Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

[QUOTE=Kabstrac;52692247]Can't look at OkCupid profile, but tinder one seems okay. I'd get rid of the one where you're sitting in the grass though, it's kind of an awkward pic. Also find or take more pics of you smiling![/QUOTE] Nooooo I like that one it looks like a model photo! Get a photo where you smile with your teeth tho dude that would round all that out nicely. Your first photo on Tinder looks sorta awkward, would maybe swap it for something else. Add a shirtless pic.... Ok don't actually but I had to say it anyway Can you post a screenshot of your OKCupid? I finally remembered to delete the profile I had and now I cant see it

[QUOTE=Rhenae;52692880] Get a photo where you smile with your teeth tho dude that would round all that out nicely.[/QUOTE] just want to say, this makes a HUGE difference. I'm currently doing online dating and i changed my profile picture from one where i thought i looked cool and suave, to one where i'm laughing with a smile couple of girls have commented on how nice i look because of it. it really does help (including this rather large 31 year old women who wants kids who won't leave me alone and keeps messaging [I]"hey :)"[/I] )

[QUOTE=_Maverick_;52692914]just want to say, this makes a HUGE difference. I'm currently doing online dating and i changed my profile picture from one where i thought i looked cool and suave, to one where i'm laughing with a smile couple of girls have commented on how nice i look because of it. it really does help (including this rather large 31 year old women who wants kids who won't leave me alone and keeps messaging [I]"hey :)"[/I] )[/QUOTE] Show your pic here The forum demands it

[QUOTE=hakimhakim;52692933]Show your pic here The forum demands it[/QUOTE] oh fuck no.

I wish I could smile in a way that doesn't make me look slightly special needs Like seriously whenever I'm just naturally laughing at something or having fun it looks fine but as soon as I'm trying to force it all bets are off.

[QUOTE=papkee;52692966]I wish I could smile in a way that doesn't make me look slightly special needs Like seriously whenever I'm just naturally laughing at something or having fun it looks fine but as soon as I'm trying to force it all bets are off.[/QUOTE] Tell me about it. Even when I smile with open mouth, my eyes say 'kill me'.

[QUOTE=papkee;52692966]I wish I could smile in a way that doesn't make me look slightly special needs Like seriously whenever I'm just naturally laughing at something or having fun it looks fine but as soon as I'm trying to force it all bets are off.[/QUOTE] I get around this by just laughing about them trying to take a picture of me. Or make them take enough, one of them will work out.

[QUOTE=Kindlinho;52693005]Tell me about it. Even when I smile with open mouth, my eyes say 'kill me'.[/QUOTE] Make sure to squint your eyes? That's like 90% of it. [QUOTE=hakimhakim;52692933]Show your pic here The forum demands it[/QUOTE] [URL]https://i.imgur.com/7haBflO.jpg[/URL] if you really must see

[QUOTE=_Maverick_;52693069][URL]https://i.imgur.com/7haBflO.jpg[/URL] if you really must see[/QUOTE] For what it's worth I think you're good looking. [sp]hey :)[/sp]

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;52692383]I think that's an important distinction to make, sexism doesn't just mean treating the other sex like shit and openly belittling them. It's basically any kind of thought or behavior indicating that one sex deserves preferential ([B]or hell, even DIFFERENT[/B]) treatment over the other. [/quote] Would just like to point out though, equality isn't necessarily treating everyone identically, it's ensuring the outcome is the same. To take the cliche old example it isn't forcing everyone to use the stairs, it's putting in a lift so everyone can get to the top floor - this is treating people differently and I think that's ok because different people have different needs.

[QUOTE=uber.;52693282]For what it's worth I think you're good looking. [sp]hey :)[/sp][/QUOTE] Well thank you very much. SEE GUYS IT'S THE SMILE! THE SMILE CHANGES EVERYTHING!

[QUOTE=_Maverick_;52693069] [URL]https://i.imgur.com/7haBflO.jpg[/URL] if you really must see[/QUOTE] Added to Moderator database, thank you for your cooperation.

[QUOTE=OvB;52693301]Added to Moderator database, thank you for your cooperation.[/QUOTE] Well that sounds worrisome :v:

A good haircut can make anyone more appealing. For example, me a few months ago and a few weeks ago (ignore the guitar face). I've had a lot of compliments on how much a shaved head suited me, though I don't have the beard any more even though I would have liked to keep it, I prefer not having to wear a beard net at work. [IMG]http://i66.tinypic.com/2w2okrt.png[/IMG]

[QUOTE=dcalde78;52693443]A good haircut can make anyone more appealing. For example, me a few months ago and a few weeks ago (ignore the guitar face). I've had a lot of compliments on how much a shaved head suited me, though I don't have the beard any more even though I would have liked to keep it, I prefer not having to wear a beard net at work. [IMG]http://i66.tinypic.com/2w2okrt.png[/IMG][/QUOTE] youve got a good head and face for being buzzed, i like it

pretty much everyone that's seen me that knew me with my hair has said that I suited the buzzcut, so I'm thinking to get it done again tomorrow as it's grown out a surprising amount in the last 3 weeks. managed to raise a good chunk of change for charity by shaving it as well which I'm proud of.

[QUOTE=Rhenae;52692880]Nooooo I like that one it looks like a model photo![/QUOTE] Sounds like that is a pretty hit or miss pic :v: Fun fact, it was actually taken by a tree. [QUOTE]Get a photo where you smile with your teeth tho dude that would round all that out nicely.[/QUOTE] Yeah like others said it's kinda hard to get that one right, my teeth are okay but doing a smile like that without it feeling forced is hard. Will keep trying though. [QUOTE]Your first photo on Tinder looks sorta awkward, would maybe swap it for something else.[/QUOTE] Damn, alright, someone on reddit said I give a "deer in headlights" impression, is that the vibe it's giving off? [QUOTE]Can you post a screenshot of your OKCupid? I finally remembered to delete the profile I had and now I cant see it[/QUOTE] [url=https://imgur.com/a/qIPYE]Here[/url] [editline]18th September 2017[/editline] Also, update on this: [QUOTE=_Axel;52685712]-story-[/QUOTE] I saw her again today, she noticed me first and waved at me excitedly while smiling. So I guess she at least enjoys my company. Talked for 15 minutes before class, then we sat next to each other during it. The whole hair fiddling thing seems to just be something she does, she did it often during class, so unless she was expecting me to look at her I suppose that's irrelevant? We crossed each other's eyes a couple times unprompted and were both smiling, I noticed she turned her head in my direction often, but the third time she was actually watching in a different direction so I stopped looking at her when she's doing it cause that's kinda awkward. One funny thing is that body language was one of the themes of the class, the teacher even mentioned infatuation as a situation where you overanalyze that sort of thing lol. The two of us joked about BL by pretending to copy the poses that were being shown. Overall lots of joking and laughing so that's cool. Also lots of one-on-one conversations during the day, even when there were other friends with us we often walked a bit apart from the group while talking. One thing I noticed is that she tends to look elsewhere when she's speaking and only looks at me near the end of her sentences or when I'm the one speaking. Kinda teased her on her height when back in the bus cause she intentionally picked a slightly more elevated seat, she jokingly pretended to sulk. I'm not even sure whether she's attracted to me is that important to me anymore, she's just nice to hang out with regardless.

So I met a guy on OKCupid and we've been talking to each other for 3 days now and I'm still not sure if I made it clear that I'm real interested in him or not. Like, I haven't really specified that I'm looking for a partner or not and I feel like if I just outright stated this right now, It'd be real awkward.

[QUOTE=GeneralMastiff;52694015]So I met a guy on OKCupid and we've been talking to each other for 3 days now and I'm still not sure if I made it clear that I'm real interested in him or not. Like, I haven't really specified that I'm looking for a partner or not and I feel like if I just outright stated this right now, It'd be real awkward.[/QUOTE] Maybe you should just ask him out? I mean if he's on OKC it's probably not just to make friends, you can check what he's looking for by looking on his profile.

[QUOTE=_Axel;52694041]Maybe you should just ask him out? I mean if he's on OKC it's probably not just to make friends, you can check what he's looking for by looking on his profile.[/QUOTE] Well it does say looking for Short/Long term Dating and Friends so I don't really know. Maybe I should just go for it and bring it up.

[QUOTE=_Axel;52694041]Maybe you should just ask him out? I mean if he's on OKC it's probably not just to make friends, you can check what he's looking for by looking on his profile.[/QUOTE] I'm not entirely sure but my experience with OKC was pretty fucked up, it's filled with rather curious individual which is actually not a bad thing but some people are seriously fucked up. Most of them do not even know what they want, well like a lot of people do but out of all the apps, this was the one that was the least successful for me. Although I met one girl that is super special and we were together for quite some time and even made a trip with her to Romania where she originated.

