Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;49891170]depends on how old you are, really[/QUOTE] I'm turning 23, so roughly college age. Id guess most people wouldn't know I wasn't a student unless I specifically mention it.

I'm probably going to regret posting this but here goes. I could use some advice. Apologies in advance that I sound like a 16 year old high school girl, but that just goes to show how bad I am at this kind of thing. Essentially there's this girl in my Math 100 class, that I'd like to approach, but the second attraction becomes a motive for me I become a nervous wreck with no social skills. We sit next to each other during every class, but only to avoid the puninator in the front row. Our only interactions have been occasionally meeting eyes and me asking what the title of the notes were. To cut to the chase, how do I approach this in a way that's natural and just as friends? I'm really just looking to start a friendship and see where things go from there, I don't want to come off as to strong and then have no foundation to go on from there. I know I'm basically asking how do I make friends, but to quote an older thread [img]http://i.imgur.com/2qqTDiQ.png[/img]

ask her if she wants to study together be like, "hey, wanna be studies buddies for that test coming up?" and then she'll either be like "yeah okay" or "no haha I never study" which will be a code phrase for "I'm not interested in you sorry"

You just comment on things and whatnot. You can even fake that you don't know how to do an excercise and then ask her for help, that helps break the ice and you can start telling stories about yourself and (mainlu) ask her things so she can talk about herself too . Also the worst that could happen is that she finds you weird or boring or w/e, wich is honestly not much worse than not having ever talked to her. I hope my post makes sense, I've been waking up at 5 AM the last 3 days for uni :v [editline]9th March 2016[/editline] Also, I think this video can help you guys A LOT, give yourself some time to watch it. [media]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lp7E973zozc[/media]

[QUOTE=Pascall;49891993]It depends on how capable of handling it you are. There are plenty of people out there who have the strength and ability to take on such a huge weight in addition to their own lives without a problem. Granted, most people AREN'T ready for that sort of commitment, but that doesn't mean there isn't anyone out there capable of it.[/QUOTE] It's not about capability it's about willingness. Why waste time in a relationship where you're taking care of your SO like they're a child?

It's not wasting time if you have the support and ability to give that to them and still be able to handle your own life too. Not everyone sees someone with a mental illness as a burden or a blight. [editline]9th March 2016[/editline] It's like asking why be in a relationship with someone with a terminal illness or cancer. They can't help it. And it's not fair to categorize all people who suffer as someone in need of babysitting or constant care. I suffer from depression, sometimes at a fairly severe level, and most of the time I just want to be left alone??? It doesn't always amount to me needing someone to baby me. You cannot and should not quantify all people who suffer from depression or suicidal tendencies as infantile or not worth the time. There's nothing wrong with not being able to handle it personally. But lending the advice that no one ever should try is harmful and only furthers the stigma about mental illness which helps literally no one.

Saw a nice girl on the train today, was going to talk to her,then I realised I had nothing to say, so I just staired when she wasn't looking.

Sometimes it's just a way to vent, man.... Who else she gonna tell...

Some girl digs me and I dig her back but I feel emotionally unavailable, but also scared I will miss the opportunity to be with someone great. Also I feel like there are some things about her I don't really like. She has a bunch of tattoos and colored hair so there's another thing I haven't usually been attracted to.

So there's a girl in college that I'm slightly interested in that was in the same classes as I was for 2 years. We kind of hung out with the same group of people but we never did anything other than go to the same party maybe two times a year. At that time she had a boyfriend though so I never thought much of it. She broke up with him around summer last year and has been studying abroad until the start of next semester. It's always been nice talking together even though it never happened all too much except for during one group project that took about half a year. Recently I decided to throw a party and decided to invite her seeing as we were on pretty good terms, said she'd come but had to cancel last minute due to some unfortunate planning. Talked to her again at my college's Minor-promotion thing and she said she was pretty bummed she couldn't make it. We laughed about some shit and I was considering asking her out to do something sometime but seeing as it was pretty crowded and we were busy I decided against it. Would it be a good move to still ask through a text or something or is it too late (considering I've known this person for like 3 years already)?

Ight. Cool shit is going down for me. I have a date on Friday thanks to Tinder. She's a 1st year med school student who is cute as hell, is pretty damn smart, she's 22 and I'm 21. We've been hitting it off via texting and we're both researchers and it's cool to hear her research about trauma surgery. Like damn, how can you make something so painful sounding so interesting? I was all smooth and chill like, "Ever had Vietnamese?" "haha no! I'd love to try it!" Fuck yeah. Now we're talking about something pho real. How do I do a first date? Do people kiss on the first date? Do I ask her to listen to my NPR podcast mixtape? What are the anthropological customs associated with tinder dates? Do I get her to endorse me on LinkedIn for leadership and excel? Last time I seriously went out with someone it was summer of my freshman year of college. Do I hit her with some emojis later today like,"Hey, what's up boo? [insert ghost emoji]" or do I wait until Friday morning to text her again like,"Hey I hope you didn't pho get about today." Like technically I told her goodnight, and she sent me a goodnight text, so the texting ball is in my court right now, right? How do I expose her and dunk on her? What is basketball? I'm just really happy because she seems really motivated, smart, and from her pictures, really really really cute. I haven't crushed this hard in a long time.

