Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

At work last friday my co-worker left me with one of the waitresses of the place we work security at alone. She asked me if I wanted anything to drink and I told her a I'd like a Red Bull. She grabbed one and even opened it up for, something she doesn't do for anyone else, not even my co-worker, and me, being a dense fuck can only come up with one thing to say: "I could've opened it myself too." That was the only real opportunity I had to chat with her and I fucked it up as the rest of the weekend was busy as hell. I'm not sure if she thought what I said was funny but she smiled at me after I said that, either way, as I never ever have the time to chat with her I added her on social media, she accepted that and I wrote hey sometime later... She has not replied yet and I sent my message more than 12 hours ago however her last activity was like 4 hours ago. On a scale of 1 - 10, how hard did I mess up?

[QUOTE=jonoPorter;49929889]At work last friday my co-worker left me with one of the waitresses of the place we work security at alone. She asked me if I wanted anything to drink and I told her a I'd like a Red Bull. She grabbed one and even opened it up for, something she doesn't do for anyone else, not even my co-worker, and me, being a dense fuck can only come up with one thing to say: "I could've opened it myself too." That was the only real opportunity I had to chat with her and I fucked it up as the rest of the weekend was busy as hell. I'm not sure if she thought what I said was funny but she smiled at me after I said that, either way, as I never ever have the time to chat with her I added her on social media, she accepted that and I wrote hey sometime later... She has not replied yet and I sent my message more than 12 hours ago however her last activity was like 4 hours ago. On a scale of 1 - 10, how hard did I mess up?[/QUOTE] You've hugely overthinking everything

[QUOTE=jonoPorter;49929889]At work last friday my co-worker left me with one of the waitresses of the place we work security at alone. She asked me if I wanted anything to drink and I told her a I'd like a Red Bull. She grabbed one and even opened it up for, something she doesn't do for anyone else, not even my co-worker, and me, being a dense fuck can only come up with one thing to say: "I could've opened it myself too." That was the only real opportunity I had to chat with her and I fucked it up as the rest of the weekend was busy as hell. I'm not sure if she thought what I said was funny but she smiled at me after I said that, either way, as I never ever have the time to chat with her I added her on social media, she accepted that and I wrote hey sometime later... She has not replied yet and I sent my message more than 12 hours ago however her last activity was like 4 hours ago. On a scale of 1 - 10, how hard did I mess up?[/QUOTE] hahaha but don't worry about it. she might not have been up for a conversation when she was on or something. just leave it and do not send another message unless she replies

[QUOTE=vizard38;49925420]I've been pretty into this chick, and talk here and there, nothing serious though and I've become a pretty big realist when it comes to these things. My coworker is having a party at his place, so I host a pregaming session at my house. The girl I've been into decides to come as well. Pregame devolves into a pretty legit party and everyone's wasted. Me and said girl are having a blast. We're talking about stuff and dancing with each other to Porter Robinson. Then she has one too many tequila shots and pukes on my futon. I get her into the bathroom. More puking. She wants to shower and starts stripping down. Then more puking. All of this is occurring as everyone outside is roaring drunk too. Later she passes out on my bed and pukes into the bucket I have laid out next to her. Come morning time, she (we eventually took her back to our friend's place once she sobered up) heads back to my place to grab her bra, and then she asked me if I wanted to grab breakfast with her. So yeah. Later that day I was assessing damages and it wasn't pretty. Futon needed to be cleaned, shelf got broken, a cup of mine got completely destroyed, coffee maker was completely shattered. I fixed and cleaned all of it up, and honestly I live for these sort of things so I didn't give a fuck. You know how every guy wants to say "Bruh I had a girl on my bed and she left her bra in the bathroom." That happened. Not in the way people would think though.[/QUOTE] Turns out she knew I like her just before coming to the party. Don't know how much that changes anything, but that's some pressure off me actually. Plan now is this: She's been asking me how she can repay me back for literally fucking up everything. I told her to wait a week (because honestly I was a little flustered at how everything broke). So this Friday, I'm gonna ask her to meet me up and talk about what happened. Then I'll do this. "So look, you yakked on my couch, you yakked in my toilet, you yakked in my shower and all over my room. You want to pay me back for fucking everything up? Last week you lost your dinner; how about repaying me by getting some of it back tonight?" I'm the king of cheese and corn aha. What does FP think about all of this?

[QUOTE=Pat.Lithium;49929921]hahaha but don't worry about it. she might not have been up for a conversation when she was on or something. just leave it and do not send another message unless she replies[/QUOTE] Every hour that passes without her replying to my simple hey message makes me more nervous. However I don't get her just accepting my friend request and then never replying to me. [editline]14th March 2016[/editline] I'm not even sure what the hell I'm supposed to do tomorrow when there's a risk of running into her at work.

