Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

I had met someone and started to find him more enjoyable and fun by the day. We talk a lot with each other and often talked together. I have me own never felt that way at someone. until few weeks ago everything changed. I was at him with his birthday and we have the super nice. the last night that I was with him he made it out. I was devastated, I loved of course many of him (which I still do). anyway he has blocked me and stuff and I can not talk to him or he is mad at me. a week and a half ago showed in me hospital rash that I had cancer. It was not spread or something so got surgery last week and should just go feather again (he just don't know that I'm there to undergo surgery because I get no contact with him) when I told this to him it looked like it was nothing, what me him much pain and grief did of course. I know he is also here on this site so I hope on one side that he read it and maybe wake up. I already have a lot of people have to let loose that I love and hope on the one hand that I contact him get and can remain friends. I really don't like man and friendship losses. my question is should I really struggled to remain friends with him there for do or do I have to pass up.

I'm surrounded by dudes for 9 more months can't leave base I need pussy plain and simple but I don't want to get an escort

There's actually a lot of nice ladies here with nice personality's who aren't brainwashed by extreme feminist views who are true cuddlers so I'll be looking forward to that if I can make an opportunity to go out we just can't go out at night asdf

[QUOTE=650leetARIMI;49259317]There's actually a lot of nice ladies here with nice personality's [B]who aren't brainwashed by extreme feminist views[/B] [/QUOTE] I stopped reading there.

[QUOTE=650leetARIMI;49259317]There's actually a lot of nice ladies here with nice personality's who aren't brainwashed by extreme feminist views who are true cuddlers so I'll be looking forward to that if I can make an opportunity to go out we just can't go out at night asdf[/QUOTE] That's totally why you can't get girls normally man. You figured it out.

[QUOTE=shirley1997;49259077]I had met someone and started to find him more enjoyable and fun by the day. We talk a lot with each other and often talked together. I have me own never felt that way at someone. until few weeks ago everything changed. I was at him with his birthday and we have the super nice. the last night that I was with him he made it out. I was devastated, I loved of course many of him (which I still do). anyway he has blocked me and stuff and I can not talk to him or he is mad at me. a week and a half ago showed in me hospital rash that I had cancer. It was not spread or something so got surgery last week and should just go feather again (he just don't know that I'm there to undergo surgery because I get no contact with him) when I told this to him it looked like it was nothing, what me him much pain and grief did of course. I know he is also here on this site so I hope on one side that he read it and maybe wake up. I already have a lot of people have to let loose that I love and hope on the one hand that I contact him get and can remain friends. I really don't like man and friendship losses. my question is should I really struggled to remain friends with him there for do or do I have to pass up.[/QUOTE] Nah, don't try to be friends with someone who doesn't want anything with you, you will be wasting your time and energy on something that simply isn't worth it. Move on and use that time and energy on something that is truly worth it.

[QUOTE=650leetARIMI;49259317]There's actually a lot of nice ladies here with nice personality's who aren't brainwashed by extreme feminist views[/QUOTE] Your flagdog says Turkey, so would an "extreme feminist" there be like a regular feminist here? For real though why are you looking for dates based on some socio-political views that won't even affect you too much like who does that. In other news, there are some cool people in my classes that I want to get to know better. We already hang out every now and then after class to grab a bite but we never really extend it beyond that. I'm kind of desperate for companionships after I got dumped so it's not doing my patience any favors. I know I shouldn't rush shit and get all clingy, but sitting alone every weekend with my thoughts is kinda killing me. Oh well, we have a couple of weeks left before the end of the semester so w/e I guess.

[QUOTE=650leetARIMI;49259317]There's actually a lot of nice ladies here with nice personality's who aren't brainwashed by extreme feminist views who are true cuddlers so I'll be looking forward to that if I can make an opportunity to go out we just can't go out at night asdf[/QUOTE] Now seriously. If there's a lot of grade A pussy around then what are you waiting for? One of them to sit on your lap?

