My friend is consumed with power.

[abigserve]

[QUOTE=Mr MP;21253290]Yeah, just talk about it with her, i'm pretty sure it will help.

[i]Maybe[/i][/QUOTE]

Yeah that'll work [i]for sure[/i] when the OP has already posted about it asking for advice on the internet.

Exchange;

"Friend, I think you may be consumed with power."
"You mean I can get guys to do whatever they want?"
"Yes exactly"
"It's fun and basically every woman ever does it or wants to do it. Guys actually like it too."
"...."

[suck my eye]

Lobotomy is always the answer... always.

Sry for that, I realy am.

[Saza]

Is your friend Activision?

Sorry, thread crossover :v:

[hypno-toad]

[QUOTE=Dan2593;21251361]A little lesbian sex can't hurt[/QUOTE]

This is the advice that makes me come to these threads.

[Shoupie]

[QUOTE=lapsus_;21251864]Unfortunately, this problem is far too hard to be solved..

you already tried to talk about it as objectively as possible?
be cold to scare her or something..tell her that this is a disturb of the personality and it's not good to show it in any way, and that she should try to erase it from herself, or at least hide it.

tell her that you want to hear everything about it to help. But do not show weakness, no "i'm here for you honey", she's a dominator, never forget it. "it's not good for you, let's try to do something togheder" should work instead.

good luck with it.[/QUOTE]

I don't want her to be the dominator. I wish we could be on equal standing. :/

I actually did act cold to her before. It was around Christmas. I was tired of her being so domineering and I ignored her calls all during the holiday season. It was hard since she was trying to get a hold of me almost obsessively. I eventually gave into my guilt and started talking to her again, and not much has been resolved since.

Thank you. If I ask her about it, I won't show weakness, like you suggested. She'd probably need someone strong when she's telling me about such a traumatic experience, anyway.

Also, to everyone else - Her attraction to me is not mutual and we will not be scissoring, for sure.

[MrJazzy]

Too bad.

[Donutsalad]

Maybe she's bored

[Minilandstan]

It's not possible! I should be the only one consumed with power! :frown:

[Klownox]

[QUOTE=minilandstan;21257211]It's not possible! I should be the only one consumed with power! :frown:[/QUOTE]

Maybe you're her friend.

[Kakek]

[QUOTE=VagueWisdom;21244086]
Wrong, then again some people are different. Some girls love the guys who lack the balls to even say hi to them, but usually that's only a few number.[/QUOTE]

Which is why he said "most". :downs:

[QUOTE=VagueWisdom;21244135]I guess, but then again they still have that charm at first to get the girl to swoon to them. But the relationship doesn't last long at all, I'm a great example of that. I took a break from dating women a few months ago because I kept going out with other women even though I was already in a relationship. For some reason I can't commit myself to things like that. Oh and aren't you that one girl in the FP Tinychat every dude made a [b]pathetic attempt to hit on[/b]?[/QUOTE]

Alex, the bold is just so ironic coming from you.

[Lohead]

Tell her that her actions make her pathetic.

[Muffinbuster]

[QUOTE=Shoupie;21241896]Thank you for taking a genuine interest. I'm pretty submissive, and I think that's why she likes me so much. Because I'm usually kind of easy to control. I don't like it, but that's how I am. She's said and done multiple things to me that I wasn't comfortable with, but was too much of a pussy to say so. She either doesn't pick up on my subtle cues that I'm not into it, or she doesn't care. I don't know.[/QUOTE]

Subtle. There's your problem. She knows she can control you and it's going to continue until she can control you sexually as well.

[QUOTE=Shoupie;21241896]You know, I don't think she even realizes how much the abuse affected her. I don't know every detail since like I said, she doesn't like talking about it. But what I do know is that she was a little girl when her step-father molested her. I'm not sure if it was once or more than once. The man also routinely had sex with her 16-year old sister while their mother was away. (Her mother and her step-father are both still married since they have two sons together now and the guy is a lawyer, so he brings in a lot of money, which is essential if you've got kids to take care of. Still doesn't justify staying in that marriage, though.) She doesn't live with her mom and her step-dad anymore, though. She lives with her biological dad, who's kind of an asshole but at least he isn't abusive.

The last time I tried to talk to her about the abuse, she got really uncomfortable so I just changed the subject. I don't know how to approach the topic again.[/quote]

I don't think you're going to be able to talk to her about the abuse, unless you get lucky in a moment and she opens up, but I don't see that happening anytime soon.

