Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

confidence? go to the city, party it up, don't worry about having to go with your friends, just go have some fun Yeah you're gonna feel uncomfortable at first, but the best way to get over that is by throwing yourself in and accepting that it's not going to be comfortable at first.

The problem I have there is I have no idea where/when these parties are. I don't get invited to them or know anyone who goes so even if I want to go to one I'm at a loss for what to do.

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;49715475]depends on what it is you're trying to do that you're scared of, really. what specifically? knowing this thread i'm going with "talk to a girl" but that might not be it[/QUOTE] I am not going to do anything, it was just a question. But I think Guy's response is right, if a person can function they can do it :v

[QUOTE=lord0war;49719009]The problem I have there is I have no idea where/when these parties are. I don't get invited to them or know anyone who goes so even if I want to go to one I'm at a loss for what to do.[/QUOTE] Facebook Events is probably one of the handiest things for stuff like that. I've found out about a lot of big things like free concerts or big college sponsored parties and stuff like that where people can go, regardless if they're invited or not. It just gets your location info and shows you stuff nearby. I found out about a cool Star Wars art exhibit that way. [editline]11th February 2016[/editline] Also a tip for any OKCupid users: Never open a message with just "Hi" I've got at least 20-30 messages with just that sitting in my inbox and I have zero desire to answer them because there's like 10 others that are way more interesting lol. Although here's that military dad: [t]https://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/s/rdvw31qh62vabc9/chrome_2016-02-11_11-20-12.png?dl=0[/t] This doesn't make me want to talk to him but... at least it's interesting.

"Fluent in sarcasm" is one phrase I'm sick of seeing in Tinder bios. I've been using it for about a week and I'm thinking about just keeping a running tally of all the cliches and super-generic shit I see in bios. Like if I see one more person saying they love "music, travel, and living life to the fullest" I'm gonna die of boredom. It's been fun trying out the app, and honestly the only disappointment I've found in it so far is having to realize just how [i]boring[/i] most people in the world are.

Same, honestly. Bios on both Tinder or OKCupid that tell me how "logical thinking" or "nerdy" they are kind of bore me right off the bat.

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;49720896]"Fluent in sarcasm" is one phrase I'm sick of seeing in Tinder bios. I've been using it for about a week and I'm thinking about just keeping a running tally of all the cliches and super-generic shit I see in bios. Like if I see one more person saying they love "music, travel, and living life to the fullest" I'm gonna die of boredom. It's been fun trying out the app, and honestly the only disappointment I've found in it so far is having to realize just how [i]boring[/i] most people in the world are.[/QUOTE] So much "full time mummy" going on over here too. No baggage thx

I think the best bios on Tinder so far for me were: a) "I'm not interested in anything, just looking around" b) (British girl in Lisbon - Portugal) "If you're going to address me by any pronoun, please use your formal "usted" (which is spanish by the way). I love how it sounds". c) (girl after super liking me) "Eww, you should cut your hair. I don't like it long" Makes you wonder why some princesses end up on dating apps, right?

"there's no such thing as a typical friday night :):):):):):)"

Best one I saw was someone who had "I'm like a Gillette razor, the best a man can get. But I'll still cut you." [editline]11th February 2016[/editline] One of my matches has literally the same exact smile in every photo

[QUOTE=Pascall;49720915]Same, honestly. Bios on both Tinder or OKCupid that tell me how "logical thinking" or "nerdy" they are kind of bore me right off the bat.[/QUOTE] all I put on my tinder was "some long haired guy that can play bass kind of well" my first picture is me and Frank Bello from Anthrax, the rest are me playing on stage. I don't have any non stage photos really, there's a family photo from my brothers wedding of me in a suit that I could crop down though

I tried to get on OkCupid or some other dating sites, but uh, thing is, my landlady has light filter on. I asked her about that and she only said, 'no porno,' and ended the discussion there, didn't want to go anywhere further. Now while proxies are pretty damn useful, they don't work with these dating sites (as in sometimes the pages don't load and I can't login). I also tried to use my phone but because of this light filter, I can't access the internet. Don't remember what's the issue but I tried [I]everything[/I] to get it working, yet it still wouldn't connect. Can anyone help out? I really don't have many alternatives to meeting other people so I was hoping to use this, but yeah.

