I hate being self-conscious, I rarely post my face. :pudge:
[QUOTE=Grim2o0o;51391143][t]http://i.imgur.com/mfoW1ey.jpg?1[/t]
Shit's fucked when your 76 year old dad on his birthday tells you that 'you're starting to look like his dad'.[/QUOTE]
It's in the GEEEENES
[QUOTE=SenhorCreeper;51391266]I hate being self-conscious, I rarely post my face. :pudge:[/QUOTE]
Agreed :(
My doggo hates this but he makes the best pillow and I saved his life this week so he can deal w/e
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Since we seem to be posting images of ourselves and I haven't posted since years ago
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Looking mad boi.
Also I'm 20 today. Here's to a new year that I hope I'll write a better page for my life.
Fell asleep watching master of none on netflix (its really good, guys)
Dreamt of having opinions about a brewery's decor and beer selection
Fuck, that show is so hipster it hurts
I've popped in and out of these threads for awhile and occasionally lurked. But I'm still having the same problem, I can't get a girlfriend.
I'm just a plain 19 year old lesbian and it's bothered me how weird most lesbians are. I realize and understand that appearance isn't everything but I changed my appearance so I could be more publicly accepted. I am toning my muscles and working on being more stylish/casual. I go to the gym 5-6 days a week, stop by the same coffe shops and resteraunts almost daily to try and socialize with girls and just people in general and striking up conversation is no problem to me. I even met a few new aquaintences who are ten years older than me and they invited me to go out to eat with them a few times... Small talk and getting to know people is easy, Yet I feel so alone.
I recently tried reaching out to a gay community center and was promptly let down and dissapointed at how much I stuck out like a sore thumb from everyone... I found that a lot of gay people there dye their hair insane colors and identify as otherkin just as I was afraid of. I try to be tolerant of these people and understanding, but they seem to "plague" the gay image and make me feel isolated because there's a lack of "normal" people like me.
What am I doing wrong? Am I looking too hard? or am I not trying hard enough? Is my appearance still an issue? I don't understand. I seriously feel like there aren't any lesbians in my area and my chances of finding someone are slim. I'm genuinley scared I will die alone without ever having a partner.
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I feel the same way about the "otherkin" types and no offense but in my circles its always the lesbian and not the gay man
I guess it just depends on your area honestly. Meet enough people and everyone will fall into one category or another. Maybe add some more coffee shops to your circuit, I'm sure there's a real next level chick you just haven't bumped into yet
[QUOTE=IJNOMED;51392051]I've popped in and out of these threads for awhile and occasionally lurked. But I'm still having the same problem, I can't get a girlfriend.
I'm just a plain 19 year old lesbian and it's bothered me how weird most lesbians are. I realize and understand that appearance isn't everything but I changed my appearance so I could be more publicly accepted. I am toning my muscles and working on being more stylish/casual. I go to the gym 5-6 days a week, stop by the same coffe shops and resteraunts almost daily to try and socialize with girls and just people in general and striking up conversation is no problem to me. I even met a few new aquaintences who are ten years older than me and they invited me to go out to eat with them a few times... Small talk and getting to know people is easy, Yet I feel so alone.
I recently tried reaching out to a gay community center and was promptly let down and dissapointed at how much I stuck out like a sore thumb from everyone... I found that a lot of gay people there dye their hair insane colors and identify as otherkin just as I was afraid of. I try to be tolerant of these people and understanding, but they seem to "plague" the gay image and make me feel isolated because there's a lack of "normal" people like me.
What am I doing wrong? Am I looking too hard? or am I not trying hard enough? Is my appearance still an issue? I don't understand. I seriously feel like there aren't any lesbians in my area and my chances of finding someone are slim. I'm genuinley scared I will die alone without ever having a partner.[/QUOTE]
To be honest, a lot of *those* types of people aren't so bad. A lot of people just seem to do it to fit in, you'll probably find you have more in common with them than you think. That said there are a few people around who are just totally crazy with that kind of nonsense.
[QUOTE=IJNOMED;51392051]I've popped in and out of these threads for awhile and occasionally lurked. But I'm still having the same problem, I can't get a girlfriend.
I'm just a plain 19 year old lesbian and it's bothered me how weird most lesbians are. I realize and understand that appearance isn't everything but I changed my appearance so I could be more publicly accepted. I am toning my muscles and working on being more stylish/casual. I go to the gym 5-6 days a week, stop by the same coffe shops and resteraunts almost daily to try and socialize with girls and just people in general and striking up conversation is no problem to me. I even met a few new aquaintences who are ten years older than me and they invited me to go out to eat with them a few times... Small talk and getting to know people is easy, Yet I feel so alone.
I recently tried reaching out to a gay community center and was promptly let down and dissapointed at how much I stuck out like a sore thumb from everyone... I found that a lot of gay people there dye their hair insane colors and identify as otherkin just as I was afraid of. I try to be tolerant of these people and understanding, but they seem to "plague" the gay image and make me feel isolated because there's a lack of "normal" people like me.
What am I doing wrong? Am I looking too hard? or am I not trying hard enough? Is my appearance still an issue? I don't understand. I seriously feel like there aren't any lesbians in my area and my chances of finding someone are slim. I'm genuinley scared I will die alone without ever having a partner.
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You look great, really. Maybe you are looking for a girlfriend in the wrong places
[QUOTE=Berman Slick;51392132]You can never really know what'll work or how you'll find someone.. it's just a roulette wheel. Be you, be healthy, don't do anything to "fit in" to a stereotype to be visibly gay if it makes you uncomfortable :v I mean, people don't believe me when I say I'm bi/date dudes etc, because I'm just a guy who doesn't let sexuality define my appearance or mannerisms. Not to say it's better than the inverse, but you're not alone. Normal is whatever you are, yo.
Love is funny, though. It'll just stumble into your life, or you can actively seek it out. The latter often leads to quite a few heartbreaks before a success, because you're exposing yourself to so many more chances to go down. Isn't to say stop trying, but 99% of the world isn't who you will/want to date, the special ones are scattered throughout. You can find one, just don't feel down that you haven't yet. Someone's out there looking for someone like you, too. Maybe your town is a cold spot for other lesbians, or you just haven't seen em popping up yet. It's always hard to tell.
You're not doing anything wrong, it's just that there's no right way to do it in the first place[/QUOTE]
I feel like it will never happen though despite my efforts. The fact that I talked with an older man who is gay and he even said himself he was suicidal over the same issue I am suicidal over, he didn't find someone until he was 30. I don't want my youth to be gone before I find someone! It's driving me insane. I hate seeing my straight friends go through relationships like oxygen and crying because they feel alone despite the fact that they've had "real" genuine relationships in the past and here I am, 19 and still have yet to find a girl like myself. I don't expect a supermodel... just a casual girl who is relativley emotionally in-depth and somewhat smart.
[editline]18th November 2016[/editline]
[QUOTE=jp_rsardeto;51392175]You look great, really. Maybe you are looking for a girlfriend in the wrong places[/QUOTE]
Thank you. I don't know if I'm old enough to hit up a gay club. I know for most you have to be 21 I think. It's ironic because I live up north where there's apparently loads of gay people but they're all just not my type and fall under the (dare I say it) "sjw" steryotype. It's not that I don't like weird people, but they're trying too hard to be different and thus they all are the same.
[QUOTE=IJNOMED;51392051]Is my appearance still an issue?[/QUOTE]
Your appearance is not an issue, and it seems like it never was an issue. You look fine, remember that relationship isn't (entirely) about appearance anyway.
I've always said to people that they should let relationships come to them and not force them or go searching for them, I had a boyfriend in LDR back when I was 15 or 16, but that never really worked out and I ended up not finding anyone that really fit me well for 2 or so years afterward. I don't even surround myself with people or anything, I have very few friends IRL and online yet I've still met people who were similar enough to me that we dated.
I found that surrounding yourself with people can actually help contribute to the feeling of loneliness and that I personally enjoy having a few close friends that I can talk to about anything, rather than a lot of friends who I talk to just casually. The keyword in that sentence is "personally" though, since that's my personality and how I choose to have friendships, I've found that I've always been more of an outcast type who didn't really like talking to people who didn't click with me, and because of that I have no problem cutting off communication with people or ending relationships if I feel they're not similar enough to me.
That's all I can think of in terms of what to say right now though, hopefully it answered some of your questions. Maybe not though.
