Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

Play X-COM and cry, dude. Specially when you lose your best squadmate to that alien you forgot was on overwatch. Do not try to win her back. She made her decision. Now you need to mourn and have yourself some time alone. She can't interfere with that. So if it hurts you that she's still present, explain it to her that you need your time.

I fucking hate overwatxh so much dude how does it always land She still wants to see me on her birthday We Were going to go to Montreal for Christmas , so I guess that's cancelled though that atings like fuck

[QUOTE=Yahnich;49191605]its probably for the best if you refuse to be friends for now until you pull yourself together, seeing her frequently will just keep you mixed up.[/QUOTE] Can't say this enough. I tried this with an ex-girlfriend of one month and it still managed to destroy me. I can't imagine what that would do to someone who just lost his two-years girlfriend...

Ok so I'm living in Japan and my girlfriend is Korean, and she barely speaks English. So we mostly communicate through simple Japanese because we're both studying it, and simple English. Anyway, she has a friend who speaks pretty much perfect English and sometimes when we hang out she joins us. Problem is, I can talk to her friend really smoothly while talking to my girlfriend is slow so naturally her friend starts speaking English to me, and we have a conversation that my girlfriend only understands like 10% of and can't really join at all, which makes her sad and I'm never really sure of what to do. I don't really know what my question is here but how would you guys handle a situation like that?

So i've had the shittest week that i've had in years. On top of my car being shit and breaking non-stop and throwing money at it that i don't have. I found out my partner who i've just recently moved in with feels that i don't do much in the house which i thought i was doing quite a bit. Work is getting stressful with so many projects piling on top of me and i had one job taken off of me for the first time since i've been here and i've taken it pretty personally. And to top it all off.... Last night my dad decided to post on Facebook an absolutely awful photo of my granddad looking very sick in the old peoples home that he's in (he has alzheimers) and if you knew my dad, you know he probably did it to broadcast to everybody that hes a "kind, considerate and honest man looking after his dad" where in fact hes a very pitiful and emotionally destructive and spiteful man... I also found out that same night after texting my sister that im livid with him posting that picture of granddad that our grandma has failed her dementia test and shes really confused because she is actually quite sane..... Well...... we thought she was. But they do say when one of them goes, the other one slowly does it too. So yeah. it's just a load of fucking shit all at once and i'm normally a really strong person but this is too much all at once and i feel hollow.

So I might be a total idiot and I'd like some advice on a matter. See I never was in a relationship with anyone and I made friends with this one girl in class who I considered someone I could be myself with, share my thoughts, ideas, make really bad jokes that don't work, etc. She seems to enjoy my company and I've taken interest in her. However she recently got a boyfriend so I feel like a moron for letting another chance slip. Then again, I might just be a bigger moron for thinking this (and without going too much into detail), but she might be just faking it? So should I ask her out anyway and see what happens?

you think she's faking having a boyfriend? why would she possibly do that

She has a boyfriend. You should accept that and move on.

[QUOTE=GlebGuy;49197663]So I might be a total idiot and I'd like some advice on a matter. See I never was in a relationship with anyone and I made friends with this one girl in class who I considered someone I could be myself with, share my thoughts, ideas, make really bad jokes that don't work, etc. She seems to enjoy my company and I've taken interest in her. However she recently got a boyfriend so I feel like a moron for letting another chance slip. Then again, I might just be a bigger moron for thinking this (and without going too much into detail), but she might be just faking it? So should I ask her out anyway and see what happens?[/QUOTE] nNo stop dont

[QUOTE=GlebGuy;49197663]So I might be a total idiot and I'd like some advice on a matter. See I never was in a relationship with anyone and I made friends with this one girl in class who I considered someone I could be myself with, share my thoughts, ideas, make really bad jokes that don't work, etc. She seems to enjoy my company and I've taken interest in her. However she recently got a boyfriend so I feel like a moron for letting another chance slip. Then again, I might just be a bigger moron for thinking this (and without going too much into detail), but she might be just faking it? So should I ask her out anyway and see what happens?[/QUOTE] What is wrong with you, why should she fake it about her boyfriend? Sure you can go out with her, but be respectful and keep in mind you're just friends.

