i'm like 5'10 and am like 230 pounds
i got a belly and am fat. sucks.
I know this is probably a suboptimal place to ask this but is there any way to steer towards being straight
Being yourself is very important for all of you and certainly there's nothing wrong with being gay from a moral and logical standpoint, of course. But no matter what I do or what I'm told I can't seem to shake this nagging sense of disappointment with myself for being a fag for whatever reason.
It's a fairly minor annoyance compared to how most people react to being gay, but it's still there and I figured that it'd just make my life that much easier if I could just stop being such a faggot and actually started thinking like I act around people.
Problem being, while I still get the occasional number or so, I'vent really considered serious relationships with women to be my type of thing even [I]before[/I] I figured there was something off 'bout me. Guys were always cuter.
Protips?
[QUOTE=fishyfish777;39641586]I figured that it'd just make my life that much easier if I could just stop being such a faggot and actually started thinking how I act around people.[/QUOTE]
what do you mean?
you want to act less gay around people?
[QUOTE=Dog;39641710]what do you mean?
you want to act less gay around people?[/QUOTE]
I meant that I act so straight that the inconsistencies in how I act around people and what goes on in my head bugs me a bit
You strike me as the kind of guy that will devote his life towards living a "normal easier and simpler" life only to find yourself lying to yourself 30 years down the line with a woman you can only tolerate.
I can't offer much in the way of being straight other than to just enjoy what you can and fuck everything else.
It'd be easier if i grew up in a rich family, being stuck in middle class and enormous student loans sucks because it'd be easier to just have the money.
I guess what i'm getting at is that the grass is always greener on the other side. Don't repress whatever feelings you have just for the sake of maybe living a normal life. I can't guarantee that there is a woman out there you could love, for that matter i can't guarantee there's a guy out there for you to love, but it'd be a hell of a lot easier and probably more natural feeling to you if it were a guy.
If another thing is how you act around people then watch how you act. I assume by you calling yourself a faggot you mean you're the more flamboyant type? That's a personality trait, not a sexual trait. That has nothing to do with your sexuality. Even if you weren't gay you can still be flamboyant (And yes even talk with a lisp).
Don't shell up inside just to live an "Easier" life. It's not guaranteed one way or the other.
[editline]19th February 2013[/editline]
[QUOTE=fishyfish777;39641722]I meant that I act so straight that the inconsistencies in how I act around people and what goes on in my head bugs me a bit[/QUOTE]
So you're like a lot of us in that you're a guy that JUST SO HAPPENS to be gay. There's nothing wrong with that. There are no inconsistencies there. Just because you like guys over girls doesn't mean you should be a fashion god, act like a girl, say things like fabulous, and snap your fingers as you talk while getting sassy.
[QUOTE=fishyfish777;39641722]I meant that I act so straight that the inconsistencies in how I act around people and what goes on in my head bugs me a bit[/QUOTE]
from what i gather it sounds to me like you don't feel you fit the gay stereotype
yeah, no one does
[QUOTE=mysteryman;39641731]You strike me as the kind of guy that will devote his life towards living a "normal easier and simpler" life only to find yourself lying to yourself 30 years down the line with a woman you can only tolerate.
I can't offer much in the way of being straight other than to just enjoy what you can and fuck everything else.
It'd be easier if i grew up in a rich family, being stuck in middle class and enormous student loans sucks because it'd be easier to just have the money.
I guess what i'm getting at is that the grass is always greener on the other side. Don't repress whatever feelings you have just for the sake of maybe living a normal life. I can't guarantee that there is a woman out there you could love, for that matter i can't guarantee there's a guy out there for you to love, but it'd be a hell of a lot easier and probably more natural feeling to you if it were a guy.
If another thing is how you act around people then watch how you act. I assume by you calling yourself a faggot you mean you're the more flamboyant type? That's a personality trait, not a sexual trait. That has nothing to do with your sexuality. Even if you weren't gay you can still be flamboyant (And yes even talk with a lisp).
Don't shell up inside just to live an "Easier" life. It's not guaranteed one way or the other.