[QUOTE=650leetARIMI;49259317]There's actually a lot of nice ladies here with nice personality's who aren't brainwashed by extreme feminist views who are true cuddlers so I'll be looking forward to that if I can make an opportunity to go out we just can't go out at night asdf[/QUOTE] yikes

boy, what a sentence

Powerful

Ok so both type of women have up and downs I was just talking about differences earlier and yea I wouldn't go out with a radical or practicing feminist marmalade no a lot of dudes wouldn't but yeah I should have posted this in sex and gf thread over here in turkey the women are more clingy but I've never gone all the way here

is there a girl out there who don't give a fuck like me? i been doing dating but idk man

A girl I've had a crush on since forever has told me that she likes me but she wants to just be friends. Most of my buddies have told me to move on and just keep the relationship and friends but I just can't really take my mind off her. Advice?

I'd like to take this opportunity to come out as a practicing feminist marmalade. My boyfriend's cool with it.

[QUOTE=MyBumBum;49264262]A girl I've had a crush on since forever has told me that she likes me but she wants to just be friends. Most of my buddies have told me to move on and just keep the relationship and friends but I just can't really take my mind off her. Advice?[/QUOTE] Same situation I was in. The first week or two are going to be tough, but all you gotta do is slow down communications with her and well...not think about it. I know it sounds impossible but if I did it, so can you. Just focus on stuff like hobbies, music and talk to other people. It really helps.

holy shit. I sent a message to the girl I've posted about here last night since we were both awake reaaaally late, or early since it was 5am, but by the time I sent that message she went to bed. anyway, I asked her if she preferred cream color or pink for something comfy you use at home. I was thinking of buying a blanket with arms (looked really comfy) just to buy her something for xmas and I got conflicted if she preferred regular cream / vanilla-ish color or if she wanted very light pink, so I had to ask. she never replied since she probably went to bed, but she saw it eventually this morning. a few hours passed so I sent her another message saying that it'd be nice to know her answer so I could get it out of the way and so on, but she didn't understand so I tried to explain without telling her exactly what I was giving her. I don't have all the messages as this was on snapchat, I only saved the very last ones, but somewhere during this explanation I called her "silly". I didn't think of that as anything negative, I don't think people view that as negative at all. we went on for some more, and eventually she said "I don't understand shit.", "Thanks for calling me silly btw." "You're not any better". like, what? what the fuck? of course I feel awful since she took it negative, but at the same time I'm feeling rather shocked as to how she could react so negatively to that, and even worse, fire it back at me with a negative intent? so I quickly wrote an apology that I didn't mean anything negative by that, and she answered with a thumbs up, told me this wasn't the day for those things and that this was one of those days where the day was in ruins. I apologized yet again since I was feeling really awful, especially when she decides to insult me as well since then I feel like I fucked up big time. she answered with a thumbs up and a smiley face. some time passes, and I say "Look, just forget I said anything, I'm feeling really awful for saying that, I had no idea you were feeling down today. Anyway, just remember that I'm here for you if you ever need to talk about this!" she responded with 3 hearts, but I don't know. honestly, I just want to say right out to her, "what the fuck", but I don't want to cause any drama since she's not in a good state of mind. I'm honestly shocked that she could react so negatively to me jokingly calling her silly? even worse, decide to attack me with it with an obvious harmful intent? that shit just doesn't fly if you ask me, that is really annoying. definitely bringing this up with her when she's in a better mood just to hear what the fuck she was even thinking. of course, not as blunt or rude, but I'll ask. [editline]7th December 2015[/editline] maybe this is what I needed. that's a massive turn off for my feelings if she's gonna get pissed over the tiniest things, that's just awful

[QUOTE=BarnacleDrive;49264297]I'd like to take this opportunity to come out as a practicing feminist marmalade. My boyfriend's cool with it.[/QUOTE] Wait why are you calling me out lol. I'm not the one who's against dating feminists?

[QUOTE=marmalade;49265069]Wait why are you calling me out lol. I'm not the one who's against dating feminists?[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=650leetARIMI;49263893]I wouldn't go out with a radical or practicing feminist [B]marmalade[/B] no a lot of dudes wouldn't [/QUOTE] haha, wow sorry, I thought his inclusion of marmalade was part of the broken english - hadn't read your username, just a 'practicing feminist marmalade'

what the shit is a "practicing" feminist

[QUOTE=VIOLATION_SNG;49255981]not super relevant but do people really have friends like that that ask for actual payment for driving someone somewhere? I don't know what kind of distance it was but I've driven friends pretty far before and never ask for money in return[/QUOTE] I ask for petrol money because I use my car for work related purposes, so going out of my way to drop people off 20-40km away is a pain in the ass for my fuel, I only ask for $20 maybe $15 depending where the gauge is [editline]8th December 2015[/editline] [QUOTE=Pascall;49265481]what the shit is a "practicing" feminist[/QUOTE] First year uni student doing a bachelor in SJW

