Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

I broke ties with a crush. Fucking sucks because of the emotional rollercoaster.

[QUOTE=TheDrunkenOne;49155404]I broke ties with a crush. Fucking sucks because of the emotional rollercoaster.[/QUOTE] Speaking of crushes... I accidentally slipped and landed on mine during a floorball game today. I think I might have been too pushy.

[QUOTE=Blueridge;49154970]Don't text her if you're going to ask her on a date Calling her would be an infinitely better option imo[/QUOTE] Is this still a thing? I mean, I don't know how old you both are but I'm nearly twenty and I think calling a girl randomly to ask her on a date is really weird...

calling her is better than texting but it's still weird and not optimal

So I made a dating profile yesterday, and this just fucking happened [thumb]http://i.imgur.com/1pnapsC.png[/thumb]

oh oh man [editline]21st November 2015[/editline] once you find out their username the first thing you need to do is look in the most recent renditions of these threads

[QUOTE=killerteacup;49157054]oh oh man [editline]21st November 2015[/editline] once you find out their username the first thing you need to do is look in the most recent renditions of these threads[/QUOTE] We swapped usernames and apparently we don't frequent the same subforums haha. That would be way too weird.

Imagine he was some guy to whom you gave advice here. That would be super weird, hahaha.

Super Weird Social and Love Advice v8 - forum dating edition

girl I had been on two dates with cancelled last minute... to go hang with someone else in london nice [editline]21st November 2015[/editline] oh well, she was quite religious anyway so it's uncertain she ever would have held my hand or anything of that nature

i posted here ages ago about some girl i was seeing for a month and she sucked me into this emotional rollercoaster where i blamed everything on myself because i faulted too much last night (or morning because it was 2am) i was with my best friend on her porch and she convinced me to let it go by deleting her contacts and messages, for some reason i hoard this shit for those nights i feel depressed and decide to drink it felt good to do that, and i think im going to start deleting a lot more stuff on that topic

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;49156975]calling her is better than texting but it's still weird and not optimal[/QUOTE] I'm feeling that a call would just be really weird since we haven't ever talked over the phone, it's been all in person and texting. I'd rather text than call, but in person is still going to be the best way.

[QUOTE=deadeye536;49158925]I'm feeling that a call would just be really weird since we haven't ever talked over the phone, it's been all in person and texting. I'd rather text than call, but in person is still going to be the best way.[/QUOTE] You're attaching too much to the concept of a phone call, if you've spoken to each other in real life then a phone call won't be weird. Especially if you were using to ask her out.

well turns out she's wiccan what the fuck is that still a thing that people are i sure know how to pick 'em

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;49157000]So I made a dating profile yesterday, and this just fucking happened [thumb]http://i.imgur.com/1pnapsC.png[/thumb][/QUOTE] you cant even fucking buy that kind of luck

[QUOTE=sourcegamer101;49162956]you cant even fucking buy that kind of luck[/QUOTE] Just put a Mass Effect reference in your username and it ups the odds a bit.

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;49162700]well turns out she's wiccan what the fuck is that still a thing that people are i sure know how to pick 'em[/QUOTE] I met a wiccan once. She told me on a date that she made a spell that angered some forest god and she got an abortion because of that. I put on my fake smile, finished my beer and got the fuck out as fast as I could. I don't know why, maybe because I'm not a very sexual person and tend do be very friendly, I feel that sometimes people feel like I'm inviting enough for them to share their deepest shit with me, so when I'm on a date with crazy people sometimes I get things like "Oh, and by the way, I got raped by my uncle". Yes, this has happened to me in a festival with a girl I got very intimate with. She then proceeded to stalk the shit out of me during the whole festival to a point where I had to wear the hood of my hoody all the time so she wouldn't recognize me. Shit was so scary, she tried to kiss me right after she told me that.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;49163455]Just put a Mass Effect reference in your username and it ups the odds a bit.[/QUOTE] My username [del]was[/del] is Batman reference and it didn't work. Nobody likes Batman: confirmed.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;49163680]I don't know why, maybe because I'm not a very sexual person and tend do be very friendly, I feel that sometimes people feel like I'm inviting enough for them to share their deepest shit with me, so when I'm on a date with crazy people sometimes I get things like "Oh, and by the way, I got raped by my uncle". Yes, this has happened to me in a festival with a girl I got very intimate with. She then proceeded to stalk the shit out of me during the whole festival to a point where I had to wear the hood of my hoody all the time so she wouldn't recognize me. Shit was so scary, she tried to kiss me right after she told me that.[/QUOTE] I got into a conversation with another narcissist on OKC last night. I'm not sure how I manage to attract so many of them. Literally just talked about himself the entire time and talked about all his childhood trauma and whatnot and seemed to get annoyed whenever I said anything myself. (Also, I have a date at 6 with someone I found there, and this one's mentally stable and doesn't seem to have a personality disorder. Wish me luck!)

