Depression, anxiety, suicidalism and similar disorders, issues and troubles V5 - General

Is there anything one can do over a fear of driving? I'd like to go to a school or get a simple non-social job yet driving has continued to be an obstacle to me for the passed 3 years. And because of that i've been stuck in this loop where my parents want me to move out and I can't. I have a license, and I'm not that bad of a driver, its just whenever I drive I feel like I want to die, it's the most stressful and infuriating thing I've ever done. It's not that I'm afraid of dying via car crash, there's just too many things to focus on while driving, plus it feels like something where even a minor mistake can be fatal. It's getting to the point where my parents are soon either going to throw me into the navy (which I do not want) or just simply kick me out, in which case I'll probably just end my life. Why the fuck does something so stressful and dangerous have to be mandatory in life

[QUOTE=Killajax;53060910]Is there anything one can do over a fear of driving? I'd like to go to a school or get a simple non-social job yet driving has continued to be an obstacle to me for the passed 3 years. And because of that i've been stuck in this loop where my parents want me to move out and I can't. I have a license, and I'm not that bad of a driver, its just whenever I drive I feel like I want to die, it's the most stressful and infuriating thing I've ever done. It's not that I'm afraid of dying via car crash, there's just too many things to focus on while driving, plus it feels like something where even a minor mistake can be fatal. It's getting to the point where my parents are soon either going to throw me into the navy (which I do not want) or just simply kick me out, in which case I'll probably just end my life. Why the fuck does something so stressful and dangerous have to be mandatory in life[/QUOTE] ive been in your place before. important question: how long have you driven? I find that if you go against your anxiety and push yourself to drive even if you do not want to, you will get used to it over time and love it a lot. All of the things you are worried about were fears i was worried about too. they fade with time and experience, i promise. i am in no way saying you are inexperienced though, but the way you describe it leads me to believe that. a helpful tip is to plan out routes in advance so you do not feel lost. Hell, it doesn't even matter how far you drive, it can be short destinations or long, just as long as you put in the time. I like to think of it as learning to ride a bike. You are very cautious at first, but once you get the hang of it, everything becomes routine muscle memory and the things you were previously worried about are a breeze now and you are like "why was i even worried about that?"

Finally got my meds again! Excited to not feel like I'm dying lol.

[QUOTE=Killajax;53060910]Is there anything one can do over a fear of driving? I'd like to go to a school or get a simple non-social job yet driving has continued to be an obstacle to me for the passed 3 years. And because of that i've been stuck in this loop where my parents want me to move out and I can't. I have a license, and I'm not that bad of a driver, its just whenever I drive I feel like I want to die, it's the most stressful and infuriating thing I've ever done. It's not that I'm afraid of dying via car crash, there's just too many things to focus on while driving, plus it feels like something where even a minor mistake can be fatal. It's getting to the point where my parents are soon either going to throw me into the navy (which I do not want) or just simply kick me out, in which case I'll probably just end my life. Why the fuck does something so stressful and dangerous have to be mandatory in life[/QUOTE] Practice makes perfect. That said I can drive but don't because I find it stressful as hell, so maybe I oughta take my own advice... I went to New Zealand South Island in off season last year ie really big really quiet roads and driving was enjoyable, maybe train yourself on easy roads at quiet times and gradually set yourself challenges. Don't worry about dying in a car crash tho that probably ain't gonna happen.

I'd say that if you're nervous about driving, take baby steps. When I first started, I was maybe 19 and I was terrified. But I started off just driving around the streets in my neighborhood in the early afternoons when most people were at work or school. I worked my way up from there and it took about a year and a half for me to be comfortable with driving on my own. Then I was just on the normal suburban streets around my part of town, then another year later, I worked my way up to the highway. It's a progression. You shouldn't force yourself to drive anywhere you're not comfortable with. Start small. You can even start in an empty parking lot if that's where you feel safest. Drive with a friend or a parent who has been driving for a while and is a calm teacher. You don't want someone freaking you out or anything. But anyway, I think driving is something everyone should learn how to do if they have the ability to, but definitely don't force yourself to do anything you're not comfortable with. Start very small if you have to and work your way up. You're not on a time limit or anything.

Well, since my father died I've enrolled to the tech college here, started classes, started working again, and evolved to handle my mental health better. I still have a lot I need to do and I'm still pretty stressed and have moments, but it's a lot better than what it was. Here's to a nice 2018 for everyone <3

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[QUOTE=Pascall;53061540] But anyway, I think driving is something everyone should learn how to do if they have the ability to, but definitely don't force yourself to do anything you're not comfortable with. Start very small if you have to and work your way up. [b]You're not on a time limit or anything.[/b][/QUOTE] At this point, I kinda am. Again it doesn't feel like I'll ever be comfortable driving, especially because even if I were to get comfortable with it, it doesn't make it any less dangerous. There are cars that supposedly add safety precautions but I don't have one of those and I doubt me/my parents will buy one. For the record I never even asked for a car, because I knew I'd hate driving, my parents bought me one anyway.

[QUOTE=LordyLord;53061899]Well, since my father died I've enrolled to the tech college here, started classes, started working again, and evolved to handle my mental health better. I still have a lot I need to do and I'm still pretty stressed and have moments, but it's a lot better than what it was. Here's to a nice 2018 for everyone <3[/QUOTE] Good job. My mother died and I've made it a point to embrace the circle of life, and the many lessons it holds for us. Transcending victimhood is an important part of being a competent person. If you are interested in the line of thought when it comes to embracing death, Viktor Frankl's Man's Search For Meaning is a highly recommended read. The ideas there can be completely life changing for anyone who reads it. The first few chapters alone can help anyone.

Didn't think 2017 could be any worse than 2016, but it was. Here's hoping for having already hit rock bottom this time around.

Man i hate moving to another house, leaving my old home feels like leaving a very important part of your life, I've been living in this place for almost 9 years and this place gives me so much memories sometimes good, sometimes bad and it have become a part of my life, i really wish i can stay in this place for a little while longer, and man i feel like i wanted to cry right now i don't know why.