Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49869179]"Can cause paranoid or suicidal ideation and impair memory, judgment, and coordination. Combining with other substances, particularly alcohol, can slow breathing and possibly lead to death." You don't NEED them to sleep. You will sleep eventually, whether you're trying or not.[/QUOTE] I took about 3 grams of amphetamine during the previous night. Usually 3 grams is spread out and used to stay awake for 3 or 4 days. Depending on the quality. [editline]5th March 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=Guy Mannly;49869454]Xanax is not the appropriate solution to your sleep problems. Xanax isn't even a barbiturate, it's used for anxiety... If you have sleep issues, speak to a psychiatrist. I personally have dealt with insomnia my entire life that I was never able to deal with and it basically evaporated when I started taking lithium for BPD. You do not need to abuse medication to get to sleep... There are plenty of drugs that are made to actually resolve your issue without having to abuse/overdose on them.[/QUOTE] Xanax was the only available option on the street, and I really want to sleep to come-down from this intense amphetamine rush. I have contact with therapist and psychiatrist. It's just that, right now, they can't prescribe anything because I abuse substances.

[QUOTE=Solodris;49869476]I have contact with therapist and psychiatrist. It's just that, right now, they can't prescribe anything because I abuse substances.[/QUOTE] You came here asking how to improve yourself. I don't think we need to lecture you for you to know where to go from here.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;49869501]You came here asking how to improve yourself. I don't think we need to lecture you for you to know where to go from here.[/QUOTE] I was rather asking about the general opinion of my conduct on this forum as a fellow member.

[QUOTE=Solodris;49869516]I was rather asking about the general opinion of my conduct on this forum as a fellow member.[/QUOTE] Dude, nobody cares how you act on the internet, and I think most of us would see it as an incredible waste of time to go through someone's post history on the off-chance that they're willing to listen to any criticism we might have about it. If you want to make a change in your life then start with how you behave in real life, not the internet.

I like you guys.

I just wanted to say, you should all have tickle wars with your gals and guys! Heck, if others are willing you should have tickle wars with as many people as possible. They're so amazing. Just be careful not to hurt each other.

i know at least two people who would punch me if i tried to tickle them

Tickling me is pretty much a setup for a murder tbh.

I have tried but like every female i've ever had physical contact with is not ticklish in the slightest.

I lost a tooth once because of tickling Apparently women don't like being snuck up on and aggressively touched by strangers, who would have guessed

I was hit in the eye with a foot while trying to tickle it The eye's sight is inferior now

I used to tickle my first gf's feet and she would laugh but also hate it. I think I got hit in the face once whilst tickling her. I also used to tickle the sides of one of the girls I used to work with and she would actually scream

Thank you guys for the advice. To be clear, she is the one who wants to remain friends with me and I agreed. Last night I came to the decision that I'm not going to speak to her for a few weeks and if she truly meant it when she said she still cared about me she'll contact me and I'll see where things go from there. Otherwise if she doesn't, I'm telling her to fuck off. I've been too emotionally weak to really put my foot down about all this and I think she knows that and she's using it to her advantage. We had somewhat of an argument yesterday in which I started to stand up for myself a bit and I think it got through to her a little. I really do want to talk to her still and I know her better than anyone else does and I want so badly to give her the benefit of the doubt that if this fling doesn't work out for her I'm still here for her. But I'm not going to let myself be stepped on for it anymore.

So I got drunk and dabbed out at a party last night and my ex-gf shows up... she drinks an entire four loko and gets piss drunk and starts crying... I end up talking to her and she thinks that I just threw her away and that I'm already over it and all this shit... when she's sober she understands the reasons behind her breakup but when she gets drunk she's all like "I was never good enough for you" when that's not the case. I still love her and I miss her a lot, I just didn't think it was what was right for the two of us to go on doing.