[editline]19th February 2013[/editline]
So you're like a lot of us in that you're a guy that JUST SO HAPPENS to be gay. There's nothing wrong with that. There are no inconsistencies there. Just because you like guys over girls doesn't mean you should be a fashion god, act like a girl, say things like fabulous, and snap your fingers as you talk while getting sassy.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Dog;39641767]from what i gather it sounds to me like you don't feel you fit the gay stereotype
yeah, no one does[/QUOTE]
Thanks for your kind words
Yeah, I recognize that I could just get away with just staying this way - that not fitting the gay stereotype isn't a problem at all, and everything would be fine like that I guess.
It's just the pressure to conform and not disappoint the people around me (parents, somewhat rednecky friends) seems easier resolved by just changing how I think in general instead of acting it out or explaining.
I care about my friends and family a lot regardless of their views on homosexuality but it feels a bit tiring to keep on acting or "be myself" rather than just modify my behavior to be a bit more, y'know, average.
I dunno. It just seems like the most efficient solution to just become straight to be able to fit in more (considering that people are adapt to their surroundings) if there's any way to pull it off.
(sorry for spamming up the thread)
First off: nothing is average.
Secondly, i want you to read what you said again. "It just seems like...."
Everyone has troubles, friend, and everyone also thinks that if just one thing in their life was different, it'd be better. But you can't know that. Sure you might be able to find a girl you can tolerate, marry, and even have a family with. But will you honestly be happy with it? Are you willing to sacrifice your happiness for the sake of being "normal"?
Blargh, I has the worst nights sleep ever. I put my fan on before I went to bed, ended up bundled up shivering, and I was to afraid too turn it off because I'd dreamt Jeff the Killer was in my room. :v:
Now that in awake I feel even worse: headaches, sore throat, close to being sick.
Thank god I don't have college this week.
[QUOTE=WolvesSoulZ;39641343]
6' & 260 lbs as of right now, and happy with myself, got a few pounds to slack in the belly, but eh![/QUOTE]
It's weird how weight sits on everyone differently. I'm an inch shorter at 190 and I'm quite noticeably fat.
I have a really small frame, if I was skinny I'd be tiny as fuck
[QUOTE=MasterFen007;39641995]Blargh, I has the worst nights sleep ever. I put my fan on before I went to bed, ended up bundled up shivering, and I was to afraid too turn it off because I'd dreamt Jeff the Killer was in my room. :v:
Now that in awake I feel even worse: headaches, sore throat, close to being sick.
Thank god I don't have college this week.[/QUOTE]
I been asleep for 20 of the last 24 hours oh god my entire body is stiff and sore.
[QUOTE=Chickens!;39642371]I been asleep for 20 of the last 24 hours oh god my entire body is stiff and sore.[/QUOTE]
Oh really?~
I'm gonna sound like an attention whore, but I really have not been enjoying life much at all. I don't even know why I'm posting this here, this isn't the place.
[QUOTE=Chickens!;39642371]I been asleep for 20 of the last 24 hours oh god my entire body is stiff and sore.[/QUOTE]
I want to learn how to give massages because of this
(for when my bf sleeps for 20 hours, not u chicken)
[QUOTE=moesislack;39643487]Oh really?~[/QUOTE]
Yes
[editline]19th February 2013[/editline]
~
[editline]19th February 2013[/editline]
[QUOTE=latin_geek;39643734]I want to learn how to give massages because of this
(for when my bf sleeps for 20 hours, not u chicken)[/QUOTE]
I know you crave me baby, it's okay.
[QUOTE=GhostProject;39643497]I'm gonna sound like an attention whore, but I really have not been enjoying life much at all. I don't even know why I'm posting this here, this isn't the place.[/QUOTE]
Life spoiler alert:
[sp] everything sucks[/sp]
Durgs Discussion
Because we're grown ups and we oh god everything is shit
[editline]20th February 2013[/editline]
Not really I quite like life
But I like life on drugs more
DRUGS ARE BAD.
I'm not big on drugs personally but I don't mind if others do it. Just not infront of me because I have breathing issues.
Drugs suck also.
Actually they are pretty terrible considering they have ruined a lot of things for me
Then you or whoever around you is doing them wrong
Cars arent bad because you crashed one
[QUOTE=fishyfish777;39641858]Thanks for your kind words
Yeah, I recognize that I could just get away with just staying this way - that not fitting the gay stereotype isn't a problem at all, and everything would be fine like that I guess.
