Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

[QUOTE=Harry3;48634763]Yeah its normal, my friend just came back from a holiday in Milan for a week by herself, and shes got plenty of friends she could have gone with. Snowboarding alone is often better by yourself than with a group as you arent held back by skill differences and you can just go where you want when you want. People go travelling by themselves all the time, in about 4 weeks Im due to fly out to Canada by myself for minimum 6 months. Got a 2 year working visa. Youve got 3 weeks holiday, might as well make the most of it and not waste it sitting at home. [editline]7th September 2015[/editline] Dating apps?[/QUOTE] I've been trying to set up tinder for the past [B]two weeks[/B] It wont accept my phone number and gives me an SMS error message everytime I enter it, I've tried a friend's number and it dosen't work. I had previously tried OK cupid and POF out of desperation and all I was getting were ugly fat people. (I had been on POF and OK Cupid for about three months with no luck) I got nudes from one hot girl without asking but she expected me to send nudes back right away and I wasn't comfortable with how fast it was all going, I would have been but she was wayyy too far away and her account seemed sketchy. It wouldn't have been a good hookup anyhow considering she was states away and I don't have transportation.

[QUOTE=IJNOMED;48634789]I've been trying to set up tinder for the past [B]two weeks[/B] It wont accept my phone number and gives me an SMS error message everytime I enter it, I've tried a friend's number and it dosen't work. I had previously tried OK cupid and POF out of desperation and all I was getting were ugly fat people. (I had been on POF and OK Cupid for about three months with no luck) I got nudes from one hot girl without asking but she expected me to send nudes back right away and I wasn't comfortable with how fast it was all going, I would have been but she was wayyy too far away and her account seemed sketchy. It wouldn't have been a good hookup anyhow considering she was states away and I don't have transportation.[/QUOTE] Got scared there for a sec, lost track of context of quoting, thought you are suggesting me to use dating apps to find someone to go on holiday with.

[QUOTE=arleitiss;48634851]Got scared there for a sec, lost track of context of quoting, thought you are suggesting me to use dating apps to find someone to go on holiday with.[/QUOTE] Nah son, I was talking about my godawful experience with tinder and other dating sites. srry bout dat

[QUOTE=arleitiss;48634656]This is low priority problem, could be labeled as "#thirdworldproblems" but still.. Turns out I need to take holidays for 3 weeks at work because I have 3 weeks of holidays available. They expire next year (december-january) and they don't carry over to next year or compensate in any way. None of my friends plan to go on holidays, the ones that do - only love hot and warm countries, I hate warm and hot countries. I want to go somewhere where there is northern lights, relaxed atmosphere, snow, snowboarding etc.. Is it normal for someone to go alone on such holiday or is it boring usually?[/QUOTE] Depends exactly what you're doing but if you enjoy your own company you can have plenty of good times snowboarding by yourself - so long as you enjoy the actual boarding more than the social side of the holiday (which is the real reason most people go) I very much enjoy taking myself off into the lakes or scotland for a handful of days hiking/climbing alone!

Seriously thou I'm really angry at the LGBTQ (whatever its called) community for being so terribad and full of gross sjw's and fat people. :'( Maybe it's just the particular area I'm in but there are ZERO hot girls, or decent girls for that matter... and IF ONLY tinder would work for me maybe that would help out a little. What do I do??

[QUOTE=metallics;48633086]This is going to sound incredibly harsh, but you're wasting your time and giving her an excuse to walk all over you. She's not coming back.[/QUOTE] And what is it exactly that l'm doing? All l did was draw my line in the sand so she can understand clearly what my limit is. I just did that and started moving on. [editline]8th September 2015[/editline] [QUOTE=Kabstrac;48633071]you shouldn't endure this for the sake of "history" together. How she is acting now is what matters. She's clearly not being loyal now[/QUOTE] Of course not. But l'm not exactly putting my life on hold for her return either.

