I was just involved in a love triangle... and I am absolutely crushed to hell and back when the trut - General

I regret stumbling upon this thread, I really, really do.

[QUOTE=Master Kief-117;36128149]I met a girl about two weeks ago over the weekend at my fire station. We hit it off really well and ended up having everything in common. It was ridiculous how much in common we had and how much we connected. On Sunday, I asked her for a ride to my car, which was parked somewhere else. She told me she would, but first needed to pick up some stuff from her house before she goes on a trip to the beach. Sure, why not. So we get to her house, and we talk more. One thing leads to another and we hook up... as in all the way. Before we do so, she mentions she has a boyfriend, but "it's ok because they're in an open relationship." Whatever... I was too horny to think too much about it. Well, after that, we talk more, and then it's time to go. She drives me to my car. Whatev. She goes to the beach with her friends and her BF, and during this time, we're texting. The more we talk, the more I fall for her. It is ridiculous how much we have in common. Like as we were hooking up, we were making nerdy jokes, science and video game references, and so on. It's crazy... So she gets back, and we hang out today. We went to see a movie, and went back to her place. We made out for a bit and talked a bunch more before she had to go to her BF's. I drive home. I then tell her how I felt, and she tells me how bad she feels that I ended up falling for her and that it wasn't supposed to happen. Hell, I wasn't planning on falling for her either, but shit happens. Anyways, we talk about it, get some emotions out, and she goes idle. She comes back on about an hour later and says a few things and then asks, "So you really meant everything you said about how good the sex was?" to which I respond with a solid yes, among a few other things. Well, she turns out to be he... as in her boyfriend and responded with, "Good to know. This is her boyfriend. Hi. I devoted two and a half years to her. She cheated on me with you? Fucking pathetic. Later, dude. This is all saved online." Yeah... kind of like that. I tried calling, only for him to answer and say something very vague...I have no idea what the fuck it meant... I called back again like 40 minutes later, only for the phone to be answered and then hung up... I then go back, check her fb and notice that her bf is well no longer listed as her bf. Now here I lay, typing this, broken hearted and extremely confused. I have no idea what the fuck to think about this any more...[/QUOTE] Hook up with her.

[QUOTE=Lord of Ears;36140133]no but you did just put a whole lot of incorrect words in my mouth so thanks for that[/QUOTE] Well, no I didn't do that. I just said your arguments are morally influenced and that you called me a "moral paragon". Are both these things not true?

[QUOTE=Dankie;36140190]Well, no I didn't do that. I just said your arguments are morally influenced and that you called me a "moral paragon". Are both these things not true?[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=Dankie;36140126]What you are trying to say here by calling me a "moral paragon" is that your morals on cheating and adultery are superior or correct opposed to mine? Well that's just incredibly ignorant of you.[/QUOTE]

lol

OP should know that open relationships only really work in redneck families and that's because of several brothers having to share one sister, etc.

Ugh. Fuck her dude (not literally). She's a hoe, a liar, and obviously doesn't give a fuck about her relationships. Don't even bother. EDIT: [QUOTE=Master Kief-117;36128332]I messaged the "ex" on facebook with the following, I really hope that this can be fixed. This whole situation is FUBAR... it is a nightmare. I wish my hair was longer so I could pull it out...[/QUOTE] By the way, stop sending him shit like that. You're only making it worse. If I was him, I would hate you and I would hate her. It's fine, it's just how it goes.

[QUOTE=DeanWinchester;36140831]OP should know that open relationships only really work in redneck families and that's because of several brothers having to share one sister, etc.[/QUOTE] maybe you're just so anchored in the status quo you can't handle the idea of a new perspective on relationships?

[QUOTE=gamefreek76;36140175]Hook up with him.[/QUOTE] Fixed that for you. This is the optimum course of action. If they are no longer together, you have maximized your success of dating one of them. If they remain together, you are still a valid partner for both of them, just at the same time.

Is that you in your avatar OP? It helps me visualise the story by picturing that guy getting head.

You live and you learn, everyone has at least one stupid fuck-up like this. Just, do be a gentleman and try no to do it again.

OP should only feel guilty if he knew the guy but went ahead with it. It shouldn't be your responsibility to verify the "open" relationship with the guy to hook up with the girl. (In this case) it's the girl's responsibility to not lie about her relationship, just so she can have sex with someone else. And this is coming from someone in a long term relationship. I'm not in an open relationship, so I assume that neither of us are going to cheat on the other. I know I won't cheat on her, and I know that if she ever cheats on me, it's not the fault of the person she cheated with. Also op, her relationship was over as soon as she lied about it.

That's some needy ass shit, hth you are getting clingy and overly attached to a girl you barely know and are confusing lust for love.

[QUOTE=Tetsmega;36129115]So did you hit that or not?[/QUOTE] I miss the bad reading rating.

[QUOTE=DeanWinchester;36140831]OP should know that open relationships only really work in redneck families and that's because of several brothers having to share one sister, etc.[/QUOTE] lol where the hell did this come from?

[QUOTE=CodeMonkey3;36129267]This isn't surprising. When I get into a relationship I assume and do the following: A) There is a fifty/fifty chance she will cheat on you. B) Don't take it seriously because you'll be lucky if it lasts more than a month. C) Lowers your general expectations because they'll positively break them at some point.[/QUOTE] Hahahaha no, that's not how serious mature relationships work at all.

lol @ everyone stating their relationship advice and the people arguing because someone else's advice conflicts with their own they made mistakes, they learned, no need to state what's been stated several times before

i rmember that one time I got in a glove treiengle with a californeing girl and a texa, dude. It's still oiing on and were planing on a thresssom. It's gon be whot.

How did her saying she was in an open relationship come out as a green light? If she were in an open relationship, she's probably filthy.