• I have nothing to look forward to in life. HELP.
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[QUOTE=Plasticnoob;16053195]The right high school? Normally you go to your local high school, because usually you live with your family and you're only 14 years old, dumbass.[/QUOTE] People usually go to medical school if they want to be doctor,engineering if they want to be engineer etc.I think youre the dumbass here sir.
[QUOTE=Anonymouse;16051376]Hey guys, I know this might not be the right section, but I sure as hell hope it is. Anyways, I've recently noticed (with the help of my mom screaming at me) that my life has NOWHERE that it's going. From what I know, I guess I'm supposed to have chosen my career choice by now (which is going into Sophomore year of high school). Everyone that I hang out with have good, positive lives, they really seem like they could do something impressive if they wanted to. But me? Well, I just seem like I'm always not having anything to do, always being 'bored'. Although my friend(s) try to help me, usually I just brush them off, thinking later against it. I don't really have any skills at all, not even social skills. I'm usually the person everyone secretly points at and makes fun of. And even when I AM good at things, I think negatively about it, or put it in the wrong perspective. I used to be pretty good at doing Rubik's cubes, but once I saw my friend doing them in ~18 secs, I saw that (in my mind) I wasn't making any improvement, really just staying where I was at. I do this with any hobby I try, I just give up when I can't instantly win. Facepunch, what should I do? I've tried learning how to play music, but that usually turns out to sound like shit. I tried being more social, and that made me seem like the wierdest kid at my school, and pretty much everyone stays away from me now because of it. Suicide sounds like a reasonable option, I've thought of it a few times and attempted on some of those thoughts. What should I do?[/QUOTE] Ok this may be a stupid question but how old are you? I don't know how old people are in their sophmore year of high school as we use different terms in the UK. When I was in school I was pretty much the same. I had no idea what the fuck I wanted to do, I knew I wanted to go to uni but had no idea what I was going to study. I had barely any friends, no boyfriend (in fact I was picked on by the local boy's school for being ugly :( at the time I had bad acne which sucked). I always seemed to be the lonor no matter what and I felt like I was completley stuck. Basically, life changes things like this. Leaving school and going to college was one of the best things I've done. You're given a fresh start you see and you *will* meet new people. I don't even live on campus (thanks to my mother's persuasion, I regret staying at home) but I still met a very good friend at uni. If you don't know what you want to do, do what I did. Pick the subject you get best grades in, if you despise that subject then pick second best, etc. That how I ended up studying English Lit. You get a sense of independance as it's a much less patronising atmosphere and there are many things you can do there where you'll make new friends. Having friends is the key to making your life more exciting. There's so many things you'd look crazy doing alone but with just one other person it's a whole different matter. Having friends opens up possibilities for doing new things, makes you more likely to find a girlfriend/boyfriend, improving your confidence, etc. it sucks when you feel your life is going nowhere but your life cannot possibley stay the same forever because things always happen to change it somehow. My school years sucked and I am only in contact with one person from school really. However it's not everything, and you have a chance to make things better in the future. Just hold on for now.
I laughed a lot whenever I read the thread title. Your life is what you make of it. If you're not happy with it, then it's your own damn fault, and you're the only one who can make it any better. If you can't live for yourself and reach out for everything you want in the world then you might as well just start picking up your welfare checks like everybody else who lacks ambition and willpower. This isn't tough love, I'm being an asshole. I hate when people complain about their lives rather than manning up and taking the reigns for themselves. [QUOTE=Levakama;16056289]People usually go to medical school if they want to be doctor,engineering if they want to be engineer etc.I think youre the dumbass here sir.[/QUOTE] In high school? Right. Enjoy your high school level publicly funded doctor classes. I'll save my time and get a crash course from that guy who hangs out behind WalMart. After thirty minutes of looking at sores I'll have about as much experience as you would after four years of the best public schooling America has to offer.
Get an imaginary friend. Move into abandoned house. Make soap. Amass an army. Destroy modern civilization.
