Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

I know what antisocial personality disorder is. The word antisocial is often used interchangeably with asocial. I assume you're able to read context well enough to know what I meant.

I miss being in a relationship like a man stranfed in the desert misses water. Is this wrong? It's almost been a month since I ended it with my ex and sometimes I think of going back with her, but I'm not sure if I miss her or the relationship itself.

[QUOTE=Cosa8888;49384598]I miss being in a relationship like a man stranfed in the desert misses water. Is this wrong? It's almost been a month since I ended it with my ex and sometimes I think of going back with her, but I'm not sure if I miss her or the relationship itself.[/QUOTE] Pretty natural to miss the things you lost but sometimes it's for the better. I would love to resee the girl i really liked a few months ago but I know it won't ever happen. I miss her and wish it could've been different but you've got to move on and see what else is out there Maybe get on some dating apps and websites, start seeing others and hooking up, sure enough you'll find someone that tickles your fancy

It's been three months now and I sometimes find myself lamenting about how it all went to shit. How I wished she hadn't given me so much reasons to not want her back. It's pretty natural, I guess.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;49382447]Yeah that's pretty much my degree, girls are generally fucking weird too. One time I got stuck in a conversation with a girl from my degree in the train. She spent the whole 40min ride telling me and narrating about her Hotel Transylvania Fan Fiction. I was just looking for an open window so I could jump out of the moving train.[/QUOTE] I met a girl in my program (CS) and we're nearing the 1 year mark now :>

[QUOTE=Cosa8888;49384598]I miss being in a relationship like a man stranfed in the desert misses water. Is this wrong? It's almost been a month since I ended it with my ex and sometimes I think of going back with her, but I'm not sure if I miss her or the relationship itself.[/QUOTE] Sometimes I still think about good memories of toxic friendships/relationships I had in the past. It's normal to miss certain things. Sometimes your memory will filter out the bad parts. Same thing goes that I posted in the other thread. Allow yourself to feel it, but recognize the bias your emotions are causing. Missing someone doesn't mean it's a good idea to reconnect with them - some relationships, good or bad, are not meant to last.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;49385719]Sometimes I still think about good memories of toxic friendships/relationships I had in the past. It's normal to miss certain things. Sometimes your memory will filter out the bad parts. Same thing goes that I posted in the other thread. Allow yourself to feel it, but recognize the bias your emotions are causing. Missing someone doesn't mean it's a good idea to reconnect with them - some relationships, good or bad, are not meant to last.[/QUOTE] Thanks, this was something I needed to hear.

How do behave at house party [editline]25th December 2015[/editline] Merry Christmas as well!!

oh for fucks sake i dont like my job that much and ive lost interest in computer science so i dont know why the fuck i am doing a degree christmas is over now im not gonna pass my driving test even if i do pass my driving test i wont be able to insure my car without a fucking stupid black box that records everythig i do which for a car enthusiast isnt the best route to go down im not confident enough to go to this house party because ive been out of the loop and ive lost all my old friends i turn to alcohol when im sad i cant do this anymore

[QUOTE=based;49388201]oh for fucks sake i dont like my job that much and ive lost interest in computer science so i dont know why the fuck i am doing a degree christmas is over now im not gonna pass my driving test even if i do pass my driving test i wont be able to insure my car without a fucking stupid black box that records everythig i do which for a car enthusiast isnt the best route to go down im not confident enough to go to this house party because ive been out of the loop and ive lost all my old friends i turn to alcohol when im sad i cant do this anymore[/QUOTE] Pass test, declare car off road, come back to it when you arent a student anymore?? I hope you arent equating "car enthusiast" with driving like a twat though, if you cant drive smoothly (and beside speed and the time at which you're driving that's what the box is recording) then should you really be driving swiftly?

