• I have nothing to look forward to in life. HELP.
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I've noticed people saying that you aren't supposed to have your career thought out at sophomore year, because that's a little early. Shit, I had my general career goal established when I was like 8. Medical field (or, translated in 4th grader, "I WANNA BE A DOCTAH."). As I went through high school and did some internships and competitions I narrowed it down to Physical Therapy or Orthopedic Surgery (since I know bones and muscles like the back of my friggin hand). Not saying you have to have your career choice lined up that early, but it really helps to have at least a vague idea of what it is you want to do. Figure out what it is you want to do. Set up a few possible career choices, ignore amount of schooling and such at first. Look into those careers, do some interning, some job shadowing, or home research, and slowly make your final decision based on what you feel is better for you. Once you have a goal in sight, make a plan to achieve that goal.
[QUOTE=Anonymouse;16051422]My Mom has tried putting me into therapy, and really I don't feel like opening up to a person about how I got raped as a child.[/QUOTE] Right and so you decided that instead of opening up about personal stuff like this, you're gonna tell this to thousands of basement dwellers and Internet tough guys who are just gonna laugh at you to make up for the misery of their own shitty lives. Reasonable.
your life seems very interesting
Take a one way ticket to XXX-country for a bit of a change of scenes. You could go to Somalia like in South Park. :yarr:
[QUOTE=occer;16052634]Take a one way ticket to XXX-country for a bit of a change of scenes. You could go to Somalia like in South Park. :yarr:[/QUOTE] YARR, WE BE PIRATES, SAILIN' THE AFRICAN SEA!!! YE CAN ALL JOIN ME SCURVY CREW! That is, of course, unless you're a Ginger.
Life isn't for looking forward to, it's for enjoying yourself. If you aren't enjoying life then change something so you do.
[QUOTE=Malumbre;16051611]I know a girl who has grown up well off. Her parents are rich. They rent houses out to people, they have their own yacht, they're paying my her college off. She's been nothing but fortunate in the money department. She has talent with art and music, she went to college straight out of highschool to do what she already knew she was born to do. She's getting a whole new experience being in college and all that. She isn't the happiest girl in the world. She's got everything you claim to be lacking and yet she's miserable, she has social anxiety, she considers herself to be awkward even though she's a great girl and it makes her miserable. Wait until you get into the real world. This highschool social scene doesn't mean shit. If you're not really good at anything and can't make up your mind about school, just get through highschool and get yourself a job, or get some basic diploma from college just so you can use it to get your foot in the door somewhere. You may stumble into something you find incredibly interesting and discover you're proficient at it while you're fuckin' around in college. I don't know what I want to do yet and I'm getting older now, so I'm kind of at that point where I think I need to just get my ass in there and get going, but you've got plenty of time to figure things out. Look, I was at the point where I thought suicide was the answer. It isn't. Things change, you change, your perspective of the world changes, you meet people, you discover. I used to suffer from depression and anxiety and then one day I woke up and I realised it was gone. Had I killed myself, I wouldn't be able to enjoy life as I do now, I wouldn't be able to share my life with my wife. What's really important is figuring out who you are and what you want out of life. There's no set pattern or shape you have to cram your life into to please others' expectations. I'm not picky. I don't want fancy cars and a huge house. Material possessions aren't important; after all, you're going to die. But don't kill yourself. All of these confusing things don't get solved by doing that. Just be glad you get the chance to experience life. Being alive, getting by with a few luxuries here and there is enough for me.[/QUOTE] I like this post a lot.
