Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

[QUOTE=Richoxen;48629872]No don't insist. But you should make your intentions clear at least. Tell her you still love her but you're hurt by what she's done. You'll be around if she ever wants to try to patch things up but you can't wait around your whole life for a girl who may never come back. If she still wants you she needs to correct her mistakes before it's too late and you've found someone else. Be polite and clear. I know you're filled with anger. Me too. But control is crucial to success and anger is the opposite of control. After that never contact her again unless she reaches out to you.[/QUOTE] Done

commitment sounds scary I'm going out tomorrow with the girl I've been seeing and we're gonna clarify our relationship as being generally just a fuckbuddy thing I'm pretty sure it's gonna go down easy because she reactivated her okcupid account (which made me happy and then a little sad but being sad about it is a little stupid since I never deactivated mine anyway)

[QUOTE=Sector 7;48630047]commitment sounds scary I'm going out tomorrow with the girl I've been seeing and we're gonna clarify our relationship as being generally just a fuckbuddy thing I'm pretty sure it's gonna go down easy because she reactivated her okcupid account (which made me happy and then a little sad but being sad about it is a little stupid since I never deactivated mine anyway)[/QUOTE] I don't think I could ever do a relationship like that, I'd probably catch feelings.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;48630157]A fuckbuddy with herpes is an interesting choice[/QUOTE] don't interrupt me when I'm making poor decisions besides this is really just the prelude to tapering things off

jesus I feel like total shit right now I don't know what to do. I tried to hang out with some friends but I just sat there staring into the wall. I just wanna sleep but I can't. this is unbearable. My stomach is churning and ugh. Sorry for the rant guys I have no one else to rant to because I already rant to my friends too much.

automerge shit fuck [QUOTE=RenegadeCop;48630157]A fuckbuddy with herpes is an interesting choice[/QUOTE] in reality I was desperate for meaningful human contact - and I think she might've been, too. I don't have any access to any kind of real-life dating pool, and going back to okc now so I can resume browsing through pages of flakey transient strangers in the hope of finding happiness is not something I want to go back to. I've spent the past year in a powerful depression, and being with her has given me the first breath of fresh air in a very long time. She's important to me, in an odd way, even though we definitely don't have a romantic future together. I can't see myself seriously dating her, I know continuing to have sex is a bad idea, and I'm also afraid of going back to how I was while I was alone. I can't tell her any of this. The stage is set for an awkward and inconclusive conversation followed by us going back to my place and boinking again. What a riveting narrative. [QUOTE=GURREN LAGANN;48630852]jesus I feel like total shit right now I don't know what to do. I tried to hang out with some friends but I just sat there staring into the wall. I just wanna sleep but I can't. this is unbearable. My stomach is churning and ugh. Sorry for the rant guys I have no one else to rant to because I already rant to my friends too much.[/QUOTE] it's okay to feel like shit when people treat you badly

So l swallowed my pride and followed your advice last night. I texted her explaining everything. That l loved her and l thought it was time to stop fucking around (in all meanings) and that it hurt me to see her with anorher guy. Her response was "are you forcing me to make a choice?" . I told her to call it what she likes, rhat l'm done with waiting and l couldn't stand to be in that situation forever. That there was only so much beating l could stand and the longer she waited the more damage it would cause. She said she loved me to but she was afraid. And she didn't know what to do. But she thinks more and more about me every day. I told her to stop running , that deep inside she knows what to do. She asked me to wait some more but she promised she would give me an answer soon. So yeah l'm still on the shelve for all the good it did. For some reason l'm not getting my hopes on. Every day for me is one step closer to moving on for good. I didn't pressure her but she needs to hurry the fuck up.

I cant sleep because of something that happened earlier. Ive been dating this girl for a little while now and things seemed to be going well, then she texted me after work sayong she had to tell me something. She ran into an old friend and things happened, she said she didnt sleep with him. We yad a big fight but we made up in the end and went for a drive. The problem is she says she wants to be with me but cant commit to a relationship this early, but i want to be with her and the thought of her with another man is really upsetting me. Im going to tell her tomorrow how i feel because i dont know what it means to not be in a relationship but still be exclusive. And im trying to sleep but everything in my head just comes back to some other guy kissing her or touching her and its makong me really sad

How do you all cope with shit like this? I been suspecting my girl of cheating and I've been sleepless, haven't eaten for 2 days and I cut even think straight. This weekend has just fucking hell for me and sounds like you guys have it about just as bad.

How should i ask a girl out?

"hey how would you like to go out for some food sometime?"

