Them boys're just playin' wit' the lass. You gotta show her a [U]MAN[/U]'s love. And I don't just mean love, I mean [I][B]LUUURVE[/B][/I], as in the kinda love that Barry White sings about. Sensual stuff that gets her into the mood for romance (not simply "teh sehx"), indulge her feminine capacity (give her multiple orgasms), show her that you care for her, etc.
And if you can stretch to it, try to train your mind into being able to alter her emotions to a degree, through simple efforts of sheer mental thought.
Erotic Illusion magicks aside, you gotta show that lass a man's deep meaningful [I][B]lurve[/B][/I] an' compassion, instead of the shallow incoherent luv an' sex she's been tainted with. Her palate is too easily tickled, she sounds like she enjoys any loving she gets. You gotta get her "tastebuds" refined and focused, make sure she only has a taste for YOU. Sure, it might be an "acquired taste" for her, but she'll hopefully acquire it in time.
But first, you gotta WORK for it. Lure her in first with shallow luv, then move in deeper and deeper into those passionate realms, until she is yours, and she no longer enjoys the shallow luv that all the other [U]boys[/U] offer.
Just my 2 cents.
but [U]she[/u] can't
[QUOTE=ironman17;21274303]Them boys're just playin' wit' the lass. You gotta show her a [U]MAN[/U]'s love. And I don't just mean love, I mean [I][B]LUUURVE[/B][/I], as in the kinda love that Barry White sings about. Sensual stuff that gets her into the mood for romance (not simply "teh sehx"), indulge her feminine capacity (give her multiple orgasms), show her that you care for her, etc.
And if you can stretch to it, try to train your mind into being able to alter her emotions to a degree, through simple efforts of sheer mental thought.
Erotic Illusion magicks aside, you gotta show that lass a man's deep meaningful [I][B]lurve[/B][/I] an' compassion, instead of the shallow incoherent luv an' sex she's been tainted with. Her palate is too easily tickled, she sounds like she enjoys any loving she gets. You gotta get her "tastebuds" refined and focused, make sure she only has a taste for YOU. Sure, it might be an "acquired taste" for her, but she'll hopefully acquire it in time.
But first, you gotta WORK for it. Lure her in first with shallow luv, then move in deeper and deeper into those passionate realms, until she is yours, and she no longer enjoys the shallow luv that all the other [U]boys[/U] offer.
Just my 2 cents.[/QUOTE]
OP's a chick dude.
If I had to say so... Just let it ride. Usually, every girl goes through this phase. Some don't, but most do. Some girls realize, "Hey, I'm a chick. I can get away with a lot because I'm a minority."
All you can really do is to tell her that her being all-overbearingly too powerful is a load of shit and to not take it to her head.
how has this not been posted yet
[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sCaf3n3n86U[/media]
[QUOTE=SecretGamer360;21271484]You've got to end your friendship, I mean fucking now
I know you THINK you can keep saying no, but, judging on your personality, you're going to give in, you're going to do that shit.
And since you seem straight (thank god) break your friendship while you still can, no matter how many times she calls etc.
Also, not to be sexist or anything, but girls seem to be either power hungry (like your friend) or easily controllable (like you)
This is based on a variety of factors, mostly the way your family raises you[/QUOTE]
Doing anything with her sexually is not going to happen with my consent, I will say that right now. I don't think the fact that I'm straight has to do with the fact that I don't want her in that way. If she was a he, I still wouldn't want to do anything with him based on how incompatible we are on several different levels.
But I think my sexual orientation is pretty irrelevant. I'd say I'm more attracted to men, but I probably could fall in love with a woman if she was a remarkable person. Genitalia shouldn't get in the way of my happiness like that, so I won't let it.
Anyway, I do have to agree with you on how girls are usually power hungry or easily controllable. I'd like to say that isn't true, but usually...it is. Not sure why. :/
[QUOTE=lemon_lover;21272676]Sounds like The Butterfly Effect.
The only way for her to be truly happy is for you to go back in time and either get your arms blown off or never meet her.[/QUOTE]
The mailbox...of course...
[QUOTE=ironman17;21274303]Them boys're just playin' wit' the lass. You gotta show her a [U]MAN[/U]'s love. And I don't just mean love, I mean [I][B]LUUURVE[/B][/I], as in the kinda love that Barry White sings about. Sensual stuff that gets her into the mood for romance (not simply "teh sehx"), indulge her feminine capacity (give her multiple orgasms), show her that you care for her, etc.