When you can both enjoy moments of silence together it's a good sign. I hate it when I go on dates with someone who goes yapyapyapyap because she's nervous or just batshit insane or something. And then I'm mid sentence and she just jumps in like "Oh and one more thing, I was like yapyapyap" ugh... I usually listen more than I talk during dates. Always keep eye contact. I pay attention and then ask questions about whatever I pick up from the other person's conversation. That's my way of telling I'm interested. It adds mystery, and it's a posture that invites the other person to ask about you and open up more easily as well.

Just came across a picture of my ex and her BF on FB. They looked happy. I'm a wreck right now, I thought I had come to terms with this. Did everything I thought of to let it go. Tried to cut all contact with her, meet new people, hang out with my friends, but it's still as much a punch in the gut as it was before. To think that before our relationship I thought I'd be able to handle a breakup. You know, think of it as a positive experience and remain friends and all that bullshit. I was such an idiot for thinking I'd be able to stay rational in this situation.

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[QUOTE=_Axel;49164871]Just came across a picture of my ex and her BF on FB. They looked happy. I'm a wreck right now, I thought I had come to terms with this. Did everything I thought of to let it go. Tried to cut all contact with her, meet new people, hang out with my friends, but it's still as much a punch in the gut as it was before. To think that before our relationship I thought I'd be able to handle a breakup. You know, think of it as a positive experience and remain friends and all that bullshit. I was such an idiot for thinking I'd be able to stay rational in this situation.[/QUOTE] There is nothing rational about breakups. It sucks because it's nothing else but raw emotions that you have no control of, no matter how rationally you try to put it. It all intensifies once you've been lonely, or trying to do things to distract yourself from her, rather than for yourself only, and it all comes down to you as a great unfairness of how she's happy and you're not. The toughest thing is that she looks happy without you. I feel you. [editline]22nd November 2015[/editline] [QUOTE=cis.joshb;49165004]So I had my first kiss with the girl I was talking about before. She used tongue on like the second kiss :) She told me she had liked me since September (me too) and had wanted to break up with her freaky controlling boyfriend, but found it really hard because he was a scary asshole. This doesn't feel like a rebound to me. If when we met in September she hadn't had a boyfriend we probably would have started dating right then. Do you guys still have words of caution?[/QUOTE] Alright dude, if she's liked you for that long even though she's been with someone who she doesn't want to, I don't think there's a problem with it. I'm glad you don't see it as a rebound, because it isn't. She's just trying to get the fuck out of her toxic ex and go to you.

Think I need to stop doing the usual going out thing on a Saturday night; I always feel like I regret it as soon as I walk out the door for some reason. I don't know if its the alcohol that makes me feel like I'm on a downer, or if its the feeling that the people I'm with don't really care that I'm around, or when I try to talk to people and I usually get ignored...there's an abundant amount of probabilities going through my mind but most of it just links back to my esteem. But if I don't keep up on social activity then I'm like a ghost either way. The last thing I want to do is just give up, because I know if I do, I'll become frequently more and more self-critical until the point it becomes permanent again. Really just wish there was at least one person I knew that I could spend time with at any given point, and do anything besides just drink. Not sure what else there is to go on, but I really need help. I feel like I've tried everything.

Don't blame the booze. You need new friends. Try to see on your facebook if there are any interesting events nearby and go. That usually works out for me.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49164628]Some people use conversation to validate themselves instead of exploring the minds of other people. I find everyone else a lot more interesting than me, I already know all about me.[/QUOTE] I have heard many times that women like mistery in their men Good thing I hardly tell anyone anything about myself :v:

So like I'm generally afraid to compliment people cause I expect they'll reach for pepper spray, start kicking me in the crotch and yelling "rape" You know what I mean? I mean, I feel like I just have that kind of face, that "oh god help me police, open fire" kind of face I legit can't be in public without unintentionally looking suspicious. It's a talent

so about that woman that blew me off on saturday - later that night I went as an alien (gray/little green man style) to a college party with a paranormal theme, drank and danced like a maniac, got a picture with a guy dressed as officer bradford from XCOM, high fived lots of friendly strangers, got asked for a bunch of selfies, and to top it off went home with a completely different cute girl whose number I now have moral of the story, don't mope around I guess

my girlfriend of the last 2 years told me we're going to be on a break so she can figure out if she still loves me as I left she told me not to lose my hopes I have no idea what to be feelin' right now. I still love her deeply. She told me she just wants to take some time for a few weeks and get herself together. Much as I hate to admit it I really think it's a good idea for her. She's been going through a hell of a lot of shit, and I think she needs to evaluate what she wants I don't like not knowing. I don't want anyone else. I know that's such a shitty cliche thing to think but I genuinely can't see myself connecting with someone else the way I do her. I don't want it to end just yet. Her birthday's coming up and she told me she wants to see me then, it's in about a month so I've got something to look forward to I guess while I loaf around feeling terrible

Back in summer in Latvia I met one hell of a great girl that I said I wanted to date, and she said she felt the same, but there was one thing - I was going back to UK. Now that New Years is approaching I am thinking about going there for a week or so, I sure as hell fucking hope we can meet. If we will that will be the best time of the whole year