[QUOTE=PredGD;49264327]me in the past, doing the same thing, going through the same things [/QUOTE] First of all, it's nice to try to know what she likes. However, assuming that: -She's not your girlfriend -She's not someone you've known for a long time You shouldn't be paying attention into those details. Yeah I'm gonna go heartless economist sonabitch here, but the cost-benefit and potential risks aren't worth it. Really, you just saw it. Next time you just buy whatever you feel like it and call it a fucking day. What matters is the intention and message. Wrong color? She can change it. Didn't like it and whines about it? Good message telling you to EJECT. A person that looks into the material aspect of a gift and not the care and emotion behind it....it's not relationship capable.... You aren't going to wait until the missile hits you. You can drop flares -extend it for a while- but you're going down if you keep it like that. Now, if this situation has happened for the first time and she has gone through something like a bad day at work, a fight with a friend, a relative going sick, then it's completely normal. However, if this behaviour is repeated and doesn't stop there....EJECT. Believe me, down the road, you'll look back and say: "[B]Boy, how a good decision it was to protect myself".[/B]

[QUOTE=PredGD;49264327]we went on for some more, and eventually she said "I don't understand shit.", "Thanks for calling me silly btw." "You're not any better".[/QUOTE] She sounds incredibly immature if she's redirecting her own stress toward you... And she's not even apologetic for that fact and is acting like [i]you[/i] should have known better. Chances are if you were to pursue a relationship with her, this would happen regularly in the future. Don't date someone who makes you feel guilty for things you have no reason to feel guilty for.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;49266464]She sounds incredibly immature if she's redirecting her own stress toward you... And she's not even apologetic for that fact and is acting like [i]you[/i] should have known better. Chances are if you were to pursue a relationship with her, this would happen regularly in the future. Don't date someone who makes you feel guilty for things you have no reason to feel guilty for.[/QUOTE] it's a pattern I've seen in her. pretty much every friend we have in common who is close to her always complain about her behind her back to me about how she always talks problems, redirects her issues to others and how she too quickly can think a little too much of herself when she's feeling down. it seems like she expects everyone to care and be there for her when she's feeling down, but the issue is that she lets no one help her. she just tells people she's feeling down and becomes very short as soon as you start asking whats up so you end up with a rather uncomfortable feeling in your stomach since someone you care about is having a bad time and there's nothing you can do. then there's her taking shit way too personal, even jokes. this is something people have told me as well, that she's really good at taking stuff personal, twisting stuff into something negative towards her, then she lashes out towards whoever said it. I'm really starting to reconsider if pursuing her is even a good idea at all, I've noticed how depressed I've become the last few weeks due to her constantly talking problems and never letting me help.

[QUOTE=PredGD;49266502]it's a pattern I've seen in her. pretty much every friend we have in common who is close to her always complain about her behind her back to me about how she always talks problems, redirects her issues to others and how she too quickly can think a little too much of herself when she's feeling down. it seems like she expects everyone to care and be there for her when she's feeling down, but the issue is that she lets no one help her. she just tells people she's feeling down and becomes very short as soon as you start asking whats up so you end up with a rather uncomfortable feeling in your stomach since someone you care about is having a bad time and there's nothing you can do. then there's her taking shit way too personal, even jokes. this is something people have told me as well, that she's really good at taking stuff personal, twisting stuff into something negative towards her, then she lashes out towards whoever said it. I'm really starting to reconsider if pursuing her is even a good idea at all, I've noticed how depressed I've become the last few weeks due to her constantly talking problems and never letting me help.[/QUOTE] It sounds like she might be borderline, but regardless of her diagnosis, I would strongly recommend you don't pursue a relationship with her. She is manipulative and emotionally abusive and it's only going to get worse.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;49266527]It sounds like she might be borderline, but regardless of her diagnosis, I would strongly recommend you don't pursue a relationship with her. She is manipulative and emotionally abusive and it's only going to get worse.[/QUOTE] I totally agree with you here. I can tell that this stuff will really tear me apart if this stuff continues, but its not easy just cutting contact either. she has a lot of good values as well, but they're buried deep underneath all of the shit I've mentioned. they pop up every now and then, but you never know. I feel like I'll have to sacrifice a lot of my own well being while waiting for the good values to pop up and at that point I think I'd just try my luck somewhere else

