Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

[QUOTE=Mr cake fingers;49370192]Yeh, your totally right. I don't have a problem talking to her, so I think I would actually feel confident enough to ask her. :) I think right now my biggest problem is that were both on Christmas holiday (so away from uni) and she's super busy unlike myself, visiting family and making plans. So she doesn't really have a lot of time to talk. I can tell she does want to, but its just the case of me every now and again convincing myself that she doesn't and then I end up worrying about it. So any advice on how to deal with that would be great, we arranged to do stuff, but it will probably happen after the 25th realistically. Also, thanks for thanks for giving me some confidence.[/QUOTE] Definitely you should just play it cool, its not like your feelings are going to go away anytime soon. I think the only chance to actually screw it up would be to text her everyday and seem super into it (Even if you are). I would just text her a day after Christmas and ask about your plans together again! Relationships built over the phone are never as strong, in my opinion. [editline]22nd December 2015[/editline] [QUOTE=Glitchman;49370271]Had a first date with a girl the day before she went home for the holidays for 2 weeks. She said she really wanted to meet me before she left (we met online). The date was amazing, we kissed and shit, but then of course she left. She said she wanted to hang out when she got back, and that she hopes i dont forget about her. However, I sent her a text message a few days into the vacation and got no response. Should I be freaking the fuck out as any other anxious person would do? (not really freaking out, just want to keep things going) I will not send a double text because that's cray cray. Just wondering. Background info I am in my late 20's and shes in mid 20's[/QUOTE] All you can do is wait until she gets back or she texts you. DO NOT 100% TEXT HER AGAIN. If she is interested, she will text you after vacation. No exceptions. She is obviously interested in you. The only way to screw it up (as I just told another dude in my last post) is to seem clingy and annoying. She is into the in person you, but I feel as though texting too much can make us forget who the person actually is/sounds like/acts like IRL.

has anyone met girls at the gym before obviously that's not the reason im gonna continue going but im just wondering if anyone has had anything happen there as i dont really have much choice at work because theyre [I]all fucking males [/I]

[QUOTE=roostlicka;49370481]Definitely you should just play it cool, its not like your feelings are going to go away anytime soon. I think the only chance to actually screw it up would be to text her everyday and seem super into it (Even if you are). I would just text her a day after Christmas and ask about your plans together again! Relationships built over the phone are never as strong, in my opinion. [editline]22nd December 2015[/editline] All you can do is wait until she gets back or she texts you. DO NOT 100% TEXT HER AGAIN. If she is interested, she will text you after vacation. No exceptions. She is obviously interested in you. The only way to screw it up (as I just told another dude in my last post) is to seem clingy and annoying. She is into the in person you, but I feel as though texting too much can make us forget who the person actually is/sounds like/acts like IRL.[/QUOTE] Thanks dude, much love. I'll update some time after the 25th I guess, see whats happening.

[QUOTE=Mr cake fingers;49370845]Thanks dude, much love. I'll update some time after the 25th I guess, see whats happening.[/QUOTE] <3 please do man it sounds like an exciting new relationship

Update on the plagiarism accusation shit: I legitimately don't know what to do. My professor said the same thing that she said in that email, and I still don't have an answer as to how it's plagiarism. I'll have to rewrite the whole thing, throwing out pretty much all of my sources as well. I just feel completely stuck. This is not what I needed over my god damn break.

[QUOTE=based;49370821]has anyone met girls at the gym before obviously that's not the reason im gonna continue going but im just wondering if anyone has had anything happen there as i dont really have much choice at work because theyre [I]all fucking males [/I][/QUOTE] Meeting girls at the gym is a bad idea IMO. Sure - you both have an interest in keeping up your health, you both are good at planning, you both enjoy being physically apt. That being said, the range of people that go to the gym is huge. You can meet any kind of person going there, which means that you may not find an ideal match just based on "you both exercise". Try friends of friends, or online dating (it sounds like your social pool is limited because you're a worker). In the end you want a long-term relationship (or longish if you want to go that route) which means your ways of thinking have to be very similar.

[QUOTE=based;49370821]has anyone met girls at the gym before obviously that's not the reason im gonna continue going but im just wondering if anyone has had anything happen there as i dont really have much choice at work because theyre [I]all fucking males [/I][/QUOTE] I met a guy at the gym, got a number, nothing really amounted to it since i realised he was a massive douche.