Go to a party, get shitfaced, sleep with someone. Then wait until you're in college to find yourself.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;16056341] After thirty minutes of looking at sores I'll have about as much experience as you would after four years of the best public schooling America has to offer.[/QUOTE] thats got to be the funniest thing iv seen on this forum so far, have a cookie and a pat on the head :D
If you're a sophomore in high school, you really don't have to worry about not knowing what you want to do with your life yet. When I was your age, I wanted to be an aerospace engineer, concentrating in structures. I got to my structures classes in college and HATED them. However, I loved my fluid dynamics classes, so now I'm hoping I can do something with that. I have friends that were completely clueless as to what they wanted to do and were in undecided degree programs until their sophomore year of college. Yeah, it's probably going to take them a year longer to finish now, but now they know what they want to do and they were able to get all their pre-reqs out of the way while they were deciding. It's a good idea to start getting a general idea of what you want to do right now, but it shouldn't be set in stone and if you aren't sure, it's ok. High school is also very different from anything you do later, so don't worry about that either. Regardless if you go straight into the workforce or college, you'll be in with a different group of people of different ages, which I found to be a pretty nice change.
Maybe you don't do shit because you're always smoking reefer. It's what happened to me, I realized that I was brushing off all my friends, and not giving a shit about anything (which by the way is pretty fucking cool.) because I was smoking too much pot. It's not the cards you're dealt, It's how you play the game :V
[QUOTE=Malumbre;16051611]I know a girl who has grown up well off. Her parents are rich. They rent houses out to people, they have their own yacht, they're paying my her college off. She's been nothing but fortunate in the money department. She has talent with art and music, she went to college straight out of highschool to do what she already knew she was born to do. She's getting a whole new experience being in college and all that. She isn't the happiest girl in the world. She's got everything you claim to be lacking and yet she's miserable, she has social anxiety, she considers herself to be awkward even though she's a great girl and it makes her miserable. Wait until you get into the real world. This highschool social scene doesn't mean shit. If you're not really good at anything and can't make up your mind about school, just get through highschool and get yourself a job, or get some basic diploma from college just so you can use it to get your foot in the door somewhere. You may stumble into something you find incredibly interesting and discover you're proficient at it while you're fuckin' around in college. I don't know what I want to do yet and I'm getting older now, so I'm kind of at that point where I think I need to just get my ass in there and get going, but you've got plenty of time to figure things out. Look, I was at the point where I thought suicide was the answer. It isn't. Things change, you change, your perspective of the world changes, you meet people, you discover. I used to suffer from depression and anxiety and then one day I woke up and I realised it was gone. Had I killed myself, I wouldn't be able to enjoy life as I do now, I wouldn't be able to share my life with my wife. What's really important is figuring out who you are and what you want out of life. There's no set pattern or shape you have to cram your life into to please others' expectations. I'm not picky. I don't want fancy cars and a huge house. Material possessions aren't important; after all, you're going to die. But don't kill yourself. All of these confusing things don't get solved by doing that. Just be glad you get the chance to experience life. Being alive, getting by with a few luxuries here and there is enough for me.[/QUOTE] Pretty much this. I'm pretty happy now compared to my suicidal stage, and life has been great. I'm not in college yet but it doesn't take a genius to figure out how little high school means compared to what we make of it. [editline]11:51PM[/editline] To make yourself happier, count the things you're lucky you have. Not the "oh i have a roof over my head" bullshit that parents give. Just the things that make you you. Think positively. I'm lucky I'm a pretty clever guy. I'm lucky that I'm a talented writer, and I'll be even better when I learn how to focus for once :v: I'm lucky that even though I'm really skinny, gangly and weak by nature, I'd prefer that to being fat. I'm lucky the only thing holding my back is laziness. See how I turned cons into pros? Look on the bright side of things. It doesn't have to be accurate, but it has to be considered a part of "you". Everyone has something to be proud about, stop putting yourself down.
