Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v7 - Bro just do it, She prob likes you - General

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49981083]The world can change faster than you think. One day I'm the nerd in 7th grade being bullied, hopeless about finding a relationship. The next thing I know, I'm a sophomore in high-school dating the cheerleader that I dreamed of dating in 7th grade (like, literally. It was super coincidental). We broke up two months later because I didn't want to have sex with her and then she was pregnant at 17 BUT the lesson is: never give up! Tomorrow could be the day that your impossible reality becomes actuality. Now I'm in a 5 year+ relationship, have lots of friends, good grades, and a bright future. And If [I]I[/I] can do it, anyone here can do it too. Not directed at anyone specifically.[/QUOTE] Two years ago I was engaged and thought my life was set, now I'm going on 5 dates a week with ghosts and people I'd rather be friends with. At least twice a day I seriously debate starting on allergy shots so I can fulfill my destiny as a cat lady.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;49981086]Two years ago I was engaged and thought my life was set, now I'm going on 5 dates a week with ghosts and people I'd rather be friends with. At least twice a day I seriously debate starting on allergy shots so I can fulfill my destiny as a cat lady.[/QUOTE] why are you so eager to immediately start over?

[QUOTE=Sector 7;49981160]why are you so eager to immediately start over?[/QUOTE] I guess initially I was probably rebounding/in denial. At this point I'm not in a huge rush to get into a relationship, I mostly just miss physical affection/sex (seriously, I have the sex drive of a 14 year old boy lately). It's just kind of eaten away at my self-esteem to have two guys, both who seemed to have a great time and were the ones who suggested a second date, proceed to completely ignore me afterward. I never had a hard time finding a boyfriend in the past and this time around I've gotten rejected so much that I just don't feel attractive anymore. [editline]21st March 2016[/editline] But I guess the more accurate answer would be to prove to myself that I can fall for someone else. My latest ex was the only guy I ever really loved and I'm constantly scared I'm never going to find a connection like that with someone again.

i dunno there are 3.5 billion dudes on earth seems weird to think you couldn't find something even better the people you're seeing might be picking up on the fact that you just got out of something big. do you tell them that?

It was mentioned in passing with the first guy since he had talked in depth about his ex as well. That could have been part of the reason for ghosting me but I'm really not sure. I don't think I mentioned my ex to the second one, not in recent terms at least. I have no idea why he dropped me. And logically I know that there's someone out there who I would be compatible with, but given that I don't talk to every single attractive guy I see in person unless I can come up with a decent excuse to do so, I probably won't get to know more than a couple hundred of those guys in the next few years. And with my ex, it was "love at first sight" (I know how fucking cheesy that sounds) - I felt immediately comfortable and completely trusting with him from the start and I'm not sure it's reasonable to expect to ever experience that again.

I don't know if I'd call that "unsuccessfully dating" I mean at least you're dating. You've been on more dates in a week than I've been on... ever. I tried tinder, thinking it would be a confidence booster if nothing else, just seeing how many girls find me attractive. Turns out I got a grand total of 4 matches in a whole month, and only one of them actually talked to me at all. So it kinda backfired and I stopped looking at it for fear that it'd just harm my self-confidence even more. About a week ago I got matched with this girl who seemed [i]amazing[/i], like pretty much perfect in looks and bio, but then she never responded to me either. And the little nuggets of denial like "I'm probably being too picky with my likes" or "These girls probably haven't looked at the app in months" only get me so far before they stop working.

hell man when i used tinder i used 2 fingers to swipe right until i was out of likes. only used it for about 3 weeks but i got about 20 matches

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;49981229]It was mentioned in passing with the first guy since he had talked in depth about his ex as well. That could have been part of the reason for ghosting me but I'm really not sure. I don't think I mentioned my ex to the second one, not in recent terms at least. I have no idea why he dropped me. And logically I know that there's someone out there who I would be compatible with, but given that I don't talk to every single attractive guy I see in person unless I can come up with a decent excuse to do so, I probably won't get to know more than a couple hundred of those guys in the next few years. And with my ex, it was "love at first sight" (I know how fucking cheesy that sounds) - I felt immediately comfortable and completely trusting with him from the start and I'm not sure it's reasonable to expect to ever experience that again.[/QUOTE] A lot of what you have posted recently is like reading about myself. I don't have anything particularly useful to say, but you aren't alone.

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;49977135]I'm always terrified at the thought of just pushing somebody's boundaries like that, even A LITTLE. I really like physical affection but I'm really extremely conservative about it. Like when I was 18 I had a girl practically throwing herself at me (realized a year or two later in retrospect that she really badly wanted sex with me) but I never made a move because I wait until it's practically laid out in writing. I never even hug people I haven't hugged before unless they go for it first. The only reason I got my first kiss was because the girl I was with blatantly said "We should make out" and only lost my virginity because she later asked me if I had condoms. I sometimes feel like I shouldn't have SO MUCH of a passive stance (i.e. ALWAYS waiting for the other person to make the first move), but it's like Lithium said, I couldn't live with myself if I pushed someone too far, even just a little. Like, I have a female friend who'd occasionally sleep topless with me, and she'd always been fine with me touching if I felt like it, but one night I heard her calmly go "That's enough of that" and I just immediately took my hands off her entirely and would have spent the whole next day apologizing if she hadn't made it such a point to assure me it's ok.[/QUOTE] I feel the same way,I don't ever want to push something,I guess it can be a bad thing but also good.I was sitting with my girlfriend at school one day and sometimes I would unknowingly touch her leg but then she said that I shouldn't cause she's tickle-ish in that area so I never really did that again.I would rather be the guy that respects her in the way she wants rather than being pushy over things that don't matter.I love her and as long as she's there by my side,nothing else matters.

So, Uni started about two weeks ago, and everything's been going pretty damn well. I have tons of new friend and I love everything about my clases. I'm having kind of a hard time not feeling really sleepy since I wake up at 5 AM (any advice for this?), but it's just a little bad thing among all of the good ones. My ex is on the same place, and I've seen her holding hands with am ugly ass dude, but sincerily, I couldn't care less. That's a little update on me, here's my situation. There's this girl in my class, who I can proudly say I said hi to first, that I started liking a lot for reasons unknown to me, but w/e, reasons are not relevant. When we talk I lind of black out and say weord stuff, maybe it gets akward, but she laughs a lot at my shitty jokes so I guess that's a very good sign for me. Plus, she sells stuff to eat so I have the perfect excuse to talk to her at least daily, and it usually goes pretty well. Okay, so, we get along, I like her, and I do't have trouble starting conversations with her, so, what next? Do I "let it flow"? Do I ask her to go gtab luch with me?

[QUOTE=Cosa8888;49983314]So, Uni started about two weeks ago, and everything's been going pretty damn well. I have tons of new friend and I love everything about my clases. I'm having kind of a hard time not feeling really sleepy since I wake up at 5 AM (any advice for this?), but it's just a little bad thing among all of the good ones. My ex is on the same place, and I've seen her holding hands with am ugly ass dude, but sincerily, I couldn't care less. That's a little update on me, here's my situation. There's this girl in my class, who I can proudly say I said hi to first, that I started liking a lot for reasons unknown to me, but w/e, reasons are not relevant. When we talk I lind of black out and say weord stuff, maybe it gets akward, but she laughs a lot at my shitty jokes so I guess that's a very good sign for me. Plus, she sells stuff to eat so I have the perfect excuse to talk to her at least daily, and it usually goes pretty well. Okay, so, we get along, I like her, and I do't have trouble starting conversations with her, so, what next? Do I "let it flow"? Do I ask her to go gtab luch with me?[/QUOTE] Depends what you're looking for,are you looking to be in an relationship where you're fully committed or just someone to be with for the time being due to the breakup.I'm not saying you're looking for a re-bounce but as long as you do what feels right and know what you're looking for things should turn out for the best.

I'm looking for a commited relationship, not a rebound. Mainly since I broke up with my ex like 4 months ago.

Welp, I just commented how I dislike the distance and the amount of days (usually goes to weeks) that pass between our dates to my gf, she commented back that she doesn't mind and that she isn't really ready for a relationship or anything anyway. Just when I started developing good feelings for her. This happened last time too. And every time really. The second I dare to say I care about someone out loud, they either just say they were never serious with me or that "But we are just friends :)" (despite all the cuddling and sex etc.) and then they start making up excuses so they never have to see me again. And slowly ignore me to loneliness. I'll try not to feel anything next time, I promise!

I used to post on here under a different name, but things are really starting to look up for me now - I had a rough patch October - December, but I met someone and I feel a lot better about things. Been together for three months now, and things are amazing. There's hope out there.

I need some new goddamn friends They were so much more fun freshman year, now all they want to do is stay in, smoke weed, and watch shitty sit coms on netflix.

[QUOTE=Wealth + Taste;49984269]I need some new goddamn friends They were so much more fun freshman year, now all they want to do is stay in, smoke weed, and watch shitty sit coms on netflix.[/QUOTE] Weed smokers are some of the most boring and complacent people on earth (to people who don't smoke weed)

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49984495]Weed smokers are some of the most boring and complacent people on earth (to people who don't smoke weed)[/QUOTE] I smoke weed from time to time, but they've made it a lifestyle. It's all they want to do now, and that's fine for them but it's not fine for me. I need people who want to vary it up a little. I want to go out and do things, not smoke in their shitty apartment day in day out.

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49984495]Weed smokers are some of the most boring and complacent people on earth (to people who don't smoke weed)[/QUOTE] and people who think one hobby defines your personality are worse

[QUOTE=Zukriuchen;49984673]and people who think one hobby defines your personality are worse[/QUOTE] I think it's clear he's talking about genuine stoners, to whom the hobby DOES define their life. Everyone knows someone or a few people who have literally nothing going on in their lives but weed. It's disappointing, sometimes I'll hit somebody up to hang out and cycle through a million suggestions of what to do before they just say "bro let's just smoke".

[QUOTE=Zukriuchen;49984673]and people who think one hobby defines your personality are worse[/QUOTE] I'm clearly and plainly talking about people who act like weed is their justification for existence, not someone who smokes a blunt on the weekend.

~Weed culture~ is probably the biggest barrier to actual proper research and legalization of drugs. Every time I see a rasta flag with "420" embroidered on it in some dickhead's window it becomes harder and harder to take it seriously.

[QUOTE=ichiman94;49978780]It's the sixth week in the uni and I still have only one dude who I talk with whenever we have the same class. I'm really introverted and I don't know if it's even worth trying to socialize at this point, it was always hard to break out of my shell even in high school. Thing is, I realized I am kinda horny, not in the way having boner all day, but I think about girls a lot even in math class, and I have some pretty girls sitting around me in the class, either alone or in a pair. They always show a smile when I give them the catalog, but that's all the interaction for the day. Where do I start? How do I even start? What can I do to break my daily constant silence or something? Should I even get out of my skin or keep thinking I am a ugly shit... Today I wasted all my time at home browsing the interwebz and doing nothing creative inbetween (other than eating pissing etc) with all my motivation at the bottom even tho I want to start a gmod series someday which requires me to write a story, practice animating etc, and then I have to study some other shit for the exams happing in weeks, I just don't know where to begin and what to continue. I better go sleep away this bullshit, have to wake up at 5 am for the Solidworks CAD class which I love :v:[/QUOTE] Sleeping well has helped some, having CAD exam in the morning even helped more. I don't know if I am on everyone's ignore list or being hated in this thread, I seem I am not welcome here then :surrender:

[QUOTE=Disseminate;49985009]~Weed culture~ is probably the biggest barrier to actual proper research and legalization of drugs. Every time I see a rasta flag with "420" embroidered on it in some dickhead's window it becomes harder and harder to take it seriously.[/QUOTE] we just need a new holocaust is all.

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49985066]we just need a new holocaust is all.[/QUOTE] Fitting username.

Met a girl at a party on saturday, added her on facebook. Been chatting for a nit, but its been kinda slow because we're both busy with school. Things look like they're looking up.

[QUOTE=Zukriuchen;49984673]and people who think one hobby defines your personality are worse[/QUOTE] smoking weed isn't a hobby lol you'd be quick to change your tune if someone started talking about their "drinking hobby" or their "heroin hobby"

I don't mind people who smoke weed because it's pretty common. I DO mind people who do nothing BUT smoke weed to the point where it becomes their entire personality lol

[QUOTE=srobins;49984713]I think it's clear he's talking about genuine stoners, to whom the hobby DOES define their life. Everyone knows someone or a few people who have literally nothing going on in their lives but weed. It's disappointing, sometimes I'll hit somebody up to hang out and cycle through a million suggestions of what to do before they just say "bro let's just smoke".[/QUOTE] I wouldn't have said that if I thought that was the sentiment behind it. He said a similar thing last time the topic was brought up. Not that I mean to antagonize people, I just didn't feel that was what he really meant. If I'm wrong, then I apologize. I'm a stoner (whoda guessed) myself. Not that I walk around with a rastafari headband to go with my Bob Marley shirt, while making small talk about my new bong. And I get annoyed at those people too, as annoyed as I get with the other extreme: goody-two-shoes who barrage me with questions like "You do know weed has side effects right?" or "Are you one of those people who think it cures cancer?" at the first mention of the word Now, I'm not blaming anyone for getting annoyed with stoners. I get it, it's often unavoidable. An old friend starts to make it a big part of their identity, or all the people you meet won't stop talking about how the big bad government shouldn't be banning a plant, and there's nothing wrong with getting pissed about that. But try to look at this from my perspective. Weed is a part of my life - not a part I give that much importance to, and certainly not something I use to define myself, but still. So pardon me for feeling like non-smokers hating on stoners are, more often than not, going out of their way to do so, while the other end of the spectrum is [I]not[/I] something I can escape from

Nearly every person I've met has mentioned smoking pot at least once. It's something that I've heard casually mentioned on a regular basis in conversations, public or private. Nobody I've met really cares if you smoke because practically everybody has at some point.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49986053]I think vaping is for pussies too afraid to smoke a real cig. It makes you look like a huge tool in my eyes.[/QUOTE] i vape and smoke too, what's the problem? i like cigarettes but i also like huge clouds