Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

[QUOTE=i-am-teh-sex;52533551]Welcome to the IRA, you're here for life[/QUOTE] Still better than Latvian citizenship where you're asked to pay taxes when you live and earn outside of country :v:

[QUOTE=arleitiss;52533827]Still better than Latvian citizenship where you're asked to pay taxes when you live and earn outside of country :v:[/QUOTE] that's basically every country? being outside of your country of citizenship doesn't excuse you from the taxes you pay as a citizen

[QUOTE=LordCrypto;52533864]that's basically every country? being outside of your country of citizenship doesn't excuse you from the taxes you pay as a citizen[/QUOTE] wait what what are such taxes before you jump at my throat, I've yet to enter the workforce, I know nothing about taxes, but I expected to simply pay taxes for whatever nation I'm living in plus whatever uni you went at and shit

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;52533962]wait what what are such taxes before you jump at my throat, I've yet to enter the workforce, I know nothing about taxes, but I expected to simply pay taxes for whatever nation I'm living in plus whatever uni you went at and shit[/QUOTE] it depends on the countries involved (i am not a tax professional blah blah blah) if you are a US citizen, and make money anywhere in the world, you also owe the social security administration money as a citizen of the US is earning money. if the country you're earning money in doesn't care that you're not a citizen of their country, then you also owe that country money for earning money in their country basically it's generally a bad idea to be a citizen of one country and make money in another because it's possible you'll get double taxed

[QUOTE=LordCrypto;52533864]that's basically every country? being outside of your country of citizenship doesn't excuse you from the taxes you pay as a citizen[/QUOTE] Sorry I may sound dumb/stupid but I find that absurd, So I am out of my country and my country sends me a letter: "You must pay Y taxes to F fund because you're citizen of X country living abroad" What the fuck? So because I am earning and working my ass off in other country - paying 21% tax I am supposed to pay further (whatevr X tax) " I am sorry but that country can go hang themselves, that is just purely retarded, I am not paying 40% taxes in ("apparently a penalty" for living in other country) Since so many Agred (will assume its okay): wtf, well okay cool finally I can cut ties with that shit-hole I guess? I wasn't aware that's a common practice to charge your citizens with some extra bs tax.

[QUOTE=Kabstrac;52534644]Yeah here in Canada there are certain limits. Ie: whether you are a factual resident (if you haven't lived in Canada for a year and half to two years, you aren't a resident), taxation in the working country (work in USA, pay USA taxes, get tax credit for USA taxes in Canada, but may still have to pay more if Canada's tax is a higher %), etc etc. It's complicated basically.[/QUOTE] That's why (in the UK at least) there are accountants you can pay to sort that shit for you so you pay the barest minimum. Costs and arm and a leg up front but saves in the long run.

My girlfriend is coming to Sweden next week and I'm thinking about getting her a bracelet or something. We met in her country and have only been together for a month but this feels different from my past relationships. What do you think? Is it too much too soon?

[QUOTE=maeZtro;52536318]My girlfriend is coming to Sweden next week and I'm thinking about getting her a bracelet or something. We met in her country and have only been together for a month but this feels different from my past relationships. What do you think? Is it too much too soon?[/QUOTE] As long as you don't spend too much money on it, go ahead - she'll most likely just think you're super sweet for getting her something. If she's willing to travel to Sweden to meet you, it's probably not "too much".

I've been having this sort of open relationship with this girl. I mean we are both in Love with each other very much but both of us aren't keen on the idea of commitment. We both would like us to be a couple but sometimes we both look at other people and have one night stands with other people and openly talk about it with each other. Don't know if i should continue this or what even though my friends say that it's bad for both of us and we should just get together "officially". I kinda like this just that fear that it might hurt me in the long run.

I just talked with a old crush and with the helping pressure of my friend caused me to confess and she just broke up with her bf We had a steady converasation but I went way too quick bur luckily she didnt mind God im.so stressed but super happy as well. Hopefully i can go out with her eventually Edit: Before people think, she broke up with her boyfriend a while ago, not because of me. Also it was a long silence of seven years inbetween us so its still somewhat awkward

[QUOTE=frozensmile;52536477]I've been having this sort of open relationship with this girl. I mean we are both in Love with each other very much but both of us aren't keen on the idea of commitment. We both would like us to be a couple but sometimes we both look at other people and have one night stands with other people and openly talk about it with each other. Don't know if i should continue this or what even though my friends say that it's bad for both of us and we should just get together "officially". I kinda like this just that fear that it might hurt me in the long run.[/QUOTE] Some people are able to work in open relationships (don't think I could, though), some people can't. If it works for you two, it shouldn't matter that it wouldn't have worked for your friends or whatever - but be honest with yourself, if you start not being comfortable with the idea, you shouldn't feel committed staying in an open relationship.

[QUOTE=GoDong-DK;52536346]As long as you don't spend too much money on it, go ahead - she'll most likely just think you're super sweet for getting her something. If she's willing to travel to Sweden to meet you, it's probably not "too much".[/QUOTE] When you put it that way, of course I should get her something. Thanks!