[QUOTE=based;49370821]has anyone met girls at the gym before obviously that's not the reason im gonna continue going but im just wondering if anyone has had anything happen there as i dont really have much choice at work because theyre [I]all fucking males [/I][/QUOTE] Don't shit where you eat.

You go to the gym to get fit. You pay for a certain amount of time there, so you'd be pretty much paying for a desperate attempt to ask a girl, who doesn't have any connection to you, out. Of course you can meet and make friends and eventually lovers anywhere, but they're things that happen spontaneously and not something you force, unless you're skilled at picking up people.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;49375131]You go to the gym to get fit. You pay for a certain amount of time there, so you'd be pretty much paying for a desperate attempt to ask a girl, who doesn't have any connection to you, out. Of course you can meet and make friends and eventually lovers anywhere, but they're things that happen spontaneously and not something you force, unless you're skilled at picking up people.[/QUOTE] He said that its not the reason that hes gonna continue going. He's just simply asking if meeting some girl in a gym (like they do in shows & movies) actually works.

[QUOTE=greeley;49375552]He said that its not the reason that hes gonna continue going. He's just simply asking if meeting some girl in a gym (like they do in shows & movies) actually works.[/QUOTE] And I was saying how it's pretty much not a great place to ask girls for dates. What's the issue with that?

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;49375760]And I was saying how it's pretty much not a great place to ask girls for dates. What's the issue with that?[/QUOTE] What you said didn't make any sense. If he trains at the gym he won't be "paying for a desperate attempt to ask a girl", he's already getting what he paid for. That's like saying flirting between classes at college is a waste of money because you're paying to go to school. And why would it be a desperate attempt? Maybe you could chill with the projections?

there's hot people at the gym tbh go for it if you see someone there [editline]24th December 2015[/editline] its like meeting someone when you're going out for a jog nothing wrong with it [editline]24th December 2015[/editline] [QUOTE=Disseminate;49372785]Meeting girls at the gym is a bad idea IMO. Sure - you both have an interest in keeping up your health, you both are good at planning, you both enjoy being physically apt. That being said, the range of people that go to the gym is huge. You can meet any kind of person going there, which means that you may not find an ideal match just based on "you both exercise". Try friends of friends, or online dating (it sounds like your social pool is limited because you're a worker). In the end you want a long-term relationship (or longish if you want to go that route) which means your ways of thinking have to be very similar.[/QUOTE] you'll never know their interests until you know them the gym isn't a bad idea at all, it's a place with a lot of people, with a large range of people, which is good, the fact you're at the gym already means your ways of thinking are similiar(Improving yourself) my friends who are totally into anime and playing video games/cosplaying go to the gym, though if you met them you wouldn't expect that from them, and one of my friends who doesn't go to the gym or know them asked me "Dude all the people you know are so hot." and i was like "wut"

True, I don't think there's just one type of person going to the gym either, because for example I am a computer science undergrad which is probably the least likely type of person to go to the gym Also I'm going to a house party on new year's eve and I don't know anyone there but it'll be fun i reckon proper nervous though I don't get out much other than the gym occasionally

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;49375760]And I was saying how it's pretty much not a great place to ask girls for dates. What's the issue with that?[/QUOTE] You implied that he would only be paying for gym membership in a "desperate attempt to ask a girl"

[QUOTE=based;49380637]True, I don't think there's just one type of person going to the gym either, because for example I am a computer science undergrad which is probably the least likely type of person to go to the gym Also I'm going to a house party on new year's eve and I don't know anyone there but it'll be fun i reckon proper nervous though I don't get out much other than the gym occasionally[/QUOTE] being a comp sci undergrad can sometimes be a hit though i would know i am one

[QUOTE=killerteacup;49381125]being a comp sci undergrad can sometimes be a hit though i would know i am one[/QUOTE] well we're not exactly renowned for being 'swole' are we lol

[QUOTE=based;49381143]well we're not exactly renowned for being 'swole' are we lol[/QUOTE] tbh if you don't wear band shirts/graphic tees religiously, aren't grossly overweight and groom yourself you're in the 90th percentile of attractiveness for CompSci students

Eh I'm not sure any of us are remotely good looking [editline]24th December 2015[/editline] I look like a 9 year old hitman