[QUOTE=_Axel;52693861]Sounds like that is a pretty hit or miss pic :v: Yeah like others said it's kinda hard to get that one right, my teeth are okay but doing a smile like that without it feeling forced is hard. Will keep trying though. Damn, alright, someone on reddit said I give a "deer in headlights" impression, is that the vibe it's giving off? [url=https://imgur.com/a/qIPYE]Here[/url] [editline]18th September 2017[/editline] Also, update on this: I saw her again today, she noticed me first and waved at me excitedly while smiling. So I guess she at least enjoys my company. Talked for 15 minutes before class, then we sat next to each other during it. The whole hair fiddling thing seems to just be something she does, she did it often during class, so unless she was expecting me to look at her I suppose that's irrelevant? We crossed each other's eyes a couple times unprompted and were both smiling, I noticed she turned her head in my direction often, but the third time she was actually watching in a different direction so I stopped looking at her when she's doing it cause that's kinda awkward. One funny thing is that body language was one of the themes of the class, the teacher even mentioned infatuation as a situation where you overanalyze that sort of thing lol. The two of us joked about BL by pretending to copy the poses that were being shown. Overall lots of joking and laughing so that's cool. Also lots of one-on-one conversations during the day, even when there were other friends with us we often walked a bit apart from the group while talking. One thing I noticed is that she tends to look elsewhere when she's speaking and only looks at me near the end of her sentences or when I'm the one speaking. Kinda teased her on her height when back in the bus cause she intentionally picked a slightly more elevated seat, she jokingly pretended to sulk. I'm not even sure whether she's attracted to me is that important to me anymore, she's just nice to hang out with regardless.[/QUOTE] I've never used OKCupid before but it feels to me like I'm reading a resume or a paper you'd submit to a college about yourself. If I was you, I'd dumb it down a little because some of it looks like you're just trying to flex your smarts.

[QUOTE=GeneralMastiff;52694063]Well it does say looking for Short/Long term Dating and Friends so I don't really know. Maybe I should just go for it and bring it up.[/QUOTE] That's the default setting, I think you should assume he's there to date since that's the reason most people go there in the first place. [editline]18th September 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=Ghost_Nixon;52694071]I've never used OKCupid before but it feels to me like I'm reading a resume or a paper you'd submit to a college about yourself. If I was you, I'd dumb it down a little because some of it looks like you're just trying to flex your smarts.[/QUOTE] Is that because of the wording or mentioning my studies?

[QUOTE=_Axel;52694089]That's the default setting, I think you should assume he's there to date since that's the reason most people go there in the first place. [editline]18th September 2017[/editline] Is that because of the wording or mentioning my studies?[/QUOTE] The wording, it feels very academia and like you're trying to fit a word limit. Also it says that you're 20 in your bio but it says that you're 21, that stuff just irked me when people had those inconsistencies.

Fuck I missed that spot when editing... Thanks for the heads up. Dunno about the writing style thing, I guess I could trim it down. I think it sounds sophisticated because the Latin-based words are the closest to French and they sound fancier than regular English.

Well, I took your advice and it worked. I asked him out and he said yes! Now we just have to plan for a date and it'll be set.

[QUOTE=_Axel;52694198]Fuck I missed that spot when editing... Thanks for the heads up. Dunno about the writing style thing, I guess I could trim it down. I think it sounds sophisticated because the Latin-based words are the closest to French and they sound fancier than regular English.[/QUOTE] Well, they do score more points in PET, TOEFL, IELTS and the rest :v:

[QUOTE=GeneralMastiff;52694270]Well, I took your advice and it worked. I asked him out and he said yes! Now we just have to plan for a date and it'll be set.[/QUOTE] There ya go, have fun!

Is there a point in time where it's too late to try to reconnect with people? Long story short: I had three great friends/acquaintances during last Spring's semester in college, and I was expecting to see one of them over the Summer, since we were taking classes at the same time on the same campus. So I didn't really bother asking for numbers or facebook or anything, since I have a few social issues with aspergers and figured "I'll have a whole month to talk to her and then we can make plans to hang out altogether." But that never happened, since her class got cancelled and moved, and our other two friends had ended up transferring to a different college, and I've been hesitant on trying to find a way to reach out to them. So now, I have no contact with any of them, but I might be able to find two of them on facebook or talking to some of their other friends still on my campus, and I just don't know if it's appropriate to do that or if things will be the same because of the time that had passed. I haven't done that yet because I worry that things were only so great because we were all at the same place at the same time, and now that our paths split, things won't really go back to how they were.

[QUOTE=_Axel;52693861]Sounds like that is a pretty hit or miss pic :v: Fun fact, it was actually taken by a tree. Yeah like others said it's kinda hard to get that one right, my teeth are okay but doing a smile like that without it feeling forced is hard. Will keep trying though. Damn, alright, someone on reddit said I give a "deer in headlights" impression, is that the vibe it's giving off? [url=https://imgur.com/a/qIPYE]Here[/url] [.[/QUOTE] Try to more pic and post here Try to take one with a friend, smile/grin with an arm wrapped around them to give a friendly vibe. The smile will come naturally We'll try to choose the best ones 4 u