Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

It be like that sometimes. Sometimes you just don't know until you know.

Jesus fuck I am so sexually frustrated right now Working 60+ hours a week (and usually they have me closing Thursday-Sunday, so my weekend is fucked) and I have no time for girls, let alone much social stuff at all. If I'm lucky and not working a double, I usually just spend my free time playing video games because my schedule rarely lines up with that of my friends. Kind of missing all kinds of companionship right now. But hey, at least there's only one more month of this hell.

[QUOTE=arleitiss;52461801]I am so fucking pissed off or dissapointed (not sure which is bigger in this case) The job that they said I am accepted - yeah, turns out there is no job. Basically they are Software solutions company (creating software for businesses and their needs), They had a few projects upcoming with new clients so they were hiring for it, I've gone through 6 stage interview and got accepted, was waiting on contract. They told me I am hired (so I relaxed for 2 weeks while they were "drafting contract and checking last few things"), I relaxed and was fine thinking I have job now, now at the mean time they had meeting with their clients who pulled out of deal and didnt sign contract with company so those planned projects are not going ahead so obviously my application was scrapped. I lost 2 weeks of my time because apparently they accepted me for job that didn't even exist yet, I am so fucking angry at them. [b]Idk what to do now, I applied for 12 jobs yesterday and 8 today and I have no call backs, am I really that unhirable? fucking idk :v:[/b] Recruiters keep calling me every second but I started barely talking to them as they always ask same questions and say they will forward my CV but I never hear back from them again. I am moving out in 2 weeks unless I find money for rent (put up my TV for sale so far, which will give me half and I can borrow other half) but other than that - I am pretty fucked. My back up plan is: Moving back to homeland (Ukraine), I have apartment in Kiev so at least I can live there rent-free and my cousin - she works as software engineer there and makes decent cash so who knows, maybe it's an option (Although it feels more like a downgrade than an option)[/QUOTE] That's often just how it is my man. Less jobs and more people that want them.

My close friend is finally dumping her cheating boyfriend tonight. Are advice on how to be a good support from a different state? He is pretty manipulative and I just want to be a good friend.

Hey guys, I've got a situation I have a friend who desperately needs money for reasons I won't get into, and I have money, however they absolutely refuse to accept any help from me I feel ABSOLUTELY TERRIBLE about not helping in some way, because they are FUCKED without a sudden influx of money, but I just cannot convince them, it has to be a pride thing because there is no reason to not accept what can I do

Give [I]me[/I] the money... Just kidding. Honestly, if they don't want it, they don't want it. Some people just refuse things like that and no amount of convincing will do much. Just maintain that you're there in case he realizes he could use the help. But ultimately, you can't shove the money in his hand.

[QUOTE=Pascall;52467014]Give [I]me[/I] the money... Just kidding. Honestly, if they don't want it, they don't want it. Some people just refuse things like that and no amount of convincing will do much. Just maintain that you're there in case he realizes he could use the help. But ultimately, you can't shove the money in his hand.[/QUOTE] okay but the kind of shit that will happen to them as a result of not having the money is not a situation I am willing to accept at all

It's not up to you whether or not it happens. It's up to them. I'm assuming they're an adult, and if they decide to make that choice, then they're making that choice. Unless you want to go behind their back to help, your only other option is to let them be.

I knew that was the answer I was gonna get, I just really was hoping to get something else fuck

[QUOTE=AtomicSans;52467027]okay but the kind of shit that will happen to them as a result of not having the money is not a situation I am willing to accept at all[/QUOTE] what did they run off with a ton of drugs or something from a dealer

[QUOTE=gustavholst;52466982]My close friend is finally dumping her cheating boyfriend tonight. Are advice on how to be a good support from a different state? He is pretty manipulative and I just want to be a good friend.[/QUOTE] Not sure, but for a start I'd suggest you just talk to your friend. She'll possibly need to vent, and having someone to vent to is always nice. Also, if her boyfriend is manipulative and attempts to get back with her, make sure to talk her out of it.

friend: "hahaha i accidentally swiped right on a girl and we matched clumsy me" : *matches with another attractive girl for like the 3rd day in a row* me: [t]http://meharryp.xyz/s/aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.png[/t] i dont get tinder [editline]14th July 2017[/editline] im not funny, im not attractive, why the fuck am i even on it

I'm literally Zoidberg on Tinder.

I feel like I'm in a rut - I'm 25 and have never had a real relationship. In part because I never put my self out there. So, on Friday- I asked a girl out. A friend - we met on the same course. We've been increasingly close friends for the past 6 months. in short, it was a no. Which is what I expected, really - but I wanted to ask because 1) you don't know for sure unless you ask 2) I could feel myself becoming more interested in her - asking now and getting rejected is better than long term pining 3) rejection helps you grow as a person (to a point. I've not really asked many girls out in my life and need to face rejection better). thanks for reading my blog

So yeah I guess me and the tinder girl are basically an item as far as severely time restricted relationships go (she's leaving for the US in two weeks). So yeah I guess I'd just use that to tell people that past failure isn't necessarily predictive of future success - at some point someone might come along and appreciate your way too wordy description and quirky pictures.