-merry snipmas-

My Skype went off on my phone earlier, which was weird, because I only have an account for work to ping stuff around the office, so I wasn't sure who'd be sending me a message while we're all on our break. At first, I thought it was one of the co-workers I hadn't been fully acquainted with, cuz I wasn't familiar with the name and I accepted all these friend requests day 1 on the job. Anyway, turns out it was someone random, but we seemed to be conversing pretty normal for about an hour which was refreshing since there wasn't much to go on. Talked about winter break, how slow things will probably be for the next couple of months, the holiday in general etc. Then they spring up a question. I removed them when I read "private webcam shows". I feel like I should maybe get out the habit of being 'open' to virtual strangers. It can be nice to practice my sociability without having to worry about presentation or body language (which I still suck it), but fuck; it's rare to just find someone that wants to be remotely genuine.

[QUOTE=Kabstrac;49388162]Yo just saying, I have a very good friend who's going through some shit and without getting into details, I've been relaying some of the relevant stuff you've posted to her and it is helping her A LOT. Just throwing that out there. Same goes for other users too, but Guy's advice posts are often quite relevant. So thanks Guy and thanks everyone else in the thread, have a happy holiday and hope everyone's new year is productive and fulfilling[/QUOTE] I'm really glad to hear I've been able to help a few people! My last few posts have actually been channeling some of the advice my own counselor has given me.

Got rejected for the first time today. Hurts less than being dumped, I guess.

[QUOTE=_Axel;49391044]Got rejected for the first time today. Hurts less than being dumped, I guess.[/QUOTE] Don't let it get you down bud, it was nothing under your control. We've all been rejected at least once and it makes you so much stronger than what you were before.

[QUOTE=based;49388201]oh for fucks sake i dont like my job that much and ive lost interest in computer science so i dont know why the fuck i am doing a degree christmas is over now im not gonna pass my driving test even if i do pass my driving test i wont be able to insure my car without a fucking stupid black box that records everythig i do which for a car enthusiast isnt the best route to go down im not confident enough to go to this house party because ive been out of the loop and ive lost all my old friends i turn to alcohol when im sad i cant do this anymore[/QUOTE] You really should complete your education even if it's boring at some point or another. It's probably better to have something irrelevant on your CV than having to explain that hole in your CV. And mate, if you're a car enthusiast you should be able to drive a damn car, and if having a black box is a problem to you, it just means you [I]really[/I] need a black box in your car.

I always like posting this when people talk about loss. [video=youtube_share;JW1VQxmipKE]http://youtu.be/JW1VQxmipKE[/video]

oh wowowowow i just met a girl at some party last night who probably gave me the best first impression ever, holy shit i gotta get to know her. havent felt like this for a long time

[QUOTE=based;49391145]Don't let it get you down bud, it was nothing under your control. We've all been rejected at least once and it makes you so much stronger than what you were before.[/QUOTE] Yeah it's nothing I can't handle even if I was a bit depressed yesterday, I'll just go on with my life and meet new people. The one thing that bothers me though is that I was persuaded she was into me based on how she interacted with me. This just shows that what I thought were signs of infatuation on her part were actually nothing and I still don't know how to recognise it, which is problematic since it's basically what I look for before going further with a girl. [editline]26th December 2015[/editline] Well unless you count the two girls I made out with last Friday but it was at a party and I was too drunk and high to really think straight, I'd rather succeed by knowing what I'm doing than remove my inhibitions and seeing what it gets me.

[QUOTE=_Axel;49393223]Yeah it's nothing I can't handle even if I was a bit depressed yesterday, I'll just go on with my life and meet new people. The one thing that bothers me though is that I was persuaded she was into me based on how she interacted with me. This just shows that what I thought were signs of infatuation on her part were actually nothing and I still don't know how to recognise it, which is problematic since it's basically what I look for before going further with a girl. [editline]26th December 2015[/editline] Well unless you count the two girls I made out with last Friday but it was at a party and I was too drunk and high to really think straight, I'd rather succeed by knowing what I'm doing than remove my inhibitions and seeing what it gets me.[/QUOTE] I got rejected a couple of months ago by a girl who I was almost certain liked me back but it was a no, and sometimes its just wrong timing or them having a personality like that. I think girls all show different signs of infatuation so its very hard to tell sometimes, I wouldn't worry about being a poor judge of character or anything. [editline]26th December 2015[/editline] HOW DO HOUSE PARTY PLEASE [editline]26th December 2015[/editline] I DONT KNOW ANYONE THERE BAR MY BEST MATE

