Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

[I]Burn the Witch![/I] [editline]18th October 2015[/editline] No, seriously. My gf is keeping my balls on hold since tuesday now, and I don't have any idea of what's going to come out of it and am freaking out because of all the bad experiences I had with women so far, but she still managed to be polite and caring about it.

I fucking hate my cousin. He has an attractive gf, but he uses every chance he gets to brag about it to me. It's fucking annoying and it murders me. Whenever he comes over he starts fucking cuddling with her in my fucking living room and then now and then while she goes out he comes to me and brags about how hot she is and how great sex is. Really? I've been trying my balls off to avoid him but I can't cause he's family and he just comes and goes. [editline]18th October 2015[/editline] I thought I'd get use to it but he literally brings home new girls every few months (god knows how he gets so many attractive girls) and does this, yes he even brags about how he's cheating on his gf for hotter girls. It's been going on for as long as ever since he came to America from Vietnam (about 4 years). Literally the most shallow fuck

throw a drink in his face, and then when he's standing there wondering wtf just happened punch him in the sternum

I would if he wasn't family, I absolutely love my aunt and I don't thinking punching my aunts son in the sternum would be a very good idea

[QUOTE=freaka;48929423]I need some serious advice FP, My brother and I are compeletely different and almost disconnected from eachother. Currently I'm 18 years old (19 next week) and graduated this year, and my little brother is 16 and just started his secondary education. When I was in secondary education I was generally a very good guy, whom you consider the "popular one" due to me being friends with pretty much everyone in the school. I had no problem talking to girls, had a lot of good male friends aswell and had good grades. I recently started to date a girl from secondary education and its just going better. Literally the second I started secondary education I had over 15 new friends in class. It just floated perfectly. But my brother is just the total opposite. He has no friends in his new class, nobody to talk to and nobody sits next to him during class or lunch. I understand that he wouldn't make any real friends the first couple of days in secondary education like I did but its been 3 months now and he still havnt made a single friend in secondary educarion. He doesnt talk to any girls in his class and he does all his work by himself. Just to clear out neither he or I are bad looking or fat, he is however almost borderline underweight while I am a lot more toned. The only friends he talks to are friends from his former class and even then its pretty rare he talks to them. All day he sits in his room watching anime like Yu-gi-oh and Pokemon and sometimes play games like LoL and CSGO but nothing else. He doesnt wear bad clothes or have bad facial hair or hygene. I really care about him and my worst fear would be him becoming a bully victim (I was bullied for a time in 6th grade by a couple of dicks) and considered the "weird kid" in his school. Personality wise he is similar to me which I at first thought would be a big boost, but he just doesnt appeal to anything. He can't talk to strangers at all. Its almost like he cant communicate with people he dont know and he just stands there staring at a wall or something. And when he manages to talk to somebody he doesnt know he is stiff as hell. Whats even more awkward was when I graduated and I hugged this girl I knew in my class and he just stood there looking like an idiot with a pokerface which seriously made me feel unconfortable. I honestly cant enjoy anything with him around, he just makes me unconfortable to be around and I fear thats what his classmates also do. He isn't negative in his own personality, but he just seems like this guy that everybody rejects because they think he will be a burden to carry which he isnt. I know he can become a better person and become a lot more fun to be around but at the time he just feels like a reject. I really need your advice on him facepunch, I want him to become a better person but I need some advice to help him.[/QUOTE] it's hard to tell people how to become a better person, because most of the time they won't change because they won't see anything is wrong with it just be his best friend, and be there for him, and maybe even bring him to hang out with your friends, even if it sort of makes you uncomfortable plus being uncomfortable helps you become more well rounded too, it helps you react better around people who are doing things that do make you uncomfortable help him join clubs that would have the same interests as him, since it'll help him meet people

Should I feel bad about never having been in a relationship? Because I always feel like less of human being because it. It's one experience that the majority of people have had that I haven't.

My friends dating this girl and she's been hospitalized for 3 months cities away (as in it was that bad) and he's been depressed lately and feels like shit because his reasoning is "i shouldn't have fun if shes in that state." Idk what to tell him but he's been really emotional and at the same time I can't be there for him since I'm 3 hours away in college. I try my best to talk to him but it just never feels the same. He's thinking about just leaving her but he's completely torn

[QUOTE=RoboChimp;48934411]Should I feel bad about never having been in a relationship? Because I always feel like less of human being because it. It's one experience that the majority of people have had that I haven't.[/QUOTE] no you shouldn't relationships will come to you when they do, some people don't have them until they're in their mid 20s if you don't feel like having one then there's no need for one

