Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

[QUOTE=_Axel;49065055]What's the deal with girls who are really into someone but once they get together they stop having feelings for him? That's happened to me and now it's happened to a friend of mine as well, it's hurtful and seems really absurd.[/QUOTE] Ive got a close friend like that, she loves the chase. She goes on dates with loads of different guys all the time but as soon as it starts to get serious she tells them she just wants to be friends. Shes 23, has never had a boyfriend and has been doing this for like 6 years, most of the time she never sleeps with them either so its not like she just does it for the sex.

Decided to end it with my girlfriend. She was far too immature and could never stop making up white lies, not to mention her insane mother making everything harder. Wahey, I'm single. 'Spose I just need to find someone who's as passionate about video games as I am. No clue where I'd find someone like that.

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[QUOTE=Emugod;49073290]I am interested in the 500 mile away girl romantically, but after 7 months and nothing to show for it, it feels useless. But, I ended up telling her about the girl I was talking to on the dating site. I don't know if that was the right choice. Maybe I just let people walk over me. I don't know.[/QUOTE] You really shouldn't let people you've never met control your life. If she actually ends up freaking out on you just cut contact, it's not worth it.

i should just ask the girl I like if she wants to hang out and go to this outdoor shopping place I've been meaning to go to for a while, right? we're friends, we've known each other for like a year now, im just always super nerved up about this sort of stuff

[QUOTE=Emugod;49073290]I am interested in the 500 mile away girl romantically, but after 7 months and nothing to show for it, it feels useless. But, I ended up telling her about the girl I was talking to on the dating site. I don't know if that was the right choice. Maybe I just let people walk over me. I don't know.[/QUOTE] 7 months is an absolutely massive amount of time

Guys, I'm a failure. I always guilt trip girls who reject me. I can't help it, though! How do I break this sick habit? I really just want a companion. I don't want to hurt people anymore because of my own social incompetence. How can I handle rejection better? I'm always so nuclear with it -- a drama queen.

[QUOTE=pdp;49074492]Guys, I'm a failure. I always guilt trip girls who reject me. I can't help it, though! How do I break this sick habit? I really just want a companion. I don't want to hurt people anymore because of my own social incompetence. How can I handle rejection better? I'm always so nuclear with it -- a drama queen.[/QUOTE] If you're aware that you're guilt-tripping them, then just don't do it? You might find the attention gratifying or whatever but it's really only damaging you and those around you. Just move on, find a hobby. Look at yourself and think of ways YOU can improve YOURSELF, not at how others are failing you because chances are they aren't doing anything wrong by rejecting you.

Whenever I was working full time I still spent almost every day with my girlfriend. Even though I would be insanely tired and sore. Now she's working part time, and I'm out of a job. She barely spares a day to spend with me, and if she does she spends it buried in her phone.

[QUOTE=Jho;49072491]Decided to end it with my girlfriend. She was far too immature and could never stop making up white lies, not to mention her insane mother making everything harder. Wahey, I'm single. 'Spose I just need to find someone who's as passionate about video games as I am. No clue where I'd find someone like that.[/QUOTE] Don't worry lol, they are litterly everywhere.

[QUOTE=meharryp;49075434]Don't worry lol, they are litterly everywhere.[/QUOTE] Show me, there are nout on dating websites. And they're most likely to go outside as I am.

[QUOTE=Jho;49076192]Show me, there are nout on dating websites. And they're most likely to go outside as I am.[/QUOTE] you'd be surprised, actually [editline]8th November 2015[/editline] you can meet girls literally anywhere

[QUOTE=Jho;49076192]Show me, there are nout on dating websites. And they're most likely to go outside as I am.[/QUOTE] Surely you must look for more in a woman than whether or not they like games or not. Obviously you won't find much if that's the only thing you're looking for. I like games too but I don't expect my partners to share that interest.

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[QUOTE=RainbowStalin;49076219]Surely you must look for more in a woman than whether or not they like games or not. Obviously you won't find much if that's the only thing you're looking for. I like games too but I don't expect my partners to share that interest.[/QUOTE] Oh nonono, it's not absolutely essential. Things would just be tons more fun if they did share that interest. Don't worry, I know what I'm looking for in a partner.

[QUOTE=Jho;49076232]Oh nonono, it's not absolutely essential. Things would just be tons more fun if they did share that interest. Don't worry, I know what I'm looking for in a partner.[/QUOTE] they are on dating sites. you just have to spend a lot of time looking. the bigger of a selection pool you have, the better chance you will have at finding love. :) [editline]8th November 2015[/editline] i would suggest conventions, clubs, and meet-ups!

