[QUOTE=DentalDoctor;39832098]then you fight him, even if you lose you still win
he will leave you alone
but you fight like you want to prove yourself, not like you have to
its not what you do, it's how you do it.[/QUOTE]
how do you know that the majority of bullies will react in this way consistently enough to think of this as good advice
[QUOTE=Cone;39832139]how do you know that the majority of bullies will react in this way consistently enough to think of this as good advice[/QUOTE]
it's better then letting them shit on you for no reason
where is your [b]pride[/b]
no one has fucking pride in themselves here, what the fuck
the only reason you wouldn't do something is because you look down on yourself, and if you do then you're a fucking idiot/loser, whatever the word of the day is
He's just trolling in here again guys, just report and move on
[QUOTE=Squidman;39832182]He's just trolling in here again guys, just report and move on[/QUOTE]
Wow this is the equivalent to the "nanananana can't hear you" argument you did as a kid
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[QUOTE=Marbalo;39832175]if a guy who is labeled a "that weird kid" suddenly starts throwing fists at his bullies all he will become is "that weird psycho kid"
your hilarious concepts of proving yourself to people who couldn't give less of a shit about you is moronic. bullies don't actually realize what they are doing when they're doing it. all they know is that they're having fun on someone elses expense. for them it's harmless fun, for the victim it's hell.
i was never bullied but how hard can it be to grasp the concept of childhood traumas holy fuck[/QUOTE]
hold on now, why do you think you weren't bullied? did you ever stand up for yourself? because most of the people arguing with me probably never did
[QUOTE=DentalDoctor;39832161]it's better then letting them shit on you for no reason
where is your [b]pride[/b]
no one has fucking pride in themselves here, what the fuck[/QUOTE]
do you seriously think that they'll care how prideful you are when they're beating the fuck out of you? the result is exactly the same as if you did nothing at all if it isn't even worse than it was before, i don't see how this can be considered a win
[QUOTE=Cone;39832260]do you seriously think that they'll care how prideful you are when they're beating the fuck out of you? the result is exactly the same as if you did nothing at all if it isn't even worse than it was before, i don't see how this can be considered a win[/QUOTE]
have you ever been in a fight
i mean how can you be this stupid
more often then not, unless someone did something to anothers family or have actual problems with them, after the fight they dap and shit showing respect for putting up a fight
[QUOTE=DentalDoctor;39832268]have you ever been in a fight
i mean how can you be this stupid[/QUOTE]
how does self-righteous = better fighter
[QUOTE=Marbalo;39832295]i didn't have to stand up for myself because i had the fortune of never being harassed. but this is irrelevant.
life isn't a movie, you don't start off as a bullied underdog, overcome your issues, stomp your enemies and come out on top. it doesn't work like that. i remember endless scenarios of both scrawny and chunky kids being harassed until snapping. guess what, nothing really changed. they either transferred schools or stayed. no one touched them afterwards, but no one talked to them either.
because everyone thought they were fucking nuts. in the mind of young children, the concept of bullying is less known. so what they see is a relatively quiet kid who just turns into an animal and breaks some kids face for no reason.
either you read one too many "HOW 2 BE ALPHA MALE" books or you are seriously sheltered.
bullying is a real issue, period. don't try to downplay it by claiming kids just aren't standing up for themselves. stop blaming the fucking victim.[/QUOTE]
That's true, there are infinite possibilities, and it could continue. The best thing to do though, is to stand up for yourself and brush it off as if it doesn't affect you.
The reason people would look at you is because you look so damaged over fucking [b]words[/b]
But god damn, you 'bully-bashers' are so hard headed.
All in all, there's nothing I can tell you but to fucking suck it up and deal with it, bad shit happens to people, it's fucking life. Don't get down on it and don't think of yourself as a lesser person, fuck the people who talk down on you. Words mean nothing. If they want to fuck with you for real, then you fight back and keep fighting back. Hell if you want it over sooner, you go out and start the fight. If you want your "bullying" to end, become the bully, thinking "fighting is wrong im politically correct" just makes you the target. Plain and simple.
Hey, I got bullied for some parts of secondary school. It wasn't extreme, but it was there and I was scared of some people for it. Even now, I do have names thrown at me.