Why did I say "they're paying [b]my her[/b] college off" in the first paragraph? :downs:
[QUOTE=Malumbre;16051611]I know a girl who has grown up well off. Her parents are rich. They rent houses out to people, they have their own yacht, they're paying my her college off. She's been nothing but fortunate in the money department. She has talent with art and music, she went to college straight out of highschool to do what she already knew she was born to do. She's getting a whole new experience being in college and all that. She isn't the happiest girl in the world. She's got everything you claim to be lacking and yet she's miserable, she has social anxiety, she considers herself to be awkward even though she's a great girl and it makes her miserable. Wait until you get into the real world. This highschool social scene doesn't mean shit. If you're not really good at anything and can't make up your mind about school, just get through highschool and get yourself a job, or get some basic diploma from college just so you can use it to get your foot in the door somewhere. You may stumble into something you find incredibly interesting and discover you're proficient at it while you're fuckin' around in college. I don't know what I want to do yet and I'm getting older now, so I'm kind of at that point where I think I need to just get my ass in there and get going, but you've got plenty of time to figure things out. Look, I was at the point where I thought suicide was the answer. It isn't. Things change, you change, your perspective of the world changes, you meet people, you discover. I used to suffer from depression and anxiety and then one day I woke up and I realised it was gone. Had I killed myself, I wouldn't be able to enjoy life as I do now, I wouldn't be able to share my life with my wife. What's really important is figuring out who you are and what you want out of life. There's no set pattern or shape you have to cram your life into to please others' expectations. I'm not picky. I don't want fancy cars and a huge house. Material possessions aren't important; after all, you're going to die. But don't kill yourself. All of these confusing things don't get solved by doing that. Just be glad you get the chance to experience life. Being alive, getting by with a few luxuries here and there is enough for me.[/QUOTE] Is the girl attractive? OP, Best advice I can give is to not worry about picking a career or even thinking of it as "Picking a career". The one situation you do not want to end up in is working behind a desk in a cubicle from 9 to 5 hoping you'll reach a satisfactory level on the corporate ladder. Instead try and develop a life and personality that's drawn from people you really admire for whatever reasons. As for high school, joining clubs is really the best way to meet friends. As stupid as it may seem they really are. Aside from that, try and catch yourself making bad decisions when it comes to whether or not to do something with other people.
[QUOTE=Skippy!;16051402]Also you aren't supposed to know your career as a high school sophomore, who the fuck told you that!? [/QUOTE] You should know it even before that,so you can choose the right high school for your future career,dumbass.
[QUOTE=Levakama;16053171]You should know it even before that,so you can choose the right high school for your future career,dumbass.[/QUOTE] The right high school? Normally you go to your local high school, because usually you live with your family and you're only 14 years old, dumbass.
[QUOTE=Campin Carl;16052529]THAT IS TRUE! It really is. A friend of mine, was a null, the moment he openly said he was gay (still gay though), the ladies where swarming around him. Combine that with the Emo/scene/punk/whatever style and you'll have just as much women you would have when wearing a wolf shirt[/QUOTE]Lol wut
ITT: Attention-whore wins the battle for attention
[QUOTE=Anonymouse;16051376]I'm usually the person everyone secretly points at and makes fun of.[/QUOTE] No you're not You may think you are but you're not In the worst instance, nobody gives a shit about you and you never even enter their heads
[QUOTE=Anonymouse;16051376]Hey guys, I know this might not be the right section, but I sure as hell hope it is. Anyways, I've recently noticed (with the help of my mom screaming at me) that my life has NOWHERE that it's going. From what I know, I guess I'm supposed to have chosen my career choice by now (which is going into Sophomore year of high school). Everyone that I hang out with have good, positive lives, they really seem like they could do something impressive if they wanted to. But me? Well, I just seem like I'm always not having anything to do, always being 'bored'. Although my friend(s) try to help me, usually I just brush them off, thinking later against it. I don't really have any skills at all, not even social skills. I'm usually the person everyone secretly points at and makes fun of. And even when I AM good at things, I think negatively about it, or put it in the wrong perspective. I used to be pretty good at doing Rubik's cubes, but once I saw my friend doing them in ~18 secs, I saw that (in my mind) I wasn't making any improvement, really just staying where I was at. I do this with any hobby I try, I just give up when I can't instantly win. Facepunch, what should I do? I've tried learning how to play music, but that usually turns out to sound like shit. I tried being more social, and that made me seem like the wierdest kid at my school, and pretty much everyone stays away from me now because of it. Suicide sounds like a reasonable option, I've thought of it a few times and attempted on some of those thoughts. What should I do?[/QUOTE] get off the computer, doing the same thing day in day out is going to make you bored, and you'll once again drift off to those thoughts of suicide. Just go out with your friends to like the town or some shit and sit around, you will see the same people walking around and over time you will be able to go over and talk to them and shit and bam new friend who doesn't know you're some social retard
[QUOTE=Xyrofen;16052419]Why are most people on FP dicks? The only good post I've seen in this thread is Malumbre's.[/QUOTE] Because we're on the internet? OP just set yourself a goal, I've had a solid one since I was eight, it helps me to know where I want to go and gives some direction to what you're doing.
