Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

Take lots of photos -selfies, group photos with friends, every opportunity When you see people with good photos, remember - not all their photos are good, you only see the good ones By taking lots of photos, you'll come across some good ones too Also it helps relax you in front of the camera when you're used to it

[QUOTE=Spetsnaz95;52511756]You guys got any tips to getting some decent pictures of oneself? I've been thinking about making a profile on a dating website, but I have no good pictures to use. Last good picture of myself is four years old. :v: I know selfies are always an opportunity, same with asking my friends, but I always feel awkward, extremely self conscious, and I'm anything but photogenic. Any tips or tricks would be appreciated.[/QUOTE] Get a friend who has a DSLR, go to a nice looking place (Dyrehaven perhaps) and get some shots of each other because why the fuck not. I'm self-conscious as well, but seriously, just take some photos. Some of them will turn out to be good or even great.

Tips on how to make separating with a girl easier? I met her on tinder and we've been seeing eachother for only a little over a month, but in that time she developed a lot of attachy feelings and really likes me. She tells me all the time how nice I am to her compared to other guys and always tells me that she doesn't want me to leave her. But I have no choice - in a few weeks I go back to college out of state. She's also constantly worried I'm gonna cut contact with her suddenly (which I'm not gonna do. I have no reason to). And I'm afraid us separating in a few weeks is going to make her really upset and I don't want that to happen. and I like her a lot, but I don't [I]love[/I] her, ya know? I feel mean saying this but she's more of just a summer fling - not anything serious, and I wouldn't exactly want to get serious with her either. I know even if I stayed in town it wouldn't work out in the long run because we're just different people on some levels. But even though I wouldn't want anything serious with her I still couldn't help but develop feelings towards her in this short time. Can't exactly hang out with someone all the time and have sex and [I]not[/I] get any feelings towards them so I know deep down I'm also gonna be upset when I go. Is there anything I/we can do to make it less hard on eachother when I leave?

Ever need a good fuckin cry but it just won't happen.

[QUOTE=The Rifleman;52514191]Ever need a good fuckin cry but it just won't happen.[/QUOTE] Always. Haven't cried in years and I wish I could

[QUOTE=The Rifleman;52514191]Ever need a good fuckin cry but it just won't happen.[/QUOTE] for real man i have been trying to make myself cry for the past two weeks but mostly i just feel empty

Why do I always match or like girls who have a texting disorder where they can't seem to remember to check their damn phones ARGH

[QUOTE=The Rifleman;52514191]Ever need a good fuckin cry but it just won't happen.[/QUOTE] I suffered with some mild anxiety a couple of years ago and I had that feeling constantly. When you actually manage it you feel a lot better afterwards.

[QUOTE=redBadger;52514766]Why do I always match or like girls who have a texting disorder where they can't seem to remember to check their damn phones ARGH[/QUOTE] You tell me, buddy. I got two matches right now which just keep me waiting because fuck me. And if I see one more person saying "I LIKE TO TRAVEL" in their bio I might just end the pain and myself shortly after.

I think in cases like that sometimes anxiety just speaks louder. You just have to learn to be patient.

Also girls on Tinder/other apps have no shortage of matches or messages, and it's perfectly reasonable for them not to respond to each one, even if they would have liked you had they read it. It can be frustrating to be sure, but it helps to understand their position

Score! Might be getting lunch with her :D Apparently i freaked her out at first because she thought i was some doppleganger of a guy she used to date, but we had a nice chat and might get lunch next week :)

[QUOTE=uber.;52516255]You tell me, buddy. I got two matches right now which just keep me waiting because fuck me. And if I see one more person saying "I LIKE TO TRAVEL" in their bio I might just end the pain and myself shortly after.[/QUOTE] Looking for a partner in crime to go on adventures

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;52516709]Looking for a partner in crime to go on adventures[/QUOTE] Job: Full time mommy

i'll never forget this time i was messaging someone on tinder, then i re-checked their bio to find they'd updated it to "my 1yr old boy is everything to me <3"

[QUOTE=Marzipas;52516826]i'll never forget this time i was messaging someone on tinder, then i re-checked their bio to find they'd updated it to "my 1yr old boy is everything to me <3"[/QUOTE] [T]https://pbs.twimg.com/media/DDmUFdqXYAExfC9.jpg[/T]

[QUOTE=metallics;52516802]Job: Full time mommy[/QUOTE] Alternative: Mother of six fur babies

[QUOTE=redBadger;52514766]Why do I always match or like girls who have a texting disorder where they can't seem to remember to check their damn phones ARGH[/QUOTE] If I'm busy or doing something important I don't even look at my phone. Often IRL situations are more important to me than my phone, as in it just sits in my pocket until I'm left by myself, then I quickly check if there's anything important. Same during meetings, I often leave my phone on my desk on purpose. If it's super-important, people usually call me which catches my attention instantly and makes me think it's serious.

[QUOTE=SgtTupelo;52518582]If I'm busy or doing something important I don't even look at my phone. Often IRL situations are more important to me than my phone, as in it just sits in my pocket until I'm left by myself, then I quickly check if there's anything important. Same during meetings, I often leave my phone on my desk on purpose. If it's super-important, people usually call me which catches my attention instantly and makes me think it's serious.[/QUOTE] I am very similar to this and tend to prefer the company of people who can put their phone aside for a few hours!

its been a month since i got kinda away from a friend who i really like and as far as she said she didnt. She keeps to this point resenting me and sending me messages for me to feel guilty about me getting away, but in a way i had not experience in like never. Its getting to a point im really starting to question if theres more to it from her side, like maybe she likes me but has lots of shit going on in her head to accept something like this. I know, its dumb to play the guessing game, im just starting to feel a little strange about someone not being able to keep with her life because one of her friends wont talk to her as much as he used to. I dont know, i feel like im missing something in the puzzle.

[QUOTE=Marzipas;52516826]i'll never forget this time i was messaging someone on tinder, then i re-checked their bio to find they'd updated it to "my 1yr old boy is everything to me <3"[/QUOTE] 'Hey when we finally meet you should totally kiss me ^^' Me: Aight sure when do you want to meet' 'IDK I'm 14 so I can't really go out that much' Whoops

[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;52518833]'Hey when we finally meet you should totally kiss me ^^' Me: Aight sure when do you want to meet' 'IDK I'm 14 so I can't really go out that much' Whoops[/QUOTE] [t]http://i.imgur.com/cg2ftbc.png[/t]

[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;52518833]'Hey when we finally meet you should totally kiss me ^^' Me: Aight sure when do you want to meet' 'IDK I'm 14 so I can't really go out that much' Whoops[/QUOTE] "16 not actually 22"

"not 27 actually 17, facebook is wrong My 2-year old comes first" :why:

I'm seeing this girl who lives about an hour away and she's cool. Great sense of humor and pretty damn hot too. I just have this issue where this other girl I've mentioned here before, reappeared in my life because she got dumped by her boyfriend. We hang out, walk around and talk about the dating scene and how we're doing in life. It sucks too because I am still attracted to her, but I don't want to jeopardize our friendship. I just feel miserable though. Like my anxiety levels have been through the roof with each passing day. I went to my doctor and he recommended therapy and medication, I'm just terrified of it all. Being friends with an ex, moving on with this new girl, and trying to figure out what I do in January when I graduate. I could go back for my cs master's or get a job, but neither of those sound good enough. Everything feels so intense. I think my mornings are 4 hours of me just feeling like I'm doomed, same with my evenings. I workout. Go out with my dog. Go out with friends. I try to work on my own hobbies, but I just feel like I can't focus and be happy with myself. I feel it when I breathe, like this tightness in my chest and it feels like ice water is in my veins because I shake. I think those are anxiety attacks. How do you cope with them? What do I need to do to maintain relationships while being on antidepressants? I signed up for a yoga class to destress this fall. It's helped me before plus it's a decent workout. I don't have a bias towards taking something to help me clear up, I'm just wondering what do I need to do cope and stay afloat? It sounds really childish, but I genuinely want to leave all my friends and family behind in in Ohio in January and go somewhere as like a sabbatical in a different country like Taiwan and teach English for a year or 2 and then come back and decide what I'm doing, but that's just running away from a problem until I'm 25.

[QUOTE=blacksam;52521382] It sounds really childish, but I genuinely want to leave all my friends and family behind in in Ohio in January and go somewhere as like a sabbatical in a different country like Taiwan and teach English for a year or 2 and then come back and decide what I'm doing, but that's just running away from a problem until I'm 25.[/QUOTE] That sounds like a great character building experience, if you really feel the desire i couldnt suggest taking that journey enough

Long story turned short; I broke up with the love of my life. We had been together for 4 years, lived together. All good. I got into the school of my dreams, so we had to move from eachother. She stayed, I moved. 8 months later, this april, I skype'd her and broke up. Neither of us wanted to, but shit was not working. I just talked to her on facebook chat for the first time since, because I've been depressed and missing her more than ever these past 2 weeks. I just said that I was interested in trying again, after some chat. She said that she did not want to try again. I told her, if she ever thought about it, then she should contact me right away. - This is the worst heartburn I've ever had and I'm so sad. I gotta get over her...but she has invaded my dreams again. Thanks for letting me vent, FP. I need some help here

[QUOTE=can man;52521902]Long story turned short; I broke up with the love of my life. We had been together for 4 years, lived together. All good. I got into the school of my dreams, so we had to move from eachother. She stayed, I moved. 8 months later, this april, I skype'd her and broke up. Neither of us wanted to, but shit was not working. I just talked to her on facebook chat for the first time since, because I've been depressed and missing her more than ever these past 2 weeks. I just said that I was interested in trying again, after some chat. She said that she did not want to try again. I told her, if she ever thought about it, then she should contact me right away. - This is the worst heartburn I've ever had and I'm so sad. I gotta get over her...but she has invaded my dreams again. Thanks for letting me vent, FP. I need some help here[/QUOTE] I feel ya, I recently fell out with my ex and she said to my face, in the most brutal way possible, that she'd been with another guy during her holiday in Mykonos I thought I'd stopped feeling anything for her, it'd been months since we broke up and we'd been the best of friends, but I guess the fact that she's moving on has me as jealous as I've never been and longing for her again I'm turning my anger and sadness into fitness, doing some pushups and squats :v:

[QUOTE=DChapsfield;52519628]"not 27 actually 17, facebook is wrong My 2-year old comes first" :why:[/QUOTE] Looks like you found yourself a keeper :v: I once matched with a woman and when I read the description I saw that she was in a wheelchair, paralyzed from the waist down. I felt bad for removing the match but I don't think I could ever be in a relationship like that.

[QUOTE=maeZtro;52522222]Looks like you found yourself a keeper :v: I once matched with a woman and when I read the description I saw that she was in a wheelchair, paralyzed from the waist down. I felt bad for removing the match but I don't think I could ever be in a relationship like that.[/QUOTE] I matched with this wheelchair bound person who used to work in Obama's administration, and I sent her a message because I was sure she'd be interesting to talk to, and she unmatched me, lol. So don't feel bad, she knows how it is, she's well aware of her situation.