I've lost all my good friends and I'm close to ruining my family.
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I've been like that but then i met a girl that made me change. Thanks to love.
I'm in the (Almost) EXACT same situation. No one seems to understand. :sigh:
It might help just to do some productive things on the computer. (I code, do Photoshop, etc.)
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Except I have a twin brother. (We don't look alike.) He's one of those "popular" snobs. Mostly a jerk. It really doesn't help at all.
Honestly, I'm just waiting to move out. Then I want to really start my life. I've pretty much fucked half my childhood.
You are not alone friend.
You need a fresh start. Forget your older friends, they obviously are obsessed with that girl and unfortunately, probably won't show much interest in you. It sucks that you liked her and missed a good opportunity get a good friend / girlfriend, but there's loads more people out in the world.
Join a club at school, or in your town, even if it's a computer club. You'll meet people you can relate with and make new friends. Learn an instrument, it'll give you something to work at and good better at.
Think positively. Don't judge your life as shit at every opportunity. There's always someone who has it worse than you.
To people that say "Just stop playing computer games and start being active," it's a lot harder than you think. I'm still stuck on Video games.
To OP: Find something you love to do besides game and do an activity related to it. You might want to try soccer or basketball again. You might get into it again. If you don't like them after you tried them then if you have your old friends' phone number call them and see if you can go to his/her house to hang around. If none of the above work then try creative writing like poetry, or maybe read a few books. Anything that gets your mind off gaming and depression.
Go on a vacation on a cruise if you can. You get away from the computer and you and your family can relax and maybe things would cool down between your parents.
Save up ~200 dollars, pack up a lot of shit and a weapon, and wander the country for ~4 months or longer.
Try to see if you can take a break form the computer for at least 1 day. Go out and see a movie or something. You know, just enjoy yourself. Read a good book. Talk to your brother about stuff. Tell your parents you love them. If that doesn't work maybe you need to see someone for help.
get a job and/or become an alcoholic
[QUOTE=ButtsexV2;23047930]get a job and/or become an alcoholic[/QUOTE]
YES! let us just drown our sorrows in booze.
fff no.
Smoke weed, go to party's, that's how i went from nerdy kid to kid that's funny and has a social life.
To be honest I have no idea how I got friends. I don't like people and don't socialize with many people. I do talk to coworkers and such, but I only met 1 friend from work. I met a couple people at school, they had to engage the initial conversation. I only have a few friends, fuck everyone else.
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I pretty much don't care about anything. So I am never sad or depressed. I laugh and have fun a lot though. The only problem I have is that I don't have enough people to hang out with, or know people in high places.
[QUOTE=Siminov;23040530]Get a job, you meet other people, get away from the PC and you make money.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Yur|ko;23040251]
I may have misread, but I think you mentioned you didn't go to school anymore? Go get a job. Maybe that might help you.[/QUOTE]
^ ^ ^ do this, work full-time for ages, chat up the customers and co-workers, make money and gain social competency. do it!
[QUOTE=Heroms;23040647]
But I still said fuck it who needs her and moved on with my life. Won't be seeing her in 4 years anyway.
Yeah a pretty arrogant way to think, but sometimes it's what you gotta do.[/QUOTE]
or you could just stop being an egotistical ingrate and buy your mother the fish...?
@ Don Ochs: I understand you mentioned suicide before, please DON'T commit suicide, its just that TV news guys show numbers to the screen, and say thats a common trait males from ten to thirty have constantly because the computers and digital gaming causes our group to unknowingly get depressed. I don't want to agree with this, but I have suffered withdrawals, and went nuts when the internet utility lines snapped.
As for your parents, they might change their attitude about you, BUT you will have to tone down use of the computer for a good amount of time, and if they harass you saying you don't try hard enough in terms of finding a job, then ask them how to make a resume for the job market, where to look, how you should you physically look, how your suppose to introduce and market yourself. I don't think there is a law on youths watching younger kids and cutting lawns yet. Life is hard work, computer has more play, but not really good pay.
As for friendship, just like a boy-girl relationship, it does not always last, but thats how life can be sometimes, my situation with classmates involves, after school, we become rivals, competition in the same limited job market after were done working together and helping each other out in school, we know the other's weak spot has to be taken to advantage, and sadly competition involves some pretty hurtful things that can be facts, I am sure you have seen some TV commercials for products and politicians, but its not like life is something we can be happy about every hour.
As the old saying goes, think of life as a repetitive turn based game, you must survive as long as you can, but you only have one life to live, you must not lose.
Turn off the computer, unplug it, give it to your Father, tell him to keep it away from you, go outside, excercise, do this for two weeks, develop a habit out of it, start talking to people WITHOUT thinking of how they might react, notice improvement in your family and friendships, feel good about self, then decide if you even want to use the computer again.
Also get a therapist if you think it'll help.
Ya know... drugs are quite useful in loosening tongues...
Weed/LSD/Shrooms/Mescaline/Alcohol - Should make you more social...
I'm not going to advise you to take them, but they are there.
I know how you feel im slightly younger than you and not as depressed, however i do spend 98% of my time in front of my computer and am slowly moving further and further away from my friends. Try calling up on of your old friends and just ask if they wanna meet up some time its possible that they'l say yes. If it works out then you should start to become more confident.
how do you start a Question (sorry bout saying this on a Question) im new:(
I normally start questions by asking them.
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but that's just me.
My life used to be in a rather similar state but I've been slowly turning it around.
I used to be completely anti-social, nowadays not so much. I made a couple good friends throughout high school and things are a lot better now. I also finally pulled my shit together in my last year of high school and got my grades up. I'll be going to college in the fall.
I used to play hockey and soccer but I just got bored of it, after that I pretty much never exercised but this summer I'm working 12 hour shifts doing outside work. Hell, I'm even best friends now with the girl I've liked for years, originally I was a nervous wreck around her. Only thing I haven't really 'fixed' yet is my diet but I'm sure I'll get to that eventually.
Point I'm trying to make is: Take it one step at a time. A couple years ago I was in the exact same place as you. Anti-social, on the PC all the time and parents bitching me out for it. Just slowly change your lifestyle. You don't have to throw gaming out of your life to fix it, you just need the right outlook on things.
Good luck man. :)
[QUOTE=Kyle902;23041187]Hey look at me I'm so cool I tell other people to shut up because it reminds me of all my problems.[/QUOTE]
Well, thing is, I don't have any problems. I am actually enjoying what I have instead of bitching about how tough life is. I don't know if it's because we're not raised to be losers in Denmark like in many other countries(or so it seems)
Your argument is invalid, I'm sorry.
[QUOTE=Oblivion470;23055298]Well, thing is, I don't have any problems. I am actually enjoying what I have instead of bitching about how tough life is. I don't know if it's because we're not raised to be losers in Denmark like in many other countries(or so it seems)
Your argument is invalid, I'm sorry.[/QUOTE]
Yeah but do you think OP would be suicidal for a random reason? If you have such a good life, good for you, but everyone don't have it such good you know.
I have a fairly good time and have a good set of mates but, I never get invited to "real" parties, two of my mates go all the time, and I feel left out. At school, on the Monday, everyone talks about what happened, who slept with who, who got smashed and who got stoned. I just wish, for once I could go and everyone could see how much fun I can be. *Cry*.
[QUOTE=Soul-Chicken;23040112]Welcome to the Club[/QUOTE]
We need a "Blogpunch" section for this stuff, so people can whine and complain on how their father sucks and their mom is crying, and we don't have to see it clog up GD.
I hate how I have a possibility for a huge, non-stopping social life full of parties and friends, all of which is slowed down and nerfed by my father. Only because of him I still play basketball. I'm afraid to step up to him and actually start doing things like how I want to do them because he has a huge role in my future (if I want to study in England I'm going to need his wallet) and the fact that he may beat me, since his temper is a bit short.
Now I've got a chance to get a girlfriend, and even now my dad is not allowing me to attend a ''party'' with her just because it's in a different city and he is scared I might start a fucking fight. He's a huge cock and sometimes I really hate him, since he in his teenage years went around burning Soviet flags and replacing them with Latvian ones, which more or less would have given him a ticket straight to ''get shot'' land.
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But I guess he loves me, and that is all that matters. :smith:
OP is me. :frown:
Except for the parent part.
Guted
Can you please man-up? Jeez, you sit on your PC all day and you wonder why your alone? Get involved for pete sake, talk to them, tell jokes, ask them where there going out, ask if you come, build up confidence, if you don't your going to be the same for the rest of your life especially when you leave the education system.
If you don't do anything its your own fault, were telling you what to do in how to do it, all your doing is making excuses, just talk to them, just cos' you fancy a girl doesn't mean you can't talk to her, yeah sure, she probably wont go out of with you if you've been anti-social for this long, but at least talk to her then maybe next time or in the future you can be open to people and girls and get a girlfriend.
Am I the only FP member who has matured/grown up since my join date? Since 2007, I hardly even game or go on my computer, I'm going to College and have a girlfriend and enough friends to start a small war, I wasn't very social, in my last two years I got talking to people, people relised I was a funny guy, got into the groups, went out on nights, became the joker, got a better nickname then 'loser' to ''DanCake' and 'Danger Dan'' due to my addication to cakes (Im not that fat anymore btw that all changed when I stopped gaming)
And I got my grades for the rest of you, I've got my offer for the course I wanted to take Aerospace Engineer, I still game occasionally with friends, I still check out forums, I made memories.
[B]TL;DR[/B]
JUST DO SOMETHING FOR F*CK SAKE!
Man-up, go out, confidence, stop mega gaming (just a little), girls are not just for sex talk to them think differently about them, talk to people, get yourself a role in a group.
every morning instead of going on the computer go outside and smell the fresh air, then when you feel the urge to go on the computer go swimming, and keep doing that so it becomes a habit so instead of siting down on you ass playing on the computer go swim, you can play the computer but not everyday. Go play it on the weekends or do it when you have nothing else to do. do don't kill your self, just go swim go meet new people, because you could end up a hobo and have no money, you won't even be able to play on the computer. so get off the computer and go do something for a change, go swim go with your old friends and maybe you'll make some new friends, you can even ask that girl out, if she says no, stay happy don't get mad or sad, just go and swim and go out with you friends. soon you'll meet you girl. go play some sports or go into swimming, go on a vacation, go out with that girl you will soon get, spend time with your family and call your brother a bitch and slap him. Go on and get a job you enjoy and get a good pay, you will end up happy, and have lots of friends. Who knows, you might end up famous
I'm in the same situation, except I don't care and am perfectly happy with my life.
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