Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

yay almost blew another opportunity with a girl by being a pussy but then i got my shit together. havent kissed anyone in a long time, chickened out everytime i had a chance with a nice gal. personal issues after my ex i guess. but now ive done it. woo

[QUOTE=NixNax123;49114203]God DAMNIT. FUCK MY SHORT TERM EMOTIONS FUCK [editline]14th November 2015[/editline] There goes all my fucking sleep tonight. I hate myself [editline]14th November 2015[/editline] I was doing SO GOOD WITH HER. I won her two goddamn stuffed animals from the claw machine a few nights ago. She was happy with me! And I just fucked this all up. I'm fucking pathetic[/QUOTE] Don't worry mate, women tend to make us feel paranoid. I once went to the cinema with a girl I liked a lot but never interesting happened because I am too shy and that night couldn't sleep. Also, wrote this on another thread thinking it was this one: last tuesday one of the girls of my carreer stopped to talk with me and my friend , and it seems she and me had in common we like Studio Ghibli movies so we started talk about it. After that another friend told me to invite her to a coffe after the class but after waiting for her she didn't appear. So this tuesday I could have another opportunity to do it but I'm really nervous. She looks like one of those super shy and innocent girls and we are both studying outside home but she lives in a town near the one I live.

i feel like none of my dates or meet ups go anywhere, every chat i start with someone ends in weeks I don't know it's something I'm doing wrong or I'm having massive compatibility issues, but it feels like im running around a tree

Same started to happen to me too on Tinder. Got a lot of matches, fun chat, and then when I'd suggest meeting in a good public cafe - bam, silence. Frustrating. I believe people out there are constantly obsessed by only looking for what's around the corner and sometimes aren't socially skilled enough to see that there's actually an interesting person right in front of them who may well open you the door to exactly what you're looking for. To be honest, I started accepting friend requests from good looking girls that add me on facebook (and that have friends in common with me). It's a rare opportunity to meet new people. Which I already did. Met a really cute girl, 3 years younger than me, we've been chatting frequently and enjoying our conversations. I already told her I was planning on spending New year in her city. Will probably meet her next month in person.

I keep hearing many women on Tinder/badoo are only there for confirmation and it seems to be true.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;49121954]Same started to happen to me too on Tinder. Got a lot of matches, fun chat, and then when I'd suggest meeting in a good public cafe - bam, silence. Frustrating. I believe people out there are constantly obsessed by only looking for what's around the corner and sometimes aren't socially skilled enough to see that there's actually an interesting person right in front of them who may well open you the door to exactly what you're looking for. To be honest, I started accepting friend requests from good looking girls that add me on facebook (and that have friends in common with me). It's a rare opportunity to meet new people. Which I already did. Met a really cute girl, 3 years younger than me, we've been chatting frequently and enjoying our conversations. I already told her I was planning on spending New year in her city. Will probably meet her next month in person.[/QUOTE] For that reason I don't like using date sites. I will probably have more chance outside than in a webpage.

It's terrible in my city. I used those apps a couple of times when I was desperate and needed to meet someone interesting, but I would either find troubled people who were DESPERATE to meet, or people that wanted nothing but chat. The thing is, some people on tinder, they can't even keep up a conversation (no wonder they need a dating site), all they ever mustered was something like "hey, what's up, how are you?" and it would just die off a couple of texts later. I just try my luck meeting people whenever I go out. So far it's been working well.

[QUOTE=Bucketboy;49121984]I keep hearing many women on Tinder/badoo are only there for confirmation and it seems to be true.[/QUOTE] I was led to believe people tended to use Tinder for hookups. How wrong I was.

One of the few things I feel behind on is the fact I've never dated. It's always either stay friends with someone or fuck them once and they seem disinterested in me after that.

So this makes me a little sad This girl I went out to a park with a few days ago, yesterday she blocked me on everything. Facebook, tumblr, etc. Wiped. No idea why as well, we were talking yesterday just fine about the shit going on in the world, she said she was driving and she'd talk to me soon.. And yeah she just vanished I mean like, I'll get over it but she was super talented at drawing and graphic design and I have a soft spot for that, and we were getting along really well, but oh well. Shit happens She removed her Okcupid too, the platform we met on, but I can't tell if that was a block or a deletion, guess I'll never know

I've actually ended up in 2 different long relationships starting on Tinder It's a tool to meet people like anything else, people may be on their to fuck but if they meet someone they like they will still stick with em

[QUOTE=fruxodaily;49126760]So this makes me a little sad This girl I went out to a park with a few days ago, yesterday she blocked me on everything. Facebook, tumblr, etc. Wiped. No idea why as well, we were talking yesterday just fine about the shit going on in the world, she said she was driving and she'd talk to me soon.. And yeah she just vanished I mean like, I'll get over it but she was super talented at drawing and graphic design and I have a soft spot for that, and we were getting along really well, but oh well. Shit happens She removed her Okcupid too, the platform we met on, but I can't tell if that was a block or a deletion, guess I'll never know[/QUOTE] That's really suspicious honestly, I hope she's alright

[QUOTE=fear me;49126858]That's really suspicious honestly, I hope she's alright[/QUOTE] tho she never told me, her tumblr reveals that she suffers from depression and she doesn't know what to do anymore she moved from the very north of this state (which is over 2000km+ away) to the capital and only has a handful of friends from uni, I was hoping to blend myself in but I don't think that'll ever happen (she goes to the university and campus that i've enrolled in for next year so ill probably see her around) she never mentioned anything like suicide to me and she's active on her blog, ill assume she had a meltdown and erased me out of some fear, her life her rules

Well, yesterday I ended things with my grilfriend, and we're staying friends because I think that as a couple we are incompatible. But today I felt EXTREMLY lonely. I was crying because I felt so fucking lonely, maybe it's a mix of this and the fact that I can't talk to any of my friends because my phone is dead. Is this normal? I've even thought of going back with her and not feel alone anymore.

