Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

[QUOTE=redBadger;52724798]So how exactly does tinder boosts work? I used my free one yesterday and apparently got a swipe with it today[/QUOTE] It drastically increases the likelihood of you appearing towards the top of peoples' card stacks that randomly generate when they start up the app, making more people see you. That's all it does.

[QUOTE=BackSapper;52724910]Her first comment was very much back talk. She's done this to me multiple times, of which I've chose to ignore. I've literally tried my best to tell her that body image doesn't matter to me in my partner for the past month. I even told her that if anything, my personal body image puts me to shame for how fit she is and I wanted to change it if we were to continue. I'm salty about it because she used it as an attack with the back talk. Lady, I'm being polite about this because I care about you, not because i'm abandoning you. Sigh.[/QUOTE] She's just overly defensive, even if you mean well she won't take it that way. that's how some people are until they get comfortable with you, honestly though don't let it affect you, just do what makes you happy at the end of the day. She wanted to "take it slow", you don't have to put your life on hold for someone that doesn't want you (She'd be with you if she wanted to), it's her bad luck if you find happiness else where

so i moved into a new place recently, and wanted to see how loud i could play my music during the day without annoying my neighbors since in my last place i had inadvertently done so a couple times. i turned my music up to the levels i'd like to be able to listen to it at and went to ask my downstairs neighbor if it was okay. a pretty cute girl opened the door and was surprised at how nice it was that i was actually cared enough to ask them. she seemed cool from the small chat we had, but we didn't exchange names. would it be weird for me to go back down there tomorrow and more formally introduce myself? like, i don't even care if she doesn't want to date or any shit like that, i've just been feeling like expanding my social circle some and i'd like to get to know her. [editline]27th September 2017[/editline] this is a college town, in an apartment right next to the school, and though i don't know for certain i am pretty damn sure she is attending the same school i am, if that makes any difference

I'm not sure but i think my classmate likes me, and we haven't talked yet. What should I do? Where do I start?

What makes you think so?

[QUOTE=pendragon;52725282]I'm not sure but i think my classmate likes me, and we haven't talked yet. What should I do? Where do I start?[/QUOTE] If you havent talked yet, get to know them first. No point feeling pressure to start something if you dont know them yet imo. Who knows, they might be a jerk. I hope not ofc but you get the point.

yall ever been in a position where you fell in love with your partner before they fell in love with you what do i do lol

Got a girl's phone number, I repeat, this loser managed to get a girl's phone number :dance:

[QUOTE=_Maverick_;52725815]Got a girl's phone number, I repeat, this loser managed to get a girl's phone number :dance:[/QUOTE] Congrats, loser :dance:

[QUOTE=Loth;52725345]If you havent talked yet, get to know them first. No point feeling pressure to start something if you dont know them yet imo. Who knows, they might be a jerk. I hope not ofc but you get the point.[/QUOTE] should I start with adding her on social media or talking face to face? I might be really anxious while talking to a girl.

[QUOTE=pendragon;52726196]should I start with adding her on social media or talking face to face? I might be really anxious while talking to a girl.[/QUOTE] Talk face to face.

Heh. Had this idea to apologize to my uni crush (I used to write about her a lot in the depression thread, basically it ended up with drunken me saying lots of mean things to her after our last and final argument, or more like a shitstorm), since I learned that a friend of mine (also a girl) and her now work at the same place. My friend asked her about that, and she told her that she doesn't want to talk to me ever, and that she's surprised I even have friends. Oh well, I guess I was right about her the first time, so nothing to apologize for, she's an egotistical self-centered bitch. Sorry not sorry

[QUOTE=pendragon;52725282]I'm not sure but i think my classmate likes me, and we haven't talked yet. What should I do? Where do I start?[/QUOTE] stupid question but if they liked you wouldn't they at least say hi???

[QUOTE=pendragon;52726196]should I start with adding her on social media or talking face to face? I might be really anxious while talking to a girl.[/QUOTE] Maybe say hi to her first.

[QUOTE=GoDong-DK;52727041]Maybe say hi to her first.[/QUOTE] [media]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I3s6TfiA8c8[/media]

I am in one of those fall-off/depressing stages again. I always fall for someone and just get obsessed with them and start just thinking about them every day and eventually go further like talking, texting etc... and then getting all hopes crushed before anything serious even starts. This time decided to avoid all the pursue/talk/obsession and just back out instantly avoiding getting really deep into obsession again.

ever since I started paying for tinder I've already got quite a few more matches. now it's getting them to actually respond that's the hard part :/

Went to a rock dancing party last night and even though I had (almost) never danced rock before in my life I really had a blast. Girls there were kind enough to be willing to put up with a complete beginner and even if I came close to dislocating a few shoulders and often got tangled up with my partner it was really fun and I think I'm starting to somewhat get the hang of it!

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;52727472]Do you have hobbies? Like, even if I was single, I ain't got no time to be obsessed. I have Witcher 3 to beat, and recipes to try, and friends to hang with, and relatives to keep in contact with, etc.[/QUOTE] That's the problem - I don't really have any hobbies and even because of my work - I have a shit-tonn of time on my hands.

Got the job as a substitute teacher. :excited: Hype, lads.

[QUOTE=Spetsnaz95;52728578]Got the job as a substitute teacher. :excited: Hype, lads.[/QUOTE] In a elementary school? That's a lot of dosh. Congrats.

I would be terrified to work in school. (In Ireland at least). We used to have a teacher who was a bit odd, he would snap and go ape shit crazy, you know the flipping tables meme? Yeah - literally him, its surprising that over a course of 6 months tables didn't hit any of the students. Then he dissapeared, "went on holiday". Only a year later we found out he had serious drinking problem and he was let go.... In another class - we had a teacher cry (she was like 22, new) and she was crying because of anger/sadness I guess.... Not surprising that out of 70 who graduated - only 6 went to college, and I was the only one who got accepted straight into level 8 (Bachelors) degree course. Basically out of 70 I am the only one with bachelors degree at 22, others had to go long way of doing lesser degrees first. 2 ended up in prison for stabbing german students, others have kids and are on government social welfare pretty much.

[QUOTE=GoDong-DK;52728580]In a elementary school? That's a lot of dosh. Congrats.[/QUOTE] Yeah, though I'll primarily be substituting grades 1-6. Honestly though, it's not about money. I wanna be a teacher one day, a proper one, so this is a great way for me to try it out and really get a feel for it.

[QUOTE=redBadger;52727723]ever since I started paying for tinder I've already got quite a few more matches. now it's getting them to actually respond that's the hard part :/[/QUOTE] You've got to craft interesting opening lines that stand out. Don't just go "Hey", you've got to elicit an emotional reaction that makes them engaged in the conversation. If you're good at making puns or dad jokes you can make her laugh, if you're good at compliments you can make her feel flattered, or you can sow intrigue by sending something unusual and mysterious. Just remember to personalize your message based on her own profile and characteristics, you don't want her to feel like you just copy paste the same lines to everyone, she must feel personally involved.

I've got no experience with Tinder personally, but echoing what _Axel said, I've heard that people find the most success by opening up with quirky lines. Puns in particular seem to popular, though I guess that's individual. Also, as has been said many times before, takes cues from what the girls profiles say. She like Titanic? Comment on it. Gives you something to talk about.

i met my gf on tinder and my opening line was "cheesecake or chocolate fudge cake" if its a stupid idea, and it works, it ain't a stupid idea. just say something to get a conversation going.

Yeah it's not an exact science, I thought up a Heisenberg's uncertainty principle opening line for a match who claimed to like quantum mechanics and it was a huge dud :v:

How do I break up when we live together and share a bed and my other half cannot afford to live on his own and will not get a job?

[QUOTE=Trekintosh;52729713]How do I break up when we live together and share a bed and my other half cannot afford to live on his own and will not get a job?[/QUOTE] Sounds like he'll have to get a job.

After I tried to set up a date with that guy, he stopped talking to me for a week. Guess that's that then.