Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

[QUOTE=da space core;49611787]ok, heres a weird one that I may have said before, but I dont remember in my previous semester, there were meetings for my dorm building, about 20 people would actually go. For reasons too pointless to explain, I brought a pack of oreos to share every time, despite not being asked to. I went for the first 5-6 of these meetings, and didnt really befriend anyone there, or learn their names. Everyone seemed to know me as the odd quiet guy who keeps bringing oreos for some reason, but we got along nicely. Everyone enjoyed the oreos too. Eventually I stopped going out of boredom, plus the meetings were at 9:00 and I never felt like going, I had no friends there. So then nothing, until a few weeks later. It was early nightfall, and the firealarm goes off. Turns out some moron managed to burn popcorn or something. anyways, all the students were outside, and I was minding my own business, talking to no one. So, this group of girls (that lives in the suite room opposite of mine, I figure this out later) are on the side talking, and I pay zero attention to them, I don't know any of them. when one of the girls (lets call her A) calls me over by name to join in the conversation. I join in on the group talk, and I dont remember what was said, but I remember it was pretty casual and I said some stuff they found funny. Eventually the fire alarm stopped, and we went inside, each of us their own ways. I thought nothing of this, I just assumed that they were kind enough to let a guy who seemed alone to join in on some chit chat. Fast forward a bit, it was toward the end of semester. there was free ice cream being given out at my dorm, so of course I go there to get some (and I brought oreos too to share of course). Once again, im minding my own business, when A calls me over again, this time on her own. She asks me to come to the next dorm meeting on Tuesday night. I notice that she is being almost awkward with me, not really looking in my eye, hints like that. I pretend not to notice and happily say that I will come, to which she was happy. we both left our separate ways. when the meeting came around, She was sitting in the corner on her phone, ignoring pretty much everyone, and she left early. I was too shy to say anything but "hi" and "bye" to her. That was the last meeting of the semester. there were 2 other minor times I met her on campus. I am led to believe that she may like me, but I could very well be wrong. In all honesty, I feel bad because I actually dont know her name. winter break came, lasted over a month, and here I am back in school, I havent saw her at all. The first meeting is tonight, I am planning on going and seeing if she is there (ill stick around even if she isnt, I have to socialize more anyways). And of course, I will bring oreos. and now for my dumb question. How do I ask someone like this for their name? I have a problem with remembering things like this all the time.[/QUOTE] Ok, so this lady sounds a lot like me. Most likely, she wants to talk to you, but can't get up the courage outside of the odd neutral/platonic question. It's pretty normal to ask a guy if he was going to dorm meeting, but from there it can be...Overwhelming. At this point, she's dearly hoping you'll strike up a conversation. Worst outcome: She just wants a friend Best outcome: She finds you potentially attractive and future relationship prospect. Introduce yourself. Act like she won't remember your name (she probably will) and hopefully she'll introduce herself. She's probably on her phone ignoring the world because it's a distraction and makes you look above it all (I do this too, because I'm shy as fuck.) Ask if she wants an oreo.

she just after your oreos bro

[QUOTE=cricket50;49613273]she just after your oreos bro[/QUOTE] ask her to oreos and chill

Hello. I've recently run into a major life decision and I'd like some outside advice/opinions. Let me start this off by stating that I'm 15 (a sophomore in high school) and that I am a computer programmer. I suppose I'm one of the "lucky ones" who found their interest/career early in education. I currently attend college classes at the local university through an early-college high school, but I take classes half of each day at the local public high school. It has come time for me to register for junior year of high school, and I'm facing a decision. The high school doesn't have extremely strict graduation requirements, just a few specific classes and credit totals. Through college courses, I can easily obtain the credit requirements, and I've already started taking those specific required classes online, of which there are only 4. That being said, I have the option now to take 0 classes at the public high school and only take college classes. Now, the benefits of this are obvious: I can graduate from the university much quicker than the rest of my class group (Bachelor's at ~19). However, I have poor social experience and fear that by making the decision to not take classes at the public high school I will kill off whatever chances I had at improving and meeting people (not that I've done much of that thus far! There's this girl... who I haven't even talked to, and I'm not sure how to approach her, blah blah), especially as a computer science student. Another factor here is that I have no idea if I should pursue further education (masters degree+) after getting a degree from this school or search for a local job in the field or intern at some large company, so I don't even know how important this degree will be to me. The university isn't a well-established CS school, but isn't a no-name either. If any of you are or know a programmer and what decisions or opportunities they had I would appreciate the info. I have 4 peers who are also facing this decision, and so far 1 has decided to take only college courses, 1 has decided to take some college courses and some high school electives, and 2 are undecided like me. Thanks in advance for any responses.

College is fine for social practice and communication and is probably honestly BETTER for you than high school would be. You skip the immature name calling, bullying, and drama in favor of something a little less asinine. As long as you're taking classes on campus, anyway. Don't worry about a master's degree. Take it a step at a time. If you start focusing too far ahead, you lose sight of what you're doing right now. You're SUPER ahead of people your age which is excellent. Just focus on your diploma and then your bachelor's, if that's what you wanna do. I wouldn't jump to the master's level until you're absolutely certain. And it's quite possible that you'll make that decision in the process of getting your bachelor's. There's a lot going on for you, but you're in a good place! Don't mess yourself up by piling the degree plans on before you're even at that point.

college is the best thing that has ever happened to me and if i could go back in time and skip out on highschool just to go straight to college i would do it there's a saying that a lot of high school friends will disappear afterwards, but college friends stay with you forever i floated around friend groups in hs, because you are stuck with what you get, but in college you meet people you truly share interests with

College is about what make of it too, in that it offers you the chances to go further into your favorite fields than you would have thought possible. The classes you take in the first few years will make you loads better at learning and build a solid base for self-learning. Make sure to grt involved with your college, as in finding a club you enjoy and getting to know professors that are in your field (or those that interest you). Going to office hours and building a relationship with your professors is generally smart, as it builds connections, helps you academically, and lets you possibly see some of the research process. I love college, and it's so much better than Hs for me even if I take out the whole ADHD being treated thing. I've gotten the chance to take some great classes and meet some awesome people, so I can't recommend it enough. Just make sure to make the best of it, as that does fall on you in the end.

I would say the same thing. If you surround yourself with people of similar interests, goals and ambitions - things usually turn out pretty good. Good luck!

So I posted it in What are you thinking, but it'll be more relevant here: WORD OF ADVICE, DON'T TRAVEL FOR A FRIEND (Situation varies) Either I'm just born with bad luck, or things had taken for a worst. I came back to Sweden recently after a fucking terrible episode in America, where my friend seems depressed, and I flew over to help her out. So the backstory is, that she's from Japan, and I met her in person from couchsurfing. We became pretty close friends, and chatted quite a bit. She had to go to California for a work trip, but her other hidden agenda was to go after her crush. She's 26, he's 22, but she's been having a crush on him for the last 6 years. She started feeling depressed when he doesn't seem to love her back as much as she does. I saw that the flight tickets wasn't too expensive, and that I had a free place to stay at the hotel she stay at, and I decided to make the foolish decision of flying over to help her. Fast forward, I arrive in LA, California. After more than 12 hours of flying, I reached the hotel. The first thing I saw was that she's with another friend. Right before I could put my bag down, I was told that we will be heading to her temple. Foolishly, I agreed, since I respect all my friend's religions, I thought it won't be much of a hassle. Dropped my bags off in the room, head off in their car. Once I arrived, I suddenly had a bad feeling. Turns out, the bad feeling was right. Her religion is Nichiren Buddhism, a sect of Buddhism in Japan. First thing they ask, is that I convert to their religion. They hunker me down like vultures, with only me being stuck. The priest was hovering around me. The pressure was immense, like nothing I ever felt. I was seriously scared as fuck. But I did signed, hoping to have it end as soon as I can. And the fucking ceremony felt like the scene from Temple of Doom, Indiana Jones. I had to chant constantly, and its literally fucking tiring on your mouth. After about 30 mins or so, I had to walk in the middle, get my head tapped by some high priest, and then head back. It ended, had to listen to some guy giving a success story speech how it was right over Christianity. Then a photo taking, then walked out, a few folks congratulated me on my ceremony. Then my friend decided, okay, let's go to a temple meeting tomorrow night! I didn't think much about that aside from wanting to sleep. The next morning, her friend decided to pick us up, bought us to the observatory. That was nice, her friend was less crazy, and is a really interesting person. Afterwards, had lunch and then went to that temple meeting. The temple meeting felt even worse. The atmosphere was literally like a cult, save for the heart sacrifices. I had to sit at the very front and chant, and it went on for like forever. When I did it softer to save my voice, this other woman was staring at me. THE WHOLE FUCKING TIME. It didn't felt like Buddhism at all. I have relatives who are Buddhist, and I had read about buddhism, but it was nothing of this level. Afterwards, they invited a few Japanese priest over, and then they chanted as well. Afterwards, they had a open Q&A session. 2 of the priests mentioned some really ear catching things, number 1, that he feels proud when he heard the story of a family selling their home, and ALL FAMILY POSSESSIONS just to visit the head temple in Japan. Another one said he can understand how difficult it was to be in a christian majority country. Afterwards, it was dinner, but I didn't had the appetite to eat anything. We head back, but my friend started complaining about stomach pain. The driver tried sourcing for medication for her, but she refused, instead, getting out of the car to find her crush. At this point, I just think its insane for her to do such a thing. But I didn't stop her. I head back to the hotel, and luckily, this other guy I met on couchsurfing is planning to visit my country, and remembered he lives in LA, so I contacted him. Bought me to In and out, as well as to have a beer. It made me felt better. I went back to the hotel at about 2am, and at about 2:30am, heard banging outside. I opened the door, and find her, drunk as hell, and with a Japanese guy beside her. He tells me 'she's drunk' and I could see that. I bought her to her bed, and tries to understand what the fuck is going on. She simply keeps saying that she loves him, and just kept crying. This went on for about 2 minutes, and then she went out on her own, and I tried looking for her, but couldn't find her anywhere, I said fuck it, went to the room and just sat. I couldn't sleep the whole time. She came back at about 5am, and immediately went to sleep. The next morning, I told her, 'You can't possibly make me come all the way here for you and drag me into your personal problem and not tell me a single thing.' She said, I broke up with him. And started crying. Sweet fucking jesus, she didn't even date him once, and she is just madly in love with him for 6 years! I didn't had any energy to argue, and after she got done, she asked me if I could join her. Stupidly, I decided to, and my god, her cousin, her niece picked me and her up, and they went to the places I had zero interest in. Hollywood boulevard and Beverly hills. I had zero interest in that celeb culture bullshit and it felt nauseating. Paparazzi was all around, fucking chinese tourists with selfie sticks, young folks giving out rap/hiphop CDs for free then asking for tips in return. And I have no idea why the fuck they went to Beverly hills, all they did was take photos in front of LV, Chanel and Prada shops. Jesus fucking christ. The night came, she went to her fucking temple (I swear she's going to her temple more than visiting the country) I used the excuse of not getting any sleep to go back to the hotel. The next morning, I told her, 'You wanted me here, but you didn't need me here' and she didn't understand. She just kept going on about how she needed to deal with her problems and how I can't help her. I have zero energy to argue with her, so we headed for LA airport to San Francisco. I hosted a guy living in SF previously in my country, so now he's letting me stay as well. She told him that she is in SF for 2 nights, first at his place, second at another friend's. He didn't understand why she needed to jump 2 places, but she told him she can't host for the first night. He said okay, fine. Then we went to his place, he went to sleep, I went to the sofa to use my phone, and she used the bathroom. At about 1am, she came running out and tapped me. I had no idea what the fuck was going on. She asked me to go to the bathroom, and HOLY FUCK SHE CHOKED THE WHOLE FUCKING TOILET BOWL. THE WATER OVERFILLED THE DAMN BATHROOM, AND CAME GUSHING OUT ON THE CARPET. Jesus, its like being in a really bad Adam Sandler movie in real life. And I had to clean up all the shit for her. She just kept using the paper towels till it ran out. I had to throw the waste, but I had to be out on my own. Went out of the garage to do it, and then, fuck, the door was locked. Took about an hour before she came down to open the door. The next day, I told my friend what happened, and he just shrugged it off, out of politeness. I went out with her again, and she drove me to her other fucking temple in SF. At this point, I am just going with the flow, since she will get off the next day. Boy, did I endured. Afterwards, we head out to Napa valley to have some wine. That was a relief. Then they head back to the damn temple again. I regret not drinking enough that I was only tipsy. Had to go through it for another round. And then, come evening, she invited my friend to dinner with her friends. I was hoping it'll be friends from SF, but NOPE, same temple people. At this point, all I cared was free food. The food was good, but holy hell, did my friend found out the reason she stay for the first night and asked him to come. The crowd tried to convert my friend to their religion on the spot as well. He was quite defensive, so they just stopped after a while. The people there seem to have rather deep personal problems, bipolar, suicidal tendencies, but instead of seeking professional help, they turn to this religion. And then it was late, and my friend quickly excused himself to go back, and I joined him. Said a last goodbye, and finally fucked off. She flew off next morning, and I was fucking glad to be with my friend for a few days. He was the silver lining for the trip, otherwise I wouldn't know how I could had survived.

