Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

[QUOTE=IJNOMED;48636234]If you've been looking around for a hookup or partner for long enough, you'd be pretty angry and pissed off too.[/QUOTE] It's okay to be angry and pissed off, but it's not someone else's fault. Don't blame it on others for not being up to your standards. There's plenty of things to blame, be it your location, the local scene, the clashing of sexualities of people around you. But that's not the people's fault in general. But dude, almost everyone in this thread has relationship issues of some kind, or, are struggling and are in a similar position. And yet I don't see anyone else here busting out the insults for people who have done absolutely nothing wrong. You're totally free to ask for advice, but leave the hatred out of it! It's just making things worse and it makes you very ugly, personality-wise. The less of that garbage you have clogging up your brain, the more relaxed you'll be and the easier you'll find your relationship ventures or whatever they may be.

[QUOTE=Pascall;48636257]It's okay to be angry and pissed off, but it's not someone else's fault. Don't blame it on others for not being up to your standards. There's plenty of things to blame, be it your location, the local scene, the clashing of sexualities of people around you. But that's not the people's fault in general. But dude, almost everyone in this thread has relationship issues of some kind, or, are struggling and are in a similar position. And yet I don't see anyone else here busting out the insults for people who have done absolutely nothing wrong. You're totally free to ask for advice, but leave the hatred out of it! It's just making things worse and it makes you very ugly, personality-wise. The less of that garbage you have clogging up your brain, the more relaxed you'll be and the easier you'll find your relationship ventures or whatever they may be.[/QUOTE] Alright, true. Are there any other places I can keep searching for people? Or do any of you know how I can get tinder to work? I've googled pages of solutions and none of them have worked. Tinder might not be the ultimate solution but who knows. (basically it just gives me an sms error whenever I try to enter my phone for verification)

[QUOTE=IJNOMED;48636273]Alright, true. Are there any other places I can keep searching for people? Or do any of you know how I can get tinder to work? I've googled pages of solutions and none of them have worked. Tinder might not be the ultimate solution but who knows. (basically it just gives me an sms error whenever I try to enter my phone for verification)[/QUOTE] do you use google voice? it has to be a real carrier phone number

Yeah I've never had any issues with Tinder so someone else might be able to help. [editline]7th September 2015[/editline] Thanks for understanding where I'm comin' from though. I know I can't change your opinions entirely, but I appreciate you chillaxin' a little bit. Makes this thread nicer to come to.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;48636281]Are you entering your entire area code and stuff? Like (888)-141-1414[/QUOTE] Yes. [editline]8th September 2015[/editline] [QUOTE=Pascall;48636300]Yeah I've never had any issues with Tinder so someone else might be able to help. [editline]7th September 2015[/editline] Thanks for understanding where I'm comin' from though. I know I can't change your opinions entirely, but I appreciate you chillaxin' a little bit. Makes this thread nicer to come to.[/QUOTE] No but, I gotta remember that normally I do have a level head on my shoulders and me getting angry, pissy, and impatient over not finding any good looking girls won't do much to help. So I guess I gotta keep looking and waiting. (which sucks but I guess I have to) [editline]8th September 2015[/editline] [QUOTE=LordCrypto;48636287]do you use google voice? it has to be a real carrier phone number[/QUOTE] I'm unfortunatley stuck with a prepaid phone, I don't have a whole lot of money, and I'm saving. Tinder won't accept prepaid phones?

I dunno what you're talking about regarding the okcupid thing I've seen probably over a hundred good-looking girls with bisexual as their preference and I don't exactly live in a hub of culture

[QUOTE=Sector 7;48636715]I dunno what you're talking about regarding the okcupid thing I've seen probably over a hundred good-looking girls with bisexual as their preference and I don't exactly live in a hub of culture[/QUOTE] I was able to get nuds from some girl states away without asking, but basically all I was getting on OK cupid were girls that just didn't look good :-( So like, one out of 100 of those 'grils on ok cupid were a maybe. I mean at the position I'm in I shouldnt really complain about OK cupid's lack of privacy, and at this point I don't care so I might aswell try Ok cupid again. :/ [editline]8th September 2015[/editline] I really really want to use tinder though.

okcupid matches search results tuned to your perceived attractiveness (views versus likes) maybe this is a pot-kettle situation also the girl that sent you nudes was probably a dude

[QUOTE=Sector 7;48636790]okcupid matches search results tuned to your perceived attractiveness (views versus likes) maybe this is a pot-kettle situation also the girl that sent you nudes was probably a dude[/QUOTE] I am not fat black/hispanic or ugly so... It's not a pot calling the kettle black situation, you wanna see a pic of me? Here. [URL="http://demonji.deviantart.com/art/I-dont-normally-upload-selfies-528503233"]http://demonji.deviantart.com/art/I-dont-normally-upload-selfies-528503233[/URL] I am decent looking therefore I should be allowed to get decent looking girls. Also yeah like I said earlier if people would[I] just read my posts...[/I]the account seemed pretty sketchy so.