[QUOTE=Pascall;49720525]Also a tip for any OKCupid users: Never open a message with just "Hi" I've got at least 20-30 messages with just that sitting in my inbox and I have zero desire to answer them because there's like 10 others that are way more interesting lol.[/QUOTE] When I had an account on OKC I was getting 100 messages a day. I immediately deleted any messages that either sounded like a generic copy+paste (like "you seem like an interesting person and I'd like to get to know you better") or anything that didn't ask a question/start a conversation. Read people's profiles and ask them about the things in their profiles. It shows you give a shit and aren't just lazily messaging every single person you see who identifies as female. [QUOTE=GlebGuy;49722392]Can anyone help out? I really don't have many alternatives to meeting other people so I was hoping to use this, but yeah.[/QUOTE] Go outside to meet people or use campus/library internet.

[QUOTE=GlebGuy;49722392]I tried to get on OkCupid or some other dating sites, but uh, thing is, my landlady has light filter on. I asked her about that and she only said, 'no porno,' and ended the discussion there, didn't want to go anywhere further. Now while proxies are pretty damn useful, they don't work with these dating sites (as in sometimes the pages don't load and I can't login). I also tried to use my phone but because of this light filter, I can't access the internet. Don't remember what's the issue but I tried [I]everything[/I] to get it working, yet it still wouldn't connect. Can anyone help out? I really don't have many alternatives to meeting other people so I was hoping to use this, but yeah.[/QUOTE] 1. is your landlady your mom 2. move out immediately seriously though, if I was meeting a possible future landlord for a showing and they told me they managed the propery's internet and ran their own firewall, I would laugh in their face and sneeze on the doorhandle on my way out. what the fuck were you thinking?

[QUOTE=GlebGuy;49722392]I tried to get on OkCupid or some other dating sites, but uh, thing is, my landlady has light filter on. I asked her about that and she only said, 'no porno,' and ended the discussion there, didn't want to go anywhere further. Now while proxies are pretty damn useful, they don't work with these dating sites (as in sometimes the pages don't load and I can't login). I also tried to use my phone but because of this light filter, I can't access the internet. Don't remember what's the issue but I tried [I]everything[/I] to get it working, yet it still wouldn't connect. Can anyone help out? I really don't have many alternatives to meeting other people so I was hoping to use this, but yeah.[/QUOTE] Tor. Not sure if the browser will work but there's an android app for it. I've used that to get by a ton of filters.

Oh my favorite tinder bio just said nothing but "the kid in the pics is dead" I couldn't decide if that was super depressing or super hilarious but I sided with hilarious

A friend of mine on snapchat posts stories sometimes that has my ex in it. I'm really glad I've reached the point where I can look at them and think "Damn, I'm really happy she's doing well and it's great to see her smiling", instead of before when I'd just end up an emotional wreck. Heart still aches a little when I see her, and I often think "she was pretty much as good as I could have got", but then I smack those thoughts away and tell myself I'll meet someone who made me feel the way she did, but better. Fingers crossed.

I decided to take a quick look at my first gf's facebook, turns out she's on her way back from new zealand. we'd planned to take that holiday together way back when, so it caused a bit of a pang of the heart. I wish I'd been able to go on more holidays with her but I never had the money. whereas now I have the cash but no company. and with valentine's just a couple of days away, at least this time I'm not heartbroken and miserable, I'm just not with anyone. I've been on tinder a couple of days with no matches yet, besides my last gf but we both knew the other was going to be on there. I've been using another app called badoo but that one is just a pain in the ass to use, it keeps pestering me to upload photos to speak to people and I've uploaded as many photos as I needed.

i've been single for 23 years how do i work up the courage to just fucking end it all

[QUOTE=FlyingDog;49729979]i've been single for 23 years how do i work up the courage to just fucking end it all[/QUOTE] Buy a helium tank

[QUOTE=FlyingDog;49729979]i've been single for 23 years how do i work up the courage to just fucking end it all[/QUOTE] maybe stop being a bitch? your self-worth is not tied to your sexual history. chances are good that 23 isn't even a third of your lifespan. if you don't think that the next 23 years could be the best years of your life, you're probably a fatalistic shortsided idiot. start being a better person and start taking risks, and you'll surprise yourself. get a haircut at a good barbershop, clean up your apartment or whatever from top to bottom, and start working out. Sign up for okcupid or something, go on a bunch of scary dates with weirdo strangers from the internet, and grow a pair like everybody else. I lost my virginity at 23 and nobody gives a fuck.