It's just the pressure to conform and not disappoint the people around me (parents, somewhat rednecky friends) seems easier resolved by just changing how I think in general instead of acting it out or explaining.
I care about my friends and family a lot regardless of their views on homosexuality but it feels a bit tiring to keep on acting or "be myself" rather than just modify my behavior to be a bit more, y'know, average.
I dunno. It just seems like the most efficient solution to just become straight to be able to fit in more (considering that people are adapt to their surroundings) if there's any way to pull it off.
(sorry for spamming up the thread)[/QUOTE]
I think all of us felt this way at least a little bit when growing up or later. It's simply impossible to shake the feeling of being different even if to you, you are totally like all your friends and honest to yourself on the outside. For me it was pretty hard, I remember wishing I was straight when I was younger because it would make things easier and I could be more happy.
The reality is being gay is no different than being straight, you just have a different pool of people to work with. Even if you could change yourself to be straight (you can't) you wouldn't profoundly start being more happy or satisfied with your self image. Liking your self image has only to do with how your percieve yourself and if you are achieving your goals in life (no matter how small or big). Being straight doesn't cure this feeling. Gay guys get it hard because we live in a world that fundamentally doesn't get us, which increases the intensity of such thoughts.
I will tell you though - once you truely begin to accept yourself for who you are and what is true to you, it is one of the most liberating feelings you can get. Gone are feelings of insecurity involving your sexuality, because you know what you want out of yourself. Gone is a feeling that you are constantly alone, because you make yourself open to the right people which gains you friends and relationships that are special to you (doesn't have to be with gay people either). I'm a gay guy who has no interest in women. I don't DEFINE my personality around being gay - most people think I'm straight until I say otherwise. But I like guys. I like the idea of being with a guy. I like the idea of being friends with people who have been through similar situations as me, but not necessarily exclusively friends with such people. Etc.
Being gay and accepting it is more liberating and character building in this day and age than being straight IMO. They don't know what they are missing out on. Plus you just feel a sense of deep understanding with other gay people because you know they've all had similar thoughts going on in their life at some point and that makes for a great place to start off new friendships that actually (maybe) will have meaning somewhere down the line. All of this without having to associate yourself with the "gay community" or "stereotype".
[QUOTE=Gravity Ponds;39644019]Then you or whoever around you is doing them wrong
Cars arent bad because you crashed one[/QUOTE]
oh ok meth is good
my dad smashing the front door in and beating my mom while high on meth was simply just meth being used wrong
I don't really care about people who smoke/drink/do drugs because it's their life but trying to preach that it's "right" or "okay" or trying to chane other people's opinions on it isn't cool
neither is doing them in a way that can potentially harm others
[QUOTE=JDB;39644131]my dad smashing the front door in and beating my mom while high on meth was simply just meth being used wrong[/QUOTE]
I get the idea you were being sarcastic.. but yes.. Your dad was just abusing the drug lol
[editline]20th February 2013[/editline]
[I]yes I've smoked meth[/I]
I dunno I haven't really had to much issues with liking guys so far. If someone is hostile about it I won't talk to them if they're uncomfortable I'll make them not care or notice.
I've only identified as gay for like half a year so it would have been really bad back in highschhol/grade school I feel for you guys that had issues then.
[editline]19th February 2013[/editline]
[QUOTE=Gravity Ponds;39644163]I get the idea you were being sarcastic.. but yes.. You're dad was just abusing the drug lol
[editline]20th February 2013[/editline]
[I]yes I've smoked meth[/I][/QUOTE]
Did it have a blue tint?
Protip: Highschool sux
Meh highchool was fine for me. I didn't go to parties and shit but I was fine otherwise. Everyone else was to obsessed with girls to give a shit about anything else. I didn't care about that garbage much I had like 2 girl friends in highschool.
I'm still in highschool
can confirm it sucks
I feel like high school is just a huge competition to be a normalfag. You just go to parties, have lots of "friends" and make sure that you're not popular, but you're well-known enough and have friends.
Meanwhile, most of my friends are online and I spend my weekends inside. I started smoking pot and drinking alcohol mainly as a means of desperation relating to wanting to fit in.
I just remembered I was late almost everyday in highschool I'd also then skip part of class to buy breakfast. Only got in trouble once. Good stuff
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