Your friend is pretty wack, dude.

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;49595811]huh so this has been a...weird...couple of days. so on wednesday i went to get dinner with the girl i've liked for a while and it was great and conversation was free flowing and stuff so it was neat and when i took her back home before she got out of the car i asked her out but all of my charm and general suave went out the fucking window so it kind of came out like "uh hey so uh i don't know if you're busy but uh would you want to like *cough* uh go out some time or something? with me, i mean" and she was like "YEAH" and it was kind of loud and surprised me and then she said "dude it's about time" which was also weird so anyway we went out tonight and grabbed dinner at like 6 and she was like "i'm so glad you asked but also was surprised because i definitely thought you friendzoned me and i was sad for like six months" so after like five minutes of processing that i was like "...what" and then that led to a weird conversation that was actually super great and then we went to go play minigolf in the rain where she soundly destroyed me (tbh it was pathetic) and then when we were done we went up to a mountain thingy by our school where there are a lot of like benches and overviews and shit and it was pretty and also cold and in what was by far my smoothest move of the night once we were on the bench i just said "YAWN" and put my arm around her shoulder (feel free to steal that one) anyway we ended up staying up there for like five hours which was a questionable decision but anyway it all went really well and we clearly like each other very much so we're gonna go out again as soon as possible, provided she is not already sick of me and also at one point i was like "i was so nervous and worried about it that i'm kind of surprised you said yes" and she was like "it's fine i thought it was adorable" so anyway just be yourself and eventually something will work out and you'll bumble your way into things[/QUOTE] hi hello just an update i guess i dont really know how this works or if there's a process or a form we need to fill out but otherwise we're officially dating now? im not sure when that becomes official or if i need a notary or something

So there's this girl I like, we're going to a big band cabaret the day before valentine's day with friends. I'm not sure if I should ask her out before hand so the dance can be a date sorta or if I should just see how it goes that day. On top of that I really want to get her something cheesy (like a card and chocolate), but intuition tells me it's a bad idea and will just kinda blow up in my face.

Holy shit that temple story, what a nutjob

[QUOTE=Pascall;49640523]Your friend is pretty wack, dude.[/QUOTE] No longer friends.

You know. Those Cults don't just let people walk like that. Watch out for the ninjas for the rest of your life, bro.

had a spectacular 4-hour-long second date with an incredible girl on saturday sent her a "hey last night was great we should do that again"-style thing on sunday afternoon, she didn't respond, and it's taking every once of willpower not to send her another text

[QUOTE=Sector 7;49653994]had a spectacular 4-hour-long second date with an incredible girl on saturday sent her a "hey last night was great we should do that again"-style thing on sunday afternoon, she didn't respond, and it's taking every once of willpower not to send her another text[/QUOTE] STAND STRONG you can do it c: wait another day or two at least?

The sad thing is, is that if she was really interested in the date, she would respond asap. My mate would get hung up on after-date texts and just wait for weeks on a response and come up with scenarios why she hasn't responded. But the truth in the matter was, they went on the date, enjoyed it, got their meal paid for and that was it for them. A nice free meal and chat.

Sooo, a little more than a month ago I met this girl on kind of ceremony (Sorry, I don't know the right word) for all students that got a perfect grade on the admission test for chilean universities. We talked a bit, exchanged names and that stuff. I added her on facebook and a few days after that we talked and knew each other a bit more, and she seems like a very interesting person and she even flirted a bit (Or it was a joke, I dunno) So the second time we chatted she told me we wouldn't talk in a long time because she is going on vacations, and she didn't told me when she will be back but told me that she would talk to me as soon as she came back. So my question is. When is it okay to ask her out on a date? As soon as she came back? should I wait? Note that classes start on march and I don't know how busy she and I will be. Also, what would be a good place? Ice skating would be too compromising?