And if you can stretch to it, try to train your mind into being able to alter her emotions to a degree, through simple efforts of sheer mental thought.
Erotic Illusion magicks aside, you gotta show that lass a man's deep meaningful [I][B]lurve[/B][/I] an' compassion, instead of the shallow incoherent luv an' sex she's been tainted with. Her palate is too easily tickled, she sounds like she enjoys any loving she gets. You gotta get her "tastebuds" refined and focused, make sure she only has a taste for YOU. Sure, it might be an "acquired taste" for her, but she'll hopefully acquire it in time.
But first, you gotta WORK for it. Lure her in first with shallow luv, then move in deeper and deeper into those passionate realms, until she is yours, and she no longer enjoys the shallow luv that all the other [U]boys[/U] offer.
Just my 2 cents.[/QUOTE]
She's already tried this with me. It hasn't worked. Also, I have no cock to work with.
[QUOTE=KorJax;21279827]how has this not been posted yet
[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sCaf3n3n86U[/media][/QUOTE]
Hayden Christensen...
[IMG]http://i284.photobucket.com/albums/ll40/KW33Nii3KiiWii/icameplz.png[/IMG]
Blah blah blah I am a woman who thinks she is far better than everyone else.
That is what I read from this thread.
[QUOTE=abigserve;21280931]Blah blah blah I am a woman who thinks she is far better than everyone else.
That is what I read from this thread.[/QUOTE]
And what we read from your posts is you're an ignorant fuckhead.
No flaming intended.
OP; what exactly is the issue you are having? Sum it up within a small paragraph, please.
EDIT: for clarification this is the paragraph that makes you seem - to me at least - fucking demented. It's not your problem to worry about what gets people off, be her friend, be supportive, don't fuck her, christ.
[quote]So anyway, how can I help resolve her issues, or at least make her open to talking about them? I'm worried about her. I want her to be able to get off on things without power being an issue anymore. She could be so much happier. What can I do for her[/quote]
Sounds more like you want to sleep with her, dude/woman.
[QUOTE=Muffinbuster;21258757]I tried.[/QUOTE]
I gave you a heart. :3:
This thread is hot.
[QUOTE=abigserve;21281501]OP; what exactly is the issue you are having? Sum it up within a small paragraph, please.
EDIT: for clarification this is the paragraph that makes you seem - to me at least - fucking demented. It's not your problem to worry about what gets people off, be her friend, be supportive, don't fuck her, christ.
Sounds more like you want to sleep with her, dude/woman.[/QUOTE]
My friend is still traumatized by being sexually abused as child. She has obviously not gotten over it, and I care about her enough to see if I can help her get back what her step-father ruthlessly took from her. Are you offended that I mentioned the fact that power is sexually arousing to her? This is a sexual issue. I'm not going to sugarcoat this shit for your comfort.
Step down from your fucking pedestal. It's clear you don't belong there.
[QUOTE=Shoupie;21235635]
maybe this has to do with her past of sexual abuse (which she hates talking about)[/QUOTE]
lolwhy
You might not really like it, but I guess you have be dominant and you know, force her to have sex with you.
If that makes sense at all. If you really want to establish dominance, I guess it's the only way. It's the nuclear option.
Kidnap a rapist and let your girlfriend kill him.
Should relief her. :v:
Take the power back.
Rape her.
[QUOTE=Shoupie;21282684]My friend is still traumatized by being sexually abused as child. She has obviously not gotten over it, and I care about her enough to see if I can help her get back what her step-father ruthlessly took from her. Are you offended that I mentioned the fact that power is sexually arousing to her? This is a sexual issue. I'm not going to sugarcoat this shit for your comfort.
Step down from your fucking pedestal. It's clear you don't belong there.[/QUOTE]
Did you read what I posted? I'm offended because you give so much of a shit about what gets her off. Some women are into power, some men like to be bound and whipped by women, [i]who cares[/i].
Sexual abuse is no laughing matter and if you think she has real problems tell her to see a psychiatrist. But you won't because you know that'll end your friendship and thus your chances to sit quietly, judging and making posts on the internet while feeling a little bit more superior about yourself.
Grow up, sounds like your friend did a long time ago.
I know I'm being a harsh asshole but this is what I feel - you don't have to agree.
Interesting
[QUOTE=Meeps;21237450]sup with everyone being bi now?[/QUOTE]
Doubling my chances
[editline]12:22AM[/editline]
2*0=0.