Just be confident, have a plan. Don't make it an endless circle of 'What do you want to do?' 'I don't know, what do you want to do?' 'I don't know, what do you want to do?' And you should definitely try to kiss on the first date. If you succeed you succeed, if you don't she'll at least see you're confident enough to go for it. Confidence is sexy yo

[QUOTE=Pascall;49898476]It's not wasting time if you have the support and ability to give that to them and still be able to handle your own life too. Not everyone sees someone with a mental illness as a burden or a blight. [editline]9th March 2016[/editline] It's like asking why be in a relationship with someone with a terminal illness or cancer. They can't help it. And it's not fair to categorize all people who suffer as someone in need of babysitting or constant care. I suffer from depression, sometimes at a fairly severe level, and most of the time I just want to be left alone??? It doesn't always amount to me needing someone to baby me. You cannot and should not quantify all people who suffer from depression or suicidal tendencies as infantile or not worth the time. There's nothing wrong with not being able to handle it personally. But lending the advice that no one ever should try is harmful and only furthers the stigma about mental illness which helps literally no one.[/QUOTE] I do have the capability to give support and I do have the ability to take care of someone with severe depression, and I have done so in the past; I just refuse to because it is not worth it. It's in my humble opinion that anyone who wants to get romantically involved with anyone with any sort of mental illness take a very long hard look at it before they jump in, because it is full of stress and worry and may not be worth it in the long run. I don't reject or refuse to involve myself with people with disabilities. Hell, my girlfriend has no use of her legs below the knee and is bound to a wheelchair and I love her to death. But I don't have the time to get involved with someone who is only going to add stress and worry to my life and give nothing else. A relationship isn't about just taking care of your partner or having to work around their moods.

[QUOTE=blacksam;49899774]I was all smooth and chill like, "Ever had Vietnamese?" "haha no! I'd love to try it!" Fuck yeah. Now we're talking about something [B]pho real[/B].[/QUOTE] Absolute perfection, I lol'd

So, like, is there classes I can take on being a human being? I need, like, professional... tutelage. I'm probably some kind of alien and my human disguise isn't working, it kind of crumbles under intense scrutiny Maybe I should live in the ground with my fellow potatoes

[QUOTE=fear me;49909051]So, like, is there classes I can take on being a human being? I need, like, professional... tutelage. I'm probably some kind of alien and my human disguise isn't working, it kind of crumbles under intense scrutiny Maybe I should live in the ground with my fellow potatoes[/QUOTE] See a counselor

[QUOTE=blacksam;49899774]Ight. Cool shit is going down for me. I have a date on Friday thanks to Tinder. She's a 1st year med school student who is cute as hell, is pretty damn smart, she's 22 and I'm 21. We've been hitting it off via texting and we're both researchers and it's cool to hear her research about trauma surgery. Like damn, how can you make something so painful sounding so interesting? I was all smooth and chill like, "Ever had Vietnamese?" "haha no! I'd love to try it!" Fuck yeah. Now we're talking about something pho real. How do I do a first date? Do people kiss on the first date? Do I ask her to listen to my NPR podcast mixtape? What are the anthropological customs associated with tinder dates? Do I get her to endorse me on LinkedIn for leadership and excel? Last time I seriously went out with someone it was summer of my freshman year of college. Do I hit her with some emojis later today like,"Hey, what's up boo? [insert ghost emoji]" or do I wait until Friday morning to text her again like,"Hey I hope you didn't pho get about today." Like technically I told her goodnight, and she sent me a goodnight text, so the texting ball is in my court right now, right? How do I expose her and dunk on her? What is basketball? I'm just really happy because she seems really motivated, smart, and from her pictures, really really really cute. I haven't crushed this hard in a long time.[/QUOTE] Holy fucking shit. She's amazing. I hugged her at the beginning and we both were like,"wtf are we doing? Is this what tinder is about?" We went from 11 to 2:45 just her talking about story after story about her being a first year med school and undergrad. She loves what she does and it shows. She talked about breaking up with her boyfriend of 4 years before she came to med school. She said that she can be emotionless sometimes and honestly, I don't mind that. He found ways to guilt her and sounded like a total fuck boy each time he tried to get back with her. If I had to guess, she has some healing to do, but at the same time, she's just so dedicated to her research, school, and volunteering it just sounds like she's so busy all the time. Again, cool by me. Because I have ambitious goals as well, I want to continue my research, get through my undergrad, find a software engineering job somewhere, and keep it casual. I said at the end of the date if I did well in the interview, what sort of benefits would I be receiving if I accept the position, took a pause, and then asked her to endorse me on linkedin. She laughed, we're doing yoga next Monday. Her laugh is so cute.

All I get matches on with Tinder is bots. Which is sad, sometimes it looks really promising and then you get that auto-generated message from them and you get smacked down. Tried OkCupid as well and I've had nothing but 11 people I've got even a close match with (one I only have a 7% match with and 67% enemy??) and it never gets updated, so that's nice. I mainly use them for fun right now, you never know what might happen.

I found out that a kid I used to help with Maths was expelled last year and arrested a few days ago for waiting outside the school to beat a kid up. I just found it really sad because he's not a bad guy, he's just had a load of difficult shit and I can understand why he got so upset with the person he was waiting for. Obviously that stuff was not okay and I could never have done anything but it's just sad. Never make a 'your mum' joke to someone if you don't know them and their Mum. [editline]13th March 2016[/editline] I'm venting; I can't really talk about it at school because I'm not really meant to know the details, I just do because it was relevant for me to know for a lesson.

[QUOTE=fear me;49909051]So, like, is there classes I can take on being a human being? I need, like, professional... tutelage. [B]I'm probably some kind of alien [/B]and my human disguise isn't working, it kind of crumbles under intense scrutiny Maybe I should live in the ground with my fellow potatoes[/QUOTE] You're one of them reptilians trying to blend in with the rest of us humans, aren't you? Next thing you know this guy's learning the ropes of dating and then bam. Next thing you know he's laying his lizard eggs inside a dead prostitute. I've got my eye on you, son.

This girl I've been into took me out to breakfast yesterday which was pretty cool. She owed me one anyway for puking on my futon and shower.

Alright, i dont usualy go and ask for advice for stuff like this but this time i feel that i need to hear what others have to say. So i met this girl, and we have been talking for like 2 weeks straight, she is awesome and really gorgeous! We havent met yet though, just texting eachother. Anyhow, everything has been so smooth and gone so damn well that i started to think that soon this will turn around, and yes it did, not surprised but it is shitty non the less. So 4 days ago i sent her a text like usual (we write quite long texts to eachother back and forth so its not the normal shitchat), and i was also ready to ask if she wanted to meet this weekend after that she would of replied. Well guess what? She did never reply and still hasnt replied, so now i have no idea what to do. I mean everything went so well, and we also used snapchat the day before like crazy, and suddenly nothing! Anyone here gone through the same thing? I mean at first i was like alright she will take 2 days or something, i dont mind her having a life, but now its just getting ridiculous. Should i wait longer and see if she will reply? Should i ask her if she is OK? You know i have no idea what to do... Or should i just try to let her go? Any type of advice is appreciated! (didnt know this thread existed so i posted this in the sex'n girlfriends thread too)

[QUOTE=vizard38;49925294]This girl I've been into took me out to breakfast yesterday which was pretty cool. She owed me one anyway for puking on my [B]futon and shower[/B].[/QUOTE] Context?

[QUOTE=da space core;49925378]Context?[/QUOTE] I've been pretty into this chick, and talk here and there, nothing serious though and I've become a pretty big realist when it comes to these things. My coworker is having a party at his place, so I host a pregaming session at my house. The girl I've been into decides to come as well. Pregame devolves into a pretty legit party and everyone's wasted. Me and said girl are having a blast. We're talking about stuff and dancing with each other to Porter Robinson. Then she has one too many tequila shots and pukes on my futon. I get her into the bathroom. More puking. She wants to shower and starts stripping down. Then more puking. All of this is occurring as everyone outside is roaring drunk too. Later she passes out on my bed and pukes into the bucket I have laid out next to her. Come morning time, she (we eventually took her back to our friend's place once she sobered up) heads back to my place to grab her bra, and then she asked me if I wanted to grab breakfast with her. So yeah. Later that day I was assessing damages and it wasn't pretty. Futon needed to be cleaned, shelf got broken, a cup of mine got completely destroyed, coffee maker was completely shattered. I fixed and cleaned all of it up, and honestly I live for these sort of things so I didn't give a fuck. You know how every guy wants to say "Bruh I had a girl on my bed and she left her bra in the bathroom." That happened. Not in the way people would think though.

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;49923846]You're one of them reptilians trying to blend in with the rest of us humans, aren't you? Next thing you know this guy's learning the ropes of dating and then bam. Next thing you know he's laying his lizard eggs inside a dead prostitute. I've got my eye on you, son.[/QUOTE] oh no my horrible secret has been exposed *hissing noises*

I don't really want to go into a whole lot of backstory other than I'm extremely socially inexperienced, but I've found myself really into a guy who works at a Subway across from where I work. We've chatted a few times and I want to see if he'd be up for I don't know, something outside of a business setting. The thing is I know it's a huge faux pas to bother someone in that regard while they're on the clock, but I don't know what my other options could be. I have one friend telling me to leave a note under his windshield wiper and another friend telling me to just give him my name and number if I manage to go there while it's dead. I understand how pathetic this all sounds but like I said, very very socially inept.

Going out tomorrow with a friend to the movies and then going to eat with a different guy who I've never really met in person before on Wednesday. Trying to be social while I have the time to be lol.

yeah you're a moderator now, you have to make sacrifices and your social life is at the top of the sacrifice list.

It's Spring Break for me so I have no work or school. Also thx.

Every girl I'm interested in at my local community college has a man. That makes five ladies who I'm now friends with and I've decided to take it as a sign. A pretty obvious sign from whoever/whatever that I just need to back off, chill out, and actually finish my car restoration projects.