Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

[QUOTE=Rhenae;52669810]That's the world of online dating. There isn't a better one, it's literally one of the best options. If you want better ratios you pretty much got to go for real life events and shit. Sucks but true, women just don't have as hard a time finding dates, that's how the whole dating culture is.[/QUOTE]Oh well, I guess there are no single women in the world.

[QUOTE=RoboChimp;52669816]Oh well, I guess there are no single women in the world.[/QUOTE] Lmao that's pathetic, maybe there are no single women ONLINE that like you. Doesn't mean there isn't outside of your home

To get the attention of anyone on any dating site you have to put forth a lot of effort to be: 1) different - girls get a lot of dumb as shit messages pretty much every day on okcupid. I had to filter out the dumbest ones a lot. 2) polite - don't go into a conversation expecting anything besides maybe a quick small talk 3) interesting - starting a conversation with "hi" or "hello" or "what's up" is boring! find something on their profile to open up with. "what's your favorite sci-fi movie" or "how are your studies at school going" if they post something about being in school or getting a degree or something like that. show them you wanna know about them. 4) attractive - because this is kind of a key to any online dating, your pictures have to be nice, you have to look like you have your shit together, you probably want to appear somewhat social and not have all your pictures in the bathroom these are only like the four basic things and some girls might be picky and be focusing on something else but online dating in general takes effort. yeah, girls get tons of messages all the time, but their effort consists of having to dig through tons of genuinely awful human beings to find the few that are actually okay to talk to. there's always stuff that people have to get around or deal with on online dating sites. but if you're genuinely not getting any bites, chances are, you need to change something about how you're trying to communicate with people or you need to change something about your profile or your pictures.

[QUOTE=RoboChimp;52669816]Oh well, I guess there are no single women in the world.[/QUOTE] Honestly I think you should maybe let someone see a picture your profile in a PM or something and get some critique (if anyone is up for that). Chances are if you're getting absolutely zero hits, you've got something set up wrong. Else it might be that you expect too much - what kind of women do you contact (and more importantly, not contact)?

[QUOTE=Lebofly;52669830]Lmao that's pathetic, maybe there are no single women ONLINE that like you. Doesn't mean there isn't outside of your home[/QUOTE]Sorry, I thought the point Rhenae was making was that women get to pick and choose while us guys have to compete with John Cena's chin, Online and in the real world. [QUOTE=Pascall;52669832]To get the attention of anyone on any dating site you have to put forth a lot of effort to be: 1) different - girls get a lot of dumb as shit messages pretty much every day on okcupid. I had to filter out the dumbest ones a lot. 2) polite - don't go into a conversation expecting anything besides maybe a quick small talk 3) interesting - starting a conversation with "hi" or "hello" or "what's up" is boring! find something on their profile to open up with. "what's your favorite sci-fi movie" or "how are your studies at school going" if they post something about being in school or getting a degree or something like that. show them you wanna know about them. 4) attractive - because this is kind of a key to any online dating, your pictures have to be nice, you have to look like you have your shit together, you probably want to appear somewhat social and not have all your pictures in the bathroom these are only like the four basic things and some girls might be picky and be focusing on something else but online dating in general takes effort. yeah, girls get tons of messages all the time, but their effort consists of having to dig through tons of genuinely awful human beings to find the few that are actually okay to talk to. there's always stuff that people have to get around or deal with on online dating sites. but if you're genuinely not getting any bites, chances are, you need to change something about how you're trying to communicate with people or you need to change something about your profile or your pictures.[/QUOTE] I wrote this to one of them: [QUOTE]Hi I'm ***** I'm an aspiring VFX artist, like you with your graphic design, only you're much further ahead in your career. Regards[/QUOTE] Never got anything back. [QUOTE=GoDong-DK;52669883]Honestly I think you should maybe let someone see a picture your profile in a PM or something and get some critique (if anyone is up for that). Chances are if you're getting absolutely zero hits, you've got something set up wrong. Else it might be that you expect too much - what kind of women do you contact (and more importantly, not contact)?[/QUOTE]25 people(probably bots) liked my profile but I'm only going for girls I really like, I'm not dishonest enough to pretend to like someone out of pitty. They're mostly artistosh people, people who like shit I like, people I'd get on with in the real world, but most likely wouldn't be single. At the risk of getting photoshopped to death, here is the profile pic I'm using [url]https://i.imgur.com/5xiFCoR.jpg[/url]

[QUOTE=RoboChimp;52669932]Sorry, I thought the point Rhenae was making was that women get to pick and choose while us guys have to compete with John Cena's chin, Online and in the real world. [/quote] Well, to a degree women [I]do[/I] get to pick and choose (but you don't have to be John Cena). It's just the way it is, adapt to it. [quote] I wrote this to one of them: Never got anything back. [/quote] Well, you didn't really ask her anything did you? Like you're basically setting her up to ask you a question instead of the other way around. "Hey, here's something about me, AMA." [quote]25 people(probably bots) liked my profile but I'm only going for girls I really like, I'm not dishonest enough to pretend to like someone out of pitty. They're mostly artistosh people, people who like shit I like, people I'd get on with in the real world, but most likely wouldn't be single.[/quote] Well, you don't have to write someone out of pity, but maybe try to make sure you're not being too picky about how they look, what interests they have etc. People with vastly different interests can get along, too. [quote]At the risk of getting photoshopped to death, here is the profile pic I'm using [url]https://i.imgur.com/5xiFCoR.jpg[/url][/QUOTE] Well, you've posted that picture before, and to be completely blunt, get a new one. I mean, it's not dimly lit (which is a good thing), but it also kinda sends the message that you're alone in front of your computer all day. Maybe go on a short trip with one of your friends and take some pictures where you're outside and smiling? That way you get across that you're sociable and fun to be with. And considering you're on something more serious than Tinder, I'd say having a good description is important - maybe it gives out to many personal details to send it to someone on Facepunch, but yeah, try taking a critical look at it.

I have this picture: [URL]http://i1300.photobucket.com/albums/ag90/TheRoboChimp/DSC_0044_zpsvel9csw7.jpg.html[/URL] [URL]http://i1300.photobucket.com/albums/ag90/TheRoboChimp/12210852_1029774373741420_1647193104_o_zpse1p1wy2u.jpg.html[/URL] I'm gonna be really pissed if someone is photoshopping me.

[QUOTE=RoboChimp;52669975]I have this picture: [URL]http://i1300.photobucket.com/albums/ag90/TheRoboChimp/DSC_0044_zpsvel9csw7.jpg.html[/URL] [url]http://i1300.photobucket.com/albums/ag90/TheRoboChimp/12210852_1029774373741420_1647193104_o_zpse1p1wy2u.jpg.html[/url][/QUOTE] Well, I'd say the one with the hat is better than your current one - I mean obviously some people will be put off by that style, but others will appreciate that you're a bit different. But at the very least, it shows some personality which your current one doesn't imo. [B]But[/B], I'd still go out and take a new picture - it doesn't hurt to have more than one, and please for the love of God, whether it's the goofiest one ever or not, just [I]smile[/I]. Edit: And dude: [QUOTE=RoboChimp;52669975]I'm gonna be really pissed if someone is photoshopping me.[/QUOTE] The more you show you care about it, the higher the likelihood that someone will. Why anyone would in this thread, I don't know.

[QUOTE=Pascall;52669832]To get the attention of anyone on any dating site you have to put forth a lot of effort to be: 1) different - girls get a lot of dumb as shit messages pretty much every day on okcupid. I had to filter out the dumbest ones a lot. 2) polite - don't go into a conversation expecting anything besides maybe a quick small talk 3) interesting - starting a conversation with "hi" or "hello" or "what's up" is boring! find something on their profile to open up with. "what's your favorite sci-fi movie" or "how are your studies at school going" if they post something about being in school or getting a degree or something like that. show them you wanna know about them. 4) attractive - because this is kind of a key to any online dating, your pictures have to be nice, you have to look like you have your shit together, you probably want to appear somewhat social and not have all your pictures in the bathroom these are only like the four basic things and some girls might be picky and be focusing on something else but online dating in general takes effort. yeah, girls get tons of messages all the time, but their effort consists of having to dig through tons of genuinely awful human beings to find the few that are actually okay to talk to. there's always stuff that people have to get around or deal with on online dating sites. but if you're genuinely not getting any bites, chances are, you need to change something about how you're trying to communicate with people or you need to change something about your profile or your pictures.[/QUOTE] I've had a lot of people message me with very generic lines, including but not limited to: [QUOTE] [I]"Hello there"[/I] [I]"Hi"[/I] [I]"Hi sexy"[/I] [I]"hiiiiiiiiiiiii how r u "[/I] [I]"hi, how are you sweetie?"[/I][/QUOTE] Messages like those are an excellent way of making me not want to message you back, and I think this applies to most people. But on the flipside, try not to make the messages too unique, like this gem I once got: [QUOTE]"hello hello beauty, im the beast and i have been cursed!! haaha how are you doing? ;)"[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=GoDong-DK;52669991]Well, I'd say the one with the hat is better than your current one - I mean obviously some people will be put off by that style, but others will appreciate that you're a bit different. But at the very least, it shows some personality which your current one doesn't imo. [B]But[/B], I'd still go out and take a new picture - it doesn't hurt to have more than one, and please for the love of God, whether it's the goofiest one ever or not, just [I]smile[/I].[/QUOTE] This is a very important piece of advice as well, I find people look a [I]lot[/I] more attractive when they smile. It will help a lot to take pics with even a slight smile.

[QUOTE=GoDong-DK;52669991]Well, I'd say the one with the hat is better than your current one - I mean obviously some people will be put off by that style, but others will appreciate that you're a bit different. But at the very least, it shows some personality which your current one doesn't imo. [B]But[/B], I'd still go out and take a new picture - it doesn't hurt to have more than one, and please for the love of God, whether it's the goofiest one ever or not, just [I]smile[/I]. Edit: And dude: The more you show you care about it, the higher the likelihood that someone will. Why anyone would in this thread, I don't know.[/QUOTE]I'll shoot something when I go out next weekend. I'll say it's all good advice (expect for LordCrypto), but I don't know, I have a hard time imagining that this is gonna lead up to something.

Last week some lost girl asked me for directions while at the train station. She was going to the same station as me, and once in the train I realized it was one of those weird ones that skips the station we were going to. So I warned her about that, we left said train and started chatting, now I have a new friend and jog buddy :v: Seems like I'm not so bad at talking to strangers after all.

[QUOTE=RoboChimp;52669816]Oh well, I guess there are no single women in the world.[/QUOTE] "If you want better ratios you pretty much got to go for real life events and shit. Sucks but true, women just don't have as hard a time finding dates, that's how the whole dating culture is." excuse me you what [editline]fafdad[/editline] to be clear i was comparing "no single women in the world" to "go to real life events", not commenting on how dating apps work

I hate dry texters so much. I matched with a girl on tinder and she always replies and replies quick but doesn't give me jack shit to work with. Literally 2 word answers even when I'd say multiple sentences. Like at least pretend you're interested in talking to me smh.

[QUOTE=LordCrypto;52670746]"If you want better ratios you pretty much got to go for real life events and shit. Sucks but true, women just don't have as hard a time finding dates, that's how the whole dating culture is." excuse me you what[/QUOTE] This really is true, if there was a dating site with far more women than men, it would be really small, and it wouldn't stay that way for long once word gets out. If making the first move in a conversation bothers you, I would try Bumble, because on that one, only women can send the first message. I haven't had good experience with it though, I've opened it up and swiped and swiped and never even got a match, whereas people at least talked to me a bit on Tinder and OKC. I had a similar experience with the golden's "negativity" point [del]a few posts up[/del] on the last page. A girl actually started messaging me on OKC once, seemed fairly cute and interesting from her profile, but all she ever wanted to talk about was TV shows she was watching and how much various shows sucked. Plus she lived in the next state (outside my radius somehow) so I was like nah.

[QUOTE=The golden;52670338]5) If you're going to message me with "hi" or "what's up?" then just don't bother. Come back when you know you actually have something to talk about or seem more enthused than a piece of bread. 6) Being a downer all the time. Now this is a unique one because I personally do a lot of work with people with depression or other related issues. The problem is when people message me just to be miserable at me or anything like that. Where I feel like their only defining feature is that they are always miserable. I mean I don't want to be upset at a depressed person but when I don't know if you have other personality traits I have no idea what to do... I won't directly remove/block someone for this but it unfortunately kills the chances of holding a meaningful friendship and/or conversation.[/QUOTE] I have these problems. I don't have anything to talk about because my life is empty and joyless, there's no reason to live and nothing to look forward to, which is why I'm trying to not be alone anymore because that would give me something positive to focus on and something to look forward to. But I'll never get that if I'm depressed, and I'll never stop being depressed unless I get something good happening in my life. It's a terrible cycle and I don't see an immediate answer. I don't like anything and honestly I'm not worth anyone's time anyway because I have nothing to offer but sadness. Being with me would be an act of charity that someone would have to go out of their way to do and it wouldn't be good for them, so I don't blame anyone for not being interested in that. I've never gotten any replies to my messages to anyone on any dating thing, but I also haven't sent any recently or gotten a match anyway so it's not an issue right now but I mean I guess I gotta fix this to make any progress.

