Moving out at 17? - General

[QUOTE=Septimas;34299614]Is it legal to move out at 17? She keeps telling me all this shit how im the problem and need to move out cause im a ungrateful piece of shit, but im not sure what happens if i actually move out.[/QUOTE] She can't legally kick you out, but you can leave.

I left home at 16 and lived in the woods for a year and it was great, now I'm in college and work a pretty low key job living on my own. It was pretty rough at the time but looking back on it, I think I'd prefer an adventure to another horrible 2 years in a neo nazi infested highschool going home to an abusive family. Just have a plan! I believe in you!

My buddy, a guy a work with rather told me that he moved out on his own at 18, He had a full time job at Bestbuy and he was able to get rent every month. What it comes down to is can you financially support yourself? Because if you can than you might just make it.

Honestly? I think it's healthy to move out at 17. Well, maybe "healthy" isn't the word I'm looking for, but it's not necessarily the worst thing that you could do. You're growing up, you know? You've got to take responsibility at some point. If your friends are there to back you up, you're really lucky and you've got good friends. If you were planning on living on your own though, I'd say to first get a job so that you can support yourself.

[QUOTE=Septimas;34299421]Well, long story short, I have always had family issues, my mother doesn't really like me at all, she's told me to get out and leave more than once, and never really followed through. I won't lie and do the regular sob story of im innocent, i have made mistakes, but I'm quite frankly tired of living in a family that doesn't love me. Has anyone moved out before they graduated highschool?? Any thoughts?? My mom has already informed me she is not paying for my college because of her attitude towards me, and she is selling the car her and my father bought me not just a few months ago. I have 3 friends that said i can move in with them if I need to, I just dont know what to do anymore. Thanks if anyones helping, if not, whatever/[/QUOTE] Take the car the fuck out of there before it gets sold

My parents hated me also, on my 16th birthday they forced me out so i waited till night and broke into their house stole my dads car key and his wallet then fled to germany where my uncle lived told him what happen and stayed with him till i was 18 by then i had a steady income with that rented me an apartment and whent to college,now i'm a lawyer. see if you can find anyone in your family who will be willing to take you in if not see if a friend's parents will take you in. if no one takes you in allways the homeless shelter may not seem like such a nice future but it's better then living with people who hate you

[QUOTE=Zombie1218;34300845]I left home at 16 and lived in the woods for a year and it was great[/QUOTE] That actually sounds cool as shit. OP do this.

I tried to leave home to live with my dad at 17 due to my relationship with my mother. It didn't turn out very well. It started with a 3 day stay at my friend's house, then I was at my dad's for just 5 days before we were called to an interview with a social worker. Apparently my mom and grandmother were planning on sending me off to a home for incorrigible youth, and I had to go back to my mom's house or my dad would face jail time (the system can really suck in certain situations). Thankfully I avoided said youth home and moved out at 18 a few weeks after high school graduation. I would take your brother's offer up and wait a year, trying to stay with friends can get them in serious trouble if your mother decides to call the cops. My mom told me the same shit, but as soon as I actually left home she had a completely different story. The situation at home got even worse as a result of my attempt to move out, up until about a month before graduation. In the end, it's your decision, but my suggestion would be to sit down and have a chat with your mother about how you're feeling and what you want to do - if she can be civil enough to participate.

You have a horrible mother, I'm sorry to say, but unless you did some really heinous shit to deserve this treatment, then I don't really see the reason to make amends. Why would you want to stick around such a terrible human being?

I moved out of my bible belt suburb and went to live in Europe on my own at 16 feelsgoodman

i'm not trying to belittle your situation but i can relate. my dad's like that when my mom isn't around. i think in your case you would be able to - the two main issues with moving out when you're under 18 are that a lot of places wouldn't allow you to live there and if your parents were to call the police you would be sent back home. technically you're capable, but in some cases it might just be easier to live at home until you turn 18. even if your situation with your parents isn't the best, you have a roof over your head and access to food. if you think you can support yourself without them then go for it, but consider the tradeoffs. i'm sorry you have to go through something like that.

Don't know about how it works in your country, but where I live it's not possible to move out before 18 years of age, because you can't sign a rental agreement if you're not 18 years old. You can only move out, if you're under 18, if your parents sign the rental agreement, but that implys that your parents pay the rent and they are responsible for the condition of the apartment. If you make a mess, your parents will get the bill.

I moved out at 16, and now I'm at the most prestigious university in my country. If your brother is legitimate and you're willing to do all the mundane stuff necessary to survive, and have a sound financial plan, you should be fine.

Best of luck, mate. I know what you're going through. I can only suggest waiting it out until you are 18. As it is, you are getting meals and have a roof over your head. In the mean time, find a place for work. If college is in your sights, many places would be happy to give you scholarships if they know what you've been through. I can only wish you the best.

Get emancipated

I moved out when I was 17 due to my parent's fiscal issues. You'll need a steady job with steady pay, just find a small room to rent out until you can work your way up.

I moved to uni at 17. However, still with support from my family. Surviving on the loan alone would be near impossible.

Move in to your brother's, that what I did when my parents died. and hey, you'll still be living with your family!

