Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

Hot, smart girl from class offered to give me rides to school twice a week. The rides are an hour long. Panic.

she wants your d

[QUOTE=Meller Yeller;49580134]That's a good metaphor actually. Okay I think it's pretty obvious what to do. Thanks![/QUOTE] I don't know man, at 3 months you should feel like the first month, if not more excited.

How to subtley hint that you like someone without making a big deal? Known her for months, started talking recently

why be subtle?

[QUOTE=Hilton;49585320]How to subtley hint that you like someone without making a big deal? Known her for months, started talking recently[/QUOTE] If she wants you she drops the signals.

[QUOTE=ichiman94;49585607]If she wants you she drops the signals.[/QUOTE] it's not really good to sit around twiddling your thumbs waiting for someone else to make it crystal clear they're into you. some people are forward with letting you know they're interested, other people aren't so much. it totally depends on the friendship you have with the person, as well as your own personality. I was a complete clutz with my first girlfriend cause I was too shy and nervous to let her know how I felt, she was the one who took the reins and said we should start dating. I've never been the type of person to develop intense feelings after a girl just farts in my general direction, though. we were friends for a good 2 months beforehand and had gotten pretty damn close in that time before I realised I really liked her. if you've only started talking recently, try and spend more time with her and hang out / talk often. imo sometimes it's better to just be friends instead of trying to date every girl who shows a remote interest in you and treats you like a friend. or you could just ask her out if you think there's a good chance of you two working out. hurray for general advice, it's hard to give concrete answers.

i kept dropping "subtle hints" to my first girlfriend and nothing ever came of it until we were honest about our feelings. turns out she'd been dropping subtle hints all along as well

all you need to do is go "ayyy gurl u want sum fuk" seriously though, subtle isn't necessarily the best way. my first gf and I only got together when I started being more upfront about how I felt and second gf I was pretty blunt. started as casual chat, but things heated up pretty quick.

huh so this has been a...weird...couple of days. so on wednesday i went to get dinner with the girl i've liked for a while and it was great and conversation was free flowing and stuff so it was neat and when i took her back home before she got out of the car i asked her out but all of my charm and general suave went out the fucking window so it kind of came out like "uh hey so uh i don't know if you're busy but uh would you want to like *cough* uh go out some time or something? with me, i mean" and she was like "YEAH" and it was kind of loud and surprised me and then she said "dude it's about time" which was also weird so anyway we went out tonight and grabbed dinner at like 6 and she was like "i'm so glad you asked but also was surprised because i definitely thought you friendzoned me and i was sad for like six months" so after like five minutes of processing that i was like "...what" and then that led to a weird conversation that was actually super great and then we went to go play minigolf in the rain where she soundly destroyed me (tbh it was pathetic) and then when we were done we went up to a mountain thingy by our school where there are a lot of like benches and overviews and shit and it was pretty and also cold and in what was by far my smoothest move of the night once we were on the bench i just said "YAWN" and put my arm around her shoulder (feel free to steal that one) anyway we ended up staying up there for like five hours which was a questionable decision but anyway it all went really well and we clearly like each other very much so we're gonna go out again as soon as possible, provided she is not already sick of me and also at one point i was like "i was so nervous and worried about it that i'm kind of surprised you said yes" and she was like "it's fine i thought it was adorable" so anyway just be yourself and eventually something will work out and you'll bumble your way into things

How do you encourage your leeching sisters to get a job or do some chores (or something) more often? My parents are way too forgiving and I don't know how to fix this. [editline]24th January 2016[/editline] (Let's say I chose this thread because I still [B]love[/B] them)