[QUOTE=Anonymouse;16051376]Hey guys, I know this might not be the right section, but I sure as hell hope it is. Anyways, I've recently noticed (with the help of my mom screaming at me) that my life has NOWHERE that it's going. From what I know, I guess I'm supposed to have chosen my career choice by now (which is going into Sophomore year of high school). Everyone that I hang out with have good, positive lives, they really seem like they could do something impressive if they wanted to. But me? Well, I just seem like I'm always not having anything to do, always being 'bored'. Although my friend(s) try to help me, usually I just brush them off, thinking later against it. I don't really have any skills at all, not even social skills. I'm usually the person everyone secretly points at and makes fun of. And even when I AM good at things, I think negatively about it, or put it in the wrong perspective. I used to be pretty good at doing Rubik's cubes, but once I saw my friend doing them in ~18 secs, I saw that (in my mind) I wasn't making any improvement, really just staying where I was at. I do this with any hobby I try, I just give up when I can't instantly win. Facepunch, what should I do? I've tried learning how to play music, but that usually turns out to sound like shit. I tried being more social, and that made me seem like the wierdest kid at my school, and pretty much everyone stays away from me now because of it. Suicide sounds like a reasonable option, I've thought of it a few times and attempted on some of those thoughts. What should I do?[/QUOTE] You're just looking for something of value in life and failing to find anything because you're obsessed with "being the best". Well guess what? [highlight]You're not the best.[/highlight] You've got no one to impress. Sorry dude but start motivating yourself, we can't fix your problems. Just smile and go play an easy game, then win, then feel happy.
[QUOTE=Skippy!;16051384]:suicide:[/QUOTE] Indeed...
[QUOTE=Xyrofen;16052419]Why are most people on FP dicks? The only good post I've seen in this thread is Malumbre's.[/QUOTE] why do all these people start threads asking for advice they can easily get from their family/friends/doctor? and if theyre not asking for advice theyre complaining about something also to the guy who started this thread: man the f**k up, nobody is ever 100% sure of what they are doing, just go with it.
[QUOTE=Anonymouse;16051376]What should I do?[/QUOTE] Don't ask Facepunch and go see a therapist.
[QUOTE=satanika;16053936]why do all these people start threads asking for advice they can easily get from their family/friends/doctor? and if theyre not asking for advice theyre complaining about something also to the guy who started this thread:[B][U][I] man the f**k up, nobody is ever 100% sure of what they are doing, just go with it.[/I][/U][/B][/QUOTE] this
[img]http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_GzXYfK-lDG4/RqIRftHICXI/AAAAAAAAB84/zG94f54mMtA/s400/Suicide%2Bgun.JPG[/img] No, I'm sorry the troll inside me got the better of me Guitar [img]http://www.sellfromtheweb.com/sample/images/squier-cyclone-electric-guitar-black.jpg[/img] Pick up one of these bitches, I just started playing again and now I can't stop. Get the basics down, get a guitar and an amp and you'll have an escape from reality for 30 mins - 1 hour a day. Make new friends, jam with them, you'll love it also smoke weed then play, like 400 times better than normal
You're an angsty teen, man up. But seriously, everyone goes through this, just find what you enjoy and there will be a course for it somewhere.
Continue through life and hopefully meet someone, fall in love and have kids. What more could you hope for? Apart from a 3 foot wang
[QUOTE=Malumbre;16053010]Why did I say "they're paying [b]my her[/b] college off" in the first paragraph? :downs:[/QUOTE] When I read that I figured it was either not meant to be there or they took one look at you and decided you were less fortunate and shelled out for your college education too, seeing how they're totally loaded. Gave me a chuckle at least. It sort of sounds a [i]little[/i] like I'm in the same boat as the OP, except I'm a [i]little[/i] older... I'm not in really any hurry to find a career path though, just seeing where life takes me. I'm pretty happy at the moment. Things could be better, for example I could use a bit more cash but I'm not really concerned yet. I think it's important to have friends you can hang with no matter how poor or hopelessly lost in the world you are.
You have 2 weeks to sort your life out or I'll rape you again
Get off the internet for a while and experience life.
I'm like this too, I have no skills. Not even at my favorite hobby, (actually more like only one) playing video games.
Watch a Pixar movie.
I feel the same way :\ Just go out and do random things, like sign up and/or volunteer for things. Help out in your community. Things like that allow you to get ideas in your head, meet new people and could spark something of interest that you never knew you would be interested in. Good luck love :h:
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