Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

[QUOTE=PredGD;49524994]a super like also reveals who they are too, right? odd that I got a notification that someone liked me but no name, or maybe the name isn't in the notification. maybe I swiped them away before I got the chance to figure out that they were the one who super liked me, I have no idea[/QUOTE] Did it say 'Someone liked you on tinder. Swipe right now to find out who!' ? Because if so they probably just wanted you to get back on tinder

[QUOTE=CSLeader;49526592] What the hell is wrong with me?[/QUOTE] You're a teenager. You're stressing too much. Go on your facebook and look for some interesting events in your area. Make more friends there and chill. Things will happen eventually.

I just got rejected by someone for being too young. I am 28 and she's 23. FUUUUCK

[QUOTE=Glitchman;49529511]I just got rejected by someone for being too young. I am 28 and she's 23. FUUUUCK[/QUOTE] sounds like she wanted a sugar daddy imo. I'm sorry man; screw em

Sup I saw this girl at canteen last month and fell in love with her. Added her to friends on FB, but she deleted me today for no reason. I never talked with her IRL, and I doubt she knows I exist. Dunno what to do, I kinda feel bad. good thread now

I don't think you fell in love with her man, you're probably just mistaking it for attraction? Typically happens if you haven't had much experience with girls and / or you're desperate. Adding her on FB without even being introduced or meeting her IRL is a bit creepy, not gonna lie. She probably deleted you when she realised she has no idea who you are (please don't say you liked her photos). Either get to know her IRL (but given your attitude, I'd probs say not to do that) or just leave it and move on. I have a bad feeling if you spoke to her IRL, you'd just butcher it and make yourself come across as really creepy: "h-hey, I saw you once and added you on FB, I'm the guy you deleted. Sorry, I love you" [editline]15th January 2016[/editline] I mean this situation is altogether weird, do you and her have any mutual friends on FB, cause if you don't, I'd personally be super creeped out if a randomer in my school added me and we had 0 mutual friends, cause I know they'd have to do stalker detective work to get my name, find me on FB and then add me.

[QUOTE=loopoo;49535870]I don't think you fell in love with her man, you're probably just mistaking it for attraction? Typically happens if you haven't had much experience with girls and / or you're desperate. Adding her on FB without even being introduced or meeting her IRL is a bit creepy, not gonna lie. She probably deleted you when she realised she has no idea who you are (please don't say you liked her photos). Either get to know her IRL (but given your attitude, I'd probs say not to do that) or just leave it and move on. I have a bad feeling if you spoke to her IRL, you'd just butcher it and make yourself come across as really creepy: "h-hey, I saw you once and added you on FB, I'm the guy you deleted. Sorry, I love you" [editline]15th January 2016[/editline] I mean this situation is altogether weird, do you and her have any mutual friends on FB, cause if you don't, I'd personally be super creeped out if a randomer in my school added me and we had 0 mutual friends, cause I know they'd have to do stalker detective work to get my name, find me on FB and then add me.[/QUOTE] Yeah, she actually has a few mutual friends. I never had any relationship, thanks for this advice.

you could always say "i've been watching you from afar for years now." though if she has mutual friends it's fine to add her on fb, a bunch of people add me on fb from other states and i talk to them somewhat regularly

[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;49537137]though if she has mutual friends it's fine to add her on fb, a bunch of people add me on fb from other states and i talk to them somewhat regularly[/QUOTE] The only reason guys add women who they have mutual friends with is because of their profile pictures. I don't accept requests from anyone I don't know and I'm sure most women have the same policy.

I am going to be honest here. I am a virgin of 20 years, and I realised that I have no chance with women.

nah man, that ain't true. the only thing you need is to gain a little social know-how. what are your interests and hobbies? I dunno if you're in college or highschool, but whatever it is, I'm sure they'll have clubs and social gatherings for people who have similar interests. it'll give you a medium to meet other likeminded people, and it'll be in an atmosphere that you'll feel relaxed and comfortable in. If you have a good personality (confident, charismatic, the kind of person who doesn't make constant social blunders) then you've got a decent chance. Looks play a role, too, but in the grand scheme of things, they don't matter, unless you look like you've been hit by a truck.

it was really simple once I started taking the patent-pending Social Slut™ pills. the side effect excess hair growth is a perk too, I'm now called the love yeti, and I don't have to migrate south for the winter anymore I couldn't give a flying shit if you take me seriously. You're on Facepunch for Christ's sake. You've probably never even touched a boob before, and don't have a car either. [editline]16th January 2016[/editline] ps: I've always been a poon slayer m8

[QUOTE=EmilioGB;49541785]I am going to be honest here. [B]I am a virgin of 20 years[/B], and I realised that I have no chance with women.[/QUOTE] What is wrong with this? absolutely nothing. You are young, you are able to do ANYTHING with yourself and be whatever you want to be

I'm a virgin of [B]22[/B] years. Do I win?