Earlier tonight I saw what I thought was my ex from about 2 or 3 years ago. Despite it having been so long, my stomach immediately starts doing back flips and I found myself stressing out all of the sudden. Like, I'm not pining over her or anything remotely close to that and our break up really wasn't messy at all. Does anyone else have issues like this?

[QUOTE=Sector 7;49730418]maybe stop being a bitch? your self-worth is not tied to your sexual history. chances are good that 23 isn't even a third of your lifespan. if you don't think that the next 23 years could be the best years of your life, you're probably a fatalistic shortsided idiot. start being a better person and start taking risks, and you'll surprise yourself. get a haircut at a good barbershop, clean up your apartment or whatever from top to bottom, and start working out. Sign up for okcupid or something, go on a bunch of scary dates with weirdo strangers from the internet, and grow a pair like everybody else. I lost my virginity at 23 and nobody gives a fuck.[/QUOTE] If you think this is about sex you're dead wrong, couldn't care less. [QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49730468]Step 1: Love yourself IF step 1 = true, attempt step 2 (Optional) Step 2: Love someone else If you don't do step one, 99% of relationships you get in will just be filling a void in your life, the void is your lack of self-esteem and confidence. It'll likely be a clingy relationship where you constantly need validation that the other person wants to be with you. So first step is step 1! Do that then come back for advice on step 2. The fact you're so caught-up on getting into a relationship shows you don't love yourself yet. Once you love yourself, you won't need anyone else. I don't need my girlfriend, but I damn well enjoy her company. I'm with her because I genuinely like her as a person and a best friend, not because I want/ "need" a girlfriend.[/QUOTE] I'm well aware of the fact that entering a relationship for the sake of it is a really bad plan, and I know that in my current state I would almost certainly enter a thunderously toxic relationship. I was blitzed out of my gourd when I posted that last night, so don't put too much stock in it. I don't even care all that much in my daily life. Thanks for the advice though.

I'm going to a friend's concert tonight and my ex's gonna be there. I find it relevant to share, specially about this whole mindfulness discussion, because a few months ago I would find myself trying to distract me from thinking about the grief and all that just to find out that repressing that was only making my brain save it for later. I've been allowing myself lately to think about it, and it actually feels good knowing that even though I'm feeling those feelings and still reflecting a bit about them, they aren't going to affect my life. So even though I'm a little anxious that my ex's gonna be there, and that she's probably going to talk to me, ask how I'm diong and probably gloat about whatever's going on with her, I'm ok with that. I'm allowing myself to feel whatever I'm feeling, because it's actually a relief to do so. I'm there to watch the concert and have a good time. I think it's going to feel pretty good, after all that happened, to be able to be in the same room than her and mind my own business.

A few more gems from my OKCupid inbox: [t]https://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/s/fjdaflu0vvxye3w/chrome_2016-02-13_11-19-36.png?dl=0[/t] ??????????????????????????? what do this mean [t]https://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/s/7vw0v1s3as6sxhk/chrome_2016-02-13_11-20-50.png?dl=0[/t] I have no idea what UI/UX is im so confused lmfao

Damn. They're trying too hard.

oh man. Entrepreneurship related activities. That guy sounds like a big deal. That, or a robot that plugged in "entrepreneurship" as a randomly-chosen noun in a randomly-constructed sentence.

maybe he'll sell chocolate in his next entreprenerd life

I'll post some good ones if I get any. I've gone through and deleted a ton but I always wake up to more so :v we'll see. [editline]13th February 2016[/editline] oh I did get this one this morning [t]http://41.media.tumblr.com/9bb8ed5234ac10852e3a6dc2d4902c6e/tumblr_o2hyiuSNiX1ql7e99o3_400.png[/t] i can't even discern what he's trying to tell me though

[QUOTE=Pascall;49734454]I'll post some good ones if I get any. I've gone through and deleted a ton but I always wake up to more so :v we'll see. [editline]13th February 2016[/editline] oh I did get this one this morning [t]http://41.media.tumblr.com/9bb8ed5234ac10852e3a6dc2d4902c6e/tumblr_o2hyiuSNiX1ql7e99o3_400.png[/t] i can't even discern what he's trying to tell me though[/QUOTE] Better snatch that one up before he writes a masterpiece of literature.