[QUOTE=GURREN LAGANN;48632587]"hey how would you like to go out for some food sometime?"[/QUOTE] I prefer movie. You don't have to talk as much :P

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;48631555]So l swallowed my pride and followed your advice last night.I texted her explaining everything. That l loved her and l thought it was time to stop fucking around (in all meanings) and that it hurt me to see her with anorher guy. Her response was "are you forcing me to make a choice?" . I told her to call it what she likes, rhat l'm done with waiting and l couldn't stand to be in that situation forever. That there was only so much beating l could stand and the longer she waited the more damage it would cause.She said she loved me to but she was afraid. And she didn't know what to do. But she thinks more and more about me every day. I told her to stop running , that deep inside she knows what to do. She asked me to wait some more but she promised she would give me an answer soon.So yeah l'm still on the shelve for all the good it did.For some reason l'm not getting my hopes on. Every day for me is one step closer to moving on for good. I didn't pressure her but she needs to hurry the fuck up.[/QUOTE] What a piece of shit, why are you still waiting around for her? Just move on.

[QUOTE=plunger435;48632829]What a piece of shit, why are you still waiting around for her? Just move on.[/QUOTE] Because of the 10 years we've been there for each other, for that sake. And because you don't have people that loyal that often in your life. For the partnership, for the History we had together, everything we shared so far, until this big mess. Is she being unjust, a bitch, a piece of shit? well, yes. Am I being wrong in having a little more faith for the sake of it all, for the sake that she'll see what she's doing? No. I don't feel like it. I feel I'm being perfectly honest and respectful till the end and that at least I am honoring all those years we've been there for each other. Were it some other girl, trust me, I'd be telling her to fuck off before she could even say a word. Not that I haven't done it before.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;48633055]Because of the 10 years we've been there for each other, for that sake. And because you don't have people that loyal that often in your life. For the partnership, for the History we had together, everything we shared so far, until this big mess. Is she being unjust, a bitch, a piece of shit? well, yes. Am I being wrong in having a little more faith for the sake of it all, for the sake that she'll see what she's doing? No. I don't feel like it. I feel I'm being perfectly honest and respectful till the end and that at least I am honoring all those years we've been there for each other. Were it some other girl, trust me, I'd be telling her to fuck off before she could even say a word. Not that I haven't done it before.[/QUOTE] This is going to sound incredibly harsh, but you're wasting your time and giving her an excuse to walk all over you. She's not coming back.

My opinion is, if you think the next 60 years with her will be great it's worth pushing through.

that's horrible advice. if you start letting people walk over you now the next 60 years aren't gonna be great.

Ah, yeah I need a bit of help here. Its super hard to find decent looking lesbians around here. I'm not having any luck finding a girlfriend, or let alone any girls to hook up with. Most lesbians are either super fat ugly landwhales, or hispanic or black, or they look and act like SJW's. OR they're a huge hybrid of that. I'm not racist, I just prefer to date a white/caucasian girl like myself. There's nothing wrong with that IMO, And I shouldn't have to lower my standards; Why are most lesbians so god damn ugly??? I can't even find bi-sexual girls. Where are all the white women at?

[QUOTE=Sector 7;48633240]that's horrible advice. if you start letting people walk over you now the next 60 years aren't gonna be great.[/QUOTE] That's why I said " if you think the next 60 years with her will be great" obviously if not then don't