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;52670881]This really is true, if there was a dating site with far more women than men, it would be really small, and it wouldn't stay that way for long once word gets out. If making the first move in a conversation bothers you, I would try Bumble, because on that one, only women can send the first message. I haven't had good experience with it though, I've opened it up and swiped and swiped and never even got a match, whereas people at least talked to me a bit on Tinder and OKC. I had a similar experience with the golden's "negativity" point [del]a few posts up[/del] on the last page. A girl actually started messaging me on OKC once, seemed fairly cute and interesting from her profile, but all she ever wanted to talk about was TV shows she was watching and how much various shows sucked. Plus she lived in the next state (outside my radius somehow) so I was like nah.[/QUOTE] Bumble would probably work better if it didn't sort its users the way it does now. I've read [citation needed] that it doesn't hide inactive profiles from lists, and it shows profiles in order of most swipes to least. Such that the network is clogged with profiles from people who create an account but never revisit it, leading to millions of swipes that never go anywhere.

[QUOTE=J Paul;52670913]I have these problems. I don't have anything to talk about because my life is empty and joyless, there's no reason to live and nothing to look forward to, which is why I'm trying to not be alone anymore because that would give me something positive to focus on and something to look forward to. But I'll never get that if I'm depressed, and I'll never stop being depressed unless I get something good happening in my life. It's a terrible cycle and I don't see an immediate answer. I don't like anything and honestly I'm not worth anyone's time anyway because I have nothing to offer but sadness. Being with me would be an act of charity that someone would have to go out of their way to do and it wouldn't be good for them, so I don't blame anyone for not being interested in that. I've never gotten any replies to my messages to anyone on any dating thing, but I also haven't sent any recently or gotten a match anyway so it's not an issue right now but I mean I guess I gotta fix this to make any progress.[/QUOTE] You need to look at what you can give someone in a relationship. Its not a one way fix me up. What can you give your partner as well? Something you are knowledgable in? Something you find interesting? Humor? Whatever. Think about what qualities you want to find AND what qualities you can provide. Also try to do it from an outsid perspective without letting yourself say "nothing everything sucks because depression" been there, and it isn't helpful. You Can find stuff if you try.

[QUOTE=J Paul;52670913]I have these problems. I don't have anything to talk about because my life is empty and joyless, there's no reason to live and nothing to look forward to, which is why I'm trying to not be alone anymore because that would give me something positive to focus on and something to look forward to. But I'll never get that if I'm depressed, and I'll never stop being depressed unless I get something good happening in my life. It's a terrible cycle and I don't see an immediate answer. I don't like anything and honestly I'm not worth anyone's time anyway because I have nothing to offer but sadness. Being with me would be an act of charity that someone would have to go out of their way to do and it wouldn't be good for them, so I don't blame anyone for not being interested in that. I've never gotten any replies to my messages to anyone on any dating thing, but I also haven't sent any recently or gotten a match anyway so it's not an issue right now but I mean I guess I gotta fix this to make any progress.[/QUOTE] Hate to be that guy but you need to work on yourself before you can tackle a relationship. Find a hobby or something, that you can either yourself or with friends, as a starting point. Work on yourself, for yourself. Its not to say that you must be perfect before engaging in romantic activities but the way you sound now, it seems like even if you get a relationship, it would be used as a crutch