[QUOTE=Nope guy;52537309]I just talked with a old crush and with the helping pressure of my friend caused me to confess and she just broke up with her bf We had a steady converasation but I went way too quick bur luckily she didnt mind God im.so stressed but super happy as well. Hopefully i can go out with her eventually Edit: Before people think, she broke up with her boyfriend a while ago, not because of me. Also it was a long silence of seven years inbetween us so its still somewhat awkward[/QUOTE] Nevermind, after getting to know alot more about her she had massive red flags. I'm just gonna take my distance again and even if I gotten a date with her that turned up into a relationship. It's gonna hurt me a lot more than her.

[I]It does no harm to the romance of the sunset to know a little bit about it.[/I] [B]- Carl Sagan[/B]

I get absolutely no swipes on tinder and it's incredibly discouraging :cry:

I actually had to uninstall Tinder As an average looking guy it was, as redbadger said, pretty discouraging to get about 3 matches a month, and even then, getting ignored when you message them. I feel I'd fare better in the real world, where I rely less on my photos and more on my personality.

[QUOTE=redBadger;52544922]I get absolutely no swipes on tinder and it's incredibly discouraging :cry:[/QUOTE] Maybe you just have bad pictures? Try to get a good and serious close up of yourself as the main picture and then a second picture that shows your body while you are doing something you enjoy, preferably with other people to display social value. That's all you need really. If you want to have a description you should keep it short and don't mention stuff like religion or politics that can negatively affect how people see you. You can joke but try to keep it non offensive and try to not come off as too much of a clown as that is a turn off for some. You should obviously be yourself but you want the other person to give you a chance to show your personality. Last thing, don't lie in you description or use super polished photos, you are supposed to meet the people you match with later and it's better to be straight from the beginning. [editline]6th August 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=SuperLoz;52544999]I actually had to uninstall Tinder As an average looking guy it was, as redbadger said, pretty discouraging to get about 3 matches a month, and even then, getting ignored when you message them. I feel I'd fare better in the real world, where I rely less on my photos and more on my personality.[/QUOTE] I think I was pretty successful with it but you shouldn't feel bad, women get matches every other swipe so they have hundreds of guys to choose from and almost everyone I have talked to go solely on the pictures. They swipe and by the time you swipe they already have like 3 offers for dates and 30 new matches.

I'd always just used tinder as a laugh really, never expected anything to come of it, would use it on and off now and again. wouldn't profess to getting matches all the time but there'd be one now and again and I'd normally always message them, the trick was just saying something that'd encourage conversation or show you're interested in something they do, not just going "hi" or using a shitty chat up line really. I'd always just ask a question if there wasn't anything in their bio or pics that would lend itself to starting a conversation. but yeah a couple weeks ago I matched with someone who I got on really well with, decided fuck it and asked them out, and we've seen each other 5 times in the past week, no one night stand type shit, its just as if we actually do enjoy each others company. that quote about getting what you want the moment you stop trying to get it comes into mind.

I can never find the motivation for tinder anymore. Every few weeks, I open it up again, get a few matches, then never have the drive to actually message any of them. Usually it's because their profile doesn't have anything I can start a conversation about, so I slowly convince myself that talking to them would be boring.

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a few months ago before her and i were dating, i saw my current girlfriend on tinder i swiped right, she never saw me apparently

just found out that my best friend and my ex girlfriend have re-ignited their friendship. they used to be friends and he used to like her but she didn't feel the same, so they stopped being friends and me and her dated like a year after that. shes been feeling very isolated and lonely since we broke up, so i know that she needs as many friends around her as possible, so am i a dickhead for feeling kind of angry and betrayed? he didn't even tell me that he was talking to her again, she casually mentioned it when we talked last week. i'm not gonna tell him to stop because she needs a friend but i haven't really talked to him since i learned about it. am i being selfish and stupid?

I accidentally made my girl really upset and now I feel like shit over it. I thought we were like play arguing/fighting over something but she took it seriously and got upset over it. I guess I'm a better actor than I thought. But I'm not a mean person and it makes me so sad to see that I made another person upset. I would never do that on purpose :(

Hey, lurker here. Something I want to get off my chest. Today I was waiting at the bus stop and this cute girl (my type) caught my eye. I noticed she kept looking over in my direction but didn’t think much of it. I sat two seats behind her on the bus, and I didn’t think much more of her until when she was getting off at her stop. This is because before she got off, she turned her head to the side and kept looking at me out of the corner of her eye. Then she started turning her head fully to look at me and smile. Usually, people tend to be pretty subtle when showing interest, but she was making it very obvious for me. Before I could do anything, she got up and stepped off the bus, but kept turning around to look back at me when walking down the aisle. Every part of me wanted to go after her to ask her number, but it was 6pm and the next train didn’t come at that station for about an hour. I suppose I made the responsible decision, however I can’t help but feel a bit sad about the whole thing. But it makes me wander as to why she chose the last minute before she had to go to try and get my attention. If she’d shown interest earlier then I would have had a chance to make something of the situation. Did I make the right decision? Or should I have taken the chance?