[QUOTE=EmilioGB;49541785]I am going to be honest here. I am a virgin of 20 years, and I realised that I have no chance with women.[/QUOTE] so basically you've been on the dating scene proper for like...2 years, and you have another...72 years ahead of you and think you have no chance with women like logically think about it for a second and realise that what you are saying is really melodramatic and over the top. If you think there's a problem that's stopping you from getting with women, work on it! You'll be fiiine in the long run

Why do virgins stress so much about losing their virginity. Dudes, calm down, it's not THAT special. Focus on finding someone who actually cares about you, rather than squeezing your way into the jousting tournament. I mean sex is great, it's awesome. But more than that is knowing that you're doing it as a result of finding someone you like and that likes you back.

Indeed, losing your virginity is... Not that much of a deal really. If anything, the biggest impact it has on a person is the realization that while sex is a great thing, it's not worth obsessing over. It's just a pleasant aspect of life among many others.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;49543290]Why do virgins stress so much about losing their virginity. Dudes, calm down, it's not THAT special. Focus on finding someone who actually cares about you, rather than squeezing your way into the jousting tournament. I mean sex is great, it's awesome. But more than that is knowing that you're doing it as a result of finding someone you like and that likes you back.[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49543331]Well they care because society, media, and peer pressure.[/QUOTE] Yeah I mean you might as well ask "why do fat people care about losing weight" Like it or not, there's a lot of societal pressure for people to not be those things (the virgin thing applying more often to men obviously). Granted, people in a super friendly environment like this are going to be more understanding, but the world is full of idiots who will be like "lol get a load of this loser virgin." I got that occasionally in high school. And I'm sure 99% of people would [b]prefer[/b] finding someone who really cares about them. That's why we get the old "Why don't you just hire a hooker?" argument. Nobody really does that to lose their virginity, because being a virgin is usually seen as an extension of that larger problem of just not having been in a super-intimate relationship. I think that's what people [b]really[/b] want.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;49538808]The only reason guys add women who they have mutual friends with is because of their profile pictures. [B]I don't accept requests from anyone I don't know[/B] and I'm sure most women have the same policy.[/QUOTE] I found this abit funny. My ex accepted request from random guys on facebook even though she does not know them or have ever met with them. I remember when we were together she added a guy and i asked who's that and i got a response "I don't know" and i said " why would you accept strange people you never met?" and she responded by saying " Oh but we have mutual friends" and to only find out they were trying to hit on her and trying to get her in bed while her profile said she was in a relationship with me and she kept them on her friends list :suicide:

if I meet someone when I'm out, either at uni, a bar, clubbing or on a social, I'll get their name and if we hit it off, I'll add em on FB the following day. from there, it's easy to organize future hangouts. straight up adding people you've never met just cause you've got a few mutuals is the weird thing. I could understand doing it if this person is part of a friend's social group and you're likely to meet them irl, but otherwise it's just stranger danger, don't accept candy from the van man, who's that weirdo sitting alone in the kids playground vibe [editline]16th January 2016[/editline] but at the end of the day people can do w/e they want in terms of adding fb friends I guess

[QUOTE=Yahnich;49544374]yeah you personally think it's weird but at the end of the day adding people on fb u don't know is the same as chatting them up at a bar? thats how i view it anyway[/QUOTE] Nah I don't look at Facebook as something to make new friends, more for maintaining existing relationships

[QUOTE=Yahnich;49544220]you guys are being a bit weird about it too imo, like how do you make new friends if you don't interact with strangers? facebook is just another form of social interaction after all its up to you if u accept the interaction proposed to you by the stranger[/QUOTE] I agree, I usually accept girl's requests. I pretty much know from start that they just wanna look through my photos too and maybe chat a little, but some of those are people that actually want to meet me. So why not give them a chance? I mean, sure they're gonna look at my photos, but so am I going to look at theirs. However I never accept people who don't have their photo in their profile, or that have an avatar instead. If you want me to give you something, you gotta give me something back. And yeah, sometimes I also send friend requests to women I don't know. Sometimes I get accepted, sometimes don't. But when I do, I immediately strike up a conversation just so I'm not that weird person that just adds you and lingers there being weird. [editline]16th January 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=Yahnich;49544391]the hot 18 year old from estonia you're chatting up at the bar can also be a crazy psychotic murderer[/QUOTE] Or underage. That shit happened to me once. I got really pissed. I already had a few drinks in a crowded bar with some friends, and then this girl that was taller than me, started chatting with me and all that, and after a few drinks we flirt and she kisses me and I'm like, "oh well, ok, this is fun" and just went with it. She pretty much suggests that we go some other club. When I get there I see there's a bouncer at the door checking ID's and some of her friends who looked really young accompanied by older guys. I immediately asked her how old she was, and she hesitates. I ask her again, otherwise I'm not going in, she admits being 15. I was shocked, I mean, only after a while did I notice she was wearing a lot of makeup to make her look older. So this 15 year old girl, with the lip and flirting ability of someone in her 20's, flirting and making out with older men, in order to get a free ticket to clubs where they check ID's was pretty much using me to get into a +18 club. I pretty much helped her get in, they didn't check my ID and then I left. Told her that if getting in was all she wanted, she could just have asked and I'd get her in no problem. I pretty much felt sorry for her after I left. She was 15. Probably being peer pressured by her friends. One day she might do it with the wrong guy and get into serious trouble.

I browse people's pictures but I ain't got time to look through ALL of them.. Unless that person only has a small handful uploaded.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49551691]See, that's weird to me. VERY RARELY do I ever look through peoples photos on Facebook. Usually only if they don't have themselves as a profile picture for some reason. If someone told me they look through all mine, I'd find it kind of creepy. Like breaking into someones home, getting out the scrapbook, and looking at pictures creepy. You know what I look like, why are you gonna snoop through all my pictures? I know I uploaded them and they're on there, but I still find it creepy. I get real big stalker vibes from it. I don't see any joy in it.[/QUOTE] eh when I add a new person I'll have a quick snoop through their profile, but nothing bordering creepy levels. I'll spend a few minutes and then get bored. I have a natural fear of photos so my profile has embarrassingly few photos of me (any photos I had of when I was a teen I removed just because they made me cringe) worst feeling ever is having a one night stand and then spotting her on FB a few days later and thinking to yourself "how fucking drunk was I?"

My best friend has a boyfriend who wants to cotrol every aspect of her life, to the point of checking her phone and getting extremly angry because she TAKES TOO LITTLE TIME TO ANSWER ME. Things like this happen to her very frequently I know she should just end it, but I really can not control her life nor her decisions, so my question is: How can I support her? What can I do for someone on that situation?

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49551691]See, that's weird to me. VERY RARELY do I ever look through peoples photos on Facebook. Usually only if they don't have themselves as a profile picture for some reason. If someone told me they look through all mine, I'd find it kind of creepy. Like breaking into someones home, getting out the scrapbook, and looking at pictures creepy. You know what I look like, why are you gonna snoop through all my pictures? I know I uploaded them and they're on there, but I still find it creepy. I get real big stalker vibes from it. I don't see any joy in it.[/QUOTE] Because you put them up there, and I'm just curious? I wonder about the stuff you've done and the like. I feel innocently curious, at least. I'm paranoid about what photos I post now though, especially here. I've had one dude message me creepy shit a bunch, another just say lewd things about what he would do to me (terrifying), and recently someone who I met on steam was able to find pictures of me in like no goddamn time at all Yay, creepy stuff. The eternal signal for "ur cute"

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49552123]She has to make the decision to break it off, no one can do it for her. I'm not sure there's a whole lot you can do, relationships are really personal and have to be dealt with by the people involved. Have you talked to her about it? Does she agree the relationship is toxic?[/QUOTE] Of course, I have tried to give advice and generally talk about it, but she thinks that even giving him an ultimatum is overreacting.

[QUOTE=paindoc;49552254]Because you put them up there, and I'm just curious? I wonder about the stuff you've done and the like. I feel innocently curious, at least. I'm paranoid about what photos I post now though, especially here. I've had one dude message me creepy shit a bunch, another just say lewd things about what he would do to me (terrifying), and recently someone who I met on steam was able to find pictures of me in like no goddamn time at all Yay, creepy stuff. The eternal signal for "ur cute"[/QUOTE] I used to be paranoid about posting photos, but now I don't really care much. I'm older and anything creepy anyone can do to me has probably already been done lmao. Had a guy on here a few years ago try and sell a "photo pack" of pictures of me that he nabbed from my Facebook. That was when I was like 17 so it was especially weird. I don't post photos willy nilly but on the appropriate social media platforms, I have plenty of 'em. As you get older, it becomes less daunting lol

seeing the sort of shit that went down in GMF made me realise how important it is to keep internet me separate from real me. they were finding pics people had posted and scrutinising their facebook profiles and yeah if you're not careful, it's really easy for people to track down your real-life shit (granted this was a few years back where it was super easy to ID someone's FB profile from a FB link). PS: is anyone else having Facepunch crap out on them a lot? It's happening a lot lately where the site just crashes [editline]17th January 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=Pascall;49552381]I don't post photos willy nilly but on the appropriate social media platforms, I have plenty of 'em. As you get older, it becomes less daunting lol[/QUOTE] attaching all your social media on FP is just asking for people to creep out on you and act weird

[QUOTE=loopoo;49552425] attaching all your social media on FP is just asking for people to creep out on you and act weird[/QUOTE] oh yeah I deffo don't put it anywhere blatant. pretty sure on here i only have like. youtube/steam, etc. but if someone HAPPENS to find it, it doesn't matter too much. they have to add me on facebook to see anything, and i dont post anything weird on instagram or twitter so those are fine for people to know. it just depends on what you're comfortable with and that kind of thing.