I have the wierdest feeling your only making the story seem like your the good one and your mom is the bad one when I bet you have done plenty of shit to your mom to deserve this [editline]20th January 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=MisterAlbert;34302498]My parents hated me also, on my 16th birthday they forced me out so i waited till night and broke into their house stole my dads car key and his wallet then fled to germany where my uncle lived told him what happen and stayed with him till i was 18 by then i had a steady income with that rented me an apartment and whent to college,now i'm a lawyer. see if you can find anyone in your family who will be willing to take you in if not see if a friend's parents will take you in. if no one takes you in allways the homeless shelter may not seem like such a nice future but it's better then living with people who hate you[/QUOTE] Oh yeah I'm completely sure you did that too, If fact one time I blew up a building and had sex with 9 girls at once with my 69" dick then i proceeded to double backflip into my ferarri and hit a jump to germany where i became a multi trillionare and fucked hot babes on a bed of gold... Please believe me );

Go to family counseling with your mother or something where there is a "professional" involved to help sort things out between you to.

[QUOTE=Contag;34306592]I moved out at 16, and now I'm at the most prestigious university in my country. If your brother is legitimate and you're willing to do all the mundane stuff necessary to survive, and have a sound financial plan, you should be fine.[/QUOTE] And I moved out with him at the same age. We're twenty now, and doing fantastic (I'm at the same university). If you can figure out a way to work it financially, I'd advise it. People tell you you won't be ready, but that's because society doesn't think terribly highly of young people. If you already know you're responsible - and be honest with yourself here - then do it. It's of the utmost importance that you know your limits here, though. Half the people who have 'moved out on their own' in this thread (and at this age) leave for a few days, and return home. Doing so might make your tumultuous relationship with your mother significantly worse. If you know you can finish school, and have a dependable source of income - do it. I have a feeling many of the people in this thread don't know what it's like to have an abusive or neglectful home situation. I can honestly say that I don't regret moving out so early for a second; leaving my 'home' was an absolute relief, and life was much easier for me once I was depending on myself. Having said that, I'd been washing my clothes, feeding myself, waking up to get to school, etc. for years, so the transition was hardly jarring. [editline]21st January 2012[/editline] Oh, and definitely read up and inform yourself as much as possible before you take that step, especially regarding legal and fiscal issues.

[QUOTE=gamefreek76;34300824]She can't legally kick you out, but you can leave.[/QUOTE] She also can't legally sell things she has bought for you.

[QUOTE=Septimas;34299479]I think my mom is already canceling my phone plan, selling my car, and I have to pay for most of my shit without a job. She isn't letting me get a job, so if i move out im getting a job to start paying for necessities. Is it legal to move out at 17 in the US?[/QUOTE] You didn't have a job, so I assume your PARENTS bought you that car. I don't think you realise just how lucky you are, even to have parents. Look at Harry Potter, he never even got to meet his parents. I seriously this you need to reconsider your whole attitude to your family, they have fed and clothed you for all these years and your obviously making them angry with the actions your doing. In England, I know people who have moved out at sixteen and they end up in a shitty flat with other people, they also end up back at their parent's house within a few weeks.

[QUOTE=Dokaman;34311134]You didn't have a job, so I assume your PARENTS bought you that car. I don't think you realise just how lucky you are, even to have parents. Look at Harry Potter, he never even got to meet his parents. I seriously this you need to reconsider your whole attitude to your family, they have fed and clothed you for all these years and your obviously making them angry with the actions your doing. In England, I know people who have moved out at sixteen and they end up in a shitty flat with other people, they also end up back at their parent's house within a few weeks.[/QUOTE] wow. harry potter. really? [editline]20th January 2012[/editline] he also god bad fucking ass magic, it's a story.

Only do it if you know what you're doing. I moved in with my girlfriend at 17 (she was 18 at the time) and I thought it was a good experience, but I guess it depends on the person.

If I'm not mistaken, don't you have to be 18 in America in order to actually legally move away from your parents?

[QUOTE=Dokaman;34311134]Look at Harry Potter, he never even got to meet his parents.[/QUOTE] Yeah, but Harry Potter got to ride on a flying motorcycle with a half-giant while the most famous wizard ever to live dropped him off at his new house with a witch who can turn into a cat.

[QUOTE=Paramud;34311468]Yeah, but Harry Potter got to ride on a flying motorcycle with a half-giant while the most famous wizard ever to live dropped him off at his new house with a witch who can turn into a cat.[/QUOTE] Harry Potter isn't real you know?

I've seen so many of my friends really damaged by parents that didn't love them, everything from physical abuse to being used and not allowed to do anything like get a job to try and gain independence, the irony being that friend's parent then decided she was worthless as she wasn't claiming any money and made her move out. You're young and it's scary, but you need to do what you feel is best, if you're really tried with your mother then just leave it, you'll be better off without her. I'd say get professional help if you can (I'm in the UK so I'm not sure how it'd work for you), talk to a professional about the issues, even push for emotional abuse if you can, if they're making you feel so unloved it will be affecting your well being and your life. Take a break and stay with family/grandparents/whoever is willing to take you for a bit and see how the distance affects your relationship. I can't stay just outright leave because I don't know how well you'd cope and things, but I can safely say as soon as you turn 18 look for a job and start living your life. You don't need your parents, but they'll realise one day that they need you, and it'll be up to you to decide then if they deserve your attention. I wish you the best of luck.

As long as your not "that kid who borrows his mothers credit card to buy food and purchases weed kind of kid", then I genuinely feel sorry for you.