Yeah, i think i knew he was just someone to avoid. Its scary though because i was best friends with him at some point and we are so similar, i hate to think that i'm like him now.
It's ok. I can be your friend.
It sounds like he felt he was wronged first, and so got pissy about it and said something else in return. Just seems like miscommunication.
You were best friends at one point, maybe this is something you can talk through?
Unless he's just weirdly possessive of your relationship for no reason even though it's mostly online in which case that's kinda bad. Who would do something like that
I'd get pissed if people showed messages I sent talking about someone to that person regardless of if its ur bf or not
Sounds like a classic case of BANTS GONE WRONG
I only say things to people with the recognition that they'll probably tell their partner or closest friend.
That being said when it's between a bestfriend and a boyfriend, it's hard to make the call. Best friends can last longer than boyfriends.
I am out to my family now
my journey is complete
[QUOTE=AtomicSans;50610993]I am out to my family now
my journey is complete[/QUOTE]
Congrats! Have a T-Shirt!
[QUOTE=AtomicSans;50610993]I am out to my family now
my journey is complete[/QUOTE]
What did they say, if you don't mind me asking?
[QUOTE=Arbys Watcher;50611182]What did they say, if you don't mind me asking?[/QUOTE]
Not much, really. They were pretty surprised and didn't see it coming at all, and then we made some sarcastic jokes about "so when are you gonna disown me, I'd like to be able to pack in advance" and that was that.
[QUOTE=greeley;50609293]So i had this friend from online.
Hes gay like me, but he knows i have a booyfriend and everything, i've been friends with him for 2 years and he now has a boyfriend too. We've met up like 3 times because our friendship got to a point where we were basically best friends.
Our general chit-chat was just abusing each other with little snipes, nothing too serious. Thats how we remained friends because its funny and we are very similar.
About 3-4 months ago he moved away into another town for his job, he got his own place and he was happy. We didn't talk much as he said hes been doing a lot which was fine. Annoyingly i noticed that i was the one that was starting all the convos whenever we text each other, i was the one that continued the conversations and i was the one who would text back the next day etc...
We had a few weeks where we didn't talk so i sent him a message, our usual shitchat message where i called his forehead big and stuff. Nothing too harsh, and he replied with some pretty good light insults. It was fine, until he brought my boyfriend into the insults and started insulting him a little. I misread what he said and thought it wasn't that harsh or even about my boyfriend that much. We carried on for a little longer and then soon stopped because we could have gone a bit OTT with it.
Later that day, i showed my boyfriend the funny conversation, he found it funny until he read the bit about him. And then i realised what he meant (long story short, he basically said that my boyfriend has no trust in me and that i shouldn't trust him but i thought he was just calling my boyfriend nosy a little because its an in-joke between me, him and my boyf) After i realised how harsh it was, i was like "woah dude, just read what you said, that was really uncalled for"
We eventually got into a big hoo-har about it and he basically said i'm in the wrong for showing my boyfriend the texts we were having and that i have betrayed his trust?! What the actual fuck?
My boyfriend and him didn't really get along much since i was planning to have him and his boyfriend around for New Years and when i asked my boyfriend, he said he'd like some of his mates too which was fair enough so i told my mate that and he got annoyed with my boyfriend because i think he thought he did it spitefully and my boyfriend text him saying sorry about the confusion, hope hes alright and we will plan something soon for him to come round.
And when i said my boyfriend really isn't happy with him for what he said, he brought up the whole New Years thing saying that my boyf isn't in his good books atm either.
A week past of not talking and i text him asking hows Overwatch, trying to blow passed the whole issue and pretend it never happened, we talked normally for a bit. And then the conversation just abruptly stopped. He just didn't reply.
Its been about a month and a half now and he still hasn't text me at all. And i feel like i should refuse to text him since i'm normally the one that starts the conversation. I think i've just got to the point where i've realised hes a selfish twat and never sees him being at fault.
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Fuck i wrote an essay, ignore this, just needed to vent.[/QUOTE]
you have posted a lot before about your bf being horribly controlling and nosy
even if that's all old news that no longer applies, your friend may easily still be under that outdated impression
so from his perspective he was trying to give you good advice to protect you, only for you to trash talk him for doing so with your boyfriend
i wouldn't talk to you either, after something like that
This week/last week there were reports of 3 attempts of rape at the campus and nobody seem to care, yet yesteday two gay guys were asked by security to leave because they were making people unconfortable (They were like hugging and taking pictures together).