[QUOTE=Inkfoot;52547231]Hey, lurker here. Something I want to get off my chest. Today I was waiting at the bus stop and this cute girl (my type) caught my eye. I noticed she kept looking over in my direction but didn’t think much of it. I sat two seats behind her on the bus, and I didn’t think much more of her until when she was getting off at her stop. This is because before she got off, she turned her head to the side and kept looking at me out of the corner of her eye. Then she started turning her head fully to look at me and smile. Usually, people tend to be pretty subtle when showing interest, but she was making it very obvious for me. Before I could do anything, she got up and stepped off the bus, but kept turning around to look back at me when walking down the aisle. Every part of me wanted to go after her to ask her number, but it was 6pm and the next train didn’t come at that station for about an hour. I suppose I made the responsible decision, however I can’t help but feel a bit sad about the whole thing. But it makes me wander as to why she chose the last minute before she had to go to try and get my attention. If she’d shown interest earlier then I would have had a chance to make something of the situation. Did I make the right decision? Or should I have taken the chance?[/QUOTE] You definitely shouldn't get off your train for her. It's hard to speak to strangers but if you get good eye contact with someone you find interesting, just talk to them. Worst case scenario you say something stupid and it will be forgotten in 10 min, or it isn't mutual and she will tell you in some way. Just don't be pushy and back off right away if she's uncomfortable or tell you she has a boyfriend. If they react in an aggressive or bitchy way the problem is with them and they aren't worth your time anyway. There are millions of women out there who are your type so don't think too much about this one. Also, consider yourself lucky that you don't live in Sweden where people are fucked in the head when it comes to this. If you aren't considered hot, people will generally tell you to fuck off, laugh at you or be super uncomfortable and just sit there all quiet. Until we're drunk that is. I wish we had the British pub culture here.

[QUOTE=maeZtro;52547277]You definitely shouldn't get off your train for her. It's hard to speak to strangers but if you get good eye contact with someone you find interesting, just talk to them. Worst case scenario you say something stupid and it will be forgotten in 10 min, or it isn't mutual and she will tell you in some way. Just don't be pushy and back off right away if she's uncomfortable or tell you she has a boyfriend. If they react in an aggressive or bitchy way the problem is with them and they aren't worth your time anyway.[/QUOTE] Yeah, I thought I made the right decision. I usually do approach women if I'm getting signs that they're interested. This case was just unusual because she seemed to show a lot of interest in a very small time frame which meant there was nothing I could do to act on it. [QUOTE=maeZtro;52547277]There are millions of women out there who are your type so don't think too much about this one.[/QUOTE] I think the thing that bothers me the most about it is that I hate missed opportunities, even if there wasn't much that I could have done to change the situation. [QUOTE=maeZtro;52547277]Also, consider yourself lucky that you don't live in Sweden where people are fucked in the head when it comes to this. If you aren't considered hot, people will generally tell you to fuck off, laugh at you or be super uncomfortable and just sit there all quiet. Until we're drunk that is. I wish we had the British pub culture here.[/QUOTE] That sucks. I'd be pretty turned off from dating if it was like that over here.

There is always the slight possibility of seeing her again at the same stop

a few months ago I removed my ex off everything, snapchat facebook etc. today I've got her and her boyfriend "waving" at me on facebook messenger :glare: it started with her boyfriend doing it out of nowhere, never spoke to him or seen him in my life, but I just ignored it. then she started doing it too, so I left if for a few minutes but then started typing out a message before erasing it without sending it, I feel I'm above this shit. then she messages me asking what I was typing, I've just deleted that too if they carry on is it perfectly understandable for me to tell them to fuck off? I want to be above this but it's really getting on my nerves, totally unecessary

[QUOTE=IAreLegend;52547992]a few months ago I removed my ex off everything, snapchat facebook etc. today I've got her and her boyfriend "waving" at me on facebook messenger :glare: it started with her boyfriend doing it out of nowhere, never spoke to him or seen him in my life, but I just ignored it. then she started doing it too, so I left if for a few minutes but then started typing out a message before erasing it without sending it, I feel I'm above this shit. then she messages me asking what I was typing, I've just deleted that too if they carry on is it perfectly understandable for me to tell them to fuck off? I want to be above this but it's really getting on my nerves, totally unecessary[/QUOTE] Depending on how you and your ex-GF separated, it could sound like they've being provocative. I'd say it's pretty reasonable to tell 'em to bugger off if they keep it up.

[QUOTE=IAreLegend;52547992]a few months ago I removed my ex off everything, snapchat facebook etc. today I've got her and her boyfriend "waving" at me on facebook messenger :glare: it started with her boyfriend doing it out of nowhere, never spoke to him or seen him in my life, but I just ignored it. then she started doing it too, so I left if for a few minutes but then started typing out a message before erasing it without sending it, I feel I'm above this shit. then she messages me asking what I was typing, I've just deleted that too if they carry on is it perfectly understandable for me to tell them to fuck off? I want to be above this but it's really getting on my nerves, totally unecessary[/QUOTE] I would not even give them the satisfaction. Just block them and move on.