[QUOTE=IJNOMED;51392177]I feel like it will never happen though despite my efforts. The fact that I talked with an older man who is gay and he even said himself he was suicidal over the same issue I am suicidal over, he didn't find someone until he was 30. I don't want my youth to be gone before I find someone! It's driving me insane. I hate seeing my straight friends go through relationships like oxygen and crying because they feel alone despite the fact that they've had "real" genuine relationships in the past and here I am, 19 and still have yet to find a girl like myself. I don't expect a supermodel... just a casual girl who is relativley emotionally in-depth and somewhat smart.
[editline]18th November 2016[/editline]
Thank you. I don't know if I'm old enough to hit up a gay club. I know for most you have to be 21 I think. It's ironic because I live up north where there's apparently loads of gay people but they're all just not my type and fall under the (dare I say it) "sjw" steryotype. It's not that I don't like weird people, but they're trying too hard to be different and thus they all are the same.[/QUOTE]
I think that, speaking from experience, you just need to truly and unequivocally be yourself. It's really cliche to say, but even if you found someone with the skunk-dyed-hair because you tried to fit in with that niche, you would be even more miserable than you are now.
I'm not sure what area you live in, but I'm in Northern Virginia in one of the most conservative Northern cities in this state. I found a lot of great solace on dating websites. Not hook-up apps like Grindr, or whatever the female counterpart is. People say it's dating, but it's just pictures and ones liners. Try Ok-Cupid.
I just got engaged to someone I met on Ok-Cupid about 3 years ago, and I've had several successful (minus the break-up parts) relationships from there before. You have a lot of time to live and learn from your experiences.
I'm a very masculine man, and no matter what the media or the social aspect of "LGBTQ+" people try to "authenticate", you are still a true part of the gay community. There are others like you out there. You don't have to be a bra-burning, man-hating, short-haired lesbian to get sweet sweet beef.
Some people find love on Grindr, not that I've met any, so don't count that out if you're more for it than against it. I find that clubbing is really just a "Go out to see if I can come home with a +1" environment. But if you like clubbing, do it. Just do what you're interested in, and you will find like-minded women.
The nice thing about Ok-Cupid is that you can answer lots of life-style questions and it matches you on interests. Be sad and worried, but don't let it overtake you. You'll grow out of it. You'll have your first relationship and it will end and you'll learn from it. Just give it all time.
[editline]18th November 2016[/editline]
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[QUOTE=revan740;51392289]I think that, speaking from experience, you just need to truly and unequivocally be yourself. It's really cliche to say, but even if you found someone with the skunk-dyed-hair because you tried to fit in with that niche, you would be even more miserable than you are now.
I'm not sure what area you live in, but I'm in Northern Virginia in one of the most conservative Northern cities in this state. I found a lot of great solace on dating websites. Not hook-up apps like Grindr, or whatever the female counterpart is. People say it's dating, but it's just pictures and ones liners. Try Ok-Cupid.
I just got engaged to someone I met on Ok-Cupid about 3 years ago, and I've had several successful (minus the break-up parts) relationships from there before. You have a lot of time to live and learn from your experiences.
I'm a very masculine man, and no matter what the media or the social aspect of "LGBTQ+" people try to "authenticate", you are still a true part of the gay community. There are others like you out there. You don't have to be a bra-burning, man-hating, short-haired lesbian to get sweet sweet beef.
Some people find love on Grindr, not that I've met any, so don't count that out if you're more for it than against it. I find that clubbing is really just a "Go out to see if I can come home with a +1" environment. But if you like clubbing, do it. Just do what you're interested in, and you will find like-minded women.
The nice thing about Ok-Cupid is that you can answer lots of life-style questions and it matches you on interests. Be sad and worried, but don't let it overtake you. You'll grow out of it. You'll have your first relationship and it will end and you'll learn from it. Just give it all time.
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I've tried OK cupid for years and turned up with no results. I met ONE girl who wound up turning into an internet aquaintence. Like my type just seems to not exist. I unfortunatley fall for straight-looking girls and they wind up being straight so there goes my chances.
Everyone keeps saying I'll find someone but I haven't yet and it's been taking forever. I've been activley looking for over a year now. My friend who has been looking for a month found several people within that month, even if most were hookups she did find a boy she is going insane over and I'm worried they'll get in a relationship and she'll never speak to me again.