[QUOTE=RoboChimp;48934411]Should I feel bad about never having been in a relationship? Because I always feel like less of human being because it. It's one experience that the majority of people have had that I haven't.[/QUOTE] Short answer: no. Who gives a shit. You're not less of a person because you haven't been with someone yet. There's a lot of pressure to get into a relationship early and bla bla bla, but if it's something you either don't want to do or can't do, you shouldn't feel ashamed or less-worthy because of it. Think of it this way, even the shittiest people out there can regularly get laid. That alone doesn't justify who they are, a dick is a still a dick regardless of how many people they've dated/stuffed. If you really want a relationship, as in top priority, my advice would be a) get fit and clean and b) put yourself into socially uncomfortable situations. A is self-explanatory, people like a nice body. You don't have to be mega-jacked but a tight look goes a long way. B is basically for building social experience. You're gonna fuck up a ton at first unless you're good at conversing with people, but it's required. Do you wanna meet someone you really like and fuck it up because you're too awkward or shy? Yeah neither do most of us.

I feel like my accent makes me look weird and I feel like it just ruins me when I enter social situations. I have a Norwegian accent that's really thick, and people find it hard to understand me a little at times, someone today told me that I sounded horrid when speaking English. What do I do about it? It sucks too, because I feel so god damn awkward when everyone else can speak clearly.

[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;48934469]no you shouldn't relationships will come to you when they do, some people don't have them until they're in their mid 20s if you don't feel like having one then there's no need for one[/QUOTE] Well I'm 27 now, in 3 years I'll be 30, so that ship has sailed. [QUOTE=blerb;48934491]Short answer: no. Who gives a shit. You're not less of a person because you haven't been with someone yet. There's a lot of pressure to get into a relationship early and bla bla bla, but if it's something you either don't want to do or can't do, you shouldn't feel ashamed or less-worthy because of it. Think of it this way, even the shittiest people out there can regularly get laid. That alone doesn't justify who they are, a dick is a still a dick regardless of how many people they've dated/stuffed. If you really want a relationship, as in top priority, my advice would be a) get fit and clean and b) put yourself into socially uncomfortable situations. A is self-explanatory, people like a nice body. You don't have to be mega-jacked but a tight look goes a long way. B is basically for building social experience. You're gonna fuck up a ton at first unless you're good at conversing with people, but it's required. Do you wanna meet someone you really like and fuck it up because you're too awkward or shy? Yeah neither do most of us.[/QUOTE]I'm gradually developing confidence, the social issues more related to finding a work around for borderline aspergers, I'm not as bad as some people but I do sometimes run out of things to say. I'll gradually get around to weight lifting, but right it's not a priority. With regards to a relationship, I'd rather have any some experience than just wait for the right girl.

[QUOTE=RoboChimp;48934411]Should I feel bad about never having been in a relationship? [/QUOTE] We all had those thoughts one day. Until all of a sudden you find yourself brushing your teeth, looking at yourself in the mirror while your significant other's busy taking a smelly shit in the same bathroom as you. And wakes up with you with terrible morning breath and doesn't really care about your farts either. (And eventually she starts farting too) And you don't care. Because you already grew used to it. And you're there looking in the mirror "Is this what love's all about?". Don't ever take single life for granted dude.

[QUOTE=puppy156;48934570]I feel like my accent makes me look weird and I feel like it just ruins me when I enter social situations. I have a Norwegian accent that's really thick, and people find it hard to understand me a little at times, someone today told me that I sounded horrid when speaking English. What do I do about it? It sucks too, because I feel so god damn awkward when everyone else can speak clearly.[/QUOTE] That sounds oddly familiar only that I have a russian accent, but I just keep talking and people seem to be understanding me just fine now that I lived in UK for two years

[QUOTE=RoboChimp;48934411]Should I feel bad about never having been in a relationship? Because I always feel like less of human being because it. It's one experience that the majority of people have had that I haven't.[/QUOTE] I hadn't been in a relationship until i was 22. You sohuldnt worry. Now me and my partner are moving in together and loving life. I have a mate who hasn't been in a relationship at all, hes not ugly, hes 27 but he just finds it hard to meet people and enjoy their company.

I'm a good looking person too and l've only been in a serious adult relationship now at 24. And even now lt's still on the risk of falling appart. You need to learn how to be independent on your own too. You can also be happy with just friends. And let me tell you. Relationships are hard work. It's not always a bed of roses and romance. There are down times. Times when sometimes you can't even stand the other person and you just wanna run away. It isn't easy to get used to for someone who's been single for a long time. So enjoy your single life a bit more. You say that you'll be 30 in 3 years. A lot of stuff happens in your life in just one.

I'm pretty good looking. I'm 19, ready for something real. Take me on an adventure, let's go to Dutch Bros and sing in the rain. I'm super nice and in general a really good person. Don't talk to me if you are less than 5'6" because I'm only looking for someone tall. I love terrible pickup lines, long walks to the fridge, and horses.