[QUOTE=Cosa8888;49127791]Well, yesterday I ended things with my grilfriend, and we're staying friends because I think that as a couple we are incompatible. But today I felt EXTREMLY lonely. I was crying because I felt so fucking lonely, maybe it's a mix of this and the fact that I can't talk to any of my friends because my phone is dead. Is this normal? I've even thought of going back with her and not feel alone anymore.[/QUOTE] Don't go back because you're lonely - you'd be hurting yourself because you're hanging on, and hurting her because false hope. Go back if you made a definite mistake. Specifically why were you incompatible romantically?

She wanted to be my top priority in my life, and wanted me to make sacrifices for her because that was her definition of love. But I couldn't do that, and she would never be happy with me if we kept going, so I ended it. Of course, noticing this took a lot of time and fights. I sometimes think that we still had good times a good portion of our time together, even recently, but the fights were too tiring and I had enough.

[QUOTE=Cosa8888;49128114]She wanted to be my top priority in my life, and wanted me to make sacrifices for her because that was her definition of love. But I couldn't do that, and she would never be happy with me if we kept going, so I ended it. Of course, noticing this took a lot of time and fights. I sometimes think that we still had good times a good portion of our time together, even recently, but the fights were too tiring and I had enough.[/QUOTE] Yeah look, you probably did the right thing by leaving - generally if it gets to that point, its the right decision. Don't go back just because you feel lonely. Feeling lonely is just the consequence of leaving someone who you previously thought it would work with. The sudden change is a shock to your system. You'll be okay, just give it time, leaving someone is hard after all

[QUOTE=Cosa8888;49127791]Well, yesterday I ended things with my grilfriend, and we're staying friends because I think that as a couple we are incompatible. But today I felt EXTREMLY lonely. I was crying because I felt so fucking lonely, maybe it's a mix of this and the fact that I can't talk to any of my friends because my phone is dead. Is this normal? I've even thought of going back with her and not feel alone anymore.[/QUOTE] when my girlfriend broke me she wanted to get back with me, she asked me to get back with her a few hours after it happend and i said no, because i was hurt and needed time to think. i was totally fine when i was with other people, i actually really benifited from spending 100% of my time on my friends. but every night when i'd go to bed i was alone and i would start thinking dumb stuff like that. i wasnt lonely but i thought i was. i was actually surrounded by more people and they increasingly became more and more important. just gotta distract yourself for a while.

walked her home with my arm around her good times

I hate when I get attaced too much to people, get involved with them and then they just don't reply to messages(after reading them) yet using Facebook to post/share something.

If you guys remember that issue I had with my uh... ex gf and my best friend, (Basically, she wanted me to distance myself a lot from my friend and I wasn't having any of that) then you can help me. Is it okay to hang out with friends (They are all female and I'd only hang out with one at a time) anytime soon? Also, I was invited to a birthday party of a friend of my best friend and it's soon. Should I go? or is it a really assholish thing to do? [editline]16th November 2015[/editline] Also, thank you guys for the support. I really need some.

[QUOTE=Cosa8888;49129316]If you guys remember that issue I had with my uh... ex gf and my best friend, (Basically, she wanted me to distance myself a lot from my friend and I wasn't having any of that) then you can help me. Is it okay to hang out with friends (They are all female and I'd only hang out with one at a time) anytime soon? Also, I was invited to a birthday party of a friend of my best friend and it's soon. Should I go? or is it a really assholish thing to do? [editline]16th November 2015[/editline] Also, thank you guys for the support. I really need some.[/QUOTE] Go have fun. There's no reason for you to force yourself to be miserable. Both of you are already going to have a hard time adjusting to the breakup, there's no reason to make it worse on yourself. It's also really, really not her business who you hang out with, whether or not you're in a relationship with her. You shouldn't feel guilty for hanging out with friends just because they're female.

Thank you! In other news, apparently she's already trying to make me feel jealousy. basically it went like this: "Today I met a new friend. He's an ex classmate of yours" "I don't really remember him" "He's tall, like you *insert blushing face here*" I mean :what:

[QUOTE=Cosa8888;49129316]I was invited to a birthday party of a friend of my best friend and it's soon. Should I go? or is it a really assholish thing to do?[/QUOTE] Maybe I'm missing something here because I don't see how it could possibly be an assholish thing to go to a party you were invited to

When someone you were talking to just goes silent with you even though you hang out with them

[QUOTE=Cosa8888;49129657]Thank you! In other news, apparently she's already trying to make me feel jealousy. basically it went like this: "Today I met a new friend. He's an ex classmate of yours" "I don't really remember him" "He's tall, like you *insert blushing face here*" I mean :what:[/QUOTE] That is fucked, and that is why most people always say "remove her/him from Everything" if she where to enter a facebook relationship or a Picture of her making out withsomeone etc etc etc on FB you will get hurt and its just not worth it.

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[QUOTE=cis.joshb;49131199] - Girl about to cheat - [/QUOTE] This is a gamble, if you want to turn it into a relationship just keep doing what you are doing, but i honestly thing it's a dickmove against the guy, you should really tell her if she wants any kind of romatic relationship she must first break up with the BF, put yourself in his situation.

if she'll cheat for you she'll cheat on you

She didn't cheat though? From what I've gathered she had some relationship issues from the get go and they actually already broke up.