Thoughts on Open relationships? - General

[QUOTE=Ranger149;25470925]Thats the thing, sex wouldn't be allowed. But I totally agree with that. I don't want to think my dick is getting someone elses cum rubbed all over it.[/QUOTE] I'd like someone to rub their cum all over my dick :3:

They suck in my personal opinion, unless if you don't want to stay with the girl forever.

I prefer open relationships. You shouldn't have to slap the "girlfriend" "boyfriend" label on each other from the start. If you truly have a connection with somebody than you won't feel the desire to be with other people, your partner should be all you need. I feel trapped when i'm in a relationship where I have to see my girlfriend a certain way. I'm not saying it doesn't work for everybody, but my current relationship started out "open" and our connection is slowly becoming more and more secure. I think knowing the other person has the freedom to leave at any time (but they still stick with you) makes you trust them that much more.

[QUOTE=Tugger;25472515]I prefer open relationships. You shouldn't have to slap the "girlfriend" "boyfriend" label on each other from the start. If you truly have a connection with somebody than you won't feel the desire to be with other people, your partner should be all you need. I feel trapped when i'm in a relationship where I have to see my girlfriend a certain way. I'm not saying it doesn't work for everybody, but my current relationship started out "open" and our connection is slowly becoming more and more secure. I think knowing the other person has the freedom to leave at any time (but they still stick with you) makes you trust them that much more.[/QUOTE] Thank you, this is exactly what I meant with my post. I can't believe there are so many votes with "Normal relationship" when their first relationship hasn't worked at all, she's ASKING him for an open relationship which translates to, "I'm not sure if I want to give my heart to you, but I don't want to cut all connections with you. Prove to me that you ARE the one, prove to me you have the biggest dick." (metaphorically speaking) It would be just stupid to ask her for a normal relationship. It will make you look like a dick and you can kiss all hopes of being with her for good.

[QUOTE=Goshoha;25472267]Also, it's [b]not[/b] manipulative if she's [b]ASKING[/b] him, you morons.[/QUOTE] yeah, she's asking him if she can sleep with other guys but still cry on his shoulder when something goes wrong. sorry dude, you're being used. even if you do really like she's just going to fuck you over, and you'll realise it was a mistake staying with her. get out now

[QUOTE=Goshoha;25472267] Also, it's [b]not[/b] manipulative if she's [b]ASKING[/b] him, you morons.[/QUOTE] Yeah, no. She's totally being manipulative. Yer best bet is to move on. Yer first red flag shoulda been that she was with you the day she broke up with her ex. I've learned that doozy from personal experience. If she has no commitment to you, it's not worth it. She's just going to drain you emotionally man. Break that shit off. [i]BREAK IT OFF QUICK![/i]

Open relationships are pathetic. Enough said.

[QUOTE=Autumn;25472700]yeah, she's asking him if she can sleep with other guys but still cry on his shoulder when something goes wrong. sorry dude, you're being used. even if you do really like she's just going to fuck you over, and you'll realise it was a mistake staying with her. get out now[/QUOTE] Yes, but that's the thing, she's asking him. She's not forcing anything on him. He has the choice to say "yes" or "no". It's not manipulative at all unless he can't control his emotions like some nancy, sissy child (in which he shouldn't be dating (women) in the first place) and is forced out of guilt to choose. She's the one trying to make things work, not him. If he wants to see that as being manipulative then he can just say no.

if she knows that he likes her then she knows that he's pretty much definitely going to say yes to anything, so long as it involves some form of being with her.

To put it simply: it won't work. You "love her" but she doesn't "love" you back. If she did, she wouldn't want an "open relationship", and if you loved her you wouldn't want one either. I guarantee she will find another guy and then when she wants to get more serious with him she will drop you like a sack of shit and expect you not to be mad because you had an "open relationship". Young people don't have the maturity to make something like this work, so I suggest you tell her to screw off and find a new girl.

[QUOTE=Autumn;25472880]if she knows that he likes her then she knows that he's pretty much definitely going to say yes to anything, so long as it involves some form of being with her.[/QUOTE] Yes, but why does everyone automatically think that this is the case. Everyone always thinks that she is going to be manipulative. Did it ever cross anyone's mind that she might actually want to get this relationship to work out? Sure, you and I both don't know him or his girlfriend, but why does it come down to her being manipulative? Is it because she wants him to consider TRYING an open relationship? She said it herself that there would be no kissing or fucking with other people in this relationship (however we all know how that could go). If she's an honest and sweet girl like the OP says she'll tell the OP that it won't work out and split up with him so she can start fucking with the other dude.

While most gay men have open relationships, they just aren't for me.

This brings me back to a line from Peep Show; "I don't want to go to Waitrose. I want a fuck buddy." I'd say I don't want one to everybody, but in reality I'd probably jump at the chance like the dirty dog I am.

[QUOTE=TailsPrower;25473067]While most gay men have open relationships, they just aren't for me.[/QUOTE] Dude, you can fuck as many chicks as you want in an open relationship and still have an extra pussy around. Sounds pretty straight to me. Edit: Read it wrong. Read my post below my post below. Edit: Ignore that edit.