[QUOTE=GlebGuy;49197663]So I might be a total idiot and I'd like some advice on a matter. See I never was in a relationship with anyone and I made friends with this one girl in class who I considered someone I could be myself with, share my thoughts, ideas, make really bad jokes that don't work, etc. She seems to enjoy my company and I've taken interest in her. However she recently got a boyfriend so I feel like a moron for letting another chance slip. Then again, I might just be a bigger moron for thinking this (and without going too much into detail), but she might be just faking it? So should I ask her out anyway and see what happens?[/QUOTE] I was in the same situation as you last month. Don't bother, if she has a boyfriend, she HAS a boyfriend. Also don't kick yourself over it or you'll end up feeling like shite.

Barman refused to serve me a drink because apparently the people I was with were too drunk to have anymore. Sat back down, and here I see them being served more and more drink, when apparently I was told they were too intoxicated. Went back up with them to try again, barman refuses to serve me individually while all the others - pissed out their fucking faces - get all the drink they want. Why am I always singled out on shit like this. I may sound angry at the moment, but at the time I was behaving neutrally and only had a single drink. I didn't even bother to debate it any further with the guy, otherwise it probably gives him more of an excuse or whatever. Shit like this makes me wish I didn't have to wake up in the morning. Happens nearly all the time.

[QUOTE=ilmon3y;49200297]Barman refused to serve me a drink because apparently the people I was with were too drunk to have anymore. Sat back down, and here I see them being served more and more drink, when apparently I was told they were too intoxicated. Went back up with them to try again, barman refuses to serve me individually while all the others - pissed out their fucking faces - get all the drink they want. Why am I always singled out on shit like this. I may sound angry at the moment, but at the time I was behaving neutrally and only had a single drink. I didn't even bother to debate it any further with the guy, otherwise it probably gives him more of an excuse or whatever. Shit like this makes me wish I didn't have to wake up in the morning. Happens nearly all the time.[/QUOTE] Does the UK have laws stating that you can't leave a bar drunk without somebody with you that's sober? If he was denying you because [I]your friends[/I] were too drunk, it's probably because you were the only one capable of driving. Just get shitfaced before the rest of your friends do, problem solved.

Yeah sorry guys, I was just being stupid, but feeling conflicted. I'm like that sometimes.

[QUOTE=Smug Bastard;49200359]Does the UK have laws stating that you can't leave a bar drunk without somebody with you that's sober?.[/QUOTE] Not that I know of. [QUOTE]If he was denying you because [I]your friends[/I] were too drunk, it's probably because you were the only one capable of driving. [/QUOTE] Don't have a license, even so, that's not much of a valid reason to deny service. Only two reasons that are is if you're either being obnoxious or you're too drunk. In between those two, you're not allowed to deny service over discriminatory reasons. I specifically remembering him saying my table had plenty to drink, but afterwards he was serving everybody anyway, except me. It was clearly something personal, which I don't understand, because I barely know the guy.

[QUOTE=ilmon3y;49200517]Not that I know of. Don't have a license, even so, that's not much of a valid reason to deny service. Only two reasons that are is if you're either being obnoxious or you're too drunk. In between those two, you're not allowed to deny service over discriminatory reasons. I specifically remembering him saying my table had plenty to drink, but afterwards he was serving everybody anyway, except me. It was clearly something personal, which I don't understand, because I barely know the guy.[/QUOTE] "Is there a reason you're refusing to serve me? I've only had one drink, I haven't been obnoxious or rude. If this is personal, I'm sorry for whatever I did, but this has happened X many times and if it happens any more, you [I]will[/I] get sued."

[QUOTE=Smug Bastard;49200681]"Is there a reason you're refusing to serve me? I've only had one drink, I haven't been obnoxious or rude. If this is personal, I'm sorry for whatever I did, but this has happened X many times and if it happens any more, you [I]will[/I] get sued."[/QUOTE] people who threaten legal action over shit like that are legitimately the worst people ever