Just ask her whenever she comes back. Ice skating is an okay first date as far as I can tell. Don't overthink it too much. Go somewhere to have fun, not because you have a list of expectations that a "date" has to meet.

So I've been broken up with my gf for quite awhile (3 year relationship); we reunited last summer and became fwb (probably a bad idea because it was truly more than fwb imo, it was like we were back together again). We broke it off when we both went back to school and didn't talk at all until recently (it's been about 5 months since we went back to school). We caught up and I found out she just started dating another guy. So this really fucks me up because I really can't help but become jealous about it as I feel that I honestly still love her. I talked to her about "us" and she had said that we're each other's firsts and that she'd always love me, but she's just trying to move on. And that this new guy makes her feel happy. They met only last month and started dating for less than a month as well. So I felt it was just pure infatuation, but who knows.. it's really not my business and I shouldn't care at all and if anything I should be happy for her, right? But it still fucks me up emotionally. Especially when a close friend of hers as well as mine mentioned to me that they're going to meet up during Valentines weekend (This is shit I shouldn't even know, idk why she tells me). I try to get my mind off it by playing games, hanging with friends and also trying to just talk to girls (moreso with the intention to just be friends with them). However I feel like I'm awkward as hell and I just don't know how to keep up a conversation let alone start one.

So, I don't have much of a dating history. Dating wasn't something I had much interest in doing. I had one girlfriend out of high school after I graduated but we didn't see each other much due to conflicting schedules. Not too long ago last week I manned up enough to give a girl my number when I was working in a area on a jobsite. She texted me after she got out of work an hour later(woo!) she had work in the morning and school at night and if she wasn't doing one of those she was babysitting her nephew and nieces, hard working girl who loves her family; nice, who can't respect that? Now I'm not experienced in small talk so eventually we meet at a nearby Starbucks to talk over coffee. We had one or two things in common and contrasted in a few areas. She spent a lot of time with family, went to the gym, had a garden. Neither of us liked sports that much and although we agreed fishing is long and boring I like it because I can spend time with my father. Some awkward moments of silence since we were both more of listeners then talkers. Eventually we split ways that night because we had things to do. Week later, I text her asking for another meetup. No response for six hours. "Well shit, guess I wasn't interesting enough." Sent a text saying if shes busy I won't bother her. An hour later I woke up from a short nap to see a text from her, she said she was sick that day and couldn't respond and that she was thinking we wouldn't go well together and that we shouldn't see other anymore. Now I felt like a piece of shit. Texted her okay, I understand and that I hope she feels better soon. I stopped going into the shop she worked at for lunch while I'm still working in the area since that was the only time I had to meet with her person during the week. Two things were on my mind; is it possible for someone to decide if two people won't go well together after one talk over coffee and did I come off as too pushy with that text that I won't trouble her? I need answers for those two just so I can get it all out of my mind. For some reason, compared to other girls there was something that really pulled me to this one. I'm not going to say maybe she was the "The One" because that would sound inane, but I'm guessing it was the sexual attraction for her I felt because damn girl, she went to the gym and could squat 210 and had a huge killer booty. The first girl I really felt that attraction for since all the girls in my high school were really small except for one girl that was already taken.

Sometimes, people can tell when they just don't click. It's not that she suddenly realized that "wow this guy isn't my soulmate". It's probably just that they aren't interested or they didn't feel like the conversation flowed or went well, or maybe they just decided that you weren't really their type after a conversation. Your text wasn't pushy. Was fine. Overall, it just seems like a standard "nah maybe not". I think you're reading too much into it.

This is kinda out of nowhere, but does anyone else in this thread keep a journal, or something like that? I do a thing that's a lot like that "write angry letter and don't send them" exercise, except it's usually not even angry letters. I just secretly write to my friends and people about the time we spend together and stuff I'm going through. For some reason it feels more focused to write it like I'm addressing somebody. It's really good for telling people stuff I don't think I could say to their face (sometimes that does mean an angry letter) or just talking about something that I think would be too heavy to bring up at any old time in a face-to-face meeting. It's just been extremely helpful to me, I highly recommend it to everyone. Sometimes it really feels like it's keeping my life together, and it helps me learn so much about myself. I feel like it's doing wonders for my mental and emotional health. And I see a lot of ways that I've changed for the better over weeks or months.

