I've lost all my good friends and I'm close to ruining my family. - General

[QUOTE=Jettan;23042486]May i ask what the name of this kid with "mental problems" was?[/QUOTE] I don't want to give out his name, he's authistic though (spelling on that?).

[QUOTE=Don Ochs;23042150]Hmm, yeah a hobby that would be. I'd never be able to get a girl to like me, atleast no one that I like.[/QUOTE] You can't keep thinking like that. Theres most likely a girl out there thinking of you right now, and you don't even know it. I've had chances with girls but blew them so I could be with my online friends. I've chosen to blow off my real life friends because I would rather laugh and have fun in a group that enjoys doing the same thing, rather than going out, getting wasted, ticketed, or arrested. Do what you want to do, if you think you are really wasting away on the computer, get your ass up and take a walk outside. Look for some things to do, collect, or w/e. I personally don't think I'm wasting away. I would much rather spend my days behind the computer than out and about doing illegal things, partying, etc. Thats just me, but you seem to have different thoughts on this. Just do what you think is best, and don't let anyone else alter your decisions.

[QUOTE=Don Ochs;23040783]Maybe I should see a psychologist or something... I don't know, I don't like the idea of talking to some person I do not know about this kind off stuff. And my problem isn't just to stand up on my own legs and just get myself together because that's what I've done my hole life. I've never been complaining, I've never told anyone about my troubles, I've never shown any sadness nor weekness. But it's my own legs that are failing me know, I can't go on lonely. The hard part about this is talking to my parents, because they'd never understand. Edit: I have tried working out, I went out running in the morning about 09:00 o'clock for about a week and so, but then I lost motivation and started thinking why am I doing this? And I quit.[/QUOTE] See a shrink, do what ever it takes. [QUOTE=ProboardslolV2;23040834]go see a psyc[B]hiatrist[/B]. they can give you pills. But truly, there's no pill in the world that can beat good old fashioned exercise and sleep.[/QUOTE] Pills are only a band aide to help while seeing a psychologist. [QUOTE=ProboardslolV2;23040930]FUCK Yea, psychologist is a word but psychologists can't prescribe shit[/QUOTE] Depends on the state/country.

Either seek professional help or get ego. I mean really, you have to give less shit about people around you. You should not do this by giving short dumb and sarcastic replies to everyone though. When someone talks shit about you in your face, think of something. Think like 'mm, what shall I do after this' so that the guy who's talking to you, really sees that you're ignoring him. It works for me sometimes Don't be a prick to everyone though.

[QUOTE=Deac;23042493]Internet friends > Real friends when they are all drug abusers. Thats how it is for me anyway.[/QUOTE] Please tell me the "drug abusers" aren't just smoking weed. [editline]05:30PM[/editline] [QUOTE=Offline;23042283]Take a chillaxitive, jeez. The OP should be offended because he was asking for it and expected it, not you.[/QUOTE] ... Are you serious? You're seriously going argue about this. You're fucking telling a person who's in a questionable state of mind to go kill themselves, what if they actually just did it? You're a sick and fucking twisted person who needs to grow the fuck up.

All of my friends have egotastic names. I'm Thunder McAwesome Then there is Lightning McAmazing Then Rain McLove Then Fag Fag McFaggotFag (He chose it himself..) And the list goes on.

[QUOTE=PeanutTHENINJA;23043171] The Fag Fag McFaggotFag (He chose it himself..) [/QUOTE] Perhaps he's trying to say something?

Just be confident. if you cant do that, just PRETEND to be confident. talk to girls. if they talk back, just be sociable. if they blow you off, just be like "well, shit, i tried." That way, they end up feeling like the bad guy. also: drink. drinking helps.

[QUOTE=Llivavin;23043193]Perhaps he's trying to say something?[/QUOTE] Most of the people I hang out with are bisexual or gay, so I don't see why he'd have trouble coming out directly.