[QUOTE=jonoPorter;49931218]Every hour that passes without her replying to my simple hey message makes me more nervous. However I don't get her just accepting my friend request and then never replying to me. [editline]14th March 2016[/editline] I'm not even sure what the hell I'm supposed to do tomorrow when there's a risk of running into her at work.[/QUOTE] Dude calm down She might've been busy, might not have been in the mood. Chill out, it's probably nothing personal against you

Got out and went to the movies with a friend today! Saw Zootopia. Hit a few anxious spots but I was good, otherwise. Kept myself about as calm as I could be. Movie theatres give me some heavy anxiety but I'm pretty proud of myself for getting out and socializing AND not feeling sick during a movie. It's a big accomplishment for me.

That went... better than expected? I had to stop in twice to fix an order I fucked up on and despite there being like four or five people in there eating I struck up a small conversation and point blank asked if he'd be around tomorrow. He said no, but that he'd most likely be around Wednesday and even gave his hours. I said I'd be around to bother him so yeah. I'm pretty proud of myself.

how do I make friends with people at work? I feel extremely socially inept that I've been at my job for months and I'm still a friendless loser. There's also this girl at work I want to get to know (maybe eventually date, no idea) and I still have no idea how to kick things off. I'm pretty bad at shooting the shit so I can't really reel in a conversation and make it seem like I can get anywhere and spend time with them somehow else, whether it means adding them on fb or getting their number etc. life is way too short to be like this tbh. I'm stuck as can be and I've been sleepless with virtually only 10 hours of sleep out of the past 72, and I still can't sleep.

[QUOTE=Fussy!;49914073]All I get matches on with Tinder is bots. Which is sad, sometimes it looks really promising and then you get that auto-generated message from them and you get smacked down. Tried OkCupid as well and I've had nothing but 11 people I've got even a close match with (one I only have a 7% match with and 67% enemy??) and it never gets updated, so that's nice. I mainly use them for fun right now, you never know what might happen.[/QUOTE] Totally get what you mean. By the end you just go on Tinder sweeping right to everything hoping you can actually meet someone on there. Well that's what I do anyway. Had a good round of talk with someone on OkC (like weeks), then she met someone from school that was on OKC and deleted her account. Well, at least she sorted herself out fairly quick.

i wouldn't give up on things like tinder. i'm dating a girl who i'm probably gonna ask to be my gf pretty soon who i met on tinder. its not for everyone and everyone will get different results, but its possible to get a relationship or an easy fuck, whatever you're after.

[QUOTE=Pat.Lithium;49936577]i wouldn't give up on things like tinder. i'm dating a girl who i'm probably gonna ask to be my gf pretty soon who i met on tinder. its not for everyone and everyone will get different results, but its possible to get a relationship or an easy fuck, whatever you're after.[/QUOTE] I've only gotten about a dozen matches in three weeks on tinder, and only two of them ever spoke to me. The rest either never bothered replying to me or were bots. So I'm pretty fed up with tinder for now.

I still have to get my shit together and take a proper profile pic so I can hop on Tinder already. Does Tinder let you filter by height, by the way? I'm a small dude and I'd be a bit mortified if I showed up to a Tinder match to find some girl towering over me lol

[QUOTE=PrusseLusken;49937572]how about you just ask an eventual tinder date about her height before you catch up? pretty sure okcupid lets you sort after heigh, weight etc if you really really find it that important. how small are we talking either way?[/QUOTE] God's honest truth I don't know my actual height, I'm going to measure today when I'm home but nothing ridiculous. Something in the mid 5' range? I'm the small guy in my group but not by any freakish margin. Asking a Tinder date how tall they are seems a bit goofy but I guess it's better than crossing my fingers and hoping she doesn't wear heels lol

[QUOTE=PrusseLusken;49937572]how about you just ask an eventual tinder date about her height before you catch up? pretty sure okcupid lets you sort after heigh, weight etc if you really really find it that important. how small are we talking either way?[/QUOTE] When browsing matches, you can click the horizontal bars on the right of the "I'm looking for X" and you get the option there.

[QUOTE=Feuver;49937808]When browsing matches, you can click the horizontal bars on the right of the "I'm looking for X" and you get the option there.[/QUOTE] I'm pretty sure the app doesn't ask people for their height when they sign up, so I don't think they could have that filter. Lots of people just put their height in their bio.

i met my girlfriend of 6 months now on tinder, but we banged first ofc

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;49937826]I'm pretty sure the app doesn't ask people for their height when they sign up, so I don't think they could have that filter. Lots of people just put their height in their bio.[/QUOTE] I meant for the actual website. Unless you meant Tinder, in which case no.

