I was just involved in a love triangle... and I am absolutely crushed to hell and back when the trut - General

[QUOTE=U.S.S.R;36129270]If that is true, I must be among the minority with any self control or restraint. I'd normally pass over any thread with inflammatory content like this, although simply hearing about something this absurd and idiotic has provoked me. The Original Poster should have never made an attempt to hold together an 'open' relationship in the first place, let alone stay with the woman even after it was clear to him that she wasn't in a truly open relationship at all. And the woman at the center of the triangle should simply be shunned and forgotten by both of the men, she really does sound like a shallow harlot to me.[/QUOTE] how's the weather up there on that high chair?

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[QUOTE=thisispain;36129364]how's the weather up there on that high chair?[/QUOTE] I'm condescending because I oppose adultery and polygamy, and support safe and 'secured' monogamist relationships where someone should never have to worry about the loyalty of his or her partner? Or it could simply be the way in which I type, or my hostility towards the Original Poster and the woman? If it is the latter, I'd probably be more accepting and considerate of them if I did not dislike them for their actions. [editline]30th May 2012[/editline] And for the first person who did quote me, what I did say was stylized and biased to my own opinion; not to others. It was out of emotion more than constructiveness.

God damn spain how are you gonna respond to that.

[QUOTE=U.S.S.R;36129413]I'm condescending because I oppose adultery and polygamy, and support safe and 'secured' monogamist relationships where someone should never have to worry about the loyalty of his or her partner? Or it could simply be the way in which I type, or my hostility towards the Original Poster and the woman? If it is the latter, I'd probably be more accepting and considerate of them if I did not dislike them for their actions. [editline]30th May 2012[/editline] And for the first person who did quote me, what I did say was stylized and biased to my own opinion; not to others. It was out of emotion more than constructiveness.[/QUOTE] You have your reasons to oppose adultery and polygamy. But things aren't as simple as we humans would just settle for one person. In modern western society (and many other societies), we impose monogamy in our culture. It's just that feelings like affection aren't simple, so I don't think that those social barriers should be affecting how relationships work. Of course in situations like these there will be a party that gets hurt. We pursue goals that lead to happiness (reasons may vary). I can give a scenario portraying something in the matter: We have a woman whom is in a relationship, but she is bothered about that her current partnership will probably evolve into her becoming a stereotypical housewife if it keeps going. Then she meets someone who has many good traits and who's future premise is set for something more adventurous. And from there she might conclude that this new potential partner might be one that leads her to a future that she would be more pleased with.

[QUOTE=U.S.S.R;36129413]I'm condescending because I oppose adultery and polygamy, and support safe and 'secured' monogamist relationships where someone should never have to worry about the loyalty of his or her partner? Or it could simply be the way in which I type, or my hostility towards the Original Poster and the woman? If it is the latter, I'd probably be more accepting and considerate of them if I did not dislike them for their actions. [editline]30th May 2012[/editline] And for the first person who did quote me, what I did say was stylized and biased to my own opinion; not to others. It was out of emotion more than constructiveness.[/QUOTE] you sound like a robot. you don't oppose adultery and polygamy. you fail to understand it and rather than attempt to understand it you completely deny even the thought of it, which is intellectual cowardice. you can look down all you want with your completely convoluted attempts at grammatic perfection, but calling someone a shallow harlot (harlot, wtf) because they cheated on someone is bullshit and crass. people cheat, and sometimes they have a very good reason to cheat. accept that and move on from there instead of talking bullshit about "safe and 'secured' monogamist relationships" because it makes it clear you have no experience with any of these concepts. keep your hostility to yourself, or otherwise people might think you're a robot who ignorantly talks a lot of shit about people who's lives they know nothing about.

[QUOTE=Master Kief-117;36128149]Well, she turns out to be he... as in her boyfriend and responded with, "Good to know. This is her boyfriend. Hi. I devoted two and a half years to her. She cheated on me with you? Fucking pathetic. Later, dude. This is all saved online."[/QUOTE] I don't get this part at all.