Almost everyone plays video games nowadays, tbh. It's kind of a weird thing to hinge an entire relationship on if you're above high school age. If you're not then I mean. Video games is cool. But there are thousands upon thousands of people who enjoy different kinds of games. It's not a rare thing.

some people are just weird, it frustrates me. there's this girl I find pretty cool who I've known for two years, but I've been mostly absent during these two years so I think I've only spent about 4-5 months in total with her (of course not 24/7 or daily) and recently came in contact with her again. yesterday she sent me a message about something completely random. her: "do you have a milk allergy?" me: "no, why?" her: "I think I do" me: "that really sucks :( did it pop up now recently?" her after suddenly disappearing for 10-20 minutes: "yes" and that was it. first message since last Friday. I'm probably just over-analyzing it, but I don't see why she would send me such a completely random message when it seems like she wasn't even up for a conversation. I figured she wanted to just have a chat, but didn't seem like it as she spent no effort on keeping it going. she's a really cool person and I'd love to spend more time with her, but I find her hard to read. don't really have a romantic interest, just see her as a cool person. I have admittedly stopped bothering to make an effort to contact her, feels like the right choice, though doesn't feel really good either. [editline]8th November 2015[/editline] had a pretty uncomfortable moment earlier while checking Snapchat as well. a friend of mine and her boyfriend were visiting an abandoned hospital earlier without ever asking if I wanted to tag along, feels pretty bad but I can't blame them for anything as that'd be completely wrong. not that I would blame them to begin with, just feel a little sad that I wasn't included as I've wanted to go to this hospital for a while. it's hard to integrate yourself into social groups after being lonely for so long. you're far from a priority when people find people to do something with. really need to get better at taking the initiative. so afraid of rejection. don't really know what to do with people either.

[QUOTE=PredGD;49077606][editline]8th November 2015[/editline] had a pretty uncomfortable moment earlier while checking Snapchat as well. a friend of mine and her boyfriend were visiting an abandoned hospital earlier without ever asking if I wanted to tag along, feels pretty bad but I can't blame them for anything as that'd be completely wrong. not that I would blame them to begin with, just feel a little sad that I wasn't included as I've wanted to go to this hospital for a while. it's hard to integrate yourself into social groups after being lonely for so long. you're far from a priority when people find people to do something with. really need to get better at taking the initiative. so afraid of rejection. don't really know what to do with people either.[/QUOTE] I'm litterly the same as you lol, I never wanted to go out with people until recently and I fear rejection, and it ended up on me missing out on a girl I really liked. No clue how to talk to people or ask someone out as well.

[QUOTE=meharryp;49078200]I'm litterly the same as you lol, I never wanted to go out with people until recently and I fear rejection, and it ended up on me missing out on a girl I really liked. No clue how to talk to people or ask someone out as well.[/QUOTE] That's the sort of thing you learn by trying really, and you'd be surprised how often regular people feel as uncomfortable in social situations as you may be. Try not to hold yourself back, the more active you are the better you'll feel when interacting with others.

[QUOTE=pdp;49076206]you'd be surprised, actually [editline]8th November 2015[/editline] you can meet girls literally anywhere[/QUOTE] unsurprisingly if you live in the middle of bumfuck nowhere like me and don't have a license you aren't going to be meeting much of anyone guh I want to leave

Made it through 3 dates with the tinder girl, now I think she's not interested :/