I blog. It helps.

Girl who I like started giving me rides to, and sometimes from, university. Conversation is good, occasionally quiets down a bit but never feels awkward. Hung out once when she wasn't busy, was good. Couple of other times she had a friend or something planned to hang out, but she did say she would've rather hung out with me. I am emotionally stupid so I have no clue if she likes me. Gonna give her a card thursday before valentines day that says basically "You're smart, gorgeous, and cool. Thanks for all the rides and good company thus far. Happy Valentines day." and some like 6 dollar purdies chocolate (the kind that comes in a wrapper) taped on. Too much?

So it's probably stupid of me again; but I just keep talking to my ex. Today she said we should probably stop talking because she thinks that us having conversations gives me hope. Which in reality, sort of does. But it's just pretty hard because I literally have no one else to talk to. It was probably also dumb of me to mention that I pretty much told her I still have feelings for her. Despite not dating other girls at all, I felt that after a few months with absolutely no contact at all, I realized that I love her a lot. I honestly don't know what to do right now. :suicide:

[QUOTE=Zenreon117;49679861]Girl who I like started giving me rides to, and sometimes from, university. Conversation is good, occasionally quiets down a bit but never feels awkward. Hung out once when she wasn't busy, was good. Couple of other times she had a friend or something planned to hang out, but she did say she would've rather hung out with me. I am emotionally stupid so I have no clue if she likes me. Gonna give her a card thursday before valentines day that says basically "You're smart, gorgeous, and cool. Thanks for all the rides and good company thus far. Happy Valentines day." and some like 6 dollar purdies chocolate (the kind that comes in a wrapper) taped on. Too much?[/QUOTE] nah thats fine friends give each other gifts like that all the time

[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;49680026]nah thats fine friends give each other gifts like that all the time[/QUOTE] Trouble is I'd like to be more than friends - ask her out, but I don't wanna fuck up the cool thing we have going. Do I just say nothing and let things take their course? [editline]5th February 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=PenguinKris;49679991]So it's probably stupid of me again; but I just keep talking to my ex. Today she said we should probably stop talking because she thinks that us having conversations gives me hope. Which in reality, sort of does. But it's just pretty hard because I literally have no one else to talk to. It was probably also dumb of me to mention that I pretty much told her I still have feelings for her. Despite not dating other girls at all, I felt that after a few months with absolutely no contact at all, I realized that I love her a lot. I honestly don't know what to do right now. :suicide:[/QUOTE] I've been there. How I got through it was by looking at my attraction to her as some foreign thing that I have to deal with. I'd let it come, pass, and I talked to her about it. She kinda took a shitty route by actually giving me some hope at one point, sending me pictures and shit, so if anything you should be grateful that your ex isn't doing the same. Just look at it reasonably and try your best to go out and meet new people, even if it's just talking. Lastly, there is nothing wrong with loving her. Just be sure to seperate that from wanting to fuck her/keeping her for yourself. Basically, recognize that it's there, but also recognize that the person that was in that relationship no longer exists. Who you are is coloured by it, but not entirely determined. You just need to take that as part of your life and go on taking care of yourself. Unfortunately you can't force love so the most you can do is just not put yourself and her in a position where you might hurt eachother. Getting out and meeting people sucks, I know. I'm one of the most hard-line introverts I know, probably because introverts rarely go out to meet eachother. Just try to get an activity or something where you will have chances to shift your social life off the shoulders of this girl.

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;49678999]This is kinda out of nowhere, but does anyone else in this thread keep a journal, or something like that? I do a thing that's a lot like that "write angry letter and don't send them" exercise, except it's usually not even angry letters. I just secretly write to my friends and people about the time we spend together and stuff I'm going through. For some reason it feels more focused to write it like I'm addressing somebody. It's really good for telling people stuff I don't think I could say to their face (sometimes that does mean an angry letter) or just talking about something that I think would be too heavy to bring up at any old time in a face-to-face meeting. It's just been extremely helpful to me, I highly recommend it to everyone. Sometimes it really feels like it's keeping my life together, and it helps me learn so much about myself. I feel like it's doing wonders for my mental and emotional health. And I see a lot of ways that I've changed for the better over weeks or months.[/QUOTE] My counselor encouraged me to start writing mindfulness journals. It helps a lot in resolving inner conflict and figuring out what's causing your emotions.