[QUOTE=Don Ochs;23042701]I don't want to give out his name, he's authistic though (spelling on that?).[/QUOTE] Could you tell me what country you're from then?

[QUOTE=Llivavin;23042941]Please tell me the "drug abusers" aren't just smoking weed.[/quote] [editline]05:30PM[/editline] No I don't really see weed as a drug. Its started with that, and I was right there with them, but when it moves into the many different pills, and the cocain, thats where I'm out.

[QUOTE=Dumba$$;23043288]Just be confident. if you cant do that, just PRETEND to be confident. talk to girls. if they talk back, just be sociable. if they blow you off, just be like "well, shit, i tried." That way, they end up feeling like the bad guy. also: drink. drinking helps.[/QUOTE] I'm too young to drink, and I plan on not drinking when I actually can because alcohol nor any kind of drugs appeal to me. That is also why I don't wish to take any pills or depression medification. Edit: I don't want to give out my country, not like this sorry, this hole thing is too personal.

well, shit. i tried.

[QUOTE=Dumba$$;23043953]well, shit. i tried.[/QUOTE] I appreciate it though.

Try the ego-boosting names :buddy:

What you should try and do is find a job that you like. It literally forces you to stop wasting time on the computer, while doing what makes you excited. Currently I'm working on managing a certain group of first graders on a summer camp, and they're pretty chill. OP, is there a summer camp around you that will start soon? If so, [i]find one[/i]. Personally this is my third year working around with little kids, and it would definitely help you by developing social skills along with other counselors or w/e. And the point is that this kind of job will keep you away from home, while you can still do important stuff on the computer when you come home all worked up and tired.

[QUOTE=HighdefGE;23044242]What you should try and do is find a job that you like. It literally forces you to stop wasting time on the computer, while doing what makes you excited. Currently I'm working on managing a certain group of first graders on a summer camp, and they're pretty chill. OP, is there a summer camp around you that will start soon? If so, [i]find one[/i]. Personally this is my third year working around with little kids, and it would definitely help you by developing social skills along with other counselors or w/e. And the point is that this kind of job will keep you away from home, while you can still do important stuff on the computer when you come home all worked up and tired.[/QUOTE] Not old enough to legally get a job though.

How ironic. You've fallen into a hole of despair and you spelled it the same way in the OP.

[QUOTE=Don Ochs;23044273]Not old enough to legally get a job though.[/QUOTE] Watching Small children isn't a job technically, it could a summer thing, like a VBS(Vacation Bible school) camp (If your Christian/Religious.) Even then you could still get a "job" like that, the best thing being small kids don't give a rats ass how weird or unsocial you are, they will be happy to see you if you treat them right. Don't give out on all of us bro, prove to us you have the ego and self-esteem to keep on pushing. Take it easy man.

Man, we all got this issue. I was in the same situation, and now I have developed an easy-going don't-give-a-fuck attitude and whilst I hate myself, at least I tend to not worry over such small shit anymore.

The thing that makes it worse are my parents. They are forcing me to get out and do stuff, even though I can't, and putting alot of pressure on me. It's not only that I want to get out and become more social (ofcourse I do though) but my parents are just... I don't know, nuts on me, they can't handle me anymore.

[QUOTE=Don Ochs;23040783]Maybe I should see a psychologist or something... I don't know, I don't like the idea of talking to some person I do not know about this kind off stuff. And my problem isn't just to stand up on my own legs and just get myself together because that's what I've done my hole life. I've never been complaining, I've never told anyone about my troubles, I've never shown any sadness nor weekness. But it's my own legs that are failing me know, I can't go on lonely. The hard part about this is talking to my parents, because they'd never understand. Edit: I have tried working out, I went out running in the morning about 09:00 o'clock for about a week and so, but then I lost motivation and started thinking why am I doing this? And I quit.[/QUOTE] Eat an avacado every day. It will help, trust me.