[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;36129515] I can give a scenario portraying something in the matter: We have a woman whom is in a relationship, but she is bothered about that her current partnership will probably evolve into her becoming a stereotypical housewife if it keeps going. Then she meets someone who has many good traits and who's future premise is set for something more adventurous. And from there she might conclude that this new potential partner might be one that leads her to a future that she would be more pleased with.[/QUOTE] oh my god this still?

I just portrayed a scenario that doesn't involve straight up abuse. Although I do know someone who is abusive towards his partner.

Have a threesome?

You guys seem to be really averse to the idea of open relationships.

[QUOTE=Flyingman356;36129940]You guys seem to be really averse to the idea of open relationships.[/QUOTE] Reminds me of when I once thought about a female friend of mine. When I was thinking about it the conclusion I got when thinking about it was that it would probably only work if it were an open relationship. Because a long distance relationship with someone who is somewhat a nymph would, most likely not fly otherwise.

[QUOTE=Derp Y. Mail;36129524]I don't get this part at all.[/QUOTE] He seemed to have went onto her facebook chat while she wasn't looking and pretended to be her. Plus I was a little drunk, so it sounded almost exactly like her...even if I was sober, I probably would have been fooled too...

I feel bad for you, though more for her boyfriend. But I'm having a hard time trying to understand why anyone would so easly feel reassured and shamelessly go on after someone has thrown the "open relationship" card, without even a second consideration.

[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;36129515]You have your reasons to oppose adultery and polygamy. But things aren't as simple as we humans would just settle for one person. In modern western society (and many other societies), we impose monogamy in our culture. It's just that feelings like affection aren't simple, so I don't think that those social barriers should be affecting how relationships work. Of course in situations like these there will be a party that gets hurt. We pursue goals that lead to happiness (reasons may vary). I can give a scenario portraying something in the matter: We have a woman whom is in a relationship, but she is bothered about that her current partnership will probably evolve into her becoming a stereotypical housewife if it keeps going. Then she meets someone who has many good traits and who's future premise is set for something more adventurous. And from there she might conclude that this new potential partner might be one that leads her to a future that she would be more pleased with.[/QUOTE] She could simply, carefully, start an end to the relationship with her current partner instead of hiding her actions and intentions from him, and after that, start a relationship with the other person. [editline]30th May 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=thisispain;36129522]you sound like a robot. you don't oppose adultery and polygamy. you fail to understand it and rather than attempt to understand it you completely deny even the thought of it, which is intellectual cowardice. you can look down all you want with your completely convoluted attempts at grammatic perfection, but calling someone a shallow harlot (harlot, wtf) because they cheated on someone is bullshit and crass. people cheat, and sometimes they have a very good reason to cheat. accept that and move on from there instead of talking bullshit about "safe and 'secured' monogamist relationships" because it makes it clear you have no experience with any of these concepts. keep your hostility to yourself, or otherwise people might think you're a robot who ignorantly talks a lot of shit about people who's lives they know nothing about.[/QUOTE] I do realize that my opinions on love and the such are so far from realistic compared to the human thought process that they may as well be used in a basis for the romantic functions of fictional characters, and that they are only positive for some and not for others. And I do know that in the case of abuse, adulterous actions may be the only escape someone can have for themselves. However, simply betraying and lying to your current partner simply because you are tired of them is vile. It may not be the situation for this certain trio, and I may have made a mistake in acting condescending to them. I guess I've lost this argument, sorry for bothering and letting my idealistic and condescending emotions get in the way of logic or constructiveness.

[QUOTE=Tetsmega;36128280]Just curious, why were you trying to hook up with her knowing she already had a boyfriend? Why would you be heart broken when you knew she was clearly cheating on her boy friend for you? It just seems so backward.[/QUOTE] He was too horny to think, remember?

i had sex now im in love [editline]31st May 2012[/editline] also she has a boyfriend and i expected it to work in my favor

Girl tells you that she has a BF and you still continue hooking up with her, and you are broken hearted? OP you deserved all that.

