I've lost all my good friends and I'm close to ruining my family. - General

[QUOTE=StormHammer;23083128]Funny how the only guy to give constructive input gets banned.[/QUOTE] Yeah, but he was banned for the meme. Anyway I'm making progress.

[QUOTE=WuWei;23081961]Look. Fuck you. I was starting to write how I've been through the same shit as you and didn't laugh for 2 years straight and all that shit. But that won't do the fucking job. Life ain't just all rainbow and stuff as you know, but don't want to be true. NO ONE is going to help you get your ass going. READ, NO ONE. You take the fucking responsibility for your own goddamn life. NO ONE is going to life your life for you. And all those guys trying to be all polite and cheering and shit won't do anything for you. In life, there is no "maybe" or "everything is gonna be good :)". There's only FAILURE. And SUCCESS. Now rate me all the dumb you want, but that's true. As long as you don't have a mental or physical disability there is NO excuse for your current situation, namely, the dissatisfaction with your OWN life. You have to have someone who clearly confronts you with your life. And this can only be you. Because only YOU can change your life. Life is like a garden: whatever you seed, you get. But you only get if you are patient and not just willing to help the crops grow and become fruits, ready to harvest, YOU MUST DO. Remember how I mentioned I was involved in that same shitty excuse complex? I tried to kill myself with a knife, but my mother opened the door to the cellar just in time. She asked me : "What are you doing?" I answered: "I want to kill myself." Then she said : " Ok, do it." That was pretty much the turn point for my life. I realized that nothing is gonna change if I do it and that my whole set of thoughts was a messy compilation of crap. Looking back, I can actually laugh about that <.< Life is not only a garden, but a tough motherfucker that is going to beat you down to your knees, fuck your face and annihilate you. IF YOU allow that. So you have to fight that son of a bitch, push him back inch by inch, claim YOUR space inch by inch, FIGHT for every inch and finally bring that fucker down to HIS knees. Now it's your turn to decide what happens. No one ever said that a big change in life is going to be all easy-peasy, so get ready mate. (Aww shit, now I did tell you my story >.< ) (Yes yes, I'm a bad ass, rate me all the dumb you want :) )[/QUOTE] Lol, taken from a movie... I'm/partly am very anti-social, but I fill the gap with getting good grades at school, so my parents don't really mind. I also started working where I meet new peoples, it really helps. Look on the bright side of life, find a hobby you're confident with. I really wanted to write a long how-to get out of your situation but I chosed to not do so. You have to find your own way out of this, you just need the trust in yourself. I "fixed" myself with working hard on school, which payed off (good grades) it also boosted my self-esteem. Too tired to write anything constructive, to anyone interested, living in Norway.

The thing is not about finding a hobby, it's not about self confidence either, not completely. It's about support, I need to get some supportive friends that I can rely on, and I'm working on it.

pick up skateboarding dude its so steezy like everyones just chill don't try to get in with the smokers tho theyre assholes dude

You are you. You don't need to be anyone else to make anyone happy. You will not be able to keep up relationships if you dont love yourself first. It sounds corny, but it's true. I'm a nerd too, but who gives a fuck? You be who YOU want to be, not what someone else wants you to be.

look at all the people that replied to this thread. These people have taken the time to read your story and have tried to help. These people, to some extent, care about you and your problems. Listen to them because some of them have gone through the same.

If you choose to get psychological help look around, don't just go to a school counselor or settle on the first therapist you find. A good level of compatibility and comfort is a necessity for making any progress.

[QUOTE=ProBo;23091881]You are you. You don't need to be anyone else to make anyone happy. You will not be able to keep up relationships if you dont love yourself first. It sounds corny, but it's true. I'm a nerd too, but who gives a fuck? You be who YOU want to be, not what someone else wants you to be.[/QUOTE] But I'm not what I want to be. And I've realised life is about other people. And I need to change because my parents don't like what I am, in fact no one really likes what I am. And to another post, yes this thread has been very helpful and it feels good to read the good posts, it gives me a little motivation! I'll tell you guys how things have worked out when they are working out. I know everything is going to be alright, I'm gonna make everything alright!