[QUOTE=Anonymouse;16051376]Hey guys, I know this might not be the right section, but I sure as hell hope it is. Anyways, I've recently noticed (with the help of my mom screaming at me) that my life has NOWHERE that it's going. From what I know, I guess I'm supposed to have chosen my career choice by now (which is going into Sophomore year of high school). Everyone that I hang out with have good, positive lives, they really seem like they could do something impressive if they wanted to. But me? Well, I just seem like I'm always not having anything to do, always being 'bored'. Although my friend(s) try to help me, usually I just brush them off, thinking later against it. I don't really have any skills at all, not even social skills. I'm usually the person everyone secretly points at and makes fun of. And even when I AM good at things, I think negatively about it, or put it in the wrong perspective. I used to be pretty good at doing Rubik's cubes, but once I saw my friend doing them in ~18 secs, I saw that (in my mind) I wasn't making any improvement, really just staying where I was at. I do this with any hobby I try, I just give up when I can't instantly win. Facepunch, what should I do? I've tried learning how to play music, but that usually turns out to sound like shit. I tried being more social, and that made me seem like the wierdest kid at my school, and pretty much everyone stays away from me now because of it. Suicide sounds like a reasonable option, I've thought of it a few times and attempted on some of those thoughts. What should I do?[/QUOTE] That sounds exactly like me last year. All I can say, is that things can change [b]dramatically[/b] in one year. Join an extracurricular, find a new hobby, just find something to do. Obviously you won't get everything you want, but sometimes a new perspective is all you need. While I understand it when sometimes things really just seem pointless, don't let suicide become a way out. Things can happen on the drop of a dime. While things may seem bad, and it may seem like nothing worthwhile will ever happen to you, suicide only [b]guarantees[/b] it. Obviously you're not going to be inclined to listen: after all, I don't know anything about how absolutely worthless/pathetic/hopeless your life is, and how no one likes you and no one ever will because of your countless personality flaws. You really don't know your own potential, and obviously neither do I. But remember that you're not the only one who has this sort of problem, and also remember that many people have succeeded in the end.
Besides, you don't sound like you actually have any real problems. It's just angst. You seem like a suburb kid and you have no idea of how fucking good that life is. I have cousins in third world countries struggling to even fucking eat. It doesn't get me down but it put me in perspective. Be happy. I PMed you!
Thank you guys all for all the help you're giving, I see that maybe things can turn better now. I'll just see where my life takes me from here, and hope that that place is somewhere good.
[QUOTE=ryfry99;16051405]Masterbation always cures boredom.. well at least for 30 seconds.[/QUOTE] It takes you 30 seconds? Poor sod.
[QUOTE=Anonymouse;16051376]Hey guys, I know this might not be the right section, but I sure as hell hope it is. Anyways, I've recently noticed (with the help of my mom screaming at me) that my life has NOWHERE that it's going. From what I know, I guess I'm supposed to have chosen my career choice by now (which is going into Sophomore year of high school). Everyone that I hang out with have good, positive lives, they really seem like they could do something impressive if they wanted to. But me? Well, I just seem like I'm always not having anything to do, always being 'bored'. Although my friend(s) try to help me, usually I just brush them off, thinking later against it. I don't really have any skills at all, not even social skills. I'm usually the person everyone secretly points at and makes fun of. And even when I AM good at things, I think negatively about it, or put it in the wrong perspective. I used to be pretty good at doing Rubik's cubes, but once I saw my friend doing them in ~18 secs, I saw that (in my mind) I wasn't making any improvement, really just staying where I was at. I do this with any hobby I try, I just give up when I can't instantly win. Facepunch, what should I do? I've tried learning how to play music, but that usually turns out to sound like shit. I tried being more social, and that made me seem like the wierdest kid at my school, and pretty much everyone stays away from me now because of it. Suicide sounds like a reasonable option, I've thought of it a few times and attempted on some of those thoughts. What should I do?[/QUOTE] Don't kill yourself. Cheer up. Try learning LUA or something like that to pass the time away. Don't try to be very social all at once, get a few friends to start and slowly build up your rep.
Wait, wait, back up a minute. You're in [b]high school[/b]? Way too early to be losing your shit about your future. I had no clue what I was going to do when I left High School. I took a bunch of classes at a local community college and stuck with what I liked best.
eienstien once tried to commit suicide (the rope broke) And look what he has done who knows you will find the perfect job probelly u just have to keep trying cus my life sucks balls too but i finnly found the job and skill and my life sucks less balls.
[QUOTE=Anonymouse;16051376]Hey guys, I know this might not be the right section, but I sure as hell hope it is. Anyways, I've recently noticed (with the help of my mom screaming at me) that my life has NOWHERE that it's going. From what I know, I guess I'm supposed to have chosen my career choice by now (which is going into Sophomore year of high school). Everyone that I hang out with have good, positive lives, they really seem like they could do something impressive if they wanted to. But me? Well, I just seem like I'm always not having anything to do, always being 'bored'. Although my friend(s) try to help me, usually I just brush them off, thinking later against it. I don't really have any skills at all, not even social skills. I'm usually the person everyone secretly points at and makes fun of. And even when I AM good at things, I think negatively about it, or put it in the wrong perspective. I used to be pretty good at doing Rubik's cubes, but once I saw my friend doing them in ~18 secs, I saw that (in my mind) I wasn't making any improvement, really just staying where I was at. I do this with any hobby I try, I just give up when I can't instantly win. Facepunch, what should I do? I've tried learning how to play music, but that usually turns out to sound like shit. I tried being more social, and that made me seem like the wierdest kid at my school, and pretty much everyone stays away from me now because of it. Suicide sounds like a reasonable option, I've thought of it a few times and attempted on some of those thoughts. What should I do?[/QUOTE] Well..i understand how you feel..feeling trapped and your parents are like nagging robots or whatever. To be honest i suggest you read this [url]thewayhomeorfacethefire.info[/url] because it offers alot of food for thought or watch this [media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jqxENMKaeCU[/media] even though i do not believe in evolution, and that is about the destuctive path mankind is on. I suggest you become an electrican..then you will be able to understand how to get overunity with electric which is a gem but has been suppressed or understand it better or prehaps become a game designer or a computer builder. Anyways i don't know..it is your life not mine..go watch or read that from what i have posted.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;16056341] America [/QUOTE] Ah,that would explain it,americas high schools are equal to elememntary schools in my country.:v:
[quote=superkill307]eienstien once tried to commit suicide (the rope broke) And look what he has done who knows you will find the perfect job probelly u just have to keep trying cus my life sucks balls too but i finnly found the job and skill and my life sucks less balls.[/quote] Wait, what?!
A gun or a noose fits your problem specs
Do something. A hobby. Shit, try religeon. I can't believe I just said that.
I had the same problem, then I stopped whining. I mean it, it's just as simple as that, stop being sad about your problems and see how easy they are to fix, what do you want to do? What interests do you have? Even if you don't have anything you love to do right this moment you're still 14-16 and that's plenty enough time to figure out something you'd like to pursue and study it, and even if you find out you don't like it. That's not gonna put you back to status quo, it'll be a start that tells you "I don't like this, because...". Things really look much simpler once you've gotten your hands dirtier and scoped out what there is to do. [editline]11:22PM[/editline] I mean shoot guns.
[QUOTE=Anonymouse;16051376]Hey guys, I know this might not be the right section, but I sure as hell hope it is. Anyways, I've recently noticed (with the help of my mom screaming at me) that my life has NOWHERE that it's going. From what I know, I guess I'm supposed to have chosen my career choice by now (which is going into Sophomore year of high school). Everyone that I hang out with have good, positive lives, they really seem like they could do something impressive if they wanted to. But me? Well, I just seem like I'm always not having anything to do, always being 'bored'. Although my friend(s) try to help me, usually I just brush them off, thinking later against it. I don't really have any skills at all, not even social skills. I'm usually the person everyone secretly points at and makes fun of. And even when I AM good at things, I think negatively about it, or put it in the wrong perspective. I used to be pretty good at doing Rubik's cubes, but once I saw my friend doing them in ~18 secs, I saw that (in my mind) I wasn't making any improvement, really just staying where I was at. I do this with any hobby I try, I just give up when I can't instantly win. Facepunch, what should I do? I've tried learning how to play music, but that usually turns out to sound like shit. I tried being more social, and that made me seem like the wierdest kid at my school, and pretty much everyone stays away from me now because of it. Suicide sounds like a reasonable option, I've thought of it a few times and attempted on some of those thoughts. What should I do?[/QUOTE] Learning how to play music you sound like shit at first anyways no matter what. I suggest you do it, it's so satisfying when you feel like shit to just wail a tune. Also, what you are feeling right now is existential depression, I get it once every couple of months or weeks. What you gotta do is just deal with it, for now, and do what you can to get your mind off of it. Also, this may sound completely irrelevent, but when was the last time you tok a dump? I find with myself that the longer the space between my last bowel movement the more depressed I get. I can also suggest that once you get in a positive mood, or at least confident mood, try doing shrooms or acid. The little things that normally stress the hell out of people are really miniscule afterwards. They change how you think for the better, you appreciate art more, and have more motivation to create things. And dude, everyone has something shitty in their life, it's just that some people stress about smaller things more than others do. And hey, you don't need to have any idea what your career is going to be. The people who think they know what they are going to do for the rest of their life, are going to end up working in a warehouse or something like that. Find a passion, and pursue it. And hey, I'm serious about the pooping and shrooms thing. But don't drink, that will just make your depression worse.