So I had to break up with my girlfriend. My first girlfriend, so of course my first break up. It was only 4 months long, so it may sound stupid to you guys that I got as attached as I did, but oh well. You may or may not have read/remember my story, my history with her started in March of last year, we met on spring break and I really got to know her there and found I liked her, so when we got back to school, I asked her out, we eventually went on a data but she decided I wasn't her thing for a number of reasons. This bummed me out, but after working out a lot over the summer and really finding true confidence in myself, when I got back to school in the fall she really fell for me and we started dating for real. She's pretty devout christian, anti-drugs, only a social drinker,and the kicker was she was waiting for sex until marriage. I'm nonreligious, love doing drugs and drinking and definitely have no qualms about sex before marriage. So to a lot of people that's a lot of red flags already, but I had a lot of great chemistry with her and wanted to give it a shot. I had to give up drugs entirely, and at first all we did was kiss, but as the weeks and months went by she ended up falling more and more for me (and vice versa) and eventually trusted me enough to do other things. The thing is, though, in the heat of the moment, she was perfectly OK and voluntarily let me do these things (beginning with taking her bra off, near the end fingering/ HJs) and she clearly enjoyed it. She even told me a few weeks ago that after our 6 month anniversary, she would be OK with putting sex on the table as an option. But invariably a few hours, days, or weeks after doing something for the first time she would always decide that she didn't want to do it anymore, that it made her uncomfortable. And each time I respected her wishes. But after she swore it off, [B]every single time[/B] she would eventually tell me that she was OK with it again, this time for good. She never flip flopped more than once on any given matter. So things were good. She was often difficult, but I loved her company, I loved our relationship, and although I'm not too experienced, I think I loved her in a way. Not the settle-down-and-have-kids kind of love, but the milder sort of love that can grow into something bigger. We were a happy, super cute couple. And all of a sudden, it comes crashing down. I spent friday night at her place, we woke up, fooled around as usual, and took a shower together. The past few days she always pushed me away when I went to try and finger her, and I didn't think anything of it, I just assumed that she didn't want to at that moment or perhaps was on her period. After we get out of the shower, we start messing around again and I eventually go for it again, when she calmly stops me and tells me that she's not comfortable with it anymore, that it's really overwhelming. And that got me a bit irritated. She had been OK with it for the better part of 2 months, and all of a sudden she springs it on me out of nowhere. Every time she flip-flopped on me, I ended up feeling like a huge dick and that I was tempting her into something terrible, like I was corrupting her, almost. Even though it's really more to do with her own indecisiveness and religious upbringing. I told her my concerns, that it really wasn't fair to keep changing your opinion on things, and that I had thought we had made so much progress and that she trusted me enough for that. I told her that no matter what happens she can't keep flip-flopping on me, that she has to make a firm decision. She agreed that it was unfair. And then I asked her if we would have to stop doing everything. And she said she would have to think about it. After about a day of deliberation, she decided that we would have to stop. Now, we both graduate in almost 2 years. And before this whole thing, I was completely, totally fine with the way things were indefinitely. Even without sex, I could make do if I could do physically intimate things with her. But now that she's taken all that off the table, on top of the fact that I'm restricted by not being able to do drugs if I want to, I just felt like I had become to restrained in the relationship. I was sacrificing a lot to be with her, and it just wasn't worth it in the long run. I'm a 19 year old man. I'm inexperienced with sexuality, and I really wanted to explore that with her, in a very honest way. I'm not just some horny teenager who wants to give his rocks off, I sincerely wanted to share myself with her, sexually. And if I had to wait to do that fully, fine, but if I can't express my feelings for her physically at all? I just think I would be miserable. I had a really great relationship with her. She taught me a lot. But it's not fair of her to ask me to withhold EVERYTHING physical until marriage, especially when the earliest we could do it is 2 years down the line. I want to love her without limit, and I know if I was limited in that regard I would be so miserable and tempted every time we got in bed together. I really, really, really did not want to break up with her. I cried more than I have in god know's how long. It was probably the hardest thing I've done in my life. But I did it because I believe it was the right thing. That we'll both be the happiest in the long run if we have the freedom to find someone who's relationship goals and paths match up with each others better. She deserves someone who can love her without compromising her ideals or tempting her, and I suppose I deserve someone who I can care for and love without limiting myself and my means of expression. Please tell me if I'm sane, guys. Please tell me I did the right thing, that I didn't just needlessly throw it all away, that I truly would be miserable and I was saving us both the trouble. I never wanted to hurt anyone. Least of all someone sweet and innocent like her.

You did the right thing. Relationships with someone whose morals and likes/dislikes vary as much as yours did with her - religious upbringing or otherwise - will always hit the eventual speed bump of what both of you want vs. what you need, no matter how cute or lovey-dovey the relationship is. You want sex, she doesn't (or couldn't make up her mind about it, anyway). Maybe she'll change and eventually become accepting of that sort of conduct. Maybe she won't. But it's healthier for both you AND her in the long run if you separate and go your own ways while she makes up her mind. Otherwise you may be waiting around for something that could very possibly never happen.