[QUOTE=Dankie;36136384]Girl tells you that she has a BF and you still continue hooking up with her, and you are broken hearted? OP you deserved all that.[/QUOTE] oh fuck off, she lied and said she had an open relationship since apparently you don't know what that means, that's a relationship that is non-exclusive it's not his part to question her stance on her relationship, and it's not his part to take the blame for her cheating on and lying about her boyfriend

[QUOTE=Lord of Ears;36136489]oh fuck off, she lied and said she had an open relationship since apparently you don't know what that means, that's a relationship that is non-exclusive it's not his part to question her stance on her relationship, and it's not his part to take the blame for her cheating on and lying about her boyfriend[/QUOTE] Way to be condescending, you don't sleep with a girl if she has a boyfriend, open or not. Op taking her word for it and not taking into account the huge probability that she just lied to him, is his own damn fault. On top of that she lied about being a dude, this is why you don't go and have sex with random women in relationships. [editline]30th May 2012[/editline] And this isn't a love triangle OP, this is your boner leading you around, use common sense. A 2 year relationship and a 2 week "relationship" can't exist in the same "love" triangle you numbskull. You probably ruined that guys life and you have the nerve to say YOU are heartbroken after 2 weeks? Get real. One thing I have to congratulate you for though, is ruining that bitch's life. People like are whats bad in this world, and she deserved this more than anything. Get over your phony love triangle and start thinking about the fact that you are a straight male who fucked a dude.

there was no "huge probability" because there was no evidence short of asking her boyfriend furthermore, the burden of proof lies on her, the one asserting the claim. [quote]you don't sleep with a girl if she has a boyfriend, open or not[/quote] that's kinda the point of an open relationship, you rascal [editline]30th May 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Dankie;36136623]On top of that she lied about being a dude, this is why you don't go and have sex with random women in relationships.[/quote] [quote]Get over your phony love triangle and start thinking about the fact that you are a straight male who fucked a dude.[/QUOTE] i think you're confused

[QUOTE=Lord of Ears;36136706]there was no "huge probability" because there was no evidence short of asking her boyfriend furthermore, the burden of proof lies on her, the one asserting the claim. that's kinda the point of an open relationship, you rascal[/QUOTE] There actually is, I would very readily lie to somebody I wanted to bone but didn't know personally. In which case, she did, about 2 things. OP's own fault for believing somebody about something so serious that he only knew for 2 weeks and was "too horny" to even give that much thought into.

oh well, the burden of proof still lies on her

[QUOTE=Lord of Ears;36136706]there was no "huge probability" because there was no evidence short of asking her boyfriend furthermore, the burden of proof lies on her, the one asserting the claim. that's kinda the point of an open relationship, you rascal i think you're confused[/QUOTE] Ah, indeed I read it wrong. Well most of that post still stands.

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[QUOTE=Dankie;36136759]I would very readily lie to somebody I wanted to bone but didn't know personally.[/QUOTE] look at this fucking moral paragon

[QUOTE=Lord of Ears;36136789]look at this fucking moral paragon[/QUOTE] Oh I'm sorry sir, you are just a fucking angel who never lies to anybody, not even a little white lie. Just like mother told you, well done. You'd do it to, you just want to prove a point.

no, it's pretty hypocritical of you based on the subject you're arguing about

He may have had sex with her, but its not his fault she cheated. She choose to unless op raped her...

[QUOTE=Lord of Ears;36136489]oh fuck off, she lied and said she had an open relationship since apparently you don't know what that means, that's a relationship that is non-exclusive it's not his part to question her stance on her relationship, and it's not his part to take the blame for her cheating on and lying about her boyfriend[/QUOTE] Just because it's an open relationship doesn't mean she's going to leave him for somebody else. So, still, joke's on the OP