My ex was threatening to hurt herself. So I finally gave in and responded. :c [2:07:22 PM] Fox: ADAM? [2:08:32 PM] Fox: please... answer me [2:08:35 PM] Fox: were going to be okay. [2:08:53 PM] Fox: adam please. [2:09:05 PM] Fox: I need you, I love you , ive been crying for you. [2:10:03 PM] Fox: ADAM PLEASE. [2:10:30 PM] *** Missed call from Fox. *** [2:10:57 PM] Fox: please [2:12:44 PM] Fox: can you please answer me. [2:12:47 PM] Fox: im begging you. [2:13:38 PM] *** Call from Fox *** [2:13:38 PM] *** Call ended *** [2:13:43 PM] Fox: stoppp [2:13:48 PM] Fox: please ADAM [2:13:50 PM] Fox: PLEASE ANSWER ME [2:13:52 PM] Fox: I NEED YOU [2:13:56 PM] Fox: I LOVE YOU [2:13:58 PM] Muhammad Ra'd Mubin Yaqub: Are we getting back together today? [2:13:58 PM] Fox: THIS HURTS [2:14:16 PM] Fox: THATS ALL YOU HAVE TO SAY? [2:14:22 PM] Fox: YOUVE BEEN IGNRING ME THIS WHOLE WEEKEND. [2:14:43 PM] Muhammad Ra'd Mubin Yaqub: I told you what would happen. [2:15:09 PM] Fox: so all of Friday meant nothing? [2:16:05 PM] Fox: tell me adam [2:16:11 PM] Fox: ALL OF FRIDAY MEANT NTOHING? [2:16:24 PM] Muhammad Ra'd Mubin Yaqub: What happened friday. [2:16:38 PM] Fox: we were all in love and happy and holding hands [2:16:49 PM] Fox: we were supposed to go shopping yesterday [2:17:03 PM] Fox: he yelled at me so bad yesterday I hurt myself. [2:18:00 PM] Fox: im sorry, you deserve better... I love you.. [2:18:03 PM] Muhammad Ra'd Mubin Yaqub: Dump him and we can be normal again. [2:18:22 PM] Muhammad Ra'd Mubin Yaqub: Will do it now together. [2:19:14 PM] Fox: no [2:19:29 PM] Fox: because we will never be the sme and we would never feel the same [2:21:25 PM] Muhammad Ra'd Mubin Yaqub: Things can be normal right now. All you have to do is say the word. [2:22:54 PM] Fox: do you still love me [2:22:56 PM] Fox: be honest adam [2:23:03 PM] Muhammad Ra'd Mubin Yaqub: I do. [2:23:07 PM] Muhammad Ra'd Mubin Yaqub: Do you love me? [2:23:42 PM] Fox: I do. [2:23:56 PM] Fox: not as much as I used to. [2:25:17 PM] Fox: maybe it is time, we move on. [2:26:39 PM] Muhammad Ra'd Mubin Yaqub: Don't ever contact me again. [2:26:54 PM] Muhammad Ra'd Mubin Yaqub: Unless you want me back. [2:27:57 PM] Fox: .... [2:27:57 PM] Fox: okay [2:28:08 PM] Fox: I love you. [2:28:55 PM] Muhammad Ra'd Mubin Yaqub: No [2:28:58 PM] Muhammad Ra'd Mubin Yaqub: I need to say something first. [2:29:28 PM] Fox: ok. [2:33:19 PM] Muhammad Ra'd Mubin Yaqub: You were lucky to have me. You were lucky to find the one person in the world who would love you unconditionally. The one person who saw you for who you really were and didn't turn away, but rather embraced you. I love you still now, as I always have and if one day you realize what you've lost you can come back. But I can't guarantee where I'll be, or who I'll be with so better sooner than later. [2:34:14 PM] Fox: okay.. [2:37:18 PM] Fox: so that's that? [2:39:43 PM] Fox: :| Life is so fucking shit she's the only person I've ever cared about I hope I did the right thing.

Last night in my dreams I cheated on my girlfriend... I was at some party an this one chick was hitting on me and we ended up kissing. Afterwards, still dreaming, I freaked out because of what I did and even when I woke up I had this feeling of guilt. Does this say anything about me or is this dream just as relevant as the one I had the other night in which Michael Jackson was still alive and he had to move the entirety of New York city to the Netherlands because he had to perform there?

[QUOTE=Richoxen;48633859]snip[/QUOTE] Can someone please explain her emotions to me the whole I love you I need you I've been crying for you. Then in texts she said she was gonna hurt herself. Yet I've made it clear that i'll take her back but she refuses.

I'm getting worried, this girl who has been my friend (and only friend) for so long has recently stopped reading my messages and replying around 3 days later claiming her chat got bugged. I think she's blocking me or avoiding me, but it makes no sense, we've been talkative friends since middle school. I've always been there for her and likewise. But recently I've been completely out of contact with her and I'm starting to think that she blocked me or something because I don't buy the thing that her chat isn't working. Help, should I get anxious that's she's avoiding me or something? I don't have a lot of friends and I'd hate myself if I lost such a gem of a friend.,

[QUOTE=GURREN LAGANN;48630852]jesus I feel like total shit right now I don't know what to do. I tried to hang out with some friends but I just sat there staring into the wall. I just wanna sleep but I can't. this is unbearable. My stomach is churning and ugh. Sorry for the rant guys I have no one else to rant to because I already rant to my friends too much.[/QUOTE] U got steam?

[QUOTE=Richoxen;48634073]Can someone please explain her emotions to me the whole I love you I need you I've been crying for you. Then in texts she said she was gonna hurt herself. Yet I've made it clear that i'll take her back but she refuses.[/QUOTE] Look, my general opinion of your situation is that you (or anyone) cannot allow yourself to be manipulated or threatened back into a relationship. I don't think you should be taking your girlfriend back at all, same case for Behemoth. Someone who cares about you should not use you in the way she is, and threatening self harm to make you talk to her should be the biggest sign for you that you should be walking away. In the same vein in your chat log you're attempting to manipulate her with an ultimatum into getting back together, which is awful. She can't just drop or suppress all the shit that's happened and pretend everything's ok, god knows what she wants but it seems she can recognise that things have to be different for you now- which you aren't seeing. It's awful to walk away from a relationship that was once good but it boggles my mind to see someone so in denial that they want to stay in a relationship with someone who would cheat, manipulate and threaten like that. Please consider your choices and what is going to be truly positive for YOU and YOUR life - how you want to be treated and where the boundaries of your self-respect lie.