[QUOTE=Pat.Lithium;48632249]I cant sleep because of something that happened earlier. Ive been dating this girl for a little while now and things seemed to be going well, then she texted me after work sayong she had to tell me something. She ran into an old friend and things happened, she said she didnt sleep with him. We yad a big fight but we made up in the end and went for a drive. The problem is she says she wants to be with me but cant commit to a relationship this early, but i want to be with her and the thought of her with another man is really upsetting me. Im going to tell her tomorrow how i feel because i dont know what it means to not be in a relationship but still be exclusive. And im trying to sleep but everything in my head just comes back to some other guy kissing her or touching her and its makong me really sad[/QUOTE] I told her how i feel and it didnt make things better for us but at least weve set up on boundaries. Ive spent all day talking to her about it and that was dumb i should have let it be. We are back to normal chats now and thay makes me happy because i was so afraid of losing her

[QUOTE=IJNOMED;48636836]I am not fat black/hispanic or ugly so... It's not a pot calling the kettle black situation, you wanna see a pic of me? Here. [URL="http://demonji.deviantart.com/art/I-dont-normally-upload-selfies-528503233"]http://demonji.deviantart.com/art/I-dont-normally-upload-selfies-528503233[/URL] I am decent looking therefore I should be allowed to get decent looking girls. Also yeah like I said earlier if people would[I] just read my posts...[/I]the account seemed pretty sketchy so.[/QUOTE] christ nvm i can only try so hard !

i dont understand why this girl thinks i'm pretending to be a nice guy, it is who i am :(

a lot of guys who call themselves "nice guys" end up not being nice at all so it's sort of a built up distrust with a lot of women just keep being a cool dude and she'll eventually learn that you're actually a cool dude.

[QUOTE=IJNOMED;48636836]I am not fat black/hispanic or ugly so... It's not a pot calling the kettle black situation, you wanna see a pic of me? Here. [URL="http://demonji.deviantart.com/art/I-dont-normally-upload-selfies-528503233"]http://demonji.deviantart.com/art/I-dont-normally-upload-selfies-528503233[/URL] I am decent looking therefore I should be allowed to get decent looking girls. Also yeah like I said earlier if people would[I] just read my posts...[/I]the account seemed pretty sketchy so.[/QUOTE] We read them, we also read the sweeping generalisations and generally terrible nobodys good enough for my standards attitude. What were you expecting from us? "Oh hey yeah we have a store of eligible batchelorette lesbians we hide in this thread for only the most exclusive females to date!"?

[QUOTE=metallics;48637272]We read them, we also read the sweeping generalisations and generally terrible nobodys good enough for my standards attitude. What were you expecting from us? "Oh hey yeah we have a store of eligible batchelorette lesbians we hide in this thread for only the most exclusive females to date!"?[/QUOTE] shit, I needed those for my amateur porno shoots, why did you have to go and spill the beans??????

[QUOTE=Pascall;48637223]a lot of guys who call themselves "nice guys" end up not being nice at all so it's sort of a built up distrust with a lot of women just keep being a cool dude and she'll eventually learn that you're actually a cool dude.[/QUOTE] i dont call myself a nice guy except for just then but only because shes been saying that i'm a really nice guy.

[QUOTE=metallics;48637272]We read them, we also read the sweeping generalisations and generally terrible nobodys good enough for my standards attitude. What were you expecting from us? "Oh hey yeah we have a store of eligible batchelorette lesbians we hide in this thread for only the most exclusive females to date!"?[/QUOTE] Wow god forbid I refuse to lower my standards. Now I wouldn't be so hostile right now if that user didn't go and compare me to the trash that I have to constantly sift through. Any practical advice other than "maybe ur just ugly too ijnomed!" Or "maybe ur just an asshole, ijnomed" because ive already established that the issue isnt me, its the lack of girls. My frustrations and slurs are coming out of [B]not being able to find anyone for this long. I have been looking for a long time.[/B] Normally I wouldnt be like this. But theres no way to prove jack shit to any of you because all im getting are smug boys telling me its exclusivley my fault.

but yeah i'll keep seeing her and hopefully she'll chill out

[QUOTE=IJNOMED;48637460]Wow god forbid I refuse to lower my standards. Now I wouldn't be so hostile right now if that user didn't go and compare me to the trash that I have to constantly sift through. Any practical advice other than "maybe ur just ugly too ijnomed!" Or "maybe ur just an asshole, ijnomed" because ive already established that the issue isnt me, its the lack of girls. My frustrations and slurs are coming out of [B]not being able to find anyone for this long. I have been looking for a long time.[/B] Normally I wouldnt be like this. But theres no way to prove jack shit to any of you because all im getting are smug boys telling me its exclusivley my fault.[/QUOTE] you sound genuinely awful reality check: nobody gives a shit that you're 18 and can't find a girlfriend. Welcome to the absolutely giant club. Life owes you nothing.

[QUOTE=IJNOMED;48637460]Wow god forbid I refuse to lower my standards. Now I wouldn't be so hostile right now if that user didn't go and compare me to the trash that I have to constantly sift through. Any practical advice other than "maybe ur just ugly too ijnomed!" Or "maybe ur just an asshole, ijnomed" because ive already established that the issue isnt me, its the lack of girls. My frustrations and slurs are coming out of [B]not being able to find anyone for this long. I have been looking for a long time.[/B] Normally I wouldnt be like this. But theres no way to prove jack shit to any of you because all im getting are smug boys telling me its exclusivley my fault.[/QUOTE] Your attitude is the worst lol

[QUOTE=killerteacup;48637518]Your attitude is the worst lol[/QUOTE] Hey thanks! I bet yours is swell! [editline]8th September 2015[/editline] "Lol"

he actually seems very well adjusted so I'm not sure that sarcastic deflection works

[QUOTE=IJNOMED;48637460]Wow god forbid I refuse to lower my standards. Now I wouldn't be so hostile right now if that user didn't go and compare me to the trash that I have to constantly sift through. Any practical advice other than "maybe ur just ugly too ijnomed!" Or "maybe ur just an asshole, ijnomed" because ive already established that the issue isnt me, its the lack of girls. My frustrations and slurs are coming out of [B]not being able to find anyone for this long. I have been looking for a long time.[/B] Normally I wouldnt be like this. But theres no way to prove jack shit to any of you because all im getting are smug boys telling me its exclusivley my fault.[/QUOTE] With an attitude like that, I'm surprised you're getting any sort of conversation on sites at all. Go to meetups and events. If you work your arse off and nothing still happens, don't get angry. You'll find someone right for you eventually. You can't go around thinking attractive people owe you their time simply because you've been looking forever. Be yourself (which I hope is sociable and nice!). No one's giving you a hard time for having standards, hell, I honestly have very low standards in terms of physical attractiveness as I don't value it that much in a relationship and I'm somehow in a relationship with a beautiful woman who makes me happy. Just need a bit luck, and a lot of effort.

[QUOTE=IJNOMED;48637537]Hey thanks! I bet yours is swell! [editline]8th September 2015[/editline] "Lol"[/QUOTE] mine is great I'm in a very happy relationship thanks we wrote a song together the other day :) I mean the saddest thing about it is that you are actually unwilling to reflect upon your attitude to a point where you'd rather be hostile than actually admit that maybe calling 'everyone you know' ugly and boring is a terrible way to treat people and might well be a cause of the fact that you're alone honestly if this is your attitude towards life I wouldn't even want to be in the same room as you [editline]8th September 2015[/editline] [QUOTE=Sector 7;48637550]he actually seems very well adjusted so I'm not sure that sarcastic deflection works[/QUOTE] I'm flattered, thanks man [editline]8th September 2015[/editline] also like noone is judging your entire being because nobody needs to because what you said was bad enoguh already

don't make it weird

[QUOTE=Sector 7;48637677]don't make it weird[/QUOTE] bum me

i'm really stressing out right now, i dont want to be alone with my thoughts but theres no one for me to hang out with right now :( my girls at a work party and he ex boyfriend grabbed her ass and she told him to fuck off. its not that i dont trust her, i just dont trust a bunch of drunk guys. i smoked half a pack last night to destress and this is going to kill me tonight not being with her.

[QUOTE=IJNOMED;48637460]Wow god forbid I refuse to lower my standards. Now I wouldn't be so hostile right now if that user didn't go and compare me to the trash that I have to constantly sift through. Any practical advice other than "maybe ur just ugly too ijnomed!" Or "maybe ur just an asshole, ijnomed" because ive already established that the issue isnt me, its the lack of girls. My frustrations and slurs are coming out of [B]not being able to find anyone for this long. I have been looking for a long time.[/B] Normally I wouldnt be like this. But theres no way to prove jack shit to any of you because all im getting are smug boys telling me its exclusivley my fault.[/QUOTE] You're 18. I lost the v at the weekend aged 23, havent had a girlfriend since I was 14. [sp]yeah I just wanted to get that in there, woooo[/sp] :toot: Just chill out, you're young and got maybe college or jobs or moving out ahead of you. All of which will bring you to meet new people.

[QUOTE=IJNOMED;48636836]I am not black/hispanic so it's not a pot calling the kettle black situation[/QUOTE] eh? [editline]8th September 2015[/editline] [QUOTE=IJNOMED;48637460]the issue isnt me, its the lack of girls.[/QUOTE] u sure about that

So hopefully this is the right place to post this, but here goes. I've got my first proper party next month and I'm not a huge drinker/full on party type, and I know that the people there are the polar opposite of me. Normally I just wouldn't go but I've got a lot of mates going and they want me to come, but I don't want to be the topic of conversation as the one who won't get piss drunk. What should I do?