I'm on okcupid but I'm not taking it v serious rn cause I have no way to get around to actually meet people if the opportunity comes up starting drivers ed in late april tho

[QUOTE=PrusseLusken;49937851]weeell to be honest it's kinda goofy that you're looking to sort matches by height, but that might just be me [editline]kurwa[/editline] i'm 180/5'11" and i'd not mind seeing a girl that was a bit taller than me. obviously if she was over 2 metres it'd be something else current flirt is like 160? cm, ex was right around 180 too though and it wasn't really weird or awkward at all[/QUOTE] Hahaha, my ex was about my height so I'm not really sensitive about it, just wanted to know if Tinder had such a feature so I can avoid any obvious mismatches with someone that is comically too big for me. I'll probably just list in bio and make it simple. Are platform lifts still in style?

Alright Facepunch, I'm going to do it tomorrow. I've been getting a lot of people telling me to do the "tell her she owes you dinner" thing but I've mulled it over and that isn't me and I'm not prepared to go against my inner gradient. Thing is, I recognize that she probably is not into me, has a lot of baggage, and is leaving in a few months anyway, and it wouldn't be fair for me to essentially phrase a question like that in such a manner when the circumstances are so fickle anyway. Instead, I'm going to phrase it this way, and I want some thoughts on this if no one minds. "Look, so I know there's been some misinterpretation in the way we've been communicating and I first want to apologize if that's gotten awkward or misleading in anyway. Thing is, to say I'm not interested in you would be a lie, but I want to respect the time gap and your own thoughts. I just want to hang out with someone who I think is incredibly awesome because <blank>, I think your dope as shit, smart as shit, and hell, cute as shit." Depending on her reaction, "If you still want to pay me back, how about letting me take you out to dinner this Friday, my treat." Obviously I won't be following this exact script because fuck that, I like to roll with the punches but I still like having a guideline. But what do you guys think, is this approach something workable or is it too off-putting? I just really want to respect her boundaries in this case.

So what's it [I]like[/I] to have friends?

[QUOTE=fear me;49941047]So what's it [I]like[/I] to have friends?[/QUOTE] A mix between good and shitty.

[QUOTE=vizard38;49940979]Alright Facepunch, I'm going to do it tomorrow. I've been getting a lot of people telling me to do the "tell her she owes you dinner" thing but I've mulled it over and that isn't me and I'm not prepared to go against my inner gradient. Thing is, I recognize that she probably is not into me, has a lot of baggage, and is leaving in a few months anyway, and it wouldn't be fair for me to essentially phrase a question like that in such a manner when the circumstances are so fickle anyway. Instead, I'm going to phrase it this way, and I want some thoughts on this if no one minds. "Look, so I know there's been some misinterpretation in the way we've been communicating and I first want to apologize if that's gotten awkward or misleading in anyway. Thing is, to say I'm not interested in you would be a lie, but I want to respect the time gap and your own thoughts. I just want to hang out with someone who I think is incredibly awesome because <blank>, I think your dope as shit, smart as shit, and hell, cute as shit." Depending on her reaction, "If you still want to pay me back, how about letting me take you out to dinner this Friday, my treat." Obviously I won't be following this exact script because fuck that, I like to roll with the punches but I still like having a guideline. But what do you guys think, is this approach something workable or is it too off-putting? I just really want to respect her boundaries in this case.[/QUOTE] I don't know the backstory between you and this girl but this sounds really goofy to be honest. I wouldn't make it such a huge thing, just ask her if she wants to go out and get something to eat some time. The huge lead-in is unnecessary and would just make things really uncomfortable if she ends up turning you down.

[QUOTE=srobins;49942190]I don't know the backstory between you and this girl but this sounds really goofy to be honest. I wouldn't make it such a huge thing, just ask her if she wants to go out and get something to eat some time. The huge lead-in is unnecessary and would just make things really uncomfortable if she ends up turning you down.[/QUOTE] You're right. I was over thinking it. I'm just going to go back to the original plan and just asking if she wanted to go with me for some dinner on Friday. I'm nervous but excited to do this.

Tonight I managed to get broken up with by a girl I wasn't even dating. I think that's some kinda new low. She basically told me we've been spending an awful lot of time together lately, and said we should "take a break" for a while. There was even an "It's not you, it's me" thrown into the speech for good measure. I'm kind of awestruck that this actually happened.

fuuuuck its so god damn good to have a girl like me this much. i just got off the phone with her we talked for 2 and a half hours. my ex never even talked to me on the phone once, or liked me nearly as much as this girl does. i wanna ask her to be my gf but i'm waiting until i see her next because i want to see her face when i do.

Have a lunch "date" today. Kind of nervous? Though the guy looks a little dorky. Kind of hoping he doesn't just end up asking me about video games the entire time. Idk we'll see how it goes. We're just going out to this ramen place.

Had a date yesterday with a girl who turned out to be a midget. I hope my date friday with this other girl goes better. We've been texting a lot recently and she seems really cool! I deleted my ex's number, thinking about removing her from facebook and snapchat as well

Is it weird to always be the one to start conversations like online? I've been talking to this girl, lately, and we've had some pretty good conversations, but when I think about it, I'm usually the one to say hi first. Is that weird? Or is it fine?