how many people are going to be there

20+

[QUOTE=based;49388201]oh for fucks sake i dont like my job that much and ive lost interest in computer science so i dont know why the fuck i am doing a degree christmas is over now im not gonna pass my driving test even if i do pass my driving test i wont be able to insure my car without a fucking stupid black box that records everythig i do which for a car enthusiast isnt the best route to go down im not confident enough to go to this house party because ive been out of the loop and ive lost all my old friends i turn to alcohol when im sad i cant do this anymore[/QUOTE] you'd be surprised how cheap insurance can be. my first car I ran with a full license was a Cat D insurance write off 2001 Ford Focus. I was paying £700 a year and one of my friends was quoted £3000 for the same car. now I have a 2013 Fiesta that I'm paying about the same for but I think that's because it has a turbo and that means I constantly drive like a fucking penis and I'm going to kill myself in it. black boxes can fuck themselves. if I want to go and do handbrake turns I'm going to do them for fucks sake* *I have only done handbrake turns in a gravel car park with nothing in it besides me and on ice on a side road with nothing around

[QUOTE=based;49394315]20+[/QUOTE] Get a drink, find a person, talk to person, rinse repeat.

[QUOTE=dcalde78;49394342]you'd be surprised how cheap insurance can be. my first car I ran with a full license was a Cat D insurance write off 2001 Ford Focus. I was paying £700 a year and one of my friends was quoted £3000 for the same car. now I have a 2013 Fiesta that I'm paying about the same for but I think that's because it has a turbo and that means I constantly drive like a fucking penis and I'm going to kill myself in it. black boxes can fuck themselves. if I want to go and do handbrake turns I'm going to do them for fucks sake* *I have only done handbrake turns in a gravel car park with nothing in it besides me and on ice on a side road with nothing around[/QUOTE] how old were you? exactly man fuck black boxes i am not having one you got the ST? [editline]26th December 2015[/editline] [QUOTE=metallics;49394345]Get a drink, find a person, talk to person, rinse repeat.[/QUOTE] thank you

[QUOTE=dcalde78;49394342]you'd be surprised how cheap insurance can be. my first car I ran with a full license was a Cat D insurance write off 2001 Ford Focus. I was paying £700 a year and one of my friends was quoted £3000 for the same car. now I have a 2013 Fiesta that I'm paying about the same for but I think that's because it has a turbo and that means I constantly drive like a fucking penis and I'm going to kill myself in it. black boxes can fuck themselves. if I want to go and do handbrake turns I'm going to do them for fucks sake* *I have only done handbrake turns in a gravel car park with nothing in it besides me and on ice on a side road with nothing around[/QUOTE] (£700 a year isn't cheap)

[QUOTE=metallics;49394359](£700 a year isn't cheap)[/QUOTE] it is when you're going to have to pay at least 1500 for a ford KA that's been modified only a bit

[QUOTE=based;49394364]it is when you're going to have to pay at least 1500 for a ford KA that's been modified only a bit[/QUOTE] I paid £600 for an 05 1.6 petrol focus back in 08 You've modded it (even a "tiny bit"), of course you're paying out the arse. Is a ford Ka even worth modding? Bin it, buy a wreck, drive it for a year, buy something decent next year.

[QUOTE=metallics;49394434]I paid £600 for an 05 1.6 petrol focus back in 08 You've modded it (even a "tiny bit"), of course you're paying out the arse. Is a ford Ka even worth modding? Bin it, buy a wreck, drive it for a year, buy something decent next year.[/QUOTE] I haven't declared them and even still and yes, a car weighing less than 700 kilos is worth modding because it's power to weight is so high with anything done. And it looks cool

[QUOTE=based;49394236]I got rejected a couple of months ago by a girl who I was almost certain liked me back but it was a no, and sometimes its just wrong timing or them having a personality like that. I think girls all show different signs of infatuation so its very hard to tell sometimes, I wouldn't worry about being a poor judge of character or anything.[/QUOTE] Well she broke up with someone but it was two months ago or something, and they were only together for a few weeks. I guess it might have had an influence on her (she said something about not wanting anything of the sort right now). Not that I should still give a shit about that anyway.