[QUOTE=IJNOMED;48635262]Seriously thou I'm really angry at the LGBTQ (whatever its called) community for being so terribad and full of gross sjw's and fat people. :'( Maybe it's just the particular area I'm in but there are ZERO hot girls, or decent girls for that matter... and IF ONLY tinder would work for me maybe that would help out a little. What do I do??[/QUOTE] Not exactly my area of expertise, but have you tried gay bars/local LGBT communities? [editline]7th September 2015[/editline] [QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;48635421]And what is it exactly that l'm doing? All l did was draw my line in the sand so she can understand clearly what my limit is. I just did that and started moving on.[/QUOTE] You "drew your line in the sand" and then completely ignored it by putting the choice of what happens next in her hands. You can't seriously come in here and say you're not inconveniencing yourself at all with your decision making when you just wrote a short novel about a page ago about how distraught you are by having to wait for her to make a choice.

So really what do you want me to do then? You're just criticizing my way of acting? It's pretty simple actually - The choice of what happens next for me is well within my hands. I'm moving on. For her, I just told her how it would worked for me. That I was moving on and the clock is ticking for her and she could lose me for good walking all over me like that. Seriously, tell me what the hell am I doing wrong then?

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;48635860]So really what do you want me to do then? You're just criticizing my way of acting? It's pretty simple actually - The choice of what happens next for me is well within my hands. I'm moving on. For her, I just told her how it would worked for me. That I was moving on and the clock is ticking for her and she could lose me for good walking all over me like that. Seriously, tell me what the hell am I doing wrong then?[/QUOTE] she's fucking another guy the relationship is over you're the one trying to hang onto it

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;48631555]For some reason l'm not getting my hopes on. Every day for me is one step closer to moving on for good. I didn't pressure her but she needs to hurry the fuck up.[/QUOTE] If you had already made your decision then why are you sitting around waiting for her? Everyone in this thread is telling you the same thing so I won't keep repeating myself, but I advise you don't sass the people who went to the trouble of reading your post.

[QUOTE=LordCrypto;48635870]she's fucking another guy the relationship is over you're the one trying to hang onto it[/QUOTE] Don't you think I know that? I just acted based on the advice posted here. My only problem with her is the fact that she texted me saying she has growing feelings for me and that everything reminds her of me, and she misses me. Sending me pictures of music albums we'd listen together, giving me false hopes. That's where I drew the line in the sand, telling her to cut off the crap and act if she really wanted something from me, otherwise stop. What's so unreasonable and hard to understand about this? I want to move on, but she tell me crap like this. I had to tell her to stop giving me false hopes. That if she wanted me she should act and stop with the pretty cliche talk. Otherwise I'm gone. That's it. I haven't spoken to her since, nor seen her since, nor heard from her since. and I'm glad I didn't.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;48635910]Don't you think I know that? I just acted based on the advice posted here. My only problem with her is the fact that she texted me saying she has growing feelings for me and that everything reminds her of me, and she misses me. Sending me pictures of music albums we'd listen together, giving me false hopes. That's where I drew the line in the sand, telling her to cut off the crap and act if she really wanted something from me, otherwise stop. What's so unreasonable and hard to understand about this? [B]I want to move on, but she tell me crap like this. I had to tell her to stop giving me false hopes. That if she wanted me she should act and stop with the pretty cliche talk. Otherwise I'm gone. [/B] That's it. I haven't spoken to her since, nor seen her since, nor heard from her since. and I'm glad I didn't.[/QUOTE] be gone now not later

Idk why you're giving her so many chances. Just ditch her, man. False hopes are just that. False. She's gonna keep lying to you to get back into your good graces, not because she genuinely has feelings for you. If she did, she wouldn't be pulling this shit. It's not worth it.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;48635442]Not exactly my area of expertise, but have you tried gay bars/local LGBT communities? [/QUOTE] See the thing is, there aren't any gay/lesbian bars that I know about in my obscure town. And an old classmate of mine suggested this "teen group for gay and trans kids" but I'm an adult now, and I won't date trans. Plus it was full of feminazi sjw's anyways.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;48635973]We get it, you hate SJWs and for some reason the majority of gay and lesbian people, turn off your broken record. for an adult you sure post like a kid[/QUOTE] I just turned 18 like a week ago. [editline]8th September 2015[/editline] And I don't think you understand how frusterating it is to be gay and find a partner. Y'all guys think you have it hard trying to find a girl, there's more straight people than gay people. Your odds are much better than mine.