[QUOTE=Oscar Lima Echo;49378189]What you said didn't make any sense. If he trains at the gym he won't be "paying for a desperate attempt to ask a girl", he's already getting what he paid for. That's like saying flirting between classes at college is a waste of money because you're paying to go to school. And why would it be a desperate attempt? Maybe you could chill with the projections?[/QUOTE] You're right. Sorry I get a little spazzy with words sometimes. [QUOTE=based;49381936]Eh I'm not sure any of us are remotely good looking [editline]24th December 2015[/editline] I look like a 9 year old hitman[/QUOTE] I don't know how it is there, but over here Computer Science degrees are very average when it comes to guys/girls ratio. It's usually Electrical Engineering that pales in comparison. Every time I see a girl freshman coming in on her first year, I feel sorry for her. Not because she's the only girl, but because every guy in my degree is guaranteed to be dancing the mating dance around her like a macaque. It's such a sausage fest in my degree that guys overdo their manliness and are pretty much very insecure about their sexuality it hurts. What I'm saying is - I bet it looks better than whatever I got myself into. :v:

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;49381995] What I'm saying is - I bet it looks better than whatever I got myself into. :v:[/QUOTE] Nooo computer science here is a sausage fest too And the girls are all more alpha than the boys

[QUOTE=based;49382016]Nooo computer science here is a sausage fest too And the girls are all more alpha than the boys[/QUOTE] Yeah that's pretty much my degree, girls are generally fucking weird too. One time I got stuck in a conversation with a girl from my degree in the train. She spent the whole 40min ride telling me and narrating about her Hotel Transylvania Fan Fiction. I was just looking for an open window so I could jump out of the moving train.

[QUOTE=based;49381936]Eh I'm not sure any of us are remotely good looking [editline]24th December 2015[/editline] I look like a 9 year old hitman[/QUOTE] Hey at least you can look forward to nine years from now when you look like an 18 year old hitman.

But I'm supposed to look like an 18 year old hitman right now :(

[QUOTE=based;49382016]Nooo computer science here is a sausage fest too And the girls are all more alpha than the boys[/QUOTE] Yeah this is pretty much true for the most part. In my first tutorial i latched onto a guy who said he played football because i thought if hes a comp sci student who does a sport he might be remotely normal. Turns out I was right and it was much better than being friends with the guy who wears a lab coat to computer labs - there aren't even dangerous chemicals i mean what the hell guy come on [editline]25th December 2015[/editline] btw merry xmas guys

i stopped caring about what i looked like recently. i embraced a "too lazy to try to find a girlfriend" mentality, and i find myself being a lot less antsy/careful around girls now. i tie my hair up in a pseudo-samurai bun and have a bit of scruff. i constantly wear sweatpants because they're hella warm and comfortable. for some reason i'm oddly content with my life. it's pretty comfy.

Meanwhile, I'm a psych major, and have to go out of my way to latch onto introverted/antisocial people because they're so hard to find in my classes.

[QUOTE=fruxodaily;49126760]So this makes me a little sad This girl I went out to a park with a few days ago, yesterday she blocked me on everything. Facebook, tumblr, etc. Wiped. No idea why as well, we were talking yesterday just fine about the shit going on in the world, she said she was driving and she'd talk to me soon.. And yeah she just vanished I mean like, I'll get over it but she was super talented at drawing and graphic design and I have a soft spot for that, and we were getting along really well, but oh well. Shit happens She removed her Okcupid too, the platform we met on, but I can't tell if that was a block or a deletion, guess I'll never know[/QUOTE] update on this I got a surprise message from her on Tumblr apologising for ghosting me and that she had a panic attack and got really scared over nothing so she went full out and nuked some of her accounts and blocked me on others but said it had nothing to do with me (which I knew from the beginning) her blog says she's on holidays which means she's back in North Queensland now but I sent her a message + a chat request on tumblr to talk to her again seeing she's fine, maybe this will turn around

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;49383635]Meanwhile, I'm a psych major, and have to go out of my way to latch onto introverted/antisocial people because they're so hard to find in my classes.[/QUOTE] I'm surprised that you being a psych major would use the term antisocial when you mean asocial. When I think of antisocial people I think of people who go against society, not people who avoid society.

[QUOTE=Yahnich;49384117]when i think antisocial i think sociopaths[/QUOTE] Exactly.