when starting a conversation on a dating thing be it tinder, or something like OKC, you have to take a decent look at their profile, see what shit they've got going on in their photos, ask about their hobbies and shit like that. you can't just expect conversation to fall in your lap and hit it off straight away. I've had a couple of matches on tinder that have gone a few different ways, most of them fade into nothing, but I've had 3 "successes" (for want of a better term). First one was a girl I matched with when I was at band practice waiting for members to turn up. I noticed that she worked in the same supermarket that I used to, she was wearing the uniform and I recognised the staff room in the background in one of the photos (5 years of going to the same room for lunch makes it memorable). we got to chatting and went on a date to see a movie. Not the best first date because there's not usually a chance for conversation, but we got there a little early, chatted the entire time we waited, during the trailers, a little during the film too and on the way back to hers so I could drop her off. I thought it went well, managed a kiss. Nothing more ever came of it though which was a shame. Second one was a match I got last year, she had her snapchat on her tinder profile so I added her on there. I would just send out random snaps as usual, one day I sent one out when I was watching Futurama and it could be seen in the background. She noticed, replied based on that and we struck up regular conversation from there. By coincidence my band happened to be going to where she lived to play a few gigs, and we ended up meeting up and hanging out at the show. She was rad as fuck, and I ended up going home with her (she recently told me it was cause I did puppy dog eyes at her, I didn't even realise I was doing that lel). We're still chatting too, I'd consider her a good m8. Third and most recent was a girl that I knew in passing from playing gigs. I'd seen her about but didn't really know her as such. But we matched, and because her profile had a couple of photos of her on stage, I asked what bands it was that she's in because I couldn't remember. Conversation went from there. Died off for a bit, but we ended up chatting more as a local festival came up that we were both playing at. We met up there, chatted a lot but it didn't really go anywhere because her boyfriend was there. They have an open relationship though, and last week we met up for coffee and hung out for a while, I ended up taking her home and we had some fun together. She's gone away to university now, but again by chance (I seem to be good at chance), I'm going to the same city to see a few bands in November, so we're going to hang out then too. Basically, you need to engage them with shit they're going to be interested in, you can't just state things and expect conversation to spring out of nowhere. Effort needs to come from both sides, but if you're starting it off then you need to give them something to respond to or it isn't going to go anywhere.

Guys, I think I dun fucked up. Just came back from a techno concert I went to with a friend. At some point while dancing some cute girl spilled some of her beer on me, she went "oh shit I'm really sorry", I replied without really thinking "it's no big deal, if you want I can hold your beer while you dance so you don't spill any more on me" - a kinda creepy offer in hindsight - she went "nah" and downed it all, "see, no beer, no problem". Half an hour later I see her a few meters away and she looks at me for five seconds with bedroom eyes. I guess I should have gone for it at this point, but I just smiled back and went back to my own business, didn't want to come across as desperate or whatever. After a while my pal proposes to go into a corner where the sound is clearer, she ends up following me there and dances a bit by my side, looking at me a few times. After a while she goes to my ear and asks "You like that?", so thinking she's just talking about the music I reply "Yeah, that's some really good bass" and then instead of following up on the conversation I didn't know what to say next and just kinda kept on dancing. At some point I guess she must have just thought I wasn't interested and left. So... How much of a retard am I? PS: I've never actually managed to end up with girls during concerts or in clubs or w/e, so I have no fucking clue how this shit works. Do you just dance on your own until someone takes interest in you and starts dancing with you? Do you have to be active and actually approach? Or is it the women who tend to approach first? Should I seek eye contact? I kinda feel like I'm missing a few pieces in my brain tbh, this shit looks like it's just natural for some of my friends and I have the impression I'm just not wired that way.

How do you go into chat-up mode Making friends I'm fucking S+ class at, but God knows I can't drop a simple "you look pretty" without getting clammy

you can always pick out something they're wearing and compliment that. one of the girls I'm chatting to sent me a snap and I noticed she was wearing a nice necklace, so I said as much. just gotta come out with that shit, just say some thing is nice, looks good or suits them, if it's something like jewellery you can always ask how long they've had it and that kind of shit too.

Well i need help.I having these weird dreams for a while and it a bout a girl that i knew when i was in high school.Here's the story so far, I dated this girl( Who's name is holly.) who is a friend of the girl that i am dreaming about. Last time I talk to Caroline, (the girl I'm dreaming about) she said she was jealous that she didn't get to go out with me instead of holly. But Caroline and I was friends for a while till I moved to another school. But in my dreams I dated caroline and not holly. I don't know whats going on these types of dreams keeps popping up.