Philosophy is the only cure for ignorance. Freedomainradio.com

One of the best ways to make friends is to find a wierd sport (such as slacklining, ultimate frisbee has become more mainstream, etc.) and find a group in your community that does it, you're guaranteed not to be the only awkward one there, the people are usually really nice and supportive and it gets you out of the house and doing something physical. Clubs at your school are also a good way. Other than that you've just confessed your darkest secret and told thousands of people online that you're depressed, and 95% of us are being supportive, so why would it be any different in real life?

Most of the suggestions here are terrible. But taking up an instrument or a sport is a great idea to help.

I have been in an extremely similar situation to yours. My health was down to hell, my hygiene was horrible, I got terrible grades. I would be so unmotivated and addicted to computer games that my Mom couldn't help but break down and cry. The first step is to get some counseling. You may feel self conscious about what the counselor thinks of you knowing your situation, but that's exactly the way it was for me. Fast forward a few years later I have a job repairing computers, I have a very happy family and I'm feeling great.

Okay first, get steam, talk with people around area through steam, add on friends, meet in person, talk more, make more friends, You know I'm just kidding. Any ways real tips, Try going outside go and make friends with people who work my Brother knows like everyone in our damn town. Or go up to your old friends say these exact lines, "Was up bro, wanna go kick it at the bowling alley? Its on me bro. At the bowling alley when your about to pay, just have everyone cash in and you put in over than what you need and be helpful to the guys. If you see the girl you like look away within 5 seconds or she'll spot you and start bowling and shit laugh when you get a gutter (is that right?)and be happy when you get strike or spare you know try to act visually happy and such your old friends will come back to you and be all like "Bro man wanna go party at (someones name here)'s house?" or some shit like that. Holy longest post I've ever made!

I have dyslexia and it works kinda weird with me, i have problems with memory and i act weird like most of the time. What do i do? I don't give a single fuck. I have like the worst hair ever and it makes me look like a maniac, i laugh at it i find it funny. I do weird stuff all the time, i end up forgetting them and when i barely remember i just keep on going. My close friends know how i behave and are already used to it and are cool with it. In my opinion, while going in public, don't give a shit about how you look/appear, most people will forget you ever existed in their lifes, for them you're just another one, they won't remember you, so ignore your mistakes in public(unless youre with someone important or someone you'll need) but at least try to behave normally, eventually you will gain social skills. As for your family, i'm really sorry for you i don't know what you could do. Man i really wish best of luck for you, most people here are fucked like that, most not as bad as you are. Some will make fun of you, some will troll you but some will help you, big time.

[QUOTE=Don Ochs;23092363]But I'm not what I want to be. And I've realised life is about other people. And I need to change because my parents don't like what I am, in fact no one really likes what I am. And to another post, yes this thread has been very helpful and it feels good to read the good posts, it gives me a little motivation! I'll tell you guys how things have worked out when they are working out. I know everything is going to be alright, I'm gonna make everything alright![/QUOTE] You shouldn't want to change because your parents don't like what you are, you should change because YOU don't like what you are. That having been said, as someone who was in somewhat of the same situation, hobbies can often go hand in hand with making friends. Common interests bring people together, so having hobbies you can chat about will help make friends and teach you interesting stuff that will stick with you the rest of your life. EDIT: I just thought of some great advice, find an activity that interests you and go on Craigslist, there should be one in your area (Assuming you are in the U.S) and there are sections for groups and various hobbies where you can get together with people for meetups and stuff. If not in the US, I'm assuming there is a craigslistesque site you can use.

Do what you will with your life. You're at a pretty big crossroad. At one end of the spectrum, there's suicide. It's easy, and it brings things to an end. Do it if you will. At the other end, there's building yourself. Its incredibly difficult at your stage, it won't bring an end to this life that you despise, but if you're willing to put forth the effort, its worth it. I can even give you a little word of advice on it. Take up a theatre class somewhere. No, really, do it. You're being FORCED to put yourself out there - and the only way to overcome your social insecurities is to throw yourself into the fire and do the best that you can do. You've clearly built up a lot of passion over the years, and not only would this help you in theatre, but theatre is also a good way to vent it off. I came from a background like yours. I was a socially inept computer nerd who had no friends and no self-esteem. The minute I was forced to step on stage, where all eyes were focused on me, it unlocked something. Do it.