[QUOTE=ryfry99;16051405]Masterbation always cures boredom.. well at least for 30 seconds.[/QUOTE] You only last for 30 secs? Also, to be more relevant: If your going to kill yourself mate, do it cleanly! Nobody wants to clean up a bloody mess... Just pop an assload of pills and take a "nap" so nobody walks through the door and sees your brains mashed against the wall like a disgusting red pudding!
And don't go practicing a religion, unless it's buddhism. They will turn an otherwise rational human being into an irrational sheltered prick.
[QUOTE=foszor;16051551]Suicide is a stupid, self absorbed solution. Stop thinking that ending your life will fix any problems-- realize that it only creates a lifetime of problems for everyone around you left behind. When my older brother killed himself because "no body cared" more people showed up at his funeral than he could have ever imagined... all those people that "didn't care" were actually all around him. He was just to focused on his own problems that he didn't notice them there. Had he seen that before we know he would have thought differently. You need medication and therapy. Neither of which you'll find on FP. Go do something about it instead of bitching on some random forum.[/QUOTE] That has to be the best post i've seen all day. Have a burger. :burger:
You're a fucking kid. You SHOULDN'T know what you want to do with your life unless you have a really strong passion that you want to follow as a career. How long did you play music for? A few weeks doesn't count. If you wanna be good, you need to [B]practice[/B] until you're nearly dead every single day. I would try it again, pick an instrument that is really interesting to you. Or maybe find some other hobby. Rock climbing? Fencing? Some cool sport? Parkour? I dunno . . . Rubik's cubes aren't really hobbies . . .There's a method to solving them, that's why people can solve them with their eyes closed. It's just an algorithm. Seriously, just keep truckin', look around and see what really interests you, and pursue it! I'm sure you'll find something. Then you'll find other kids with similar interests, and you'll make friends. But please, just because you are a lonely kid with nothing going on right now, don't bitch about nothing to look forward to. You have NO idea what's down the road. Get educated, aspire to get a good job in a career you like (not now maybe, but down the road), and try to find things that make you happy without being self destructive. Good day, sir.
You've still got a lot of time to decide what you what to do for a career like a couple of people said so I wouldn't worry about that. If you're really worried about it though, I'd sugguest looking into some trades (auto mechanics, carpentry, electricity, ect...) Once you find one that's for you, you'll never want to stop. There's always the military too. Plenty of stuff to do there (plus chicks dig it :P). I wouldn't worry about your friends lives eather. Everyone's got their own hidden flaws, and problems. Nobody's perfect. You don't need to be all that social eather btw. It's good to be atleast somewhat social, like if you see someone you know from school at the store or something and say hi, but you def don't need to over-do it like randomly trying to talk to people you wouldn't want to talk to otherwise. I'm sure as shit not a social butterfly but I'm fine with that. I get by just fine. Just be yourself and take every day as it comes because it could be a hell of a lot worse. Don't just give up on stuff when you don't like the outcome eather, practice makes perfect, I can't stress enough how important that is. Life's too short to over analyze stuff like this. Try not to think about dumb crap like being a waste. Everyone has a use. Just get outside, and relax. And fuck what everyone thinks. I felt a lot better about myself when I realized that.
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