How do I look for friends? I only have 3 friends right now that I hang out with (at most) once a week. Also how can I find musicians? I've been drumming for 8 years and have been wanting to get in a band / make a band lately but I don't know anyone with a musical talent. [editline]5th March 2016[/editline] I'm in university living by myself in a dorm by the way

go to dorm events and talk to people

[QUOTE=NixNax123;49873498]How do I look for friends? I only have 3 friends right now that I hang out with (at most) once a week. Also how can I find musicians? I've been drumming for 8 years and have been wanting to get in a band / make a band lately but I don't know anyone with a musical talent. [editline]5th March 2016[/editline] I'm in university living by myself in a dorm by the way[/QUOTE] Chat with people in your dorms, classes look up socieities at your Uni to do with that. Hell if you have some sort of commons room with instruments just go down there to meet people. best way about it is to just stick your neck out and introduce yourself.

[QUOTE=Sector 7;49873747]go to dorm events and talk to people[/QUOTE] okay. next time i see a dorm event i'll try to go to that one. the last one we had was about rape awarness over a game of Battle of the Sexes [editline]5th March 2016[/editline] also literally everyone intimidates me [editline]5th March 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=Purple Gecko;49873759]Chat with people in your dorms, classes look up socieities at your Uni to do with that. Hell if you have some sort of commons room with instruments just go down there to meet people. best way about it is to just stick your neck out and introduce yourself.[/QUOTE] if i ever found an open drum set anywhere i would be so happy. that is one of my biggest dreams to just be able to play in front of people

I think things are going to go to hell between me and the girl I'm dating. I've picked up on signs and we spoke briefly about it last night when drinking but we never finished since she didn't feel comfortable talking about it since she was too drunk. my expectations are very low right now. she's coming over tomorrow to talk. of course I hope we'll keep going with our relation but I don't really expect it. bracing for the worst.

this is a complex situation with a long backstory but i'd like some advice. so some time through last year i met a girl at a party at my place. i didn't think much of it but 3 days later she adds me on facebook and asks me out. now shes 17 and i'm 21 at this time, she calls it off because the age gap is too big and her parents wouldn't approve. at this point i picked up smoking because i was sick of the old dating game and it's negative outcomes and alcohol was just too inconvenient to be my crutch. i'm trying to quit smoking now, it's really hard please don't start smoking anyone. all is well i get back on my feet again and start going out more with friends and talking to girls, meanwhile girl A isn't talking to me at all. i go to a friends birthday party and get beyond wasted, at the end of the night the group of people left is small. she wants me to hook up with her friend so i just take a chance on that and we ended up sleeping together. the next day i ask her out on a proper date and we do and its all sunshine and rainbows for now. a couple weeks into dating girl B, girl A begins talking to me again. she gets super jealous when i tell her that i have a girlfriend now and asks if i wanna hang out with her sometime. now this next part to my credit is potentially the stupidest fucking thing i've ever done wrong in a relationship: i say sure lets hang out some time and arrange a time to hang out with her and her friend. the day is a monday, i have work until 12 and then we hang out at 1. things don't exactly go to plan though as i get to work and i'm fired by 10. whatever, left the place, call my gf, had a few cigarettes and got on a train to my mates house to hang out. still go through with my plans of hanging out with girl A, however the issue is that it's my gf's birthday on this day. for some reason this didn't click in my brain as a stupid idea. on a related note my gf of the time hated girl A because we had dated before in the past. fair enough but she has no reason to worry i'm not going to cheat on her. later that night when i'm talking to my gf shes pretty mad at me for hanging out with girl A, she doesn't want me to be friends with her, but i'm not going to stop hanging out with her because shes a cool chick who is fun to hang out with. we hang out a couple more times then we just talk a lot on facebook. girl A has a lot of issues, shes depressed as fuck and suicidal. we become very good friends in this short time. 2 months later my gf breaks up with me (unrelated issues) and i'm down for a couple days. couple days pass and i decide to talk to girl A and tell her what happened. she instantly says we should hang out so she can try to cheer me up. hell yeah, i'm still super into girl A. we go on a couple of dates, nothing happens but i wanted to make moves and she later confesses she also wanted to. we plan another date, but she tells me she has to reschedule because her mum is in hospital. later i find out she was in hospital herself because she tried to kill herself on sleeping pills. this is where it all goes to shit, we start talking less and when we do its about her mental health, she accuses me of only staying friends with her to have someone to rebound to if/when i broke up with my gf. a short time passes and she is back to flirting with me, and in turn confusing the fuck out of me. i want to play along but i'm concerned at this point, she doesn't want what i want and i have no clue what she wants. the last time i talked to her was the 3rd of december last year. the conversation prior to that was pretty standard stuff. the absolute last conversation was me saying "hey", and her replying "hi" and i just didn't have it in me to go on with this anymore so thats where it ends. [b]now the part where i want advice,[/b] this girl has been in my mind ever since she first started talking to me and i've never experienced this before, i know shes bad news and i know its never going to work out but i'm totally infatuated i cant shake it, its been nearly a year since we met. i've been wanting to talk to her ever since and i think of what to say and then i go to say it and i back down. i miss the conversations we had and i miss hanging out with her, i'd just like to be friends with her again but i don't know if its a healthy thing to do. [editline]6th March 2016[/editline] whoa thats a wall of text, important stuff is in the last 3 paragraphs. rest is just backstory to set up the situation.

