If I love a girl, am I making a mistake by leaving for college? Will she be the one that got away? - General

[QUOTE=Nightscout;46299147]Who's referencing Katy Perry?[/QUOTE] Title -> [video=youtube;Ahha3Cqe_fk]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ahha3Cqe_fk[/video]

[QUOTE=Tomvdr;46313329]Title -> [video=youtube;Ahha3Cqe_fk]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ahha3Cqe_fk[/video][/QUOTE] That's been an expression for [I]many, many, many[/I] years before this song came out.

[QUOTE=billyolak7;46312888]I could say, do it. But in the other hand, is she really THE one? Like, I dated a girl for four weeks and instantly found out she was the one, but she broke up with me because of people bullying me about her. I would do it, do it for the chance to get lucky, or the chance to go on an adventure and seek out a love interest. My best friend made his choice back in Grade 7, now they have a kid together and are quite happy, besides the fact that they bicker constantly, but the love is still there. Falling in love with someone you know from heart is the best place to go. Don't let this opportunity slip through your fingers[/QUOTE] There's no such thing as "the one". It's silly to assume that you have some soulmate out there who you'll have a perfect relationship with. Any relationship can be made to work, but every relationship takes work as well, no matter how compatible you initially are. [editline]23rd October 2014[/editline] As for getting married to a childhood sweetheart, that's great that they were able to make that relationship work, but you're still changing a lot as a person at that age. Not everyone is ready to commit to one person to life before they even know who that person will turn out to be once they reach adulthood. [editline]23rd October 2014[/editline] OP, go to community college for your first two years and see where your relationship goes in the meantime. There's no reason to skip straight to an expensive 4-year university when you can get through your core classes for much cheaper. Keep your focus on your education - you'll meet plenty of women in the future who would be worth pursuing a relationship with. You don't know what will happen with this girl in a month or a year, but your education is going to be a big part of your life no matter what.

Best way to sort these dilemmas out yourself. Have a wank, then see how you feel about it, after masturbating, you get a good 10 - 15 minutes of pure logical thinking

Or you could just throw all of these ideas out the window and become homeless like me.

Leave. You'll find another girl at collage m8.

[QUOTE=tigge;46318566]Leave. You'll find another girl at collage m8.[/QUOTE] This girl will fit in collage too.

If you don't want to work in fast food or warehouse jobs...go to college. I made the mistake of Girlfriend > College I eventually got engaged to her 4 years later she decided to sleep with a fedora wearing Prof. Snape impersonator who works at McDonalds. Your own education and knowledge is more important, it'll help "seal" your future and it will help you have a more secure relationship with anyone.

please tell us more about this fedora wearing prof. snape impersonator who works at McDonalds

My brother didn't want to leave his love, so he has chosen the closest, and the shitiest school. Just so he could be close to her. In my opinion, he made a very bad choice. The school is shit, teachers are shit, and because of his love he's not even studying.You can make your choice based on this.

[QUOTE=Remedial Math;46319802]please tell us more about this fedora wearing prof. snape impersonator who works at McDonalds[/QUOTE] As much as i'd like to, I'd rather move on in my life. If i discuss it I'd find myself getting down in the dumps. It was a hard breakup, and calling the man who persuaded my best friend to leave a commitment a fedora wearing Prof. Snape puts a bit of a smile on my face.

i guess that's one way to look at it alternatively, she found a fedora wearing prof snape more appealing than you so maybe you shouldn't demean him so much

I went to community college for my first 2 years to get my core classes out of the way before transferring to a University. Best fucking decision of my entire life because I saved a alot of money. If you want, you can go to community college with her for a bit for your core classes, then transfer to the University you want to go. You'll save a lot of money as well as have a little more quality time with your girl. Also commuting with your parents is not bad at all.You can save even more money and not worry about living expenses as well as getting some quality home cooked meals. :P

ive never had a gf

these posts give me hope I met my current gf through a mutual friend in the second to last week of high school and we've been making it work so far

Long distance relationships never work out, they will always crumble and honestly even if there's some kind of trust within the relationship to begin with, its bound to be broken How'd they know anyway, this has happened to a girl I knew who fancied a boy in America and she lived in outback Australia. I told her he's most likely fucking people behind your back but she shot it down saying "NO HE'S LOYAL", how do you know? How do I know? Don't rely on it tbh

[QUOTE=Wii60;46296333]remember the rule about hard decisions. masturbate first, right after your done re-ask yourself the same question[/QUOTE] This is some pretty crucial advice to live by. I've made some pretty retarded decisions in the past when I wasn't using my big boy brain.

long distance relationships only work if you have an endgame you need an endgame

I would go to college honestly.. If the girl is truly in love with you then she will wait, not skip over to another man.

[QUOTE=PollytheParrot;46339357]long distance relationships only work if you have an endgame you need an endgame[/QUOTE] What's an endgame ? I feel like long distance drunk.

I'm in my last year of high school and currently in my "it's perfect i love her till the very end" relationship and man this thread is really depressing to me got me thinking we will maybe probably break up, but I just don't see it happening

I was going to say that allowing something like this to affect making a decision about your education would be silly, but as others have said unless this community college has problems or something going to the community college first might be a good idea anyway. It may put you in a more comfortable position to really decide what you want to do, and you could get some classes out of the way and save money even if you go to the university later. I switched majors after my first year at a university and that was kind of expensive and troublesome. Ironically I went to a local community college one summer after deciding I hated my major and found what I really wanted to do, then went back to the university to do something I actually liked and it was smooth sailing from there. I'm pretty happy with where I'm at now and debt free, so that mistake didn't set me back that much. However, in retrospect going to the local community college first rather than going straight to the university probably would have saved me quite a bit of trouble and money.

[QUOTE=fruxodaily;46338816]Long distance relationships never work out, they will always crumble and honestly even if there's some kind of trust within the relationship to begin with, its bound to be broken How'd they know anyway, this has happened to a girl I knew who fancied a boy in America and she lived in outback Australia. I told her he's most likely fucking people behind your back but she shot it down saying "NO HE'S LOYAL", how do you know? How do I know? Don't rely on it tbh[/QUOTE] Long distance can work. I've had to do long distance with my wife while we were studying at our respective universities, and then another time after we got married. It's hard, but it can be done. On another note, don't throw away the opportunity to study at a university. If she can't handle someone pursuing long term goals for their future, screw em.

I'd say that get financially stable and more mature in your outlook towards life. Then decide for whom should be the one for you. But that's just me with my own share of experience from failures.

[QUOTE=fritzel;46343214]What's an endgame ? I feel like long distance drunk.[/QUOTE] I'm assuming plans to meet up and actually have a life together, I'm not sure though.

this thread holy fucking shit

[QUOTE=Heigou;46364382]I'm assuming plans to meet up and actually have a life together, I'm not sure though.[/QUOTE] Pretty much that. An example of a long-term relationship with no endgame is two people meet on, say, world of warcraft. They begin "dating", and they just date online for a year or two without ever even making plans to meet up. But then if one says they'll have time to drive over on weekends to visit, or that one can move to the other's location in a reasonable amount of time, I'd call that somewhat of an endgame.

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