Let's run away together, baby. You and me. Leave this all behind!

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;48935811]Let's run away together, baby. You and me. Leave this all behind![/QUOTE] Naw sry I swiped left. You didn't seem tall enough for me to want to talk to you

[QUOTE=puppy156;48934570]I feel like my accent makes me look weird and I feel like it just ruins me when I enter social situations. I have a Norwegian accent that's really thick, and people find it hard to understand me a little at times, someone today told me that I sounded horrid when speaking English. What do I do about it? It sucks too, because I feel so god damn awkward when everyone else can speak clearly.[/QUOTE] Not sure what people are like where you live, but just about everyone I know in the US finds foreign accents cute. Most sensible people will appreciate the time you've put into learning to communicate with them. Lots of people in the US don't even speak a second language, and the fact that you've become fluent in a second one is a huge feat. Generally it's also very difficult to pick up a new accent as an adult since there are certain sounds that are only in some languages and not others (I can't roll my r's and I'm pretty sure nobody else in my language class can either). Just by speaking in English to these people you're accomplishing a lot more than they are... They're hardly in a position to judge you.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;48935893]Not sure what people are like where you live, but just about everyone I know in the US finds foreign accents cute. Most sensible people will appreciate the time you've put into learning to communicate with them.[/QUOTE] i did an exchange student year in the US. i had another brazilian and an italian in my group, both of them had pretty thick accents and people wouldn't stop talking about it. meanwhile my english was so good half the people there thought i was american. it got to the point where they were telling me "just fake an accent man"

Yeah I hang out with a lot of foreign exchange students and they sometimes mention getting terribly discouraged because of their accent or because people treat them like they're dumb for not being perfect at it (on top of random racist or snobby remarks now and then about immigrants from what I hear). Guy has a really good point. If they're not satisfied with your accent, you can always offer to talk to them in your native language instead, that'll probably clear things right up for them.

[QUOTE=Zukriuchen;48935950]i did an exchange student year in the US. i had another brazilian and an italian in my group, both of them had pretty thick accents and people wouldn't stop talking about it. meanwhile my english was so good half the people there thought i was american. it got to the point where they were telling me "just fake an accent man"[/QUOTE] Lucky. Meanwhile I grew up speaking French and still sound like an American when I speak it. Really need those rolled R's for my Russian classes right about now...

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;48935717]I'm a good looking person too and l've only been in a serious adult relationship now at 24. And even now lt's still on the risk of falling appart. You need to learn how to be independent on your own too. You can also be happy with just friends. And let me tell you. Relationships are hard work. It's not always a bed of roses and romance. There are down times. Times when sometimes you can't even stand the other person and you just wanna run away. It isn't easy to get used to for someone who's been single for a long time. So enjoy your single life a bit more. You say that you'll be 30 in 3 years. A lot of stuff happens in your life in just one.[/QUOTE]Any experience would be nice. I'd take it very slowly, it's not like I'm looking for someone to move in with me right away. And at if doesn't work I'll learn from it. She'll move on.

So my SO ,as we all know, has a bit of an issue with pics on Facebook. I uploaded some pics of us yesterday and she's literally deactivated her account. She told me she doesn't want to look like a damp rag, which is bull, so It seems to be some sort of insecurity?

It could be any number of things, but that sure is a very over dramatic response.

[QUOTE=Jame's;48938138]So my SO ,as we all know, has a bit of an issue with pics on Facebook. I uploaded some pics of us yesterday and she's literally deactivated her account. She told me she doesn't want to look like a damp rag, which is bull, so It seems to be some sort of insecurity?[/QUOTE] So what happens next time you post photos with her? She jumps off a cliff?

[QUOTE=Jame's;48938138]So my SO ,as we all know, has a bit of an issue with pics on Facebook. I uploaded some pics of us yesterday and she's literally deactivated her account. She told me she doesn't want to look like a damp rag, which is bull, so It seems to be some sort of insecurity?[/QUOTE] tell me this chick is really good at doing your taxes or can see into the future or pisses fine whiskey, or something. anything. because every time you mention this woman it's to talk about another one of her huge red flags. name like three things that you really like about her

I like that we can have intelligent conversations, I like that she listens to me teach her about history, I also like her personality. But maybe the cons are outweighing the pros now.

Even if the situation is pretty... bizarre, you should show that you want to understand her. Really, a bit of understandment can ease a situation and make looking for solutions a lot easer and less stressing.

[QUOTE=Jame's;48939052]I like that we can have intelligent conversations, I like that she listens to me teach her about history, I also like her personality. But maybe the cons are outweighing the pros now.[/QUOTE] I know a lot of people with those qualities. I'm not having sex with any of them.