Everyone I know is getting into relationships and the reason I want a relationship so badly is because I desperatley need validation that there's another girl struggling out there like me who I can share and pour my soul out to, comfortably, while having her being able to do the same.
[editline]18th November 2016[/editline]
Also you two are adorable. <3
[editline]18th November 2016[/editline]
[QUOTE=Reyjr43;51392280]Your appearance is not an issue, and it seems like it never was an issue. You look fine, remember that relationship isn't (entirely) about appearance anyway.
I've always said to people that they should let relationships come to them and not force them or go searching for them, I had a boyfriend in LDR back when I was 15 or 16, but that never really worked out and I ended up not finding anyone that really fit me well for 2 or so years afterward. I don't even surround myself with people or anything, I have very few friends IRL and online yet I've still met people who were similar enough to me that we dated.
I found that surrounding yourself with people can actually help contribute to the feeling of loneliness and that I personally enjoy having a few close friends that I can talk to about anything, rather than a lot of friends who I talk to just casually. The keyword in that sentence is "personally" though, since that's my personality and how I choose to have friendships, I've found that I've always been more of an outcast type who didn't really like talking to people who didn't click with me, and because of that I have no problem cutting off communication with people or ending relationships if I feel they're not similar enough to me.
That's all I can think of in terms of what to say right now though, hopefully it answered some of your questions. Maybe not though.[/QUOTE]
Actually forcing myself to socialize makes me more aware of how alone I am and it's been sending me into a vicious cycle of insanity and lonliness. Yeah I've heard people say "love just falls on your lap when you least expect it" which the idea of that excites me and gives me hope...
But then I hear people say "you have to activley seek it out." and it seems logical to not just sit there and expect it to happen... [B]Especially in my circumstances all the people who said "it just lands on your lap" have been straight people who have already had dozens of girlfriends and boyfriends. My odds are especially much slimmer than theirs. [/B]
[QUOTE=IJNOMED;51392330]I've tried OK cupid for years and turned up with no results. I met ONE girl who wound up turning into an internet aquaintence. Like my type just seems to not exist. I unfortunatley fall for straight-looking girls and they wind up being straight so there goes my chances.
Everyone keeps saying I'll find someone but I haven't yet and it's been taking forever. I've been activley looking for over a year now. My friend who has been looking for a month found several people within that month, even if most were hookups she did find a boy she is going insane over and I'm worried they'll get in a relationship and she'll never speak to me again.
Everyone I know is getting into relationships and the reason I want a relationship so badly is because I desperatley need validation that there's another girl struggling out there like me who I can share and pour my soul out to, comfortably, while having her being able to do the same.
[editline]18th November 2016[/editline]
Also you two are adorable. <3[/QUOTE]
I feel you, I really do. I feel the same. I feel like I'm being too picky about my type, or that I'm not actually attractive at all. I try to not give into those thoughts though.
OKC is a hit/miss for me, it can be neat to meet people but so far my only mutual like is that fool who seemingly can't ever respond to his phone lol. My best friend went on 3-4 dates and found someone great and has been with him since - I feel equal mixtures of happiness for him and jealousy of him there tbqh.
Keep going though, and keep trying. Just be careful about this:
[QUOTE]Everyone I know is getting into relationships and the reason I want a relationship so badly is because I desperatley need validation that there's another girl struggling out there like me who I can share and pour my soul out to, comfortably, while having her being able to do the same.[/QUOTE]
You will have a hard time finding the validation you seek. You have to make it for yourself, and accept yourself, even as trite as this may sound. I'd consider getting a therapist you can just speak to, as having someone you can trust to vent to and improve yourself with is really quite beneficial in all aspects of life, and especially with dating.
Its also easy to see everyone getting into relationships, and only see the surface of the relationship. You have no idea of what is going on deeper in the relationship, so don't take it as a sign of everyone finding "the one" because chances are their relationships aren't perfect either.
[QUOTE=paindoc;51392380]...[/QUOTE]
Not only this, but just because someone has a lot of relationships in the past doesn't mean they have a greater or worse chance than you, nor does it mean they are a better or worse girlfriend or boyfriend, you have just as much of a chance to find someone as I do, or the cashier behind the counter in the store, or the guy on the other side of the bus.
A year in the market for a relationship isn't a very long period of time at all in the grand scheme of things, not to mention you're not even 21 yet, you have a lot more time to worry about this stuff in the future, right now you should be worrying about being your own person and becoming independent, these things greatly improve your chances for finding somebody.