[QUOTE=Wealth + Taste;49599614] Now, we both graduate in almost 2 years. And before this whole thing, I was completely, totally fine with the way things were indefinitely. Even without sex, I could make do if I could do physically intimate things with her. But now that she's taken all that off the table, on top of the fact that I'm restricted by not being able to do drugs if I want to, I just felt like I had become to restrained in the relationship. I was sacrificing a lot to be with her, and it just wasn't worth it in the long run. I'm a 19 year old man. I'm inexperienced with sexuality, and I really wanted to explore that with her, in a very honest way. I'm not just some horny teenager who wants to give his rocks off, I sincerely wanted to share myself with her, sexually. And if I had to wait to do that fully, fine, but if I can't express my feelings for her physically at all? I just think I would be miserable. I had a really great relationship with her. She taught me a lot. But it's not fair of her to ask me to withhold EVERYTHING physical until marriage, especially when the earliest we could do it is 2 years down the line. I want to love her without limit, and I know if I was limited in that regard I would be so miserable and tempted every time we got in bed together. I really, really, really did not want to break up with her. I cried more than I have in god know's how long. It was probably the hardest thing I've done in my life. But I did it because I believe it was the right thing. That we'll both be the happiest in the long run if we have the freedom to find someone who's relationship goals and paths match up with each others better. She deserves someone who can love her without compromising her ideals or tempting her, and I suppose I deserve someone who I can care for and love without limiting myself and my means of expression. Please tell me if I'm sane, guys. Please tell me I did the right thing, that I didn't just needlessly throw it all away, that I truly would be miserable and I was saving us both the trouble. I never wanted to hurt anyone. Least of all someone sweet and innocent like her.[/QUOTE] You did everything right. I mean, the difficult part of ending a good relationship is acknowledging that her bad side actually eclipses her good side. And that good side is pretty much beyond saving. Saving/changing someone is tough, it's usually a worthless effort, I'm afraid. And if her Christian upbringing is the only reality she knows and she's too scared to take the red pill and see the big picture, then the change is only up to her. Truth is, for her to become more and more indecisive about sex with you, means that somehow you managed to plant that indecisiveness in her. Which means that she's starting to question if her beliefs are really worth putting in front of you. I think that's what's making her have that "hot & cold" behavior. In my understanding, part of her wants to try it, but another part of her is scared that it would trigger any moral consequence. I believe her parents may have put her under so much stress over that Christian upbringing that she may have started to see sex as something way more overwhelming than what it actually is. And it's going to be pretty difficult for her, even, I believe, after marriage, to feel less uncomfortable during sex. However, if you can't function like that, if you feel hindered by her prejudice towards sex, in the relationship, breaking up is a perfectly valid option. I too have been brought up in a Catholic Christian family, but even though my parents are a bit conservative about sex, like disapproving of having my gf's sleep with me or not being very keen on having my SO's in my room with the doors locked (and also giving me stern talks about how sex is a great responsibility and that they won't tolerate abortions), they have never prevented me from doing those things. I mean, they are pretty open to discussion and even though disapproving they won't do a thing to stop me or punish me. Usually people with that mindset are more of an Evangelic kind of Christian. I could never put my mind on how fundamentalist some people manage to be, and how usually they ruin their children's lives with such horrible rules.

you're fine it's better that you have a relationship with someone who feels the same as you rather than someone you feel guilty being yourself around so you made the right decision

Honestly, it was probably one of the better breakup scenarios that could have happened. There was no cheating, abuse, lying etc. it was just we had different ideas about what our relationship should be, and it turned out to be irreconcilable. I still care for her and everything, the only thing that happens now is we both grow as people, and eventually we'll find people even better for us. [editline]25th January 2016[/editline] Also, playing counter strike in my underwear has been a superb coping mechanism so far