[QUOTE=Don Ochs;23044273]Not old enough to legally get a job though.[/QUOTE] Doesn't have to be a job. It can be volunteering. And like the other guy above me said, small kids don't give a rat's ass how much of a computer nerd you are, though you really have to be social with them at every moment and cherish them all equally. It really helps.

Story of my life, computer and internet addiction are real heh i cant tell you how many times i thought of taking my own life back in highschool(got pretty damn low too, had my gun in hand and my mom walked in...). The best advice i can give you is walk away from the computer, go for a walk, say hi to random people whats the worst they can do? Got your old friends phone numbers? ring them up and just be like, hey you wanna hang out? aint nothing weird about it unless you burned your bridges hardcore. They wont reject you if they were real friends people arent that cruel.

You really have no one to blame but yourself. Get active, be assertive, and don't get your panties in a wad if you're rejected.

All I can say is welcome.

if you even read this far back in the posts then i will be surprised. i was once in a similar position to you however not quite as bad. first let me point out that the advice i will give you may not be easy to follow, however returning from any addiction (yes we are treating video games as an addiction) is never easy; especially if it changes your life to the degree that it has for you. first you have analyze your self and how to remove yourself from this addiction because it is obviously one of the causes to your problems. you have to build bridges between what you like to do on computers and what you could do in reality. for me it was airsoft however i do not know the financial position that you are in so that may not be an option. also ask yourself if continuing to remain separate from a social life is the best thing to do. the priority should be to stop gaming, and start helping your family along, if your parents are fighting over you then there is probably something you can do to rectify their disagreements. it seems to me that your gaming and isolation are at the root of the problem along with your parents behavior, fortunately these can be repaired. fixing the gaming problem will be relatively simple, its a matter of will power and self discipline, just find other things to fill your time. next you have to talk to your parents and talk about their and your behavior and how they both have to change if they want to stay together. now i know your mom loves you even if she has given up hope, just restore it, show her you are willing to change. with luck your improvement in their eyes will keep them together and make them proud and happy you may want to find a time to talk with your mother before this and explain your possition, how you feel, and how you plan to correct it. also ask for her help. once youre reasured with her then you need to straighten things out with your father; you can always make friends but you only get two parents so they should be your second priority. re-integration into a social circle will be hard since you are done with school in which you should get a job, if you dont have one, or volunteer if that fails. this allows you to start on a clear slate with people you dont know. this way you can make what ever impression you want on them. for this you need [B]confidence[/B] this is vital to making good impressions on people and ultimately making friends. if you lack self confidence then observe people (i know, kind of sketchy) look at how they talk to each other, learn social ques, practice a smile and be polite. do this over a summer job or short term commitment and think of it as a practice run. if you find yourself asking if something you want to do is awkward think of the ultimate rule, this is to think of yourself in their position and would you feel awkward. if not then you are probably safe. to recap the this you should do ( in my opinion) are 1. stop gaming ( not easy, i've been there) 2. recify relationship with parents-you know them better that i do so how i said to do this is just a suggestion. 3. relearn social skills (if you need to) 4. make friends- friends hold you up when you need them and best of all, when you have people that are just like you then you can stop caring about everyone else cause you know that there are some people that will still be your friends. remember the ultimate key is CONFIDENCE! fuck i worked to hard for you to maybe get this im going to message it to you

if you're moving, use it to start anew

Learn an instrument, work your way to performing. It's done shitloads for my self esteem, and it's relaxing.

Sort of similar to my situation, yours just has alittle sugar on it (I mean your in a better situation then I am) all i can say is try to stop the depression, it will get to you eventually, I don't know why but I just think Im going to just go into the garage when no ones home, with the car keys, go in there, start the car, leave it on, and listen to some music, let the fumes take over. You know what I mean? find a hobby, thats how ive (semi) dealt with it. I sum up the whole station yours and mine or just anything similar as a big ball kicker.