It was someone she trusted that raped her sexually, and someone she loved that raped her emotionally. Her mother is married to a rapist, one that raped her two daughters. The woman that gave birth to her is doing nothing to help. Is her sister with her father too? Do you know if she talks to her? She may have a hard time trusting again.

[QUOTE=Shoupie;21256348]I don't want her to be the dominator. I wish we could be on equal standing. :/

I actually did act cold to her before. It was around Christmas. I was tired of her being so domineering and I ignored her calls all during the holiday season. It was hard since she was trying to get a hold of me almost obsessively. I eventually gave into my guilt and started talking to her again, and not much has been resolved since.

Thank you. If I ask her about it, I won't show weakness, like you suggested. She'd probably need someone strong when she's telling me about such a traumatic experience, anyway.

Also, to everyone else - Her attraction to me is not mutual and we will not be scissoring, for sure.[/QUOTE]

Well, that's not going to help. You just ran away for no reason, and she didn't realize that it was only because you didn't want her acting like that towards you.

Dear, I think you have a couple of choices.

Be her friend. Get this girl out of this situation. She is not going to stop on her own, don't have that in your head. You can help her. Approach her dad, tell a counselor at school, something to get her therapy; confrontation of it, from only you, subtle or big, may not be enough to give her the courage to do this. Have a strong resolve and decide to say no when she is domineering. Be there for her all the time, as a friend, as a comforter, and as a strong person when she to help her when she doesn't feel like she can do it, will be important.

Get her to stop. Tell her that it's hurting both of you, and that you become uncomfortable whenever she does things like that. Make sure to tell her that it won't continue, that there will be consequences if it does, and that you will not stand for this type of behavior anymore.

Completely cut off the relationship. She's using you and you're going to get pressured into doing something you're going to regret.

OR, THE BIG CAT'S OPTION:
Continue in your passive behavior. Sex will happen, whether you want it to or not; she's going to make you.

Choose your answer carefully. I think you can help her. You have to be strong enough to stick with it, though, no matter what happens.

[lemon_lover]

[QUOTE=Muffinbuster;21258610]Subtle. There's your problem. She knows she can control you and it's going to continue until she can control you sexually as well.

I don't think you're going to be able to talk to her about the abuse, unless you get lucky in a moment and she opens up, but I don't see that happening anytime soon.

It was someone she trusted that raped her sexually, and someone she loved that raped her emotionally. Her mother is married to a rapist, one that raped her two daughters. The woman that gave birth to her is doing nothing to help. Is her sister with her father too? Do you know if she talks to her? She may have a hard time trusting again.

Well, that's not going to help. You just ran away for no reason, and she didn't realize that it was only because you didn't want her acting like that towards you.

Dear, I think you have a couple of choices.

Be her friend. Get this girl out of this situation. She is not going to stop on her own, don't have that in your head. You can help her. Approach her dad, tell a counselor at school, something to get her therapy; confrontation of it, from only you, subtle or big, may not be enough to give her the courage to do this. Have a strong resolve and decide to say no when she is domineering. Be there for her all the time, as a friend, as a comforter, and as a strong person when she to help her when she doesn't feel like she can do it, will be important.

Get her to stop. Tell her that it's hurting both of you, and that you become uncomfortable whenever she does things like that. Make sure to tell her that it won't continue, that there will be consequences if it does, and that you will not stand for this type of behavior anymore.

Completely cut off the relationship. She's using you and you're going to get pressured into doing something you're going to regret.

OR, THE BIG CAT'S OPTION:
Continue in your passive behavior. Sex will happen, whether you want it to or not; she's going to make you.

Choose your answer carefully. I think you can help her. You have to be strong enough to stick with it, though, no matter what happens.[/QUOTE]

your post isn't going to make a difference in anything just to let you know

[Muffinbuster]

[QUOTE=lemon_lover;21258737]your post isn't going to make a difference in anything just to let you know[/QUOTE]

I tried.

[Vaguewisdom]

Fuck it.

[Eluveitie]

[QUOTE=lemon_lover;21258737]your post isn't going to make a difference in anything just to let you know[/QUOTE]

Most posts never do.

[Parakon]

did you fuck her yet

[NeoTurtle]

Fuck her.
Fuck her [B]SIDEWAYS[/B].

[Sh33p]

Man up and talk to her about it. Be less of a pussy.

[DarthStardust]

[QUOTE=Sh33p;21263897]Man up and talk to her about it. Be less of a pussy.[/QUOTE]
The OP is a woman.
If she didn't have a pussy. They couldn't be lesbians.

[Him1411]

[QUOTE=Shoupie;21235635] I don't even know if I like girls.[/QUOTE]

:smug:

[Paravin]

I thought OP was a guy so I rated her gaybow. I feel bad now. :smith:

[Sh33p]

[QUOTE=Dan2593;21264013]The OP is a woman.
If she didn't have a pussy. They couldn't be lesbians.[/QUOTE]

Ah touché.

[Nenghis]

[QUOTE=Paravin;21265470]I thought OP was a guy so I rated her gaybow. I feel bad now. :smith:[/QUOTE]

You can still repent! Press the heart, and it shall change your rating!

[Shoupie]

[QUOTE=Paravin;21265470]I thought OP was a guy so I rated her gaybow. I feel bad now. :smith:[/QUOTE]

That's okay. I don't mind gaybows at all.

[QUOTE=Muffinbuster;21258610]Subtle. There's your problem. She knows she can control you and it's going to continue until she can control you sexually as well.

I don't think you're going to be able to talk to her about the abuse, unless you get lucky in a moment and she opens up, but I don't see that happening anytime soon.

It was someone she trusted that raped her sexually, and someone she loved that raped her emotionally. Her mother is married to a rapist, one that raped her two daughters. The woman that gave birth to her is doing nothing to help. Is her sister with her father too? Do you know if she talks to her? She may have a hard time trusting again.

Well, that's not going to help. You just ran away for no reason, and she didn't realize that it was only because you didn't want her acting like that towards you.

Dear, I think you have a couple of choices.

Be her friend. Get this girl out of this situation. She is not going to stop on her own, don't have that in your head. You can help her. Approach her dad, tell a counselor at school, something to get her therapy; confrontation of it, from only you, subtle or big, may not be enough to give her the courage to do this. Have a strong resolve and decide to say no when she is domineering. Be there for her all the time, as a friend, as a comforter, and as a strong person when she to help her when she doesn't feel like she can do it, will be important.

Get her to stop. Tell her that it's hurting both of you, and that you become uncomfortable whenever she does things like that. Make sure to tell her that it won't continue, that there will be consequences if it does, and that you will not stand for this type of behavior anymore.

Completely cut off the relationship. She's using you and you're going to get pressured into doing something you're going to regret.

OR, THE BIG CAT'S OPTION:
Continue in your passive behavior. Sex will happen, whether you want it to or not; she's going to make you.

Choose your answer carefully. I think you can help her. You have to be strong enough to stick with it, though, no matter what happens.[/QUOTE]

I'm definitely ruling out sex. That isn't happening, even if I have to be a cunt about it. I want my first experience like that to be with someone I feel completely and utterly comfortable with.

I do have to be more assertive. I just have to find a place between being too domineering and too passive that's just right. It just seems like it's always one extreme or the other. I guess it would be going against my nature to really say no, but I should get used to it. It could get me in some deep shit if I don't learn now.

Oh, and to answer your questions: No, her sister isn't with her father. She's clear across the country now, though she's not doing too well from what my friend told me. She's getting by on stripping and she's living with her boyfriend in his mother's house. My friend and her sister never talk...Jenna (my friend) even went so far as to say she hated her sister.

Other than that, her family all lives in the same location from what I can tell. I don't understand why she says she hates her sister and not her step-dad. She says he's "different now" and she doesn't worry about her brothers living with him because he "only likes girls", which sounds pretty fucking twisted to me...those kids shouldn't be growing up around an influence like that...

Anyway, your post did help, by the way. I appreciate what you took the time to write. It helps me to see things from a perspective other than my own, which I needed. Thank you. :)

[SecretGamer360]

You've got to end your friendship, I mean fucking now

I know you THINK you can keep saying no, but, judging on your personality, you're going to give in, you're going to do that shit.

And since you seem straight (thank god) break your friendship while you still can, no matter how many times she calls etc.

Also, not to be sexist or anything, but girls seem to be either power hungry (like your friend) or easily controllable (like you)

This is based on a variety of factors, mostly the way your family raises you

[lemon_lover]

Sounds like The Butterfly Effect.

The only way for her to be truly happy is for you to go back in time and either get your arms blown off or never meet her.

[Assburgers]

Tell that bitch to get back in the kitchen and make you a sandwich! Show her who is in control.

[veribigbos1]

[QUOTE=Thorny;21235837]You sound like you already know exactly what's wrong, you hardly need our advice.[/QUOTE]
No. More like he has a diagnosis but doesn't know the treatment

[Sickle]

Like it or not you have to post videos.

:smug: