Depression, anxiety, suicidalism and similar disorders, issues and troubles V4 - Discussion, help an - General

[QUOTE=kijji;49791745]really though, I want a break from everything, is that even possible[/QUOTE] Well, list off the stuff that you have an obligation to in your life.

[QUOTE=wauterboi;49791751]Well, list off the stuff that you have an obligation to in your life.[/QUOTE] my job, paying student loans, deciding what to do with my life, and that's p much it

[QUOTE=kijji;49791758]my job, paying student loans, deciding what to do with my life, and that's p much it[/QUOTE] When is your next vacation? What are the penalties of taking a sick day?

[QUOTE=wauterboi;49791780]When is your next vacation? What are the penalties of taking a sick day?[/QUOTE] My next vacation is towards the end of March and I can get written up if I call off too much.

[QUOTE=wauterboi;49791687]Here's what you should do: 1.) Take a break from everything and make some [url=http://allrecipes.com/recipe/228483/best-100-calorie-blueberry-muffins/]blueberry muffins[/url]. 2.) Eat the blueberry muffins. 3.) Bow to me, your new baking overlord. This was the first thing I baked and they came out really great and permanently moist. Baking can be a fun, moist escape.[/QUOTE] i'm taking up baking because of this post

[QUOTE=NixNax123;49791802]i'm taking up baking because of this post[/QUOTE] Do it. Make chocolate chip muffins.

[QUOTE=kijji;49791790]My next vacation is towards the end of March and I can get written up if I call off too much.[/QUOTE] Hang in there, buddy. In the mean time, how are you unwinding for the day? [QUOTE=NixNax123;49791802]i'm taking up baking because of this post[/QUOTE] Let me know when you burn your creative pecan pie cookies because of CERTAIN SABATOGE BY A SCRUPULOUS COUSIN (he never hears the end of it)

[QUOTE=wauterboi;49791854]Hang in there, buddy. In the mean time, how are you unwinding for the day?[/QUOTE] I have to go to work so I can't really unwind

Also It's true what people say: "you don't know what you had until it's gone" I really missed eating good food, my friend eats healthy (for the most part) but since I hadn't eaten an actual meal in three-four days because of the shit I had to deal with, she took me out to get a burger from five guys and it was the best tasting burger ever. Now I'm eating real food. It's great.

[QUOTE=kijji;49791857]I have to go to work so I can't really unwind[/QUOTE] What do you do before you go to bed? [QUOTE=IJNOMED;49791860]Also It's true what people say: "you don't know what you had until it's gone" I really missed eating good food, my friend eats healthy (for the most part) but since I hadn't eaten an actual meal in three-four days because of the shit I had to deal with, she took me out to get a burger from five guys and it was the best tasting burger ever. Now I'm eating real food. It's great.[/QUOTE] Since I've been on my FitBit, the heart grows fonder. Every trip to Burger King is now a metaphysical experience.

[QUOTE=wauterboi;49791879]What do you do before you go to bed?[/QUOTE] Sit on my ass, browse FP, play games

[QUOTE=kijji;49791886]Sit on my ass, browse FP, play games[/QUOTE] That sounds like unwinding if I were to ever say so. :P Maybe what you need is absence even from those. People generally sleep better if they are away from the bright blue lights of monitors and are instead invested in books or walking. The mind draws to a better close that way. And I definitely don't do that. I looked at classic computer viruses all night last night. However, if I were to strive for better sleep and a clearer mind at the end of the day, it would definitely be that. I think that will take some of the edge off of needing that break.

[QUOTE=kijji;49791886]Sit on my ass, browse FP, play games[/QUOTE] you should try changing it up a little, sometimes doing the same thing every day can become boring, some people like routine to their days, but too much routine can make you feel stuck. I need routine in my life most days, but I love having a spontaneous thing to do every now and then.

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it doesn't help that I'm not too social, I don't get out much and I have a lot of regrets in life

[QUOTE=wauterboi;49791917][video=youtube;EwosmnoMRjM]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EwosmnoMRjM[/video][/QUOTE] It's true though, if you give yourself a tiny reward each day, be it something as simle as letting yourself sleep in an extra five minutes, taking a hot shower, eating that one thing you like, or playing a game; it dosen't make you spoiled. It acts as a little motivation. Like "Hey, look at you, you made it another day. Go treat yourself to a soda." [editline]22nd February 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=kijji;49791953]it doesn't help that I'm not too social, I don't get out much and I have a lot of regrets in life[/QUOTE] My friend made it apparent that I'm a little tweaky when it comes to social interactions, although she's partially wrong because I can be sociable, she just hasn't seen me be all that social. I can handle a job interview just fine, I can order food and all that... What I'm getting at is that the more you expose yourself to social situations, the better you will get at them. IDK if any of you have the same problem, but my tweaky word mess-ups are caused by my fear of messing up, I unintentionally jynx myself into messing up. The trick is to not focus on what you're about to say, because rehearsing the proper words in your head will lead you astray if the person gives a response you weren't expecting, but instead focus on what the person is saying. Pay all of your attention on that person when they are speaking, and social interaction will start to come naturally to you, because when you pay attention to the person speaking, you will make eye contact and all that. It makes it a little easie for words to come to you, if I'm making any sense. If you live near any resteraunts, try walking out one day, sit out and have some lunch.

[QUOTE=kijji;49791953]it doesn't help that I'm not too social, I don't get out much and I have a lot of regrets in life[/QUOTE] What are your regrets in life? Also, being social requires practice and enough failure to succeed. [editline]22nd February 2016[/editline] I guess if I had to delve into myself, I could say I have regrets, but in no way would I ever want to correct them because then it would be both cheating and not real. They are a part of me and made me stronger for the future. They are a vulnerability I had to train myself not to cover up but to face and accept. When you can learn to love yourself in spite of the mistakes you make is something I hope people can find for others, because I used to have sincere trouble with that and it made life terrible. And I, at one point, convinced myself that I could never reach the point I'm at now.

Really, I just regret dropping out of college and not talking to some girls who clearly showed interest. And becoming depressed is another one.

Don't have to be social to go out and shake things up. I go to the mall by myself a lot just to walk around and get some snacks.

The nearest mall that still has people going to it is a long way away, and I don't have a car or a license.

It's just an example. I don't mean you have to go to the mall lol. Just means there's nothing wrong with going out on your own to do whatever you want.

[QUOTE=kijji;49792110]The nearest mall that still has people going to it is a long way away, and I don't have a car or a license.[/QUOTE] TIME FOR YELP, BAAAAAAAABY.

[QUOTE=kijji;49791745]really though, I want a break from everything, is that even possible[/QUOTE] It is possible. It's called samatha meditation. You begin by lying or sitting comfortable, closing your eyes. At this stage, you've pretty much programmed your brain to think, contemplate and obsess perpetually and this is what meditation is supposed to make you unlearn. When you feel a thought entering your mind when you try to meditate, just let it go, like you were holding a fish above water and you just release it into the ocean. Don't force anything though, if your thoughts are more persistent than your willingness to let go of them, just let them be, and when you see this persistent thought, it's always better to just let it form in your mind. Sooner or later it will dissipate anyway, just go with the flow. Some beginners in meditation try to focus on their breathing to elude these thoughts, this is probably a good way to start. I've religiously been practicing meditation for 4 years. Because when you meditate enough, you experience and discover indescribable sensations and perceptions.

I think my depression is coming back. I have no motivation or drive to do anything. This is all made worse by my body issues and school. I can't deal with the repetitiveness of it all.

[QUOTE=xVENUSx;49793842]I think my depression is coming back. I have no motivation or drive to do anything. This is all made worse by my body issues and school. I can't deal with the repetitiveness of it all.[/QUOTE] You sound like you're in more agony about not being able to be who you have been conditioned to be. You're depressed, it's a legitimate condition, you're allowed to take a break from everything. You're allowed to be grumpy, allowed to sleep too much. Find yourself in the moment, no past, no future, because you're ill. You have the opportunity to talk to your friends about it, getting a deeper connection with them as a result. Just don't be frustrated about how you think things should be. You're experiencing something different than usual, explore it, talk to someone you trust.

my best friend is very likely going to permanently move out of my city in a year or two because he doesn't have any place to live (he is in bad relations with his family so no inheritance, he kinda exists at their place right now), the only place he can live is at his gf's parents' in absolute bumfuck nowhere and it's going to suck

Girlfriend just did something very horrible to me, so we're pretty much done. Women will wreck you if you let them. I should have moved when I had the chance. There I go thinking about other people, what a sucker I was because clearly she didn't have my interest in mind at all.

I'm struggling super hard right now. Like, I'm still hopefull that life will get better, except I'm still pretty much in tears because now my friend might be homeless because there's a huge legal problem. Her mother really fucked this shit up. It's all because she's afraid that a gay person is sleeping with her daughter. That's partially what it's about. So I need to scrape up as much money as I can soon. I need to do some heavy fucking research on homeless shelters around here. Guys I've still got hope, even though me and my friend are crying right now...

[QUOTE=IJNOMED;49794346]Guys I've still got hope, even though me and my friend are crying right now...[/QUOTE] I'd say that life is just an experience, I try to fit my mind to the situation, not the other way around. This is an opportunity for you two to grow as human beings, dealing with something difficult. If life seems to suck, it means you're attached to things that is no longer available. Anxiety always follow the unknown, conquer that, and just learn from what is happening, and things will feel better.

sometimes i feel down so i buy myself shit