I know that it's not a great timing for this since we have a couple of situations going on simultaneously, but still. That Skype chat reminded me that me and that girl from Riga who p much said she'd date me and she likes me like a whole fucking lot(same as I like her) - we barely chat. Every time I go to sleep I think of that and it just makes everything worse. I mean of course, it's +2 hours for her(timezone) and she has school now and etc. but it just sucks so badly that she barely ever sends messages. I want to believe that she is actually really busy but in same time I don't. It sucks really fucking badly. Also: [QUOTE=RocketRacer;48628759]Shit is weird. Got a match with a good looking girl on a meeting app but she is already in a relationship, so we chatted and after I smoothly transitioned chat to FB asked like why do you even need a meeting app and she said because she wants some friends outside of job. Fair enough, I'm not looking for anyone 'special' anyways. Every day(well, third in a row) she messages me st a random time in the day saying hi, so I ask some stuff here and there but her answers are usually short and the she almost never asks anything back or continues on with the conversation. So like, it's either she is bad at texts but she wants to chat or she wants to chat but in same time she doesn't? I have not got a single clue. We have quite a bunch of stuff in common, and on couple of occasions I would have said 'hey that is awesome we should go there sometime' but it aint rocket science to see that you don't do that when a girl is 'occupied'. I don't know, really. I quite like chatting with her and we have stuff in common so I reckon she could be a great friend, but the way the texting goes between us is fucking weird(I say like 15 words sometimes and she replies with 1-2). Every time we chat I have that fact that she is occupied kinda putting me off chatting with her and the short answers don't help either, but I kinda want to because I think she'd be a good friend. meh[/QUOTE] The girl from this post has just recently messaged me, and that actually brightened up my day. Some weird stuff all across the board.

This is low priority problem, could be labeled as "#thirdworldproblems" but still.. Turns out I need to take holidays for 3 weeks at work because I have 3 weeks of holidays available. They expire next year (december-january) and they don't carry over to next year or compensate in any way. None of my friends plan to go on holidays, the ones that do - only love hot and warm countries, I hate warm and hot countries. I want to go somewhere where there is northern lights, relaxed atmosphere, snow, snowboarding etc.. Is it normal for someone to go alone on such holiday or is it boring usually?

Is it bad thatbI'm getting used to being turned down and / or rejected? Yeah I still feel like shit when it happens and the girl in question still spooks around in my head but I just don't really seem care anymore.

Thanks for the advice guys! :0) (none was provided) I've tried changing my appearance, going outside more, etc. Why are there no white women? I hate being a lesbian and I wish I didn't like girls sometimes, but I can't help that. There aren't any options for me except hispanic/black landwhale SJW's and I refuse to date that. Sorry but I'm absolutely infuriated by the lack of normal looking girls. It's awful.

[QUOTE=arleitiss;48634656]This is low priority problem, could be labeled as "#thirdworldproblems" but still.. Turns out I need to take holidays for 3 weeks at work because I have 3 weeks of holidays available. They expire next year (december-january) and they don't carry over to next year or compensate in any way. None of my friends plan to go on holidays, the ones that do - only love hot and warm countries, I hate warm and hot countries. I want to go somewhere where there is northern lights, relaxed atmosphere, snow, snowboarding etc.. Is it normal for someone to go alone on such holiday or is it boring usually?[/QUOTE] Yeah its normal, my friend just came back from a holiday in Milan for a week by herself, and shes got plenty of friends she could have gone with. Snowboarding alone is often better by yourself than with a group as you arent held back by skill differences and you can just go where you want when you want. People go travelling by themselves all the time, in about 4 weeks Im due to fly out to Canada by myself for minimum 6 months. Got a 2 year working visa. Youve got 3 weeks holiday, might as well make the most of it and not waste it sitting at home. [editline]7th September 2015[/editline] [QUOTE=IJNOMED;48634740]Thanks for the advice guys! :0) (none was provided) I've tried changing my appearance, going outside more, etc. Why are there no white women? I hate being a lesbian and I wish I didn't like girls sometimes, but I can't help that. There aren't any options for me except hispanic/black landwhale SJW's and I refuse to date that. Sorry but I'm absolutely infuriated by the lack of normal looking girls. It's awful.[/QUOTE] Dating apps?