility of being able to meet some cool people of the opposite gender, it's been far too long and both of them seem really cool.[/QUOTE] On the topic of dating shit I don't get the logic of people there. I mean surely if you message a girl and you mention shared interests you'd expect an answer at least(of course nobody is online 24/7) but it's been more than a week and no responces whatsoever. Nukes all motivation to even try and message anyone first. :v: I just visit the apps from time to time and that's it.

[QUOTE=blerb;48580524]What's the consensus on including your children in dating profile pictures, Tinder more specifically? I've only gotten 4 mutual swipes and all of em have immediately unmatched, or within a day at least. I assume it's my pictures because Tinder Should I just take some ~artsy~ selfies instead or what[/QUOTE] Depends. You can leave them in and know that people who respond to messages are pretty likely to be ok with your kids. Or take them out and get more responces but a lot will probably duck out when that topic comes up.

So, regarding [URL="http://facepunch.com/showthread.php?t=1446327&p=48392629&viewfull=1#post48392629"]this[/URL], I sent a message a while back asking what's up and she answered that she's been at camp and just got internet. I asked how it was and still haven't got an answer, like, she hasn't even read the message.

I recently did a simple letterhead and business card design for a friends mum who is a very good psychologist. Instead of usual payment (it was a really quick job, about £30) i asked if i could have just some sort of general psych analysis as i've always wanted one but could never really afford it since i don't need it. And she was completely fine with it. So i went to her office the other day that she was off and she asked me what i wanted to talk about and i said that i wanted to know the reason on why i seek attention so much. She was interested in why this had sprung up since im not really the attention seeking type, i'm only about positive attention, nothing like being sad for attention or being stupid for attention or a prick etc... So i was talking for about 10-15mins about it, saying where i think it came from (when i play video games and everything i'd always choose the different character and make sure im the biggest person or the oddest colours or something so that i stand out from the crowd) and that i feel that this is why i became a graphic designer and i think it sprouted from when i was a little kid and my dad would take me down to the pub with him and i'd be the only kid there and they'd all greet me and everything and i'd be quite popular because i was just a genuinely nice kid that you could have a mature conversation with. So this went on for another 5-10 mins explaining why i think i'm like it and then i asked what she thought and she had such a confused face on her and she goes "I honestly do not know what to make of that" so i questioned her about it and she just went on about how that shes been helping people for 15 years and normally she'd be able to work them out within the first 15 mins of analysing them but the structure guide she made that she normally uses to easily identify people has not worked for me. I'm a practical and logical thinker, which normally is someone that goes in the business career path and what not and not creative at all. But yet im a Graphic Designer and very creative. She also said that because i know where the routes of this attention thing has come from, she feels that im creating a second personality for myself because i've "mastered" this current personality, which is why i have this "confident" attitude. She isn't sure whats going to happen next and wants to do some research into this with a few of her old uni friends. This just got so much more interesting!

[QUOTE=greeley;48593050] This just got so much more interesting![/QUOTE] shit sorry didn't mean to disagree, i meant to agree and my mouse slipped I used to be fascinated with that sort of thing, lemme know the results if you feel like sharing them

I was at a drag party this weekend and I basically met the girl version of me, mohawk and all, only pretty. We where chatting and laughing and getting along and then she was like "You gotta come meet my girlfriend, she'll love you". God dammit. Still. There are worse things than new friends.

what do you do if there's a lot going on in your mind issue-wise and you want to talk about them but you literally don't know where to start

[QUOTE=Hamsteronfire;48593937]what do you do if there's a lot going on in your mind issue-wise and you want to talk about them but you literally don't know where to start[/QUOTE] If you don't know where to start, then now isn't a good time to discuss it. Think it over, process and organize your thoughts, and decide how you can tactfully bring it up.

put on a nice shirt and go for a walk eventually, you'll walk by a reflective surface and you'll check yourself out and you'll be like "that doesn't look like the kind of guy who would worry about stupid bullshit like this." works for me 100% of the time

okay here's a recent one went to leeds festival from thursday until monday met up with this girl a few months older than me after all of the main acts had played on saturday night we're both under the influence of mdma we get talking and shit, she wants to go see some of the after hours stuff she also has to look after her drunken friend who's pulled some random lad (time skip) we spent the majority of the night chilling on a hill talking, it was a beautiful moment where we were just free to talk about things we would have never said to anything else, I've told this story to a few other friends but everytime I tell it, it never seems the same as actually being there I couldn't really be bothered to make any moves however, which I've really really regretted, but in the state that I was in I was sort of freaking out anyway, which led to her kind of sitting in with me on the trip the thing is, I felt like I found someone who I had a lot of common in and I squandered that opportunity massively it's eating me up inside a lot We've been in contact since and made some suggestions for a meet up again but in this state right now I'm not sure if I should just rest or talk about it or what