I hate this fucking place.
Where the fuck do you go to school?
I thought campuses were almost 9/10 super liberal.
[QUOTE=revan740;50613141]Where the fuck do you go to school?
[/QUOTE]
Brazil.
I feel so disgusted.
The security guard asked them to leave for this, yet those fucking hillbillies get a green card when they harass women in the entrance of the college blocks. Fucking repulsive
[QUOTE=revan740;50613141]Where the fuck do you go to school?
I thought campuses were almost 9/10 super liberal.[/QUOTE]
false
i go to a state uni and its right leaning/moderate due to the general populations
[editline]28th June 2016[/editline]
[QUOTE=greeley;50609293]
A week past of not talking and i text him asking hows Overwatch, trying to blow passed the whole issue and pretend it never happened, we talked normally for a bit. And then the conversation just abruptly stopped. He just didn't reply.
[/QUOTE]
this is where you fucked up
you probably really upset him and then just tried to push it aside and not talk about it at all
Passed my driving test on my first attempt! :D
[QUOTE=bitches;50611637]you have posted a lot before about your bf being horribly controlling and nosy
even if that's all old news that no longer applies, your friend may easily still be under that outdated impression
so from his perspective he was trying to give you good advice to protect you, only for you to trash talk him for doing so with your boyfriend
i wouldn't talk to you either, after something like that[/QUOTE]
He [B][U]used [/U][/B]to be really controlling. People can fucking change. This isn't a TV show or a movie where someone says "oh hes changed" and everybody fucking knows he hasn't. This is real life, people can see the error in their ways and change.
He is really laid back now, like he knows he was controlling and he apologised for it on several different occasions, he still apologises now. I showed him our texts because i honestly didn't see the issue with what he said until my boyfriend picked up on it. To which then i realised how really uncalled for it was to bring that up.
You don't bring personal issues up when you're just having joking banter, especially regarding someone they're committed too. I apologised if i said anything personal to him which caused him to do the really horrible dig, but he didn't apologise for anything he said in his "banter" he basically said i'm "stuck in a relationship with a man who doesn't trust me". Just not in those words. And for him to say i have "betrayed his trust" for talking some really harsh shit about the man i love and bringing up the past is just pathetic. He literally didn't apologise for anything, nothing. Even any decent person would apologise for that but then still keep their head high if they think they're in the right.
I've told him several times that hes less possessive now and hes really laid back and i'm happy. If i wasn't happy, i wouldn't be with him at all. Why would i be? So he won't be under that impression unless he has some weird personal vendetta against that and won't forget about it.
Also, fuck you, i didn't trash talk him, i just said to him that was really uncalled for and don't get why he would say that, to which he turned it into him being the victim just so he didn't look bad.
I've been friends with him for 2 years, i know what hes like, you don't. Don't fucking assume that i'm some bitchy ass prick who likes to stir up drama and cause arguments. I hate those people and i am not one of those people. None of us are like that. Hes stubborn and self-centered, i'm stubborn and self-centered. But we're not dramatic bitches.
Also the "i wouldn't talk to you either, after something like that". Wow, really. Very mature of you.
[QUOTE=greeley;50614891]He [B][U]used [/U][/B]to be really controlling. People can fucking change. This isn't a TV show or a movie where someone says "oh hes changed" and everybody fucking knows he hasn't. This is real life, people can see the error in their ways and change.
He is really laid back now, like he knows he was controlling and he apologised for it on several different occasions, he still apologises now. I showed him our texts because i honestly didn't see the issue with what he said until my boyfriend picked up on it. To which then i realised how really uncalled for it was to bring that up.
You don't bring personal issues up when you're just having joking banter, especially regarding someone they're committed too. I apologised if i said anything personal to him which caused him to do the really horrible dig, but he didn't apologise for anything he said in his "banter" he basically said i'm "stuck in a relationship with a man who doesn't trust me". Just not in those words. And for him to say i have "betrayed his trust" for talking some really harsh shit about the man i love and bringing up the past is just pathetic. He literally didn't apologise for anything, nothing. Even any decent person would apologise for that but then still keep their head high if they think they're in the right.