feel like I've developed some feelings I never should have developed. I've been trying to convince myself that I don't really have any romantic interest in a friend for a while now, but I notice that I appreciate being with her more and more, wish I could be with her more often and so on. this is just bad since she talks to me about her own love interest, so I feel like I got a clear signal to not even bother. even I sort of don't want anything more since I feel like I need a stable foundation on my own before I start including others in my life, but its hard to control these emotions. I might just be seeing signs where there are none, but often when we sit in a couch and so on, she's always in physical contact. I want to think it's nothing, but my heart wants to see it as a sign of interest from her side. this is not a cool situation at all. if I discover that she's actually interested, I don't think I'd hesitate but I really doubt this is gonna evolve into anything. I think it'd just be best if I could turn my feelings off and continue a friendship with her, but that's no easy task. I know its gonna cause me pain if I stick with her, but I don't want to abandon her either as I genuinely enjoy her company. maybe I could see how it evolves? I don't know. feels like it'd just be better to end the game while its all good rather than getting emotionally invested to the point where even more pain will be caused. [editline]28th November 2015[/editline] I don't know what to do about this.

Alright. I'm going be honest. I am here (FP) to improve on my social skills which are rusty. Why? Due to a rather unforeseen circumstance, I've gotten isolated. I am trying to work out the awkwardness. Any tips?

Provide an example.

I'm not the best person to give advice on this, but the prospect of going to drawing/instruments/anything classes sounds pretty good, you lesrm something that makes you a more complete person AND meet people with similar interests, from there you can expand your social circle and stuff.

[QUOTE]examples[/QUOTE] I sometimes say things I think are ok but scare people off it seems. I have an awkward side it seems.

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why do people keep asking this question if she has a boyfriend then respect that, don't be that guy i get that you want to get your dick wet or whatever the kids today are saying but don't be an asshole, if you found out that she has a boyfriend after she's already been flirting with you then that sucks butt that's on her, not you. let her be the shitty part of the relationship, don't help ffs if she was your girlfriend and you found out all this was happening would your response be "oh this seems like it's okay, i hope he escalates things because that's a good thing to happen in a relationship" [editline]28th November 2015[/editline] like yeah she's clearly flirting with you but do you really want to be that guy you clearly know something's up because you're asking us here, if you didn't care you'd probably be balls deep already so obviously some part of you knows you're making the wrong decision

Respecting a girl's already existing relationship seems like such a fairly simple thing to do, and yet?? Don't mess around with a girl who is dating someone. The only thing that's gonna get you, at best, is drama and at worst, getting assaulted by the girl's boyfriend.

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I think it just needs to be put at the top of every page that if they have a partner, they HAVE a partner. Every other post in this thread is about this shit and the answer is always no.

[QUOTE=PredGD;49200908]feel like I've developed some feelings I never should have developed. I've been trying to convince myself that I don't really have any romantic interest in a friend for a while now, but I notice that I appreciate being with her more and more, wish I could be with her more often and so on. this is just bad since she talks to me about her own love interest, so I feel like I got a clear signal to not even bother. even I sort of don't want anything more since I feel like I need a stable foundation on my own before I start including others in my life, but its hard to control these emotions. I might just be seeing signs where there are none, but often when we sit in a couch and so on, she's always in physical contact. I want to think it's nothing, but my heart wants to see it as a sign of interest from her side. this is not a cool situation at all. if I discover that she's actually interested, I don't think I'd hesitate but I really doubt this is gonna evolve into anything. I think it'd just be best if I could turn my feelings off and continue a friendship with her, but that's no easy task. I know its gonna cause me pain if I stick with her, but I don't want to abandon her either as I genuinely enjoy her company. maybe I could see how it evolves? I don't know. feels like it'd just be better to end the game while its all good rather than getting emotionally invested to the point where even more pain will be caused. [editline]28th November 2015[/editline] I don't know what to do about this.[/QUOTE] I have been in the exact same situation lately. It's especially weird for me because i've had sex with her twice. But it's the exact same stuff, she tells me about guys she has a crush on, and the other day she told me she's excited because she just got a cute guy's number. I never would have imagined i'd make out with a girl, much less have sex with her, and have her show no interest in starting up an actual relationship. Since I started spending so much time with her, i've told myself and told myself that I don't want to get attached, and i'm totally fine with keeping it casual, but in the end I just can't control that I get jealous of her talking about other guys, or that I find myself thinking about her all the time, and I hate that I can't keep it under control. Normally i'd just ask her if she wants to be a couple, or even just decide that we're friends with benefits, but I think she'd have said something by now if she had any interest. And there are a couple totally rational reasons against it that i'd never be able to argue against. We work together (it's just a part time job but still). She's about 8 years younger than me. I figure if she's got her mind made up, she's got her mind made up. If she doesn't want to go out with me, I think there's no way in hell I can debate that with her to come around and be like "oh you're right, I actually DO want a relationship with you!"

Weird situation i have and i'm rather clueless as to how to go about it. in short for the first part, 2 years ago i was previously engaged and i broke it off cause she cheated on me with 2 coworkers. Now, a few weeks ago my roommate who is engaged introduced me to a friend of his. Well after a few minutes of talking i found out she just got out of an engagement herself. So we have been talking for a few weeks now but we never talked too much and something seemed off. It seemed to me that she was into my roommate so i brought it up to him. He confronted her and she said it was either her or his fiancee. Of course he chose his fiancee, but i can tell she's still somewhat into him. So i guess my question is would it be worth trying to date her or not? He has been pushing me to try to but he also couldnt tell she was into him and i sorta feel like she'd agree to for a short while just as a reason to see him more.

Hey guys, been a while since I posted around here. Hoping to get some actual social/love advice :v: This'll probably be a pretty long post as most of mine are, so I apologize for that and would appreciate anyone who could read through it and offer some insight to my situation. I'll bold out some more important bits. So, first off, everyone always gets really serious about never ever ever mixing relationships and work - why exactly is that? There's this girl I work with (we actually started at the same time) that I've kind of grown to like quite a bit. I keep trying to tell myself to forget about it, but I really do like her a lot, and not even necessarily in a romantic sense. I have absolutely no friends that I can hang out with in person, which kind of really sucks I've learned. On top of that, I've been feeling insanely lonely this past month or so, and to make it worse I live with my ex (I live in an apartment with her and 2 other roommates), and she's been dating another guy. There's no jealousy and I'm totally cool with her, but it makes me feel pretty shitty and alone for obvious reasons, and if I'm being honest it's VERY hard not to crave physical contact (hugs and shit). So, I really want to be friends with this girl at work, so I can also make friends through her - we work with one of her friends and he's a really cool dude - but I really wouldn't mind pursuing something romantic with her. I just have absolutely NO idea how to go about any of that. So I guess I should just take this one step at a time, right? She and I are already pretty cool at work, I would just need to... hang out with her outside of work, I guess? [b]My question then is, how do I make that happen, what would we even do, and how do I make it not sound entirely like I'm asking her out romantically?[/b] I do honestly have a lot of personal issues (and I feel one should be in a good place personally before pulling someone else into their life) to sort out that severely mess with my social life, like ADHD and depression (I'm now treating the ADHD, and though it hasn't been amazing thus far I'm hoping things improve), and I'm on the fence about starting something up, though I REALLY want to, and my loneliness contributes to these problems, I feel. [B]I feel like I'm ready, but how can I even know? [/B] It's also been very difficult lately to socialize (even more than usual) - twice now in the last week (I've only been taking these meds since this week, thinking its connected) I was in the middle of a conversation with her and my brain just suddenly, like, rebooted? I had something to say and COMPLETELY lost it, then I started focusing on the fact that I'd forgotten, which made it even harder to remember. This has happened to me multiple times, and ends up with me kind of blankly staring at the other person. Saying I forgot what I was going to say is okay, but can also be really awkward and kills the conversation, and I'm already not great at conversations. I know this isn't an uncommon thing to happen, and it's happened to me in the past, but this feels different - I'll be waiting for them to finish saying what they're saying and suddenly my brain just shuts off for a moment. So I'm kind of hoping for some general social advice. [B]How do I ask people to hang out, and does anyone have just really general tips on talking and conversing with people?[/B] I know that's a hard question to answer because there is no right answer, but I just feel like I'm missing [I]something[/I] when it comes to talking to people, [B]especially[/B] one on one. In fact, [B]does anyone have general advice for hanging out with someone one-on-one?[/B] Cause that's always been terrifying to me. I really like her and I really want to branch out, meet people, [I]do[/I] things besides sitting in my room playing video games. This girl is my only option, really, and I just have no idea how to proceed. Apologies again for the wall of text, I always feel the need to explain things so that the people I'm talking to can get the full scope of what I'm saying/asking, mostly on the internet :\