I have a great story to tell and then need a little bit of advice at the end. Never done one of these so sorry if I mess up or anything.. I'll tell the whole story to give you a better idea of my situation/any experience is worth shared right? I'll warn you though.. it's really long.. Basically there's this girl Who we'll call B. B was with a scumbag boyfriend called A. A is a drug dealer and kept bumping people off. When people couldn't find A they'd threaten B cause they couldn't get him. B eventually asked A to sort his shit out and stop being a fuckwit and he didn't seem to care.. Eventually they broke up. However they still shared a flat. Me and B were talking at this point but nothing much was happening.. 3 weeks or so later, after an argument, B told A She could get him beat up if he keeps mistreating her. The argument escalates and B leaves to stay round a friends house. The next day 2 people that A was bumping off kicked the shit out of him. B knew he'd blame her and basically was really upset over Facebook and I asked what was up and agreed to meet her She comes over and explains everything eventually cries on my shoulder and all that. I talk to her about it and Invite her to come along and she stays a few nights. We make out and other stuff and 2 days we get together. She's my first girlfriend in like 5 years and she later became my first sexual partner.. A is still really pissed off with her still and she has nowhere to go so she moves in with me and my family. Eventually they put their differences aside and stay friends. and A goes after some other girl who lives nearby. She tells me she used to be an escort to get out of a bad situation and she doesn't do it anymore. To my knowledge that's true. Things are great for 5-6 weeks and then one day B notices the laptop she let A use is not in the flat. This laptop has Pictures of family that are no longer around and irreplaceable. B loses her shit and wants to go find A and kick the hell out of him. (B's had a really fucked up life and is pretty messed up, but I still love her and all that) B says she has a knife and she's gonna go do something bad and doesn't care what happens to her. I try and talk her out of it for over an hour and she doesn't care. I eventually tell her If she goes down that path I can't follow her.. She told me It's what she wants and If I'm going to break up with her about it, then Now's the time... So I did. I didn't want to, I hated myself for it and I still do, but I didn't know what else to do.. I couldn't call the Police because I didn't want her to get in trouble and I couldn't talk her out of it.. She storms out and down the path in angry tears. She luckily had an appointment with some kind of social/key worker before she set off to find A and she explains the situation and they call the police, Eventually she get's the laptop back.. She tells me she didn't do it but I still broke up with her and to remember that. 2 weeks later we meet up and agree to be friends etc and It's all okay until yesterday.. She tells me she want's to get back with A, the guy she only three weeks later wanted to stab/beat half to death who got her threatened etc. I Wanted to wait for a good opportunity but one never came up so I thought now or never and told her I still loved her. I explained how I hated myself for not being there for her when I promised I would be. That same day I found out She Is reactivating her account on the escorting site to try and get a place to live and for her little brother to stay, (Her mum wants to kick her little brother out on the street, even though he has like special needs and that kind of thing cause she's a bit of a cunt.) At the moment she's in some hostel and it's not great and she can't have him over not even for a night if he gets kicked out and made homeless.. So basically.. I still really care about and love B. B wants A (for some reason). A's already got a kid with someone and is in love with another girl he thinks he's knocked up. I want to ask B out and give it another shot and take care of her but I don't know If I can handle her being an Escort and screwing random people.. I know It's the only way she can help her brother and I can't move out to get a place with her or my family will lose the place we are in currently. So it's her only way of getting some good money to help her brother.. But I really love this girl and I'd do anything for her.. I'm sure you guys know It's hard to think clearly when it's your life and everything's all tits up, especially because I'm the majority of the time pretty drunk and/or on drugs because I don't know how else to deal with all this shit. Sorry for this being really long and I know alot of the details probably aren't that relevant but yeah.. Advice/Thoughts?

run and don't stop running

Omg get the hell away

Make like Usain Bolt and skedaddle with haste!

When you say 'bump off' do you mean kill? Or is that different in the UK. If so why are you dating and hanging around with literal murderers.

"Bump off" as In sell someone an amount of weed or other drug and give them less than what they paid for. Yeah I know it's a pretty messed up situation but She's got issues and I doubt was going to do anything but I was worried about her and that..

It's not your responsibility, don't get involved with murderers and shit drug dealers. Get way as soon as you can. Don't fuck up your own life to try and "fix" a fucked up situation. It's not worth it. To top it off, if you don't know if you can handle her being an escort, most probably you can't at all. Run man, plenty of fish in the sea.

so hey, the girl I posted about some time ago who just disappeared popped up again at one point. now she wants to meet me tomorrow. nice! I don't really feel anything special anymore since she has been absent for so long so I'm sort of neutral about meeting her, but we'll see if meeting her will spark it back up. I felt that we hit off really well the times I did see her, the chance that that happens again seems big. unfortunately the feelings for this other girl has come back which is far from ideal, and its made even worse when people suddenly tell me they have a suspicion that she likes me too. according to a guy who is a friend of her she has become really odd and distant as soon as I've been brought up, and when he had asked if she liked me she wouldn't give a proper answer and instead just get really uncomfortable. like two days ago she sent me a picture of her arm asking me if it was really thin, and I said yeah since I did find it thin. she sent me another picture asking something along the lines of "Really???? No way they're that thin" with her boob out. that's not normal of her?? I'm no stranger to getting pictures of her in her underwear when she's complaining about her weight, but nudity is new to me when it comes to her, especially when that nudity is far from necessary or relevant to the discussion at hand but yeah, I'm thinking too much again. I suppose I'll meet this girl tomorrow and see how that goes, don't have a lot of thoughts about that. not sure which one I'd really pick if it's actually true that both have feelings for me, but I'll have to wait and see how everything evolves.

[QUOTE=Viper1204;49610147]"Bump off" as In sell someone an amount of weed or other drug and give them less than what they paid for. Yeah I know it's a pretty messed up situation but She's got issues and I doubt was going to do anything but I was worried about her and that..[/QUOTE] Don't know which county you're from but "Bump off" in Norfolk and Midlands means kill lol.