[QUOTE=PredGD;49266502]it's a pattern I've seen in her. pretty much every friend we have in common who is close to her always complain about her behind her back to me about how she always talks problems, redirects her issues to others and how she too quickly can think a little too much of herself when she's feeling down. it seems like she expects everyone to care and be there for her when she's feeling down, but the issue is that she lets no one help her. she just tells people she's feeling down and becomes very short as soon as you start asking whats up so you end up with a rather uncomfortable feeling in your stomach since someone you care about is having a bad time and there's nothing you can do. then there's her taking shit way too personal, even jokes. this is something people have told me as well, that she's really good at taking stuff personal, twisting stuff into something negative towards her, then she lashes out towards whoever said it. I'm really starting to reconsider if pursuing her is even a good idea at all, I've noticed how depressed I've become the last few weeks due to her constantly talking problems and never letting me help.[/QUOTE] [IMG]http://stream1.gifsoup.com/view3/4417662/eject-eject-eject-o.gif[/IMG] [QUOTE=PredGD;49266592]I totally agree with you here. I can tell that this stuff will really tear me apart if this stuff continues, but its not easy just cutting contact either. she has a lot of good values as well, but they're buried deep underneath all of the shit I've mentioned. they pop up every now and then, but you never know. I feel like I'll have to sacrifice a lot of my own well being while waiting for the good values to pop up and at that point I think I'd just try my luck somewhere else[/QUOTE] This are those moments emotional speeches talk about a lot. When you have to man up (in case somebody is a woman = woman up) and take the right decision no matter the immediate consequences. Dont think about the how, think about the why and be completely sure about it. [B][I]I feel like I'll have to sacrifice a lot of my own well being while waiting for the good values to pop up and at that point I think I'd just try my luck somewhere else[/I][/B] Then go forward and do it. If you go face to face, say it. And stay rock, like, nothing will change your decision. Crying? Same decision. Hugs? Same Decision. Kisses? You get the idea. Your life is your life. Not else's. You only got one as far as we all know, and you can't just put your time in the wrong people. If she really wants you, she'll take the obvious hint that you tried your very best to be with her and make her happy, and will try to change. If she doesn't want to try, and keeps being where she is without trying to seek help, it's not your fault, nor it will ever be. So you shouldn't feel any guilt over it or that she is somehow your garden and you should try to look after it (Shitty example for an analogy. But you get it).

[QUOTE=PredGD;49266502] I've noticed how depressed I've become the last few weeks due to her constantly talking problems and never letting me help.[/QUOTE] honestly, at the end of the day, if they aren't making you happy and are making you get down, they aren't worth it. they could be the best looking person in the world, but if they cause you to feel down, its not worth it.

[QUOTE=PredGD;49266592]I totally agree with you here. I can tell that this stuff will really tear me apart if this stuff continues, but its not easy just cutting contact either. she has a lot of good values as well, but they're buried deep underneath all of the shit I've mentioned. they pop up every now and then, but you never know. I feel like I'll have to sacrifice a lot of my own well being while waiting for the good values to pop up and at that point I think I'd just try my luck somewhere else[/QUOTE] mate there are plenty of wonderful people who deserve a guy who buys them blankets and many of them don't have a go at you for light-heartedly calling them silly. Also most of those people will probably give you a bit more than a fuckin emoji during a serious conversation.

[QUOTE=PredGD;49266592]I totally agree with you here. I can tell that this stuff will really tear me apart if this stuff continues, but its not easy just cutting contact either. she has a lot of good values as well, but they're buried deep underneath all of the shit I've mentioned. they pop up every now and then, but you never know. I feel like I'll have to sacrifice a lot of my own well being while waiting for the good values to pop up and at that point I think I'd just try my luck somewhere else[/QUOTE] don't sacrifice [B][I]anything[/I][/B] seriously if you want someone with good values find someone that you don't have to sacrifice yourself to bring out i have a friend like this and i would never, ever consider dating her, i can't even be around her for an extended amount of time(a few hours is fine) you shouldn't have to feel miserable every time the other person feels miserable for reasons you aren't faulted of