I fit into DentalDoctor's idea of 'stand up for yourself'. I don't like fighting because hey, I'm a fat kid who has a really weak punch. I've stood up to bullies and thrown their faces against lockers. They didn't leave me alone after that, it was only once the teachers were able to see the problem did they put measures in place to prevent it. However, I was nowhere near the worst possible case. I hear other people saying they were bullied but if you compare their experiences to mine, theirs are far, FAR worse.
Yeah, you can build a bridge and get over it, but some people can't. Bullies prey on the weak, and the weakest will never escape from it. You fall flat on your face when you throw a punch to stop the bully, you're gonna get laughed at even more. I honestly feel bad when I claim I was bullied. I wasn't, not as bad as some people have it. You can ignore everything people say, but one day one of those names is gonna get through to you, its going to touch a nerve. Words are powerful tools, and no amount of shutting them out can block what people say behind your back.
Yes, some people can and should deal with bullying in a way that is simply 'punch them back', but those that can't? Well in your ideal world they can't do jack shit. They can't do jack shit in this world, either.
More importantly, there are some people whom, especially in their teenage years, may not be able to just suck it up and deal with it. You don't represent everyone. Words can't hurt you, its what those words invoke that hurt you.
please be quiet
I cant honestly say I was bullied much as a kid, the only time I can ever recall being bullied was in 3rd grade when I started crying in class because my dad had died the week before.
I can say though that it is one of the reasons I now work with children who've experienced tragedy, so they've got someone who wont judge them for letting that shit out.
[QUOTE=DentalDoctor;39697532]It's hard to understand, but its true.
In highschool, the only people who ever were singled out was because they were overly extra, wouldn't do shit to not be annoying, took everything as offence and probably thought the whole world was against them.
If you want to stop being 'bullied' don't start acting like [b]you're being 'bullied'[/b]
I also hate that word, 'bullying' it's survival of the fittest, do something to change shit. If you're not big or anything, use your words. You can shit talk and weasel to get your way out of anything.
Stop secluding yourself whimpering because noone likes you. As long as people aren't robbing you or kicking the shit out of you, it isn't bullying.
Also, stop thinking that anyone who hasn't been bullied doesn't know the feeling, the feeling is anxiety and everyone gets it. You feel like there's no point for your input, or theres nothing you can do. It's bullshit.
But, this is facepunch so I already know no one is going to see eye-eye with me because they're so ~damaged~ and noone ~understands~[/QUOTE]
get fucked you dumb cunt, try being bullied for a few weeks on end and see how that treats you
Some people [I]can't help being 'extra'[/I]. Whatever the heck 'extra' is even supposed to mean if not more than a discriminatory slur. Using [B]Survival of the Fittest[/B] in a case where equality is [I]supposed[/I] to be a guarantee is very old-fashioned. Who the fuck says you can weasel? The bully is just going to hurt you even more if you do that. It's a loop.
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[QUOTE=DentalDoctor;39832326]That's true, there are infinite possibilities, and it could continue. The best thing to do though, is to stand up for yourself and brush it off as if it doesn't affect you.
The reason people would look at you is because you look so damaged over fucking [b]words[/b]
But god damn, you 'bully-bashers' are so hard headed.
[B]All in all, there's nothing I can tell you but to fucking suck it up and deal with it, bad shit happens to people, it's fucking life. Don't get down on it and don't think of yourself as a lesser person, fuck the people who talk down on you. Words mean nothing. If they want to fuck with you for real, then you fight back and keep fighting back. Hell if you want it over sooner, you go out and start the fight. If you want your "bullying" to end, become the bully, thinking "fighting is wrong im politically correct" just makes you the target. Plain and simple.[/B][/QUOTE]
Did you even watch the video, god damn. Even you know that 'words' can hurt. Very much so.
What would you feel if a classmate, or even a teacher, just started acting against you with such fierceness. It's hard to deal with.
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[QUOTE=mac338;39698150]I feel immensely lucky never to have been bullied (nor to have bullied) but I feel like I miss an important life perspective.[/QUOTE]
I wasn't really bullied at school either, but that's probably because I only went there five to seven days a month. I got stuck in a bad circle and my life at home wasn't good. I felt I wasn't needed, or was being cared for and since I didn't come to school everyone thought I wasn't going to make it. But one day I picked up the broken pieces and everything changed, all thanks to my teacher and mentor I had for four years whom kept trying to get me to school, despite me giving up every single day until the last year.
I feel like I owe him my life. Or at least a part of it. It was such a significant event in my life that made me more who I am today.
I applied the spoken work's meaning to times like this. I remembered my parent's divorce, my chaotic life with poverty (which is still clinging on, but not to the same degree) and the people around me who never gave up. Who just kept trying.
I interpreted it like that anyway. To keep trying despite the odds given.
[QUOTE=DentalDoctor;39832326]That's true, there are infinite possibilities, and it could continue. The best thing to do though, is to stand up for yourself and brush it off as if it doesn't affect you.
The reason people would look at you is because you look so damaged over fucking [B]words[/B]
But god damn, you 'bully-bashers' are so hard headed.
All in all, there's nothing I can tell you but to fucking suck it up and deal with it, bad shit happens to people, it's fucking life. Don't get down on it and don't think of yourself as a lesser person, fuck the people who talk down on you. Words mean nothing. If they want to fuck with you for real, then you fight back and keep fighting back. Hell if you want it over sooner, you go out and start the fight. If you want your "bullying" to end, become the bully, thinking "fighting is wrong im politically correct" just makes you the target. Plain and simple.[/QUOTE]
You're literally dumb.
I mean seriously I read all your posts in this thread and I've never seen someone as literally retarded as you.
No offense.
[QUOTE=FlubberNugget;39833038]get fucked you dumb cunt, try being bullied for a few weeks on end and see how that treats you
Some people [I]can't help being 'extra'[/I]. Whatever the heck 'extra' is even supposed to mean if not more than a discriminatory slur. Using [B]Survival of the Fittest[/B] in a case where equality is [I]supposed[/I] to be a guarantee is very old-fashioned. Who the fuck says you can weasel? The bully is just going to hurt you even more if you do that. It's a loop.
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Did you even watch the video, god damn. Even you know that 'words' can hurt. Very much so.
What would you feel if a classmate, or even a teacher, just started acting against you with such fierceness. It's hard to deal with.[/QUOTE]
you are the definition of "that kid" in high school
also by the sound of your examples, you're that kind of kid who never had anything happen to him, never forced into a fight but was scared daily about the cruel shit you think people [b]might[/b] do to you
because you're just writing [b]fantasy[/b]
words are words, do they cause you pain? do the people who use these words actually know who you are?
[editline]7th March 2013[/editline]
[QUOTE=EcksDee;39833682]You're literally dumb.
I mean seriously I read all your posts in this thread and I've never seen someone as literally retarded as you.
No offense.[/QUOTE]
me saying that you should stand up for yourself because you're a better person than strangers make you out to be, makes me dumb?
why are you all so hostile about this topic, like I'm literally giving you advice how to help yourself to make it better because it worked for me and worked for many other people, why are you just so hard headed like there's nothing to do but cry about it. you don't even take the time to go out and try it, you just sit here and say im wrong when you haven't even given it a shot, you just fantasize about what [i]might[/i] happen to you, as if you know.
stop letting those bad thoughts circle around in your head, it drags you down.
[QUOTE=DentalDoctor;39834089]you are the definition of "that kid" in high school
also by the sound of your examples, you're that kind of kid who never had anything happen to him, never forced into a fight but was scared daily about the cruel shit you think people [b]might[/b] do to you
because you're just writing [b]fantasy[/b]
words are words, do they cause you pain? do the people who use these words actually know who you are?
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do you not fucking understand that some people dont have control over the disablites they are born with? bullying isnt 'survival of the fittest' and doing what you say will just dig a deeper hole for people.
me saying that you should stand up for yourself because you're a better person than strangers make you out to be, makes me dumb?
why are you all so hostile about this topic, like I'm literally giving you advice how to help yourself to make it better because it worked for me and worked for many other people, why are you just so hard headed like there's nothing to do but cry about it. you don't even take the time to go out and try it, you just sit here and say im wrong when you haven't even given it a shot, you just fantasize about what [i]might[/i] happen to you, as if you know.
stop letting those bad thoughts circle around in your head, it drags you down.[/QUOTE]
people cant control what they are born with, doing what you say will just dig a deeper hole.