Okay boys and girls who's ready to hear a story about spaghetti and ingesting far too much alcohol. I organized a let loose/party weekend with my university buddies, the plan was to pre-game at my friends house on campus, then uber down to a bar where some other people were going to meet us. I drove two girls down to the house, one of which we've developed early mutual attraction for each other. Start drinking at my friends house, all my friends are downstairs talking to the two girls who are now drunk and having a good time, when my friends suggest we go to a bar within walking distance instead of ubering over to the other bar with our buddies. Being 4 beers deep I didn't think to argue or tell the people at the bar what we were doing, as a result she ended up staying at the bar alone for awhile waiting for us before one of her friends showed up. Now she's lowkey mad at me, there's fuckup #1 Now we're all walking down to the bar, myself, my two university girl buddies and 3 of my friends from the house. This chick I like and a friend of mine and myself all end up locking arms and walking to the bar, but about halfway we get separated and she ends up just staying with my friend and locking arms with him. So I'm kind of awkwardly following her with my other uni friend behind us, she calls me back and says "Nick what the fuck are you doing? go get her!" since she's been trying to hook us up for ages. But I'm really not the controlling type so I just said whatever and followed them. Fuckup #2 Get to the bar, have a great time. Friend buys me 6 shots, plus I buy myself another 2 shots, BIG FUCKUP #3. End up dancing with the girl I liked and made out, she ends up kissing the other uni girl, which I didn't really care about, I know girls do that. So at this point I'm well over 12 drinks deep and absolutely [I]trashed[/I]. We leave the bar and head back to the house. The same dude who was locked with the girl I liked earlier is now leading the way back and while I have my arm around her, he comes in and feels like he's trying to push my arm out of the way, which really pissed me off being the trashed dick I was. Finally end up back at the house and my friend ends up inviting her upstairs to see his cat, which I again for some dumb fucking reason perceived as trying to make a move on her. I end up getting super irrational and end up getting pretty upset. I headed back downstairs by myself, until the other uni girl comes down and talks to me about what was wrong, I told her and she reassured me I was just too drunk to understand, which I was. The girl I like ends up coming down looking for the girl I was talking to and asked what was wrong, to which the girl decided that I'd just be a great idea to tell her that I thought my friend was trying to fuck her. Fuckup #4 She gets a little upset and ends up back upstairs, I end up getting pretty irritate and try to leave the house. Trip on the porch and eat shit like nobody's business, when one of the housemates comes out and tries to talk me into going inside. End up arguing with him for well over an hour, finally go in and pass out. Fuckup #5 Today I spent a good 3 hours writing apologies to everyone involved and feeling like an absolute shitbag. What's the lesson to be learned here today? Don't drink too much, stay level headed and if for some reason something does happen stay as rational as possible, don't end up being 'that guy' like I was last night. [B]TL;DR?[/B] End up getting way too drunk, pissing off a lot of people, potentially ruining things with a girl I liked, and learning the hard way that I can't handle my drinking. Was lots of fun until we got back to the house, don't know what came over me. Just feel like shit now. :surrender:

This happened a few days ago but I can't sleep ATM so I'll just leave this here. Last week was pretty shit for me, I got forced in to doing shit I didn't want because of awful teachers, found out I'm doing terribly in 2 subjects but mainly it was since found out a girl I liked is now going out with someone. The other 2 problems are easily solvable, the last once, not so much. I had a sleepless night on Wednesday because of this shit so I was in an awful mood on Thursday morning. On Thursdays the girl I liked is in my first lesson, and since we are still friends she sat next to me. I barley talked since I felt I was going to cry or something if I did, answering questions with yes or no or hmph. Girl realises I'm in a shit mood and asks me what's wrong. The main thing troubling me at this point is her so I just shrug off the question. She keeps asking again and again until I sort of do the most half arsed response ever and talk about not going out of my comfort zone and how my anxiety and dypraxia are getting the better of me, so she attempts to comfort me by hugging me, which makes does the exact opposite and makes me think about her more, and it even makes me more self conscious after she tells me I'm doing hugs wrong and corrects me. Anyway, enough of that story, I just want to be able to somehow get over her. Also what are you supposed to do when someone asks what's wrong and they're what's wrong? [editline]9th November 2015[/editline] I've tried doing hobbies to take my mind off it but every time I'm not occupying myself I think of all the shit I did wrong again.

So for the second time in the past two weeks my girlfriend and her mother had a huge fight. Girlfriend left again for god knows where. This morning I learned she had drunkenly kissed her 'guy friend'. She's been putting off every responsibility since we moved up here, leaving me to do everything. Pretty much abandoned me and her dog. (Dog is more of my dog now anyway.) To sugar coat this big ol' shit cake? Now I don't have the cash to get FO4. [B]This sucks.[/B]

how did that cost you money

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;49081545]how did that cost you money[/QUOTE] That's unrelated, but on the list of events that transpired today.

Met a girl at a party yesterday. She was as smart as she was pretty. Turned out she goes to my university. We had a long conversation about music and the music teachers there and local musicians from our town. Joyous! Then, those dreaded words: "My boyfriend, Logan, dot dot dot." I'm happy to make new friends, especially if they're into music. I didn't blow her off or anything. But this happens EVERY. TIME. If they're worth talking to, they're taken. uuuughhh

I'm actually really not surprised why some of you guys have trouble getting in relationships. Some of you have the most backwards logic, almost like "Im the nice guy, she SHOULD be with me, nobody else deserves her" and you almost make it sound like she is your property.... Some of you need to change your outlook, you're not better than them, you don't [I]deserve[/I] anything, you try to get what you want, and if you don't get it, you go away and find someone else. Its as simple as that.