[QUOTE=_Axel;52671902]Guys, I think I dun fucked up. Just came back from a techno concert I went to with a friend. At some point while dancing some cute girl spilled some of her beer on me, she went "oh shit I'm really sorry", I replied without really thinking "it's no big deal, if you want I can hold your beer while you dance so you don't spill any more on me" - a kinda creepy offer in hindsight - she went "nah" and downed it all, "see, no beer, no problem". Half an hour later I see her a few meters away and she looks at me for five seconds with bedroom eyes. I guess I should have gone for it at this point, but I just smiled back and went back to my own business, didn't want to come across as desperate or whatever. After a while my pal proposes to go into a corner where the sound is clearer, she ends up following me there and dances a bit by my side, looking at me a few times. After a while she goes to my ear and asks "You like that?", so thinking she's just talking about the music I reply "Yeah, that's some really good bass" and then instead of following up on the conversation I didn't know what to say next and just kinda kept on dancing. At some point I guess she must have just thought I wasn't interested and left. So... How much of a retard am I? PS: I've never actually managed to end up with girls during concerts or in clubs or w/e, so I have no fucking clue how this shit works. Do you just dance on your own until someone takes interest in you and starts dancing with you? Do you have to be active and actually approach? Or is it the women who tend to approach first? Should I seek eye contact? I kinda feel like I'm missing a few pieces in my brain tbh, this shit looks like it's just natural for some of my friends and I have the impression I'm just not wired that way.[/QUOTE] I wish I hadn't read that :hammered:

[QUOTE=Lebofly;52672062]I wish I hadn't read that :hammered:[/QUOTE] Damn, it's that cringy? Fuck.

[QUOTE=dcalde78;52671850]when starting a conversation on a dating thing be it tinder, or something like OKC, you have to take a decent look at their profile, see what shit they've got going on in their photos, ask about their hobbies and shit like that. you can't just expect conversation to fall in your lap and hit it off straight away. I've had a couple of matches on tinder that have gone a few different ways, most of them fade into nothing, but I've had 3 "successes" (for want of a better term). [/QUOTE] I started convos with girls on tinder like this and noticed that they like it when you're clever about something in their pictures or profile. I just started fucking around one day and noticed that I got more replies to my jokey messages so maybe that helps.

[QUOTE=_Axel;52671902]After a while she goes to my ear and asks "You like that?"..."Yeah, that's some really good bass" [/QUOTE] :hypeisnotreal:

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;52670881]This really is true, if there was a dating site with far more women than men, it would be really small, and it wouldn't stay that way for long once word gets out. If making the first move in a conversation bothers you, I would try Bumble, because on that one, only women can send the first message. I haven't had good experience with it though, I've opened it up and swiped and swiped and never even got a match, whereas people at least talked to me a bit on Tinder and OKC. I had a similar experience with the golden's "negativity" point [del]a few posts up[/del] on the last page. A girl actually started messaging me on OKC once, seemed fairly cute and interesting from her profile, but all she ever wanted to talk about was TV shows she was watching and how much various shows sucked. Plus she lived in the next state (outside my radius somehow) so I was like nah.[/QUOTE]I can message them, but if they get the pick of the litter and I have to pick girls I have nothing in common with and barely find attractive, what's the point if all the woman I like don't like me and are too arrogant to tell me. I may as well be send letters to chat bots. Where are all these women getting dates, if there weren't more men than women, why is it so easy for them to get dates? And to be honest that level of arrogance and pomposity makes me think I shouldn't bother with online dating. Sales is probably what I'm worst at, I don't have anything other guys don't have, I was just hoping that there would be some compatibility that they'd pick up on. Perhaps I should just get better at asking them out in the real world. 90% of the matches either have nothing in common or aren't that attractive.

i don't know how to talk to people on dating sites:s:

Girls are more likely to go out on dates but their dates are more likely to be god awful, fam. Just because they're GETTING dates doesn't mean they're getting anything out of them. I know plenty of girl friends who have gone out on dates with online matchups only to realize that the guy is either gross, rude, psychotic, violent, or depressing. Like I said earlier, girls have to dig through so much garbage to find people they actually connect with. Which kind of sounds like what you're doing. Girls get to be picky just like you get to be picky. And if you're not bringing a whole lot to the table then you're gonna get passed over more often than not. You have to re-evaluate how you're coming across and if it's not in a good light, then you're gonna get avoided.