I've told him several times that hes less possessive now and hes really laid back and i'm happy. If i wasn't happy, i wouldn't be with him at all. Why would i be? So he won't be under that impression unless he has some weird personal vendetta against that and won't forget about it.
Also, fuck you, i didn't trash talk him, i just said to him that was really uncalled for and don't get why he would say that, to which he turned it into him being the victim just so he didn't look bad.
I've been friends with him for 2 years, i know what hes like, you don't. Don't fucking assume that i'm some bitchy ass prick because of old confessions i made about my boyfriend.
Also the "i wouldn't talk to you either, after something like that". Wow, really. Very mature of you.[/QUOTE]
maybe take a minute to calm down and consider that the point of my post was proposing a potential perspective from your friend that would explain his behaviour, and not me claiming to know the personal details
maybe don't vent online if you're not looking for discussion or alternate viewpoints that might lead to a happier resolution
it's great that you do have more information and that you explained to us spectators why my idea doesn't ring true, but you're being unreasonably defensive in thinking that i was attacking you over anything
[QUOTE=bitches;50614965]maybe take a minute to calm down and consider that the point of my post was proposing a potential perspective from your friend that would explain his behaviour, and not me claiming to know the personal details
maybe don't vent online if you're not looking for discussion or alternate viewpoints that might lead to a happier resolution
it's great that you do have more information and that you explained to us spectators why my idea doesn't ring true, but you're being unreasonably defensive in thinking that i was attacking you over anything[/QUOTE]
Please explain how "i wouldn't talk to you either, after something like that" isn't anything but rude.
If you were being constructive you could have said something like
"Ok i see what you're saying but i believe that his reaction was right" tbf anything could have been better than what you said.
Don't forget that your reputation in this thread isn't the best. You're known to snipe peoples posts and being the one with the off-opinions and harsh comments. So yes, of course i going to see this as you "attacking" me (i hate that word "attack" it feels so overdramatic) because thats how you show yourself on this thread, maybe its just the opinion i get from you and nobody else sees it, but there must be a reason why i see you like that.
I have taken a minute to consider your point. in fact, i took the whole night when i saw it last night, and the more i read it, the angrier i got because of how backwards it feels.
So yes, i have considered your comment and your concerns, i've taking it on the shoulder, i vent online just to let off steam and obviously get some more constructive viewpoints. To which i felt yours wasn't constructive more than it was unneeded and unhelpful.
[QUOTE=greeley;50615010]Please explain how "i wouldn't talk to you either, after something like that" isn't anything but rude.
If you were being constructive you could have said something like
"Ok i see what you're saying but i believe that his reaction was right" tbf anything could have been better than what you said.
Don't forget that your reputation in this thread isn't the best. You're known to snipe peoples posts and being the one with the off-opinions and harsh comments. So yes, of course i going to see this as you "attacking" me (i hate that word "attack" it feels so overdramatic) because thats how you show yourself on this thread, maybe its just the opinion i get from you and nobody else sees it, but there must be a reason why i see you like that.
I have taken a minute to consider your point. in fact, i took the whole night when i saw it last night, and the more i read it, the angrier i got because of how backwards it feels.
So yes, i have considered your comment and your concerns, i've taking it on the shoulder, i vent online just to let off steam and obviously get some more constructive viewpoints. To which i felt yours wasn't constructive more than it was unneeded and unhelpful.[/QUOTE]
it's the same as saying that if i were to put myself in his shoes, based on what information i was given by your post, i might have the explained perspective by which to act in the way you say he did
it isn't backwards or destructive to propose trying to see things from the ex-friend's viewpoint; one might dare to suggest that doing so is the only way to save a years-long friendship
i'm not sorry for proposing some conjecture from those scraps of information you supplied towards that goal
if there's anything i really argued in iterations of this thread, it was against some users who would crusade against others for no good reason (such as batmoutarde who would shit up whole pages if roll_program so much as hinted at doing something furry, like going to a con with his friends)... but people hate to see arguing, even if it's for the sake of a friendlier environment in the long run
[QUOTE=bitches;50615020]it's the same as saying that if i were to put myself in his shoes, based on what information i was given by your post, i might have the explained perspective by which to act in the way you say he did
it isn't backwards or destructive to propose trying to see things from the ex-friend's viewpoint; one might dare to suggest that doing so is the only way to save a years-long friendship
i'm not sorry for proposing some conjecture from those scraps of information you supplied towards that goal
if there's anything i really argued in iterations of this thread, it was against some users who would crusade against others for no good reason (such as batmoutarde who would shit up whole pages if roll_program so much as hinted at doing something furry, like going to a con with his friends)[/QUOTE]
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never mind, i'm looking at this as a "Theres a right way and theres a wrong way" but there isn't a rule of a right and wrong way here. Its a tough situation, we both feel wronged and we both don't see each others perspective. i'm used to there being a black & white, right and wrong way.