So I've been talking to this new girl, she absolutely blew my mind on how nice she is. I think nice is a bland term to put it. She's very authentic, she's not a woman for cliches and prejudiced views, so I feel like I can talk and discuss just anything with her and she feels the same way about me. I think that's why she struck me so hard, because I haven't met anyone like her in my whole life. I know I've only met her for a week, and she lives far away from me, and all we have so far is late night phone calls and skype, but I feel there's a connection between us two. And despite worrying about the distance thing, I think that for this one, it may be worth the trouble if it works out. I met her through a friend from up North, and since then we've been talking. I live in a small but beautiful town, but I've always been thinking about moving up somewhere North when I finish my degree and start working. I feel like things here and the people aren't working out for me. (keep in mind I'm not planning to move because of her, this has always been my plan). We've been chatting non stop for hours lately, even flirting a bit and we're both finishing our degrees soon. So I'm thinking about telling her how I feel pretty soon, since the distance prevents me from just asking her out on a date like that. Of course I have my reserves about it. And I'd like to meet her in person before rushing in (something I'm an expert at), but I also don't want to lose her, or to let things go like this for so long that she thinks I just want to be friends and eventually having one or both of us moving on, and losing the opportunity to explore this further. Any advice on this? I want to be pretty much down to earth on this one, because I don't want to be making out any fantasies or go into this with my head in the clouds, but I feel that she feels the same about me, you know. So should I tell her soon? Anyone been through the same? How did it go with you guys?

[QUOTE=Pascall;49870701]Tickling me is pretty much a setup for a murder tbh.[/QUOTE] I'm the only ticklish person in my friend group and people use it to get me to do what they want [sp]by people i mean 2 people, one of which i like[/sp]

I'm so ticklish that I involuntarily kicked my nurse when I got my last penicillin shot.

I spoke with the girl I was dating and now we're no longer in business. I felt a lot of the insecurity she told me she felt as well but I think I felt the crush stronger than her, which I mentioned. I told her I wanted to keep going to see if the insecurity would fade but she told me she'd rather take a break and see how we work as friends. I agree somewhat, I had low expectations of things working out but it hits me still. we both agreed that we'd probably function pretty well as friends too, remove that layer of insecurity so we function better. it didn't hit me hard at all to begin with, then it hit me and I got sad, then it disappeared again and now it's back again, hours after. I'm feeling sad. its a shame it didn't work but hey, what is there to do about that. I'm having second thoughts about us working as friends since I notice that there are feelings there, but I'll wait and see. [editline]6th March 2016[/editline] I can think of a few things at the top of my head, but what ways are there to discover completely new friends that you have no common friends with? or, not necessarily no common friends but just discovering new people through other things than friends. gym? hobbies? parties?

