[QUOTE=Pascall;19911091]But I wouldn't adopt if I had my own child.
Also, there is a certain motherly instict that kicks in with any child, which is why mothers tend to fawn over others' children as well. So I'm sure a good mother would be able to balance the two, adopted or not.[/QUOTE]
Yeah but maybe your previous boyfriend was sterile, and then when you get married your husband isn't or some shit.
Who know.
[QUOTE=sloppy_joes;19911156]Yeah but maybe your previous boyfriend was sterile, and then when you get married your husband isn't or some shit.
Who know.[/QUOTE]
I'm not having sex 'til marriage. :v:
[QUOTE=sloppy_joes;19911079]You say that now.
But if you were to take care of your own child and an adopted child by choice, it's more likely that you would love your own child more per say.[/QUOTE]
It really depends on the person who adopted the child. Either way, its your kid. Whether you choose to love the child or not, is entirely up to you.
[QUOTE=Pascall;19911159]I'm not having sex 'til marriage. :v:[/QUOTE]
Precisely?
Whatever, it was a hypothetical.
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[QUOTE=Identity;19911170]It really depends on the person who adopted the child. Either way, its your kid. Whether you choose to love the child or not, is entirely up to you.[/QUOTE]
I guess.. but here's my thought:
If your adopted kid gets fucked up (mentally, physically, socially etc.), well it's not your fault, (s)he's adopted, put him back in the box and get a new one.
But if your kid is fucked up, then you have to rough it through since you're the reason that child is on the Earth, so I suppose deep down inside, you're more aligned with your child than with an adopted one.
[QUOTE=sloppy_joes;19911175]Precisely?
Whatever, it was a hypothetical.
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I guess.. but here's my thought:
If your adopted kid gets fucked up (mentally, physically, socially etc.), well it's not your fault, (s)he's adopted, put him back in the box and get a new one.
But if your kid is fucked up, then you have to rough it through since you're the reason that child is on the Earth, so I suppose deep down inside, you're more aligned with your child than with an adopted one.[/QUOTE]
But I think people would take the high road, and rough it through the adopted child as well. I know I would. When it all comes down to it, it's still a life you are responsible for.
[QUOTE=Identity;19911218]But I think people would take the high road, and rough it through the adopted child as well. I know I would. When it all comes down to it, it's still a life you are responsible for.[/QUOTE]
good people would, but some people would rather take an easier route than with a child that screwed up for reasons beyond your power.
[QUOTE=sloppy_joes;19911175]Precisely?
Whatever, it was a hypothetical.
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I guess.. but here's my thought:
If your adopted kid gets fucked up (mentally, physically, socially etc.), well it's not your fault, (s)he's adopted, put him back in the box and get a new one.
But if your kid is fucked up, then you have to rough it through since you're the reason that child is on the Earth, so I suppose deep down inside, you're more aligned with your child than with an adopted one.[/QUOTE]
A parent who would "get a new" adopted child because of social problems shouldn't have children at all.
They probably wouldn't even adopt or be allowed to in the first place. Agencies do screenings and background checks when the adoptive families come to adopt.
[QUOTE=sloppy_joes;19911227]good people would, but some people would rather take an easier route than with a child that screwed up for reasons beyond your power.[/QUOTE]
But from your last post, it seemed that you were generalizing those would put the child back into foster care, than those who had their own.
[QUOTE=sloppy_joes;19911227]good people would, but some people would rather take an easier route than with a child that screwed up for reasons beyond your power.[/QUOTE]
your argument is way too hypothetical to be relevant. sweeping generalizations aren't worth posting about
[QUOTE=Identity;19911250]But from your last post, it seemed that you were generalizing those would put the child back into foster care, than those who had their own.[/QUOTE]
Generalizing them together? Yes because I'm assuming the average person doesn't want to work 8 hours a day to support a child that is screwed up I suppose. It's only logical, if you are going to adopt someone, you might as well adopt a child that is "normal" by societies standards so that your family can be normal.
I know what you're saying is that a lot of people would support a child even if they have problems, but I'm assuming those people are few and far between.
People are lazy, most people would take the easy route. History will agree with this time and time again.
The average person that wants a child, just wants a child, they don't want the extra burden of taking care of a disadvantaged child if they don't need it.
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[QUOTE=ghosevil;19911264]your argument is way too hypothetical to be relevant. sweeping generalizations aren't worth posting about[/QUOTE]
True I'll just stop posting here now.
I don't understand why people want children, I fucking hate kids and I couldn't think of anything to ruin my life more.
I don't find parenting that scary.
It's just something that you go through in life. Not everyone, but most of us will be parents at some point in our lives.
I will get children later in my life when I got a steady job, a place me and my girlfriend can call a home and nothing that might come in the way of me being a good father for my children. In other words, I will get children when I feel like I can raise them without too much trouble.
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