If it makes you feel any better. I gave him the benefit of the doubt last night, said "Hey, hows things" he sent me a message back saying some stuff like 8 hours later saying that hes just been working and playing games, nothing important (which makes me think that he didn't even consider asking how i was or sending me a text at all). i replied back at about 6ish asking him some stuff, hes seen my message, not replied and hes been online at least 4 times and also been on a few games and talked to a few of his mates on tumblr.
Safe to say i tried being friends with him but he just isn't interested.
Also looking at the majority, more people have agree'd with revans comment which is hes a shit friend. So i'm just gonna go with the majority.
[QUOTE=greeley;50615053]-snip edit-
never mind, i'm looking at this as a "Theres a right way and theres a wrong way" but there isn't a rule of a right and wrong way here. Its a tough situation, we both feel wronged and we both don't see each others perspective. i'm used to there being a black & white, right and wrong way.
If it makes you feel any better. I gave him the benefit of the doubt last night, said "Hey, hows things" he sent me a message back saying some stuff like 8 hours later saying that hes just been working and playing games, nothing important (which makes me think that he didn't even consider asking how i was or sending me a text at all). i replied back at about 6ish asking him some stuff, hes seen my message, not replied and hes been online at least 4 times and also been on a few games and talked to a few of his mates on tumblr.
Safe to say i tried being friends with him but he just isn't interested.
Also looking at the majority, more people have agree'd with revans comment which is hes a shit friend. So i'm just gonna go with the majority.[/QUOTE]
if it makes you feel any better, my actual opinion is that he stopped being a friend far before this argument of yours; the way you tell it, it sounds like he didn't want to talk anymore in the first place
[QUOTE=bitches;50615066]if it makes you feel any better, my actual opinion is that he stopped being a friend far before this argument of yours; the way you tell it, it sounds like he didn't want to talk anymore in the first place[/QUOTE]
lol then why didn't you say that in the first place then instead of making me feel like shit?
[QUOTE=greeley;50615053]Also looking at the majority, more people have agree'd with revans comment which is hes a shit friend. So i'm just gonna go with the majority.[/QUOTE]
Considering the things I've seen people say here going with the majority is asking for trouble lmfao
[editline]29th June 2016[/editline]
[QUOTE=greeley;50615072]lol then why didn't you say that in the first place then instead of making me feel like shit?[/QUOTE]
Where would bitches be without irrelevant arguments to argue
On a lighter note. Listening to Imogen Heap - Hide and Seek at work and 3 of us were looking out the window and someone fell over just intime to the "Mmmmmm whatcha saaaaaaayyyy" part.
I chest hurts from laughing so much.
i found 10 euros in a pair of shorts in my washing machine
you could say i
laundered money
[sp]not sorry[/sp]
[QUOTE=KillRay;50613820]false
i go to a state uni and its right leaning/moderate due to the general populations
[editline]28th June 2016[/editline]
this is where you fucked up
you probably really upset him and then just tried to push it aside and not talk about it at all[/QUOTE]
*Shrug* I go to a school that's the heart of a smaller city, and the city is pretty much completely conservative, but the school is almost nauseatingly liberal, and it's a private methodist school.
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It got really hot this weekend at the reenactment so most of us were reduced to service shirts.
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It got really hot this weekend at the reenactment so most of us were reduced to service shirts.[/QUOTE]
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I've gotten a grand total of 16 hours of sleep this week. I have no fucking clue how I'm even functioning like this, but it's kind of impressive and scary to me at the same time.
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