[QUOTE=PredGD;49880559]I spoke with the girl I was dating and now we're no longer in business. I felt a lot of the insecurity she told me she felt as well but I think I felt the crush stronger than her, which I mentioned. I told her I wanted to keep going to see if the insecurity would fade but she told me she'd rather take a break and see how we work as friends. I agree somewhat, I had low expectations of things working out but it hits me still. we both agreed that we'd probably function pretty well as friends too, remove that layer of insecurity so we function better. it didn't hit me hard at all to begin with, then it hit me and I got sad, then it disappeared again and now it's back again, hours after. I'm feeling sad. its a shame it didn't work but hey, what is there to do about that. I'm having second thoughts about us working as friends since I notice that there are feelings there, but I'll wait and see. [editline]6th March 2016[/editline] I can think of a few things at the top of my head, but what ways are there to discover completely new friends that you have no common friends with? or, not necessarily no common friends but just discovering new people through other things than friends. gym? hobbies? parties?[/QUOTE] here's a tip, if you still find yourself having feelings, don't be friends. you'll never give yourself a chance to heal that way. wait a while, wait until thinking of her brings up no emotions whatsoever. i am going through that same situation now buddy. what i did today (after a few minutes of anxiety) was i went up to a group of girls sitting on the common area at my university, one of them had a guitar, so i went up to that one and said "hey, nice guitar!" and spend like an hour with them. so that was fun. was more of just a "hey, how are you doing, that's cool / what's your major / etc" type deal, so i didn't get contact info, but it was nice. i think if i just keep that up until i find someone who i really connect with that should lead me to getting some good friends. just saying hi to random people.

(xposted from SG&S because I forgot there's a general social thread) How do you guys get into big parties? They've never really been my thing but I'm basically just accepting any and all invites and throwing myself into big parties as sort of "shock therapy" lol, but I just can't get into it really. I feel like everybody is already busy or in a conversation and I don't want to be the weird guy nobody knows that just walks up and stands next to everybody having a conversation lol

[QUOTE=srobins;49882468](xposted from SG&S because I forgot there's a general social thread) How do you guys get into big parties? They've never really been my thing but I'm basically just accepting any and all invites and throwing myself into big parties as sort of "shock therapy" lol, but I just can't get into it really. I feel like everybody is already busy or in a conversation and I don't want to be the weird guy nobody knows that just walks up and stands next to everybody having a conversation lol[/QUOTE] I did the same in my teenage years. You'll just get used to it after a while, and slowly it'll come naturally. It also helps if you find people you know, just feel free to tag along with them at the party, that's what it's al about.

[QUOTE=srobins;49882468](xposted from SG&S because I forgot there's a general social thread) How do you guys get into big parties? They've never really been my thing but I'm basically just accepting any and all invites and throwing myself into big parties as sort of "shock therapy" lol, but I just can't get into it really. I feel like everybody is already busy or in a conversation and I don't want to be the weird guy nobody knows that just walks up and stands next to everybody having a conversation lol[/QUOTE] I've been to one party in my life. It was a rave-party out in the forest. I resorted to drinking alcohol and smoking weed to the point of just lying half passed-out in the grass. But people were nice to me, they noticed I was different (Autism) so they tried making conversation with me anyway. When I was able to stand up again that is.

Alright everyone, I need some advice with this. This is a friendship I really care about (above all else) and it's going down. Around 2 weeks ago my best friend started acting odd. She wouldn't reply to messages, and if she did it was 2 words at most. I didn't suspect anything until later. After awhile i asked her what was wrong, she said it was nothing. Later I found out she didn't like how I'd ask her friend for advice involving her. (I was crushing on her at the time). I apologized and said I'd never do it again, but she didn't believe me I guess. I did stop, and a week later, she is still acting odd. I asked her this morning, she said its nothing and it's just in my head. Something is wrong. You don't just stop talking to someone without a reason. I want to fix this. I've asked her and told her how much I value our friendship. I told her if there's anything I did or said that I'm sorry. What do I do? I don't want to end this friendship. I hate this so much

I haven't been too pushy though, maybe once in awhile I'll like be like "hey" and I've been getting some serious angry vibes from the even when she suddenly stopped