[QUOTE=IJNOMED;51392051]I've popped in and out of these threads for awhile and occasionally lurked. But I'm still having the same problem, I can't get a girlfriend.
I'm just a plain 19 year old lesbian and it's bothered me how weird most lesbians are. I realize and understand that appearance isn't everything but I changed my appearance so I could be more publicly accepted. I am toning my muscles and working on being more stylish/casual. I go to the gym 5-6 days a week, stop by the same coffe shops and resteraunts almost daily to try and socialize with girls and just people in general and striking up conversation is no problem to me. I even met a few new aquaintences who are ten years older than me and they invited me to go out to eat with them a few times... Small talk and getting to know people is easy, Yet I feel so alone.
I recently tried reaching out to a gay community center and was promptly let down and dissapointed at how much I stuck out like a sore thumb from everyone... I found that a lot of gay people there dye their hair insane colors and identify as otherkin just as I was afraid of. I try to be tolerant of these people and understanding, but they seem to "plague" the gay image and make me feel isolated because there's a lack of "normal" people like me.
What am I doing wrong? Am I looking too hard? or am I not trying hard enough? Is my appearance still an issue? I don't understand. I seriously feel like there aren't any lesbians in my area and my chances of finding someone are slim. I'm genuinley scared I will die alone without ever having a partner.
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What state are you in?
I know how you feel, IJN. But these guys are right. It may seem like everyone around is happily taken and you're alone among the couples, but also consider that a good portion of those relationships are not perfect at all once you start to dig deeper. You're very cute and you still have a lot of time to find someone, which I suspect you'll have no trouble doing.
I often have the same trouble dealing with my loneliness, which is why I've been drowning myself in games and music to forget about it, but it really is best to just let it come to you. It feels good to be loved and we definitely love you c:
Yeah I'm too worn out from dealing with other stuff to actively pursue a relationship. Stuff like okcupid is too stressful to me.
Right now I'm fine doing my thing and waiting for maybe someone to show up and say hey what's ups let's be pals and if that doesn't happen it's nobody's fault but my own and I will continue to do my thing.
[QUOTE=Adelle Zhu;51392415]What state are you in?[/QUOTE]
Currently I'm stuck in Massachussetts living under my family again because I had to beg them to let me come back after my friend decided she might want to live with some boy.
Selfie time
[t]http://i.imgur.com/NgDKiKd.jpg[/t]
Technically not a selfie, but whatever
[editline]18th November 2016[/editline]
Guess which one is me
[QUOTE=Reyjr43;51392411]Not only this, but just because someone has a lot of relationships in the past doesn't mean they have a greater or worse chance than you, nor does it mean they are a better or worse girlfriend or boyfriend, you have just as much of a chance to find someone as I do, or the cashier behind the counter in the store, or the guy on the other side of the bus.
A year in the market for a relationship isn't a very long period of time at all in the grand scheme of things, not to mention you're not even 21 yet, you have a lot more time to worry about this stuff in the future, right now you should be worrying about being your own person and becoming independent, these things greatly improve your chances for finding somebody.[/QUOTE]
I unfortunatley have no control over my life despite my efforts because of how much bad stuff has happened to me... so stability is out of the question right now and will probably stay that way for a few years until I get a car. (If I can ever afford one) I thought at the least maybe I deserve a girlfriend because nothing else in my life is going well...
[QUOTE=IJNOMED;51392051]I've popped in and out of these threads for awhile and occasionally lurked. But I'm still having the same problem, I can't get a girlfriend.
I'm just a plain 19 year old lesbian and it's bothered me how weird most lesbians are. I realize and understand that appearance isn't everything but I changed my appearance so I could be more publicly accepted. I am toning my muscles and working on being more stylish/casual. I go to the gym 5-6 days a week, stop by the same coffe shops and resteraunts almost daily to try and socialize with girls and just people in general and striking up conversation is no problem to me. I even met a few new aquaintences who are ten years older than me and they invited me to go out to eat with them a few times... Small talk and getting to know people is easy, Yet I feel so alone.