I'm sorry for sounding so sassy and aggressive in my speech here. I think that everyone who went through something like this can imagine the cocktail of explosiveness that's going on with my emotions. And for that I apologize. Know that I valued every one of your advice here and know that whenever I get some time to come here, I'll be available to give out some advice too. I would also like to thank you guys for the patience. But anyway, it's time to bury the hatchet on this one. And once again, sorry for my edgyness.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;48636014]Your odds get lower every time you call an entire subgroup ugly, fat, and annoying[/QUOTE] Do you see where I'm coming from though? Do you understand how frusterating and infuriating it is to know that what you're looking for dosen't even exist? Also no it dosen't lower my odds calling them what they are. (esp here on facepunch, it just dosen't really matter) Because first of all, what I'm saying about the community is that yes, they're mostly all disgusting and ugly, etc. It's just a fact. It's VERY rare to find decent or good looking people who are lesbian. You get the point.

[QUOTE=Pat.Lithium;48632249]I cant sleep because of something that happened earlier. Ive been dating this girl for a little while now and things seemed to be going well, then she texted me after work sayong she had to tell me something. She ran into an old friend and things happened, she said she didnt sleep with him. We yad a big fight but we made up in the end and went for a drive. The problem is she says she wants to be with me but cant commit to a relationship this early, but i want to be with her and the thought of her with another man is really upsetting me. Im going to tell her tomorrow how i feel because i dont know what it means to not be in a relationship but still be exclusive. And im trying to sleep but everything in my head just comes back to some other guy kissing her or touching her and its makong me really sad[/QUOTE] I know that feeling man :( The girl I've been dating for a while now told me the other day she made out with one of her old friends last week because he asked her nicely. Fucking hurts. What I did was I just explained to her how it made me feel and she understood and said she wont do anything like that again. It was because she sees it differently to me (meaningless and so on) but she was happy to not do it when she realised how it made me feel.

Wow, I sure am attracted to someone who is an asshole to subgroups for no reason other than their looks or an astoundingly general and possibly misguided blanket statement of their personalities! Get an OKCupid profile. Nobody cares who you hate and why you hate them.

-automerge broke-

[QUOTE=Pascall;48636118]Wow, I sure am attracted to someone who is an asshole to subgroups for no reason other than their looks or an astoundingly general and possibly misguided blanket statement of their personalities! Get an OKCupid profile. Nobody cares who you hate and why you hate them.[/QUOTE] [B][I]If you read my other posts...[/I][/B] I had an ok cupid profile, and a POF profile. The reason why I hate that subgroup is because all I was getting on there were a bunch of disgusting people.

[QUOTE=IJNOMED;48636132][B][I]If you read my other posts...[/I][/B] I had an ok cupid profile, and a POF profile. The reason why I hate that subgroup is because all I was getting on there were a bunch of disgusting people.[/QUOTE] You don't need to bold for emphasis. Point being, your hatred makes you an asshole and therefore not very attractive in general. Grow up a little and understand that encountering a handful of people in a subgroup who are not ideal (reducing them to traits like fat, ugly, etc. doesn't win you any brownie points with anyone btw) is not the end of the world. Not that your ire means much anyway, but it does make you sound like you're fourteen with a penchant for burn books.

[QUOTE=Pascall;48636143]You don't need to bold for emphasis. Point being, your hatred makes you an asshole and therefore not very attractive in general. Grow up a little and understand that encountering a handful of people in a subgroup who are not ideal (reducing them to traits like fat, ugly, etc. doesn't win you any brownie points with anyone btw) is not the end of the world. Not that your ire means much anyway, but it does make you sound like you're fourteen with a penchant for burn books.[/QUOTE] It's not like I go around in public physically screaming at any ugly girls in my path. You know how hard it is for me? If I see a girl I like, It's hard to tell if they're gay or straight or bi. It's harder to make progress flirting because you have to be careful and assume they're straight. Do you get how hard it is? [editline]8th September 2015[/editline] Guys can just flirt with any girl they want and not have to walk on eggshells and wonder what her sexual preferences are.

It doesn't matter whether or not you say it to their face????? Why does your opinion of a girl's physical appearance matter to anyone ever??? You sound like you sit in corners seething with hatred whenever a girl who doesn't meet your standards seems to make her way into your vision from the way you're wording your posts. And who the fuck wants to be anywhere near someone with that kind of personality???? It's gross and people can tell when someone seems to be radiating the notion that they think someone else is ugly. I'm sure you don't meet the standards of plenty of people. I don't get how hard it is, specifically for lesbians because I'm not one. I [I]do[/I] understand how hard it is finding someone to click with because of my asexuality being a barrier but I'm not about to go around spitting hatred for sexual people because how dare they not adhere to my standards? That's stupid. That's how dumb you sound. The more relaxed you are and the more you start seeing people as people instead of just what they look like, the easier it'll be for you to find people who are genuinely interested in you. On another note: There's nothing wrong with politely asking someone's sexuality. If someone gets huffy about it and defends their heterosexuality with aggression, then you probably don't want to get involved with them in general anyway? Idk you just come across as someone I would not want to talk to ever in a social setting.

[QUOTE=Pascall;48636184]It doesn't matter whether or not you say it to their face????? Why does your opinion of a girl's physical appearance matter to anyone ever??? You sound like you sit in corners seething with hatred whenever a girl who doesn't meet your standards seems to make her way into your vision from the way you're wording your posts. And who the fuck wants to be anywhere near someone with that kind of personality???? It's gross and people can tell when someone seems to be radiating the notion that they think someone else is ugly. I'm sure you don't meet the standards of plenty of people. I don't get how hard it is, specifically for lesbians because I'm not one. I [I]do[/I] understand how hard it is finding someone to click with because of my asexuality being a barrier but I'm not about to go around spitting hatred for sexual people because how dare they not adhere to my standards? That's stupid. That's how dumb you sound. The more relaxed you are and the more you start seeing people as people instead of just what they look like, the easier it'll be for you to find people who are genuinely interested in you. On another note: There's nothing wrong with politely asking someone's sexuality. If someone gets huffy about it and defends their heterosexuality with aggression, then you probably don't want to get involved with them in general anyway? Idk you just come across as someone I would not want to talk to ever in a social setting.[/QUOTE] Ok so you're judging this slip of "bad unnaceptable behavior" as my entire being. Whereas I've experienced loads of occasions where all I'm finding are ugly people. People are different offline, for all you know socially I could be the most chill person ever and I shouldn't have to justify that to you that I'm a decent looking girl. I'm not fat or ugly. I don't expect a fucking hot model barbie doll girl but I'm not going to lower my standards to disgusting landwhales. (Which is all that's turning up around here) Wow I didn't know I wasn't allowed to have standards.

Standards are not the same as being an asshole. People can be people who don't meet your standards without you having to drag yourself down to high school level name-calling like "landwhales". I can say that a man or woman doesn't meet my [I]personal[/I] standards of attractiveness without having to resort to being a fucking dick. Bad, unacceptable behavior is a perfectly viable means of judging your entire being, especially when [I]disgusting landwhales[/I] is all you seem to be able to refer to a person as when they could be so much more. It's gross, dude.

I know you're eighteen, but you should know better than this by now. [editline]7th September 2015[/editline] I don't know what you look like, but I'm sure you look fine! Maybe not up to my personal tastes, but you do you. See? It's that easy.

If you've been looking around for a hookup or partner for long enough, you'd be pretty angry and pissed off too.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;48636226]Ooooo getting some self-appearance issue vibes, now it's getting interestiinng. Maybe she's critical of other people because she's even more critical of herself? Maybe years of media exposure telling her she has to be skinny has affected her thoughts on other people? Maybe she's so afraid of being so called "ugly," that she resorts to name-calling others in an effort to feel better? Maybe she's just really rude?[/QUOTE] Honestly, a lot of women have this problem, but it's hardly an excuse for being an asshole. I certainly didn't grow up with the best image of myself, but it's not like me stepping on other women was gonna make me any more appealing to the masses. It's a shitty attempt at redirecting emotional trauma and lack of self-esteem, and while understandable, again, there's no excuse for it. Especially for someone who is quickly approaching college-age.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;48636226]Ooooo getting some self-appearance issue vibes, now it's getting interestiinng. Maybe she's critical of other people because she's even more critical of herself? Maybe years of media exposure telling her she has to be skinny has affected her thoughts on other people? Maybe she's so afraid of being so called "ugly," that she resorts to name-calling others in an effort to feel better? Maybe she's just really rude?[/QUOTE] No need to over-analyse it. I'm just really [I]really[/I] angry that all I'm finding within my area are gross people. What part of that do you not understand?