Two days ago I started using Tinder and yesterday I got a match with someone who apparently likes Tarantino movies a lot and swiped me right because of my taste in TV shows. She asked me if I've seen season 3 of Fargo and at that point I got really interested in her. So far we only exchanged a few messages but I'm glad I decided to give it a try and I also noticed how I spent less time thinking about my ex and that's a good thing. edit: Also, holy fucking shit, how hard is it to say at least a tiny little thing about yourself? Like, I get that looks are also important but if you don't show something of yourself in your pictures (like your hobbies or interests) at least write them in your description.

lots of tinder girls are bots eventually you'll start to see the same pictures with different names, or the same bios on different people

Update: Pretty sure my friend allowed her boyfriend to convince her to stay, despite obvious evidence of him being a shit person. I'll continue to support her, but I'm totally at a loss.

[QUOTE=uber.;52471460]Also, holy fucking shit, how hard is it to say at least a tiny little thing about yourself? Like, I get that looks are also important but if you don't show something of yourself in your pictures (like your hobbies or interests) at least write them in your description.[/QUOTE] The more I've used it, the more I've found that most people are actually just that boring.

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;52473512]The more I've used it, the more I've found that most people are actually just that boring.[/QUOTE] I'm not even looking for "interesting" people. I just want someone to cuddle with and play videogames or watch movies and tv shows. Maybe my ambitions are too high lmao.

[QUOTE=uber.;52473662]I'm not even looking for "interesting" people. I just want someone to cuddle with and play videogames or watch movies and tv shows. Maybe my ambitions are too high lmao.[/QUOTE] Literally put that in your profile - like minded people may match you

I have a little bit of a story and a follow up question. So I recently started working again after a break, back into fast food because its all I can get at the moment. My boss is a trans girl, her name is Amy. When I explained my bisexuality to her (because she's really open about that kind of stuff, and I have no shame) she started coming in the back while I was doing dishes or preping food just to shoot the shit and talk about video games and whatever. A co-worker said that Amy's aunt, who also works with us, said that amy's really into me. This seems to be supported by how Amy asked me to be friends, and she did the same to another person that she's really into. She's also sent me various pictures of different outfits she has, many of which show off a good amount of skin. I have no doubt that she's into me, and I want to ask her out, but the big problem here is that she's my boss. I'm getting a job at amazon later on in the year, and I dont know if I should wait until then to ask her out, possibly losing her interest due to the passage of time and cold feet, or as her out now, running the risk of having a weird work relationship with my employer. What do you guys think I should do?

[QUOTE=Digivee;52474095]My boss is a trans girl, her name is Amy. When I explained my bisexuality to her (because she's really open about that kind of stuff, and I have no shame) she started coming in the back while I was doing dishes or preping food just to shoot the shit and talk about video games and whatever.[/QUOTE] Amy asked you to be friends. Friends talk to each other about various shit and send each other images on the phone. On one hand I can see where you're coming from and there's a possibility that shes into you. On the other hand if Amy was into you she could have asked you out. Not saying don't ask. Just keep in mind that what your coworker told you may not be true and if you need to use your current job as a reference on your resume it's best to be on good terms with everyone.

[QUOTE=Digivee;52474095]I have a little bit of a story and a follow up question. So I recently started working again after a break, back into fast food because its all I can get at the moment. My boss is a trans girl, her name is Amy. When I explained my bisexuality to her (because she's really open about that kind of stuff, and I have no shame) she started coming in the back while I was doing dishes or preping food just to shoot the shit and talk about video games and whatever. A co-worker said that Amy's aunt, who also works with us, said that amy's really into me. This seems to be supported by how Amy asked me to be friends, and she did the same to another person that she's really into. She's also sent me various pictures of different outfits she has, many of which show off a good amount of skin. I have no doubt that she's into me, and I want to ask her out, but the big problem here is that she's my boss. I'm getting a job at amazon later on in the year, and I dont know if I should wait until then to ask her out, possibly losing her interest due to the passage of time and cold feet, or as her out now, running the risk of having a weird work relationship with my employer. What do you guys think I should do?[/QUOTE] As Momma Metallics always told me as a wee lad, "never shit where you eat son" Just wait until you're done with work, especially if she's your boss. Be friends though, have fun.

[QUOTE=Sir Whoopsalot;52462460]So apparently the girl I've been crushing on for a little while may or may not be a lesbian. Oops.[/QUOTE] So yeah, not only is she a lesbian but even if she wasn't, she's already taken. I'm so good at this. Casanova at work here, people.

[QUOTE=Sir Whoopsalot;52475618]So yeah, not only is she a lesbian but even if she wasn't, she's already taken. I'm so good at this. Casanova at work here, people.[/QUOTE] Her being a lesbian or her being taken already isn't your fault, you don't have to be this hard on yourself

I'm not, I'm just poking a bit of fun at it. It's not every day that a comedy skit happens to you.

[QUOTE=papkee;52472513]lots of tinder girls are bots eventually you'll start to see the same pictures with different names, or the same bios on different people[/QUOTE] Although there are bots, many girls just have the same "funny" description. It's like they read it in some magazine.

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[QUOTE=maeZtro;52477926]Although there are bots, many girls just have the same "funny" description. It's like they read it in some magazine.[/QUOTE] I constantly see "buy me pizza, touch my butt" which I'm guessing is some popular reference I'm out of the loop on