They usually don't end well.

[QUOTE=Goshoha;25472839]Yes, but that's the thing, she's asking him. She's not forcing anything on him. He has the choice to say "yes" or "no". It's not manipulative at all unless he can't control his emotions like some nancy, sissy child (in which he shouldn't be dating (women) in the first place) and is forced out of guilt to choose. She's the one trying to make things work, not him. If he wants to see that as being manipulative then he can just say no.[/QUOTE] Girls tend to egg things on a lot. I don't see how asking for the parts of a relationship that she wants while blocking him out of the parts he wants is not manipulative and trying to make things work.

[QUOTE=Duxfever;25470948]I see. You don't want one, but she wants one.. Do you care at all that she may or may not love you as much as you may love her?[/QUOTE] Dump her!

[QUOTE=DOG-GY;25473343]Girls tend to egg things on a lot. I don't see how asking for the parts of a relationship that she wants while blocking him out of the parts he wants is not manipulative and trying to make things work.[/QUOTE] This is exactly what I mean, how is that manipulative? The point of a relationship is ultimately to fuck and to stay together forever. If she isn't allowing him to have sex or even kiss then what is she gaining from this? SHE can't do the same things either. She isn't gaining anything and neither is the OP. It's not manipulative at all. If you say she will try to find other men while they're in this open relationship, then I will still say, I don't see the problem. It's an OPEN relationship, expect her to try to find other people while this is going on (which OP should be doing as well). If OP and his "girl" really have a connection then they'll make it a normal relationship and let the fucking commence!

ITT: Aspergers.

This is probably late, but it seems to me that she's looking for your love, but not your [i]lovin'[/i]... if you get my drift. What I'm saying is : she wants to have a shoulder to cry on, but she doesn't want to taint that with sex. Or alternatively, she wants a shoulder to cry on, but is slightly slutty and would like to have sex with multiple partners.

I have a hard time elevating a relationship past "friendship" because I'm not entirely convinced anything above that truly exists (you can [i]love[/i] your friends and anything above it is just semantics) so I'm completely fine with open relationships. Fuck me fuck them fuck everyone who gives a fuck

[QUOTE=Goshoha;25473190]Dude, you can fuck as many chicks as you want in an open relationship and still have an extra pussy around. Sounds pretty straight to me.[/QUOTE]Did you not see the "gay" in my sentence?

It seems like you want to rekindle your relationship with her, but don't want to be open, so why not just sit her down and tell her you want to be in a relationship with her, but want it to not be an open one, and then explain that you two could take it slow to make her more comfortable. If at that point she says no, then it probably isn't meant to be at that time.

[QUOTE=Ranger149;25470749]What are you thoughts on open relationships? Do they work? Do you think its even worth having a relationship if its an open one? My girlfriend broke up with me because of a certain problem, but wants to get back with me, trying an open relationship, I love her, do you think its worth it?[/QUOTE] She wants her cake and eat it too. It is your duty as an upright citizen to proclaim loudly in public. [B]NO SELFISH BITCH YOU DO NOT GET DELICIOUS CAEK, GET THEE ABACK FOUL HOOTCHEE I ABJURE THEE EVERMORE.[/B]

[QUOTE=Zenreon117;25470816]Its free tail while not getting tied down. I would.[/QUOTE] Because unless your the hottest thing on earth, if your quasi-partner only cares about having as much sex as possible, they will find someone hotter and you will be left alone, with your hand.

[QUOTE=TailsPrower;25473778]Did you not see the "gay" in my sentence?[/QUOTE] I thought you were calling everyone who liked the idea of Open Relationships were all gay men. I didn't realize you were actually telling everyone you WERE gay and don't like the idea. Unless, I'm misunderstanding you AGAIN, but that wouldn't be my fault.

You're most likely not in love.

Well, I just got done talking to her. Were going to try just being friends, then if we feel we both are ready we might start dating with a closed relationship. I know as a fact she wasn't manipulating me, after we talked about it we didn't see how the open relationship would help with anything(she said so herself), but we saw a few ways that it could damage it. Were trying to take it slow, thanks for the suggestions.

[QUOTE=Goshoha;25473852]I thought you were calling everyone who liked the idea of Open Relationships were all gay men. I didn't realize you were actually telling everyone you WERE gay and don't like the idea. Unless, I'm misunderstanding you AGAIN, but that wouldn't be my fault.[/QUOTE]No, you got it right.

[QUOTE=Ranger149;25473896]Well, I just got done talking to her. Were going to try just being friends, then if we feel we both are ready we might start dating with a closed relationship. I know as a fact she wasn't manipulating me, after we talked about it we didn't see how the open relationship would help with anything(she said so herself), but we saw a few ways that it could damage it. Were trying to take it slow, thanks for the suggestions.[/QUOTE] *brushes shoulders* Ahhh, another victory. :c00l: