Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

[QUOTE=Bathtub;52713142]I've got a situation. Me and my girlfriend have the same primary friend group. We're at college, so parties happen almost every night. I have absolutely no interest in parties, I'd 100% always rather just stay in my dorm with my friends and drink and just hang out. The issue is that my girlfriend wants to go to parties (idk why), and she thinks I get upset when everyone leaves me to go out, which is true. I guess my question is, am I supposed to compromise? I figure it would be good for me to just let myself trust her to make good decisions at a party because I don't want to go, but she doesn't believe that I'm okay.[/QUOTE] I hate dancing nor I do dance - but I still go to nightclubs and parties a lot because you can always just sit down and drink and chat to people, pretty much same as: [B]"my friends and drink and just hang out"[/B] just with different people, meet new people too. Have you gone to parties? Why do you dislike them?

[QUOTE=arleitiss;52713162]I hate dancing nor I do dance - but I still go to nightclubs and parties a lot because you can always just sit down and drink and chat to people, pretty much same as: [B]"my friends and drink and just hang out"[/B] just with different people, meet new people too. Have you gone to parties? Why do you dislike them?[/QUOTE] I don't really know what constitutes a party, I've gone to medium-sized (40-60 people) get togethers. I dislike them because I get overwhelmed pretty easily around a ton of social interaction, I much prefer a group of like 5-10 people just hanging out. I think I'm gonna go out with people at least once so I know exactly what its like, and I'd like to be proven wrong so this isn't a problem, I just don't expect myself to enjoy it.

I already compromise with my friends. Sometimes they'll wanna hit the clubs, get wasted, all that good jazz. So I tag along, though I don't necessarily get wasted with them. Then other times, I just want to hit the local pub where it's quiet, so they'll go with me. You can apply this to your relationship as well. Compromise. Sometimes you two could go to one of these parties, then another time, just stay at home alone or with a few friends. Seems fair to me.

yeah, y'all are right. she's worth me leaving my comfort zone every once in awhile.

Just got back from my girlfriends sisters wedding in Lithuania! I met the family for the first time, they seem to like me and I had an awesome time even though I was tired from the travelling. Her grandmother said I had her permission to marry her granddaughter :v:

Eh, feeling kind of empty right now. My girlfriend broke up with me yesterday. It didn't really hit me yesterday, but right now it has, and it's really sucky. Her reason was that she still has too many personal issues that she needs to solve, and doesn't want to depend on me while doing so. But that she still loves me very much. Honestly, I don't understand it, I tried to tell her that part of being in a relationship is supporting each other in dealing with their issues. She didn't listen. She said she probably wont find someone better than me and would want to come back to me when she's dealt with her issues and recovered. She didn't know when that would be either. I'm trying to get this off my mind, but it's hard. I even had a "nightmare" last night of her being with other dudes, and ugh. I can't stand it. Ugh, fuck my romantic life right now. I miss her.

been seriously considering spending the $15 just to grab tinder gold so I can cut the shit and get some results.

Tinder is mainly for young people. I get more swipes near my college than I do my hometown. I imagine if you live in NYC or some other big city it'd be worth it to pay money to use it seriously because it's easier to meet people and easier to sort through the masses. Although, I've used OkCupid a couple times and gotten some pretty interesting results with people. With OkCupid it's easier to talk to people then match with them as opposed to tinder where it has to be mutual before you can start talking. 15 bucks isn't too bad though if you're just going to see what it's like. I don't know anyone who has bought into either app. If you pay for Tinder, are you guaranteed a chance to talk to someone or is it that they promote your profile?

[QUOTE=blacksam;52713797]Tinder is mainly for young people. I get more swipes near my college than I do my hometown. I imagine if you live in NYC or some other big city it'd be worth it to pay money to use it seriously because it's easier to meet people and easier to sort through the masses. Although, I've used OkCupid a couple times and gotten some pretty interesting results with people. With OkCupid it's easier to talk to people then match with them as opposed to tinder where it has to be mutual before you can start talking. 15 bucks isn't too bad though if you're just going to see what it's like. I don't know anyone who has bought into either app. If you pay for Tinder, are you guaranteed a chance to talk to someone or is it that they promote your profile?[/QUOTE] I've been using Plenty of fish. I don't know if it's available in the US but I've been doing really well from it.

[QUOTE=redBadger;52713704]been seriously considering spending the $15 just to grab tinder gold so I can cut the shit and get some results.[/QUOTE] For how long have you been using it? It takes a while for people to swipe through everyone ever, so I still got matches at the same rate one month after I stopped swiping. And well, that was just the last time I checked.

[QUOTE=GoDong-DK;52713910]For how long have you been using it? It takes a while for people to swipe through everyone ever, so I still got matches at the same rate one month after I stopped swiping. And well, that was just the last time I checked.[/QUOTE] I've been using it on and off for a few months with very little success. i figure I can at least try the gold version, see who swipped me and see if I can connect with anyone a bit more instantly.

I went back home a couple weeks ago because of hurricane Irma and hung out with the girl I was seeing there over the summer. Now she's freaking out saying she thinks she's pregnant from me. haha ha fuck

anyone got advice on ending a friendship? im fucking done with everything they've made me deal with and i finally want to cut the cord, the only problem is the nice side of me is making me scared to do it

[QUOTE=ljh;52713429]Eh, feeling kind of empty right now. My girlfriend broke up with me yesterday. It didn't really hit me yesterday, but right now it has, and it's really sucky. Her reason was that she still has too many personal issues that she needs to solve, and doesn't want to depend on me while doing so. But that she still loves me very much. Honestly, I don't understand it, I tried to tell her that part of being in a relationship is supporting each other in dealing with their issues. She didn't listen. She said she probably wont find someone better than me and would want to come back to me when she's dealt with her issues and recovered. She didn't know when that would be either. I'm trying to get this off my mind, but it's hard. I even had a "nightmare" last night of her being with other dudes, and ugh. I can't stand it. Ugh, fuck my romantic life right now. I miss her.[/QUOTE] I understand where she is, and where your at too. It takes time to get past something man, try not to worry about it too much for now. Its gonna suck for a while but over time it gets less sucky

It's an age/availability thing for dating apps and it's definitely region based too. So POF may work for one person in some X location whereas it won't work for someone in Y location. I think with any dating app it comes down to what you want, what your profile description is, and what your pics are. So if you're looking for MILF's locally, I'd hit up OkCupid. I don't think paying for apps is going to win you the most beautiful perfect person for you, it might, but I don't think it will unless they're paying for it too on say like JDate or Match.com. I think this speaks more to the current state of dating apps and selection. So if people are paying for a service, I think you're more likely to find them to want to meet up. I could be speaking entirely out of my ass here. Basically the big takeaway here is find a popular app people are using to meet up near you and just have a decent bio and pics.

I'm starting my second year of college and I haven't made any friends yet. I'm not, like, an unfriendly person. I'm a little anxious and stiff but I try, and people tend to like me during their first impression. I just can't make friends at all, it's completely impossible. Something in the process just doesn't work for me, and I don't know what it is. I'm lonely as fuck and it's making me depressed past what my meds can handle for me.

[QUOTE=AtomicSans;52714578]I'm starting my second year of college and I haven't made any friends yet. I'm not, like, an unfriendly person. I'm a little anxious and stiff but I try, and people tend to like me during their first impression. I just can't make friends at all, it's completely impossible. Something in the process just doesn't work for me, and I don't know what it is. I'm lonely as fuck and it's making me depressed past what my meds can handle for me.[/QUOTE] spend more time outside. im on my 3rd year of college. in the first two years, I remained in my dorm for much of the time studying and playing and stuff. met a good ~20 people, with ~3-5 of remaining my good friends This year, the only thing I did different was studying and doing stuff in our public "end" lounges, which are shared spaces in our dorm buildings. the first month isnt over yet, and I met a good ~30 people and I have already gotten quite friendly with about 5 of them. So lets it put it this way. With varying how social/shy/humorous/etc you could be, lets estimate that with every 25 people you meet, 1 of them could become your friend. So the solution is to basically maximize your chances with bumping into other people. you just have to keep trying, and do what you can to increase those odds. attend your dorm meetings, go to clubs, things that force you to interact with others.

[QUOTE=da space core;52714607]spend more time outside. im on my 3rd year of college. in the first two years, I remained in my dorm for much of the time studying and playing and stuff. met a good ~20 people, with ~3-5 of remaining my good friends This year, the only thing I did different was studying and doing stuff in our public "end" lounges, which are shared spaces in our dorm buildings. the first month isnt over yet, and I met a good ~30 people and I have already gotten quite friendly with about 5 of them. So lets it put it this way. With varying how social/shy/humorous/etc you could be, lets estimate that with every 25 people you meet, 1 of them could become your friend. So the solution is to basically maximize your chances with bumping into other people. you just have to keep trying, and do what you can to increase those odds. attend your dorm meetings, go to clubs, things that force you to interact with others.[/QUOTE] That's the thing though, last year I did all that stuff and it still didn't work. I just drop off of peoples' radar as soon as I leave their line of sight. I feel like I hit it off with people and then I never hear from them again. And I'm barely even going to have social opportunities this year. I'm living in an apartment with two other guys, both of whom seem to dislike me from the get go. Something has to just be wrong with me. Other people do this so effortlessly and I don't know where to begin.

I really hate the feeling of seeing someone on tinder and finding them extremely cool and wanting to message them on their linked instagram but don't want to come off as a creep. It sucks having to wait for the slim chance they swipe you back. Like not even trying to get into a relationship but the person seems so cool to talk to and be friends with. Really sucks.

[QUOTE=redBadger;52714696]I really hate the feeling of seeing someone on tinder and finding them extremely cool and wanting to message them on their linked instagram but don't want to come off as a creep. It sucks having to wait for the slim chance they swipe you back. Like not even trying to get into a relationship but the person seems so cool to talk to and be friends with. Really sucks.[/QUOTE] Sounds like you're making the mistake of looking through all their pictures and reading their bio before even deciding whether to swipe. The best method is to rapid-fire swipes based on immediate attraction, sort out matches (if any) once your 100 likes are up, and THEN worry about getting a solid impression of the person. If their bio has red flags or dealbreakers, you can always unmatch after. The longer you spend dwelling on a match (or even a potential match), the more time you have to get your hopes up and set yourself up for disappointment. It's better if you assume each person is a non-match (since most people will be) and be pleasantly surprised by the ones who aren't.

I keep a little whiteboard on my dorm door that I often write silly messages or jokes on, and I leave a marker there so passersbys can also write and draw stuff on it. Tonight I came back to it, and I saw written in a corner "secret admirer <3" and it made me feel better about my stressful day. Small acts of kindness are always great

[QUOTE=Spetsnaz95;52710982]Asking again. Sorry.[/QUOTE] Depends. If you're good socially maybe he'll even give you promotions for being a good family's friend [editline]25th September 2017[/editline] Had quite a weird company lately. So I've started to text message and calls a girl who's a model this month. If I have to rate I'll give her 8-9/10. She called me and sort of hinting to ask me to come over (saying that she's lonely and complimented my looks yada yada) but I can tell she's pretty awkward. Not really helps that I answered her with high strung voice because I thought somebody called from work for emergencies haha. But after that week, she kind of stopped updating social media wall, and havent been online for a while. Probably because internet is quite dodgy in our state. Quite sure she hasnt blocked me either. Tried to call her to ask whats up, but seems like she always turned off her phone. So I figured that number is her 2nd alt number she used to fool around. But yesterday she miscalled me, but didnt answer because I was having dinner. I called her back, and she sounds like she's quite busy doing something and the call abruptly end. Not sure what she's thinking. Maybe she lost interest? Or prolly just busy? Give up on this girl?

First day of uni here A Chinese girl took out two cans of Coca-Cola and straight up offered me one, so I felt the need to add her on FB to repay my debt in the future And I also got in touch with three other people, two of which I had already met the day of the admission test, and the other whom I just left at the train station. We got lunch together I have a great feeling about this new part of my life, hope it lasts

Here is how I have found dating websites to be: POF: Very easy to get into conversations with people, but a lot of women there are about as interesting as a shovel. OKC: High quality conversations and great matches, but barrier for getting a conversation started is very high. Tinder: Pretty much in my city it's used as the one night stand tool, you must look good or you're going to go nowhere. I've only paid into OKC because it had great value, but then they incorporated a lot of the A+ features into the free experience. POF paid is a fucking freemium game. Tinder I haven't even bothered, but I think it's just match priority.

OKC seems good but a majority of the girls I've seen on the site are just not my type. And by not my type I mean they're incredibly large

[QUOTE=redBadger;52716206]OKC seems good but a majority of the girls I've seen on the site are just not my type. And by not my type I mean they're incredibly large[/QUOTE] OKC is probably the the most diverse. If anything; Plenty of Fish should be renamed Plenty of Flesh or Plenty of Whales, as I've seen more bigger women there outside of their bbw filter. Which is no big deal for me, as I like em big :q:

i made an account on OKC, answered some questions and it said i'm less friendly than most users :frown:

[QUOTE=BackSapper;52716486]OKC is probably the the most diverse. If anything; Plenty of Fish should be renamed Plenty of Flesh or Plenty of Whales, as I've seen more bigger women there outside of their bbw filter. Which is no big deal for me, as I like em big :q:[/QUOTE] Just sucks you have to pay to filter out preferences

[QUOTE=redBadger;52716563]Just sucks you have to pay to filter out preferences[/QUOTE] [img]https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/361978083034660866/361978179201531905/unknown.png[/img] Free feature on POF. Paid on OKC though. Guess your town is flooded with horny fat chicks, sorry to hear.

So my girlfriend and I signed up to a competition where we need to present a project. Close to the end, I was getting worried she wasnt able to handle her side and in conversation suggested we get another person to help and this led to a terrible situation where I didn't support her. Am I a terrible boyfriend, what should I do?