I recently tried reaching out to a gay community center and was promptly let down and dissapointed at how much I stuck out like a sore thumb from everyone... I found that a lot of gay people there dye their hair insane colors and identify as otherkin just as I was afraid of. I try to be tolerant of these people and understanding, but they seem to "plague" the gay image and make me feel isolated because there's a lack of "normal" people like me.
What am I doing wrong? Am I looking too hard? or am I not trying hard enough? Is my appearance still an issue? I don't understand. I seriously feel like there aren't any lesbians in my area and my chances of finding someone are slim. I'm genuinley scared I will die alone without ever having a partner.
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You look great, your appearance isn't the issue. I'd personally consider looking for people on OkCupid/Tinder, they're both pretty good.
Meanwhile Italy's a shithole and I can't really find anyone around here with my same interests or that I even remotely like. And the people I do find don't do LDRs (even though it's like 60 ish miles away). At least you have the advantage of living in the US, which is probably the best country to live in in terms of finding someone with an app or a site.
[QUOTE=TheDrunkenOne;51392556]You look great, your appearance isn't the issue. I'd personally consider looking for people on OkCupid/Tinder, they're both pretty good.
Meanwhile Italy's a shithole and I can't really find anyone around here with my same interests or that I even remotely like. And the people I do find don't do LDRs (even though it's like 60 ish miles away). At least you have the advantage of living in the US, which is probably the best country to live in in terms of finding someone with an app or a site.[/QUOTE]
I can't afford a smart phone and I can't get tinder. Ok cupid turned me up with zero results. But thank you.
[QUOTE=IJNOMED;51392569]I can't afford a smart phone and I can't get tinder. Ok cupid turned me up with zero results. But thank you.[/QUOTE]
Aw, that sucks. How come you can't find no results on OkCupid? I can always find a ton of people after answering a bit of questions.
[QUOTE=TheDrunkenOne;51392606]Aw, that sucks. How come you can't find no results on OkCupid? I can always find a ton of people after answering a bit of questions.[/QUOTE]
Because they're either way too pretty for me, too old for me, or not my type, or only want me for sex. None of them want to form a deep emotional connection with me.
[QUOTE=IJNOMED;51392621]Because they're either way too pretty for me, too old for me, or not my type, or only want me for sex. None of them want to form a deep emotional connection with me.[/QUOTE]
I feel ya. Just keep searching and refreshing the sorting options, you can find someone nice that just happens to be buried under everyone else. Sorting over and over kinda helps.
Hope you find someone soon enough though <3
[QUOTE=Berman Slick;51392588]You can't expect to find the one at your age, though, as you've not had much time. I've not found the one and I'm 23, it'll just come when it does :/. Straight people have it way easier obviously because there are so many more of em than us, that's just how it works.. but it's about playing the hand you've been dealt. Just keep at it, you'll find someone through the mishaps along the way, it just takes time. You seem like someone who has their head on straight, and you'll attract good people by that. Just wait, keep your head up, love will find you. It's not worth settling for shitty people jus to have "someone" when that could be far more damaging than being solo until a great one comes along. Doesn't mean you shouldn't try and date people, but they aren't always the one. Experiment, your straight friends blow through relationships cause they did, and they didn't always work out either.[/QUOTE]
I still think there is a [I]huge[/I] problem looking for "the one" though.
You don't find THE ONE, as in someone who is literally perfect for you. If you consider the tremendous amount of circumstance that has lead any of us to where we are today, let alone the circumstances leading to ANY of us existing, it is silly and a bit egotistic to think that said circumstance would place you in the path of someone who is your "one" by chance.
That's not to say there aren't people out there that we could have better relationships with than others, but in that case there are several "ones" out there.
And the best relationships aren't going to be about finding "the one" ultimately: its about finding someone that oyu like enough (or dislike less than everyone else ;p) that you'd like to build something greater with them. You will both grow and change during the relationship, and the person you first met may not (usually is not) the same person you might marry, for better or for worse.
It ultimately comes down to both partners being able to communicate well, being able to be accountable for their actions and feelings, and being willing to work together to keep the relationship going. You don't find the one, you make someone your "one" and hope to make something greater than the sum of your parts together.
[QUOTE=MotherPuncher;51392535]Selfie time
[t]http://i.imgur.com/NgDKiKd.jpg[/t]
Technically not a selfie, but whatever
[editline]18th November 2016[/editline]
Guess which one is me[/QUOTE]
Sick dreads bro.
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