He apparently was stupid enough to shitpost in one of Garry's threads. Good riddance.
[QUOTE=Squidman;39834399]He apparently was stupid enough to shitpost in one of Garry's threads. Good riddance.[/QUOTE]
Good. Hope he'll realize one day that some people are simply sensitive, unlike him. How about showing some sympathy instead of telling them to grow a thick skin as if it's as easy as putting on shoes?
There is no "right" way to deal with bullying, but heres my two cents. It comes in all forms and kids will adapt to your behavior. It takes understanding why your different and finding people that will support you and like you, who will be honest with you and help you through. Life is a learning experience and if you choose to learn and adapt then, you will feel better. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being sad and feeling down, but realize that there are others experiencing the same thing and hopefully people who will help you though. Sulking will not make it better, you have to be motivated to change yourself, which might take changing schools or whatever, but there is a way out and you can only help yourself.
[QUOTE=dvc;39727600]Ok, try being born with no function of your legs and getting picked on for it with no control over it. Then come back and say that.
Fucker[/QUOTE]
did that happen to you? because, that would fucking
[h2]SUCK SHIT[/h2]
at least if you have good looks and charm you'd do OK.
[editline]7th March 2013[/editline]
[QUOTE=DentalDoctor;39834089]you are the definition of "that kid" in high school
also by the sound of your examples, you're that kind of kid who never had anything happen to him, never forced into a fight but was scared daily about the cruel shit you think people [b]might[/b] do to you
because you're just writing [b]fantasy[/b]
words are words, do they cause you pain? do the people who use these words actually know who you are?
[editline]7th March 2013[/editline]
me saying that you should stand up for yourself because you're a better person than strangers make you out to be, makes me dumb?
why are you all so hostile about this topic, like I'm literally giving you advice how to help yourself to make it better because it worked for me and worked for many other people, why are you just so hard headed like there's nothing to do but cry about it. you don't even take the time to go out and try it, you just sit here and say im wrong when you haven't even given it a shot, you just fantasize about what [i]might[/i] happen to you, as if you know.
stop letting those bad thoughts circle around in your head, it drags you down.[/QUOTE]
I know I could ignore being insulted pretty well but most people don't have the arrogance of a bull.
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The schools I went to, the victims were always the ones to get in trouble if it was reported.
He's permad everyone, we can go home.
Someone being weird shouldn't be an excuse for bullying.
It's no fun for me reliving the odd 8 years of bullying. Getting choked/beaten because I stood up to the bullies, and the fear of going through the school corridors waiting for one of the bullys to show up and give me hell.
What people don't understand that even if some kids are different or are more sensitive than others, you should respect them and don't try to "toughen" them up by bullying etc.
The best way to cope with it, is to find something you're good at and excell at it. Add in some weightlifting/getting buff/confidence boosting, your life will get better. Although, I'm still struggling with bad confidence and anxiety today.
This hits home for me too, I used to have it all and then I moved to a new place, got picked harsh and responded by fighting, in the end I learned aggressive behavior will not get you anywhere and it's best to walk away. some of the things they said still get to me but later I personally attacked most of them only to get in more trouble, and to think where I used to live I was well respected and loved by all the kids and now I recall I picked on this fat girl who was going rough with it, like the bunch of bullies and there is that one kid who doesn't say much but still sometimes says bad things then patches it up and goes back to the cycle.
Years later I found out one of my old bullies turned into a freaking knife killer who has killed two people who pissed him off :pwn:
I don't hate myself or anything but it was rough and I feel for everyone struggling to cope, I coped and was called brave by many peers but it's nothing compared to those brave souls having it worse.
Most bullies grow up or they fail in life and I should know most of them have changed, apologized to me or flat-out become criminals
[QUOTE=Bleach Qeef;39697403]The only reason kids get bullied is because they are acting like boners.
That and he really this thing way too over dramatic.[/QUOTE]
When I was in year there was some kid I used to called "gay" a lot, to the extent that it probably almost counted as bullying, and it was because he was a douche. He still is, but when I think about it I still feel like a massive piece of shit, and if I could, would go and slap 10 year old me.
You've obviously never been bullied, and have no idea what you're talking about.
This reminds me of my childhood. It was horrible. And it's a good
that it all stopped.