[QUOTE=Viper1204;49610147]"Bump off" as In sell someone an amount of weed or other drug and give them less than what they paid for. Yeah I know it's a pretty messed up situation but She's got issues and I doubt was going to do anything but I was worried about her and that..[/QUOTE] Dude, I read your story and live in a city where there's hoods and shit and that stuff happens a lot. I join my voice to other's her. Get out of that relationship. You don't need to cut contact or anything, it's totally ok to stay friends, but don't you invest feelings in her. She's gonna do what she's gonna do for herself, and if you're going to invest your heart on her, she's gonna break it.

[QUOTE=Viper1204;49610147]"Bump off" as In sell someone an amount of weed or other drug and give them less than what they paid for. Yeah I know it's a pretty messed up situation but She's got issues and I doubt was going to do anything but I was worried about her and that..[/QUOTE] stay the fuck out of it, you seem smart enough to already know that, but honestly the best advice is to just not be in a relationship. Keep contact but even I would do that on a minimal basis Honestly this is a good time to start "fading away" (a.k.a, slowly but surely disappear from her life on social media)

I've been pretty much answering to every tutor/clerk/factory operator/salesman vacancy I can find, hell I'm even printing up a bunch of CV's and talking to managers and leaving em there. I keep receiving calls, people usually ask me if a) I'm young. (which says in my fucking resume, thanks for reading). And b) If I have any experience. For example, I got a call today from a tutoring center (parents invest a lot in tutoring for their kids to get good grades for college here, so there are a lot of people in the tutoring business), they asked me if I had any experience in Math, which I do - completed all the calculus subjects from 1 to 4. They tell me "we were looking for someone with a lot more experience than that, like a certified teacher (which is illegal by the way, not to say immoral as fuck because teacher's are suppose to have tutoring sessions at school and not making it a business, but hey, gotta impress the paying parents, right)" and I'm like "But I have 3 years of experience in studying these subjects. The kind of math your students are studying for is pretty much the basis of all my Calculus students." And they said "ok, we'll keep your CV here and we'll contact you soon." and hang up. I hate this shit. Everyone wants young people with experience. Don't people realize young usually means inexperienced? At least they could have given me an interview, I live 5 minutes away from the place. Humph.

ok, heres a weird one that I may have said before, but I dont remember in my previous semester, there were meetings for my dorm building, about 20 people would actually go. For reasons too pointless to explain, I brought a pack of oreos to share every time, despite not being asked to. I went for the first 5-6 of these meetings, and didnt really befriend anyone there, or learn their names. Everyone seemed to know me as the odd quiet guy who keeps bringing oreos for some reason, but we got along nicely. Everyone enjoyed the oreos too. Eventually I stopped going out of boredom, plus the meetings were at 9:00 and I never felt like going, I had no friends there. So then nothing, until a few weeks later. It was early nightfall, and the firealarm goes off. Turns out some moron managed to burn popcorn or something. anyways, all the students were outside, and I was minding my own business, talking to no one. So, this group of girls (that lives in the suite room opposite of mine, I figure this out later) are on the side talking, and I pay zero attention to them, I don't know any of them. when one of the girls (lets call her A) calls me over by name to join in the conversation. I join in on the group talk, and I dont remember what was said, but I remember it was pretty casual and I said some stuff they found funny. Eventually the fire alarm stopped, and we went inside, each of us their own ways. I thought nothing of this, I just assumed that they were kind enough to let a guy who seemed alone to join in on some chit chat. Fast forward a bit, it was toward the end of semester. there was free ice cream being given out at my dorm, so of course I go there to get some (and I brought oreos too to share of course). Once again, im minding my own business, when A calls me over again, this time on her own. She asks me to come to the next dorm meeting on Tuesday night. I notice that she is being almost awkward with me, not really looking in my eye, hints like that. I pretend not to notice and happily say that I will come, to which she was happy. we both left our separate ways. when the meeting came around, She was sitting in the corner on her phone, ignoring pretty much everyone, and she left early. I was too shy to say anything but "hi" and "bye" to her. That was the last meeting of the semester. there were 2 other minor times I met her on campus. I am led to believe that she may like me, but I could very well be wrong. In all honesty, I feel bad because I actually dont know her name. winter break came, lasted over a month, and here I am back in school, I havent saw her at all. The first meeting is tonight, I am planning on going and seeing if she is there (ill stick around even if she isnt, I have to socialize more anyways). And of course, I will bring oreos. and now for my dumb question. How do I ask someone like this for their name? I have a problem with remembering things like this all the time.

Thanks for the advice guys.. I know it probably sounds dumb to even have any idea of staying around this shit but yeah.. I'll see how it plays out and probably get out I guess.. Cheers guys...