Never mind, I'm straight.
What does the scouter say about his power level?
IT'S OVER 9000 COCKS AND VAGINAS!!!!! /caps
As said before, give her a hug. Of course, you should bring a T.A.S.E.R, just in case.
[QUOTE=abigserve;21283523]Did you read what I posted? I'm offended because you give so much of a shit about what gets her off. Some women are into power, some men like to be bound and whipped by women, [i]who cares[/i].
Sexual abuse is no laughing matter and if you think she has real problems tell her to see a psychiatrist. But you won't because you know that'll end your friendship and thus your chances to sit quietly, judging and making posts on the internet while feeling a little bit more superior about yourself.
Grow up, sounds like your friend did a long time ago.
I know I'm being a harsh asshole but this is what I feel - you don't have to agree.[/QUOTE]
She's not going to see a psychiatrist if she doesn't think she needs one. That isn't my decision to make. And I'm not obsessed about what gets her off. It's the fact that who she is now, as a sexual being, definitely ties into her past of sexual abuse, and I thought I should include that because it's relevant. I'm not just going to tell part of the story here.
Oh look at the time.....
It's time for abigserve to stop posting in this thread :colbert:
Even though she doesn't like to talk about it she should really seek help from a psychiatrist. You get some really cool ones out there. I've had a couple of cool ones that weren't so judging or anything and they really helped me get over my traumatic experiences. But what she is doing to try to convince hreself that whatever happened is normal isn't healthy. She should understand that it wasn't her fault what her step dad did to her and it may be messed up but she doesn't need to go about doing what she is doing.
Later in her future when she does meet someone who sencerely cares for her, she'll most likely not trust them or as you said be aggressive towards them, she'll then probably start to wonder why no one would want to be around her too. So yeah if you care for your friend as much as you do talk to her about seeing someone who is professional and offer to go with her for support too.
[QUOTE=Shoupie;21290600]She's not going to see a psychiatrist if she doesn't think she needs one. That isn't my decision to make. And I'm not obsessed about what gets her off. It's the fact that who she is now, as a sexual being, definitely ties into her past of sexual abuse, and I thought I should include that because it's relevant. I'm not just going to tell part of the story here.[/QUOTE]
What I was saying was if you are serious about helping her that's probably the first suggestion to make. If you think sexual abuse has a large impact on what she is like as a person that's not something you can fix.
Why even bother caring for someone like her?
Clearly she enjoys the position that she's in and she's not going to want that to change. The probability of her opening up about her abuse is nonexistent.
She's a headcase. Leave her to rot before she brings you down with her.
[QUOTE=Drill Remover;21295988]Why even bother caring for someone like her?
Clearly she enjoys the position that she's in and she's not going to want that to change. The probability of her opening up about her abuse is nonexistent.
She's a headcase. Leave her to rot before she brings you down with her.[/QUOTE]
Sometimes you can't choose who you do and don't care about. I love her (not that way, my god), and I know she loves me too...even if her love of power might be a bit stronger. She actually means something to me. That's why I'm willing to go through some shit for her. That's kind of the basis of friendship, right? ...Even if it's a fucked up friendship.
[QUOTE=Kakek;21258062]Which is why he said "most". :downs:
Alex, the bold is just so ironic coming from you.[/QUOTE]
I like how you refer to us by our names, why do you do that? You don't need to be telling everyone our names.
[QUOTE=Gummylamb;21315435]I like how you refer to us by our names, why do you do that? You don't need to be telling everyone our names.[/QUOTE]
stop shitting up Katie's thread, gosh
[QUOTE=Shoupie;21235635]Anyway, she's pretty aggressive and she could easily take advantage of my passivity. I just want to help her get over her past sexual issues, but she won't talk about it. She covers it up with pretending to be aroused by things like rape and sexual humiliation because if she can convince herself that's normal, then the trauma of her childhood won't seem so twisted.[/QUOTE]
I doubt you realize it, but the fact that you're looking for a way to "help" her is just another way that she's exhorting her "power" over you - by causing you to be concerned. You're buying into exactly what she wants you to buy into.
Power is such a stupid concept - so many people think there's something magical and powerful about words, but there isn't. You need to man up, homie. If you want to ask her something, then ask it, but stop letting her attitude dictate your behavior and feelings. She can't control you, you're just letting her control you. Be your own man, she's being her own woman. If